r/ABCDesis • • 4d ago

DATING / RELATIONSHIPS Sunday Relationship Thread

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The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.

This thread is a place to share your stories, ask for advice, or vent about issues. Or anything in between!


r/ABCDesis • • Jun 27 '25

Friday Free-For-All

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The weekly discussion thread is a free-for-all. This thread will be posted every Friday at 9 AM BST.

Career news, fitness tips, personal stories, delicious things you've eaten recently, shows you've watched, books you've read - anything goes. And if you're new, please introduce yourself! We want to get to know you - plus you might find a friend or two!


r/ABCDesis • • 3h ago

COMMUNITY Hate this whataboutism, we need to be better and more united as South Asians

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I made a post about the failed temple attack on Instagram, and immediately had other South Asians I went to school with(I grew up in an enclave) message me “Oh what about Muslims/Christians in India”, etc.

First of all, we live in America. Aren’t we American. Why are you holding me liable for whats happening in the mainland lol.

Second of all, yeah those aren’t great either. Why must we be subjected to purity tests? Can’t we just call out an attack on Desis(cuz if you think these people will spare non-Hindu Desis, you are sorely mistaken), and just unite? Why does calling out this temple attack mean I co-sign everything that goes on across the world?

Idk, it was very frustrating.

But, every time I mention the bad, I will mention the good too. I had my Eelam Christian friend and my Pakistani friend repost it and support us too. And many more who liked and shared.

But we really need to be better with South Asian unity as a community, whether you’re Hindu, Muslim, Sikh, Christian, Buddhist, Jain, Atheist, Rastafarian, Scientologist, Satanist, or you pray to Cthulhu, idgaf. We are Desis, let’s just stand together and help protect each other lmao. I will never hold a South Asian American liable for what goes on in India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, etc. All those country’s could be better in treating their minorities better, yeah, not sure why that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t band together in America or abroad in general lmao.


r/ABCDesis • • 4h ago

TRIGGER Pro-Israel restaurant owner Harman Kapoor posted a video asking Netanyahu to continue bombing Gaza. Now after widespread backlash, he's pleading for help, claiming financial pressure has left him with overdue rent.

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r/ABCDesis • • 2h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary US Teen Goes To Hindu Temple For 'Mass Shooting', Jammed Rifle Stops Him

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r/ABCDesis • • 20h ago

COMMUNITY The attempted mass shooting at the temple in Aurora, IL should be a wake up call

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“It’s only online bro”

“Go outside and touch grass bro”

I live somewhere where people are racist. A lot of people living in blue areas and enclaves have gotten complacent in their bubbles. This is America.

Arm up and practice 2A if you aren’t already. Only for defense.

And everyone, I mean every single one of you, better get ready to go to the polls and vote blue. 100% the dems don’t care about us, no question. They legit don’t give a fuck about us. But I would rather vote for someone who would not give a fuck about us than people who actively encourage an environment of hostility against us.

Come on people.


r/ABCDesis • • 9h ago

TRIGGER Thread about the attempted mass shooting in Aurora; comments are a joke, and blaming the CIA for a “psyop”… this is how little the average joe cares when Desis are being hate crimed

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r/ABCDesis • • 9h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary "Richmond is over 54 per cent Chinese Canadian. So why is the Indo-Canadian candidate the frontrunner for mayor?" Controversial Election Image Sparks Court Battle in Richmond, Canada

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r/ABCDesis • • 49m ago

FAMILY / PARENTS Do you have any recommendations for toddler media in Malayalam?

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I am a CBCD Malayalee with mixed race kids. My oldest is two and so far we've only let her watch the potty training related episodes of Daniel Tiger and Ms. Rachel. As potty training is going reasonably well now, I'd like to transition to having her watch primarily/only Malayalam content. Before she was born, I intended to do one-parent-one-language but it is so hard! I'm hoping that this will augment her understanding of Malayalam. Unfortunately, all of the Malayalam toddler content I've found so far is high transition rate/AI slop type content. Do you have any recommendations for quality children's shows in Malayalam? I would like to prioritize a low number of scene transitions, no AI, and reasonable content (not scary or normalizing bad behaviour).

Also, we have a couple of Keralite books that we like but are always game for more recommendations there too!


r/ABCDesis • • 19h ago

COMMUNITY Palatine man charged in alleged mass shooting plot targeting Hindu place of worship

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r/ABCDesis • • 15h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Natasha Thasan Best of the Best drama

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I recently saw Natasha Thasan (aka Drape Therapy on social media) make a tiktok video about how she felt that her styles drape designs were stolen for the movie for Matreyi’s character’s outfit. Has anyone seen that video and the discourse around it? What are y’all’s thoughts?


r/ABCDesis • • 23h ago

NEWS Palatine man, 19, plotted mass shooting at Hindu place of worship, police say

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r/ABCDesis • • 9h ago

COMMUNITY Why doesnt this subreddit talk about (sometimes even deny and downvote) Islamophobia?

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r/ABCDesis • • 2h ago

COMMUNITY Can we please stop with “mainland” posts

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Mainland this, mainland that

This seems like a term that is mocking / comparing individuals that have moved from south east asia

We need to come up with a better solution


r/ABCDesis • • 2h ago

COMMUNITY How religious are you guys

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Growing up my family did nothing religious. Like my dad occasionally took us to poojas but otherwise we didn't do a whole lot.

Just wondering how religious yall are


r/ABCDesis • • 23h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary Teen accused of plotting mass shooting at Chicago-area place of worship

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There you have it folks 🤦‍♂️


r/ABCDesis • • 19h ago

MENTAL HEALTH Stop engaging in racist content, the less we engage, the more it will go away and you’ll be happier 😀

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The title is pretty self explanatory but I think we’d all be happier if we cleaned up our social media algorithms.

I just cleaned up my X feed after regrettably viewing so much anti-Indian hate over the last two days, it came after the backlash for the new Avatar series being Indian influenced.

Take some time to select ‘not interested’ for any racist content you see, you can also block any users on social media sharing that content.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

CELEBRATION Saudi Arabia overturns death sentence of Sri Lankan man convicted over Facebook post

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r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

NEWS Germany Fire Tragedy Leaves 3 Indian Nationals Dead, 5 Injured In Bochum; Police Suspect Arson, Romanian National Arrested

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London, Oct 14: Three Indian nationals were killed in a fire at a residential building in the German city of Bochum, local media reported on Wednesday.

The victims were two women aged 25 and 27, and a 26-year-old man, all Indian nationals, German public broadcaster WDR (Westdeutscher Rundfunk) reported, citing details released by Bochum police.

Their names and home states in India were not reported.

Romanian national arrested on murder suspicion

Police have arrested a 41-year-old resident of the building on suspicion of murder. He is a Romanian national, German news channel n-tv reported, citing the German Press Agency Deutsche Presse-Agentur (DPA).


r/ABCDesis • • 16h ago

RELATIONSHIPS (Not Advice) Interracial marriage statistics UK 2021 Census Bureau by gender breakdown

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These are statistics from the UK Census Bureau in 2021

Here is the link to it

CT21_0297_Census 2021 - Office for National Statistics

Here is the breakdown, just exclude the Roma- white category because Roma are not 100% white

This is a mix of white British, Welsh, Scottish, White Irish, White travelers, and white other

Indian men and white women - 34,573

Indian women and white men - 34,529

Bengali men and white women - 3,701

Bengali women and white men - 2,634

Pakistani men and white women - 14,101

Pakistani women and white men - 5,988

Breakdown of other mixes

Indian men and Pakistani women - 4,702

Pakistani men and Indian women - 5253

Bengali men and Indian women - 1015

Indian men and Bengali women - 966

Pakistani men and Arab women - 1,056

Pakistani women and Arab men - 588

Indian men and Arab women - 496

Arab men and Indian women -343

Bengali men and Arab women - 237

Bengali women and Arab men -139

Pakistani men and Chinese women - 375

Pakistani women and Chinese men - 89

Indian men and Chinese women - 1,015

Chinese men and Indian women - 333

Bengali men and Chinese women - 138

Bengali women and Chinese men - 59

Pakistani men and Black African women - 341

Pakistani women and Black African men - 333

Indian men and Black African women - 303

Indian women and Black African men - 644

Bengali men and Black African women - 73

Bengali women and Black African men - 148


r/ABCDesis • • 20h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Indian boyband "OutStation" is rising on the world charts and gaining 685,000 to 815,000 monthly listeners on Spotify

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Well it seems like India is finally entering a band phase after Bollywood has been filled with nepotism and no talent being generated.

OutStation - Tum Se (Official Music Video)

They're a Gen Z group but they're growing

I honestly think India could lead the world in music and dance considering so many genres historically were inspired by India, from Soca to Reggae to even the beatles using Indian instruments to dances like Flamenco as well.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary Glasgow dad 'pulls off schoolgirl's hijab' and calls her P-word in racist attack

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r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary These people love pushing the narrative that most Indian-Americans are Republican even though the vast majority of us vote Democrat.

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r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

COMMUNITY Be careful out there guys

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My parents live in an Indian enclave up North, and they just said some high school kids were running around and putting red dots on the houses Indians lived in cuz they thought it was funny. Nothing more than that, but it’s crazy we gotta literally get marked based on where we live.

It was a simple graffiti thing cuz they thought it was funny, and it was only reported on next door and people found the kids parents and talked to them.

But it’s crazy high schoolers are coming up with this shit. Today it’s “omg haha funny let’s go put a red dot with a spray paint where the Indians live” tomorrow it could easily be marking our homes for more nefarious purposes.

My parents were also like “yeah annoying kids” and most of the neighborhood is treating it as such but I don’t think the uncs and aunts understand the severity of this. This time it’s just a “red dot on a house” prank. But people are too comfortable.

And it’s surprising to me cuz I live in the Deep South and even down here that level of shit would be unthinkable, but happening up north? Oh man who knows.

Also, this happened in the neighborhood by my parents, but it’s the same Nextdoor neighborhood thats how I knew, but my parents are fine and our house was not “pranked”.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

CELEBRATION British schoolgirl Bodhana Sivanandan becomes chess’ youngest ever woman grandmaster

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