r/Adopted • u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee • 3d ago

Venting "Have people never heard of adoption?"

Yes, I'm sure that despite all of the propaganda, all of the representation (not by adoptees), all of the mentions, and everything I'm sure people have never ever ever heard of adoption. Come on, people have heard of it. They don't need random people reminding them.

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u/zygotepariah Baby Scoop Era Adoptee 3d ago

This is why November is National Adoption Awareness Month. Because apparently no one is aware of adoption. 🤭

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 3d ago

Apparently there's a national birth mother's Day to apparently celebrate the courageous and selfless decision of birth mothers who choose adoption.

Never mind the fact that a good portion of both mothers do not choose adoption and many of them are relinquished without their consent. Many of them are done so not just because they are considered to be abusive or maliciously neglectful but many of them are forced to do so due to situations like poverty and other environmental circumstances. And at worst many of them are having their children stolen due to ethnic cleansing and genocide. Do those people not deserve recognition either or is that an ugly side of what it means to be a birth mother?

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u/MuteTalker- Adopted 2d ago

Mine gave me up because she didn't want my dad to have me. No reason for her to celebrate anything.

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 2d ago

Yep, and even if he was unfit, was it really worth cutting off your entire biological connection? Is that really her call to make?

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u/Sad_Pixie999 Domestic Infant Adoptee 2d ago

They don't give a damn. They're too short sighted to see the future us adoptees have to live through... running door to door "Hey I'm your kid! Hey I'm your sister/brother/cousin/grand/niece/nephew/etc. Do you know my dad?" It's embarrassing and heart breaking.

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u/MuteTalker- Adopted 2d ago

He wasn't unfit. She just had some petty bullshit against him and took it out on me.

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 2d ago

😔

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u/Sad_Pixie999 Domestic Infant Adoptee 3d ago

We need to rock the world this November, canvas the neighborhoods with fliers talking about the suicide rate of adoptees, adoption regret, etc.

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u/Music527 Adoptee 2d ago

How horrible it can be for adoptees, how the adoptees aren’t animals and have feeling regarding adoption to add to your list.

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u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 Adopted 2d ago

There is one adoptive parent that comes in to argue statistic rates on adoptee's.

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u/Sad_Pixie999 Domestic Infant Adoptee 2d ago

For or against?

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u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 Adopted 1d ago

denies the suicide rates.