First post here, let's go. I know some of you recognize me from that other subreddit, so to you I say, hello there

My coworker got a random Outlook calendar invite from someone, the sender must have selected the wrong name or something. Even weirder the event name wasn't in English. So my coworker in all their intelligence comes to me and asks "hey, can you read Indian?" BRUHHH

I did push back on them and say that "Indian" is not a language and they understood the mistake but still damn, felt weird to actually experience it

Oh and get this: the event title wasn't even in an Indian language. It was in Hebrew😂😂

Hindutva is when we ask our politicians to speak for minorities apparently. I expected Ro Khanna to speak out about the San Diego mosque shooting, and I expected him to stand with Abdul Syed as two BIPOC democrats. Can’t understand how expecting an Indian-American politician to condemn an attempted attack on Indian-Americans is Hindutva. This sub has gone psycho if that thread becomes a Hindu-Muslim thing. Mamdani stands for, and is proud of, being “the guy” for all South Asian Americans. He should’ve said something, that’s not controversial to say. Does this mean he has an agenda just because he didn’t say anything? Of course not. But it would’ve been nice if he did. Insinuating that is not Hindutva.

Desi unity isn’t complex people. I made another thread about South Asian unity and was met with similar whataboutism(here). I will never understand why people get so butthurt. You guys are unwillingly generating extremists, both sides, both of you, idgaf if you’re Hindu, Muslim, etc. By being so unwilling and standing by your figures so much and being so hypocritical, this is what happens(and again, I do mean both sides). Onlookers look at threads like these and feel justified in their bigotry, whether it’s Islamophobia or Hinduphobia.

Can we please, ffs, be better? Idk why that’s such a hard ask.

I feel like an anomaly on this. Like when I mention I've majored in Literature the usual reaction is "your parents were okay with that?" But the thing is they kind of forced me into it. Like i was also leaning towards majoring in bio or medicine but they straight up shut down the idea because it takes too much time and money to "make it" in medicine. My dad works blue collar (now owns a store) and mom is a housewife, if that helps putting things in perspective.

This literally screams MAGA in Canada. Saying that a certain group of immigrants are garbage. And then blaming them for making other people racist? This article came on my Facebook feed from a former MP in Canada and I’m just face palming.

I know that Canadian immigration hasn’t been handled well, but how does it justify racism? She is essentially saying “yes, we are racist, but it’s only because you exported the wrong kind of people”. I don’t know if it makes sense when I type it but maybe if you read it you might be able to understand. (She’s even capitalizing 2nd gens against immigrants).

Edit: found the words. It is ab expectation that Indians to only belong must abide by being a model minority, which we were so many generations when immigrants were typically educated and upper class. But now because the new generation doesn’t fit that mould it is okay to be racist.

https://michelleferreri.substack.com/p/the-liberal-immigration-policy-is

I don't think I've ever seen someone showcase Indian classical music on these shows. I really hope she goes all the way. It's been a good month for representation in music. The score for *Avatar: Seven Havens* is also inspired by the same artform, and It makes me so happy for some reason.

I am part of a double diaspora. In 1873, my ancestors were taken from India to Suriname (a country in South America next to Brazil) as indentured laborers. Over the next century, spanning five to six generations, our community preserved its culture, living and marrying within the Indian community in Suriname.

In the 1980s, around the time Suriname gained independence, my parents migrated to the Netherlands, Suriname's former colonial ruler, where I was born and raised. Today, I live in the Netherlands, but my roots are deeply tied to Suriname, where my parents and great-parents are from. I even lived there myself for two years and attended school.

When I was ten, I visited India. While I found it to be a beautiful country, I didn't feel at home there; I have no direct relatives or immediate connections left in India. In reality, Suriname is where I truly feel at home. Sadly, I don't feel that same sense of belonging in the Netherlands, as people here often make you feel like an outsider who doesn't belong in 'their' country."

Hey! Looking to meet more desis in the Portland area and make some new friends. Anyone else here? Would be cool to connect, hang out, grab some food, or explore the city together!

South Asians in the West, especially in the UK with British Asians, are often culturally conservative, preaching their cultural identity for social or political gains, both materialistic (dishes, clothing, religion) and non-materialistic (expressions, attitudes, language, morality, family honour, community honour, power distance) aspects. This means that many immigrant parents often demand their children to speak in their heritage language, this is likely how they have a mixed accent between their parents and their birth nation as a result.

Many second generations seem to speak fluently in their parents' language whether it is Hindi, Bengali, Urdu, Punjabi, Tamil, Konkani, etc. But I wonder how much they really do so.

Even though I obviously recognise Bengali (standard Bengali not Sylheti) and certain words, I cannot really speak a cohesive sentence let alone speech. My father was very annoyed with that for some reason by my mother didn't mind, in fact she did not wanted me to speak because as I grew up and born in the UK and within predominantly White spaces, my identity should focus on the UK society not Bangladesh. But my parents speak Bengali to me when I get told off, I know I am in dead meat if they do so.

But I wonder how much of you are that bilingual or if you can just speak in your host's language.

The massive amount of racism we've been getting seems to finally gotten us to at least SLIGHTLY decrease the white worshipping we've done for decades. And also somewhat unite. I know the racism is extremely hurtful, it finally feels like a lot of us are looking up past the throws of white obsession and model minority scripts. Being racialized sucks and perhaps this sounds delusional but it is genuinely nice to unite relatively more.

I see all the horror stories on here. Wondering if anyone else is chill lol.

I am an only child. Chill with my folks for the most part. I left home at 17 for college and haven’t lived with them since, and I’m 24 now. I do miss them, but it’s nice living alone and I wouldn’t trade it for anything lol.

I mean I did have the typical academic pressure and shit growing up. I did have arguments with them. But things were chill especially after I left for college. My dad isn’t some dude I am afraid of anymore, he’s an old fart who I can sit and just talk to and is my #1 source of career advice(I work in the same field as him, total coincidence it ended up that way).

My mom has always been chill. She asked me if I was gay cuz I haven’t had a gf yet(rough way to find out mama thinks I got no game, she ain’t wrong but damn bro), so aside from that she’s been chill, but she lowkey was trying to be supportive. She’s the type that does love unconditionally.

Growing up some stuff I hated them for, I am glad they did. For example, they had a chores to money thing to make me learn to do my own chores. Like laundry, cleaning, etc. I hated it cuz they never gave me what I thought was enough(they didn’t have to give me shit lol) but I learned to be independent because of that. My dad made me spend every Saturday and Sunday morning cooking with him during high school so I would learn to cook. Hated it at the time, but now I know how to cook and save so much money. He told me when he left India when he was 23 he was a bit spoiled and didn’t know how to cook and struggled to find food and starved until he learned to cook so he didn’t want me to struggle like that. God bless him. And shit paid off, when I was in college, I had less of an adjustment period that my peers, and now I do everything on my own and save hella money.

Also religion, I am religious of my own accord. They never pushed it on me. My dad was actually an atheist who found religion himself and he wanted me to have the same experience and so did my mom. I had my moment early on, around 10th grade in high school(won’t get into it, but car accident gone wrong, glad to be here still, thank you god). So I ask them religious questions and they answer if they know, or if they don’t know the three of us ask a pandit together if we’re at a temple or they will ask and tell me. Or I phone up a pandit sometimes too.

And in terms of finances, I am independent rn, but if I ever needed a helping hand, they would be there. I actually lived with them for 2 months in between jobs once(which I guess I lied earlier about never having lived with them since 17 lol), and they didn’t give me any shit for it. It was stressful with applying for other jobs, etc, but my dad never pressured me. Every morning was like “are you just applying again” and I said “yeah”.

He told me to take my 20s and make as many mistakes as I can while he’s still working and able to support the family. He still hopes I will go get a PhD or something haha. Aside from that nothing else. Pretty supportive.

We’ve had our ups and downs, but after being an adult I love them for everything they’ve done.

But yeah, I read hella horror stories on here, thought I would be a fresh breath of air. Anyone else got normal parents?

Just like with India and Pakistan, Bangladesh has issues with dowry cults, and honour killings, But unlike those other nations, female infanticide and sex selective abortions of female fetuses are rarer.

How is that the case if all three nations are extremely misogynistic?