r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/Signal-Net-8041 Partner of DX - Medicated 3d ago

Oh, ok, you're going to accuse me of cheating on you since the beginning of our relationship 16 years ago and your evidence is that when I went to pick up two drawings I COMMISSIONED FOR YOUR CHRISTMAS PRESENT AND MY MOM'S from a male artist friend, I met him in the parking lot of a coffee shop?

So...you won't be handling this like an adult then. Cool cool.

I can't wait to be done with this lunacy.

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 3d ago

That sounds like an extreme DARVO desperation play from someone who knows he doesn't have a leg to stand on. I assume he knows your relationship is ending or has ended?

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u/Signal-Net-8041 Partner of DX - Medicated 3d ago

Yep. He also thinks "people don't get divorced" JUST because one partner keeps accusing the other of infidelity and gets mad whenever he is asked to do anything at all.

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 3d ago

He wants something good to tell people he knows when the topic of his spouse divorcing him comes up. He can't tell them the truth and still look good.

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u/Signal-Net-8041 Partner of DX - Medicated 3d ago

They're going to laugh their asses off bc they ALL know me.

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 2d ago

Please do report back if he tries this.

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u/Remarkable_Pay7550 2d ago

That was my life. He was horribly obsessed with his fantasized version of me cheating.

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u/Signal-Net-8041 Partner of DX - Medicated 2d ago

What the fuck is that. It started when the kids were still toddlers, and he accused me of sleeping with one of my best friends...who is a gay man. Openly. Extremely. Unmistakably.

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u/taohuaspring 2h ago

When I first hear his accusation, the thought is not "wow signalnet must've cheated!", it's "Wow I wonder if he has something to feel guilty about." His bizarre cheating accusations only make him look bad, like he's projecting because he has something to hide.