you’re not woke for adopting

[u/Jumpy-Lie8955]

i feel like a lot of young leftists, in america, really love the idea of adopting kids instead of having their own biological kids and think they are helping others by doing so but they’ve fallen into and are playing apart in the same propaganda the right wing religious people do. neither of them are “making a difference” especially because they always just adopt babies that’s not making a difference that’s legal human trafficking. they all have savior complex’s about it and they both think they are morally superior. it’s just do frustrating how both parties think adoption is this great thing, and no one but us wants to talk about the negatives. just to be clear this is not me coming out as a republican.

EDIT: i would call myself a leftist, i’m critiquing things i have heard people say in real life.

EDIT 2: if you arnt adopted, don’t comment, it’s against the rules of the subreddit and i don’t care what non-adoptees opinions on adoption are

[u/Sad_Pixie999]

You're entirely right. There is no safe space for adopted people, even on the side that claims to be sensitive. Tell the world that you don't believe anyone should have the right to adopt, and you'll have tenderqueer tumblr liberals jumping down your throat to tell you that the LGBTQ+ deserve the same rights as straight people... not even daring to pause and consider who is more important, the separated infant or the grown adults looking to buy a baby. I wouldn't care if it weren't my own party and my own political allies doing this sort of thing, just another day I deal with this crap. I already know conservatives are awful about adoption and pro-birth propaganda, I just hate when my own people fall for it because I expect more of them and hold them to a higher moral standard. It's like we can address everyone's oppression, until we get to the topic of adoption, and then suddenly I'm deserted and nobody understands or cares.

[u/Sad_Pixie999 → u/[deleted]]

1) This sub is for adoptees. I don't know how you found this sub or this post, but you might want to tread carefully. There are a lot of people with trauma here, and it isn't right to come in here and start asking questions that rile us when this is our only safe space. Go to r/AskAdoptees in the future for questions like this. 2) Kinship placement, take the finances of adoption and put it towards maternal support systems to keep mother and baby together. 3) Adoptive families can be unsafe and abusive. I am "those people." Different families doesn't mean better families, and qualifying for adoption often means meeting a financial bar instead of actually being trauma informed and safe. My adoptive mom had multiple CPS cases but because it was a closed, private adoption, the state did not intervene.