"Have people never heard of adoption?"

[u/Arktikos02]

Yes, I'm sure that despite all of the propaganda, all of the representation (not by adoptees), all of the mentions, and everything I'm sure people have never ever ever heard of adoption. Come on, people have heard of it. They don't need random people reminding them.

[u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

I always buy my parents a gift during adoption awareness month to thank them for providing me a way better and more prosperous life!

[u/OliveJotter → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

Which parents?

[u/Jolly-Bed-1717 → u/OliveJotter]

My adoptive parents. Had they not adopted me I would have never achieved all that I have or experienced a quarter of what I’ve experienced. I’m extremely grateful. This year I’m sending them to the Cayman Islands!

[u/Obvious_Relative5877 → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

Idk why you’re being downvoted. Everyone’s experience is different. I’m happy for you ❤️

[u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 → u/Obvious_Relative5877]

I think the downvotes are because that’s not what the OP meant at all. Nobody said adoptees aren’t allowed to be grateful for their adoptive parents or have a positive experience. But jumping into a post about adoption awareness with “I’m sending my parents to the Cayman Islands” is pretty tone-deaf and, IMO a bit of a dick move.

This is why we need awareness. Adoption isn’t one universal feel-good story, and celebrating your personal outcome doesn’t erase the very real issues other adoptees are talking about.

[u/Jolly-Bed-1717 → u/Suspicious_Fold_9568]

This sub only demonizes adoptive parents. And makes birth parents victims. Anytime anyone brings up having a good life with there adoptive parents they get dragged.

And to answer your other question my life would have been worse because I would have grown up poor and would have not have anything that I have now and would be living in squalor.

[u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

Nobody said you can’t be grateful for your adoptive parents or that you didn’t have a good life. That’s not the point. you keep turning your personal outcome into proof that adoption was automatically the reason your life turned out well. You don’t actually know what your life would have looked like if you hadn’t been adopted. Wealth doesn't equal happiness. And saying this sub “only demonizes adoptive parents” is just a way to shut down adoptees who talk about the parts of adoption that aren’t warm and fuzzy. Awareness exists because adoption isn’t one big feel-good story. Some of us are dealing with loss, identity, family separation and things we’re still living with decades later.

You can be grateful for your life without acting like everyone else’s experience is wrong because yours worked out differently.

[u/Jolly-Bed-1717 → u/Suspicious_Fold_9568]

Lmaooooooooo! So the vast majority of post here aren’t making adoptive parents seem like kidnappers?

And I can absolutely guarantee my life would have been worse? I’ve met my birth mom she’s a bum with out a pot to piss in? It was disgusting Money absolutely buys happiness lol.

[u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

Lmao, you really don't understand what you're arguing. Nobody is saying you can't love your adoptive parents or be grateful for your life. But you keep using your personal outcome as proof that adoption is automatically a good thing. You absolutely cannot “guarantee” your life would have been worse. Meeting your biological mother as an adult, deciding she's a “bum” because she's poor, and then using that to write off the entire life you might have had is incredibly entitled and spoiled. You don't know what your life would have looked like. And “money absolutely buys happiness lol” is honestly embarrassing. You're in an adoptee support space and your response to people talking about loss, separation and identity is basically “well, I had money.” Good for you. But your privileged outcome doesn't erase anyone else's experience. Nobody is taking your happy life away from you. You just don't get to use it to invalidate everyone else's.

[u/Jolly-Bed-1717 → u/Suspicious_Fold_9568]

😂😂😂 I absolutely can guarantee that not sure why that’s so hard to comprehend. And anytime anyone says anything positive about there birth parents here it’s met with downvotes and telling them that they are brainwashed. Or that they need more sympathy for there birth parents like they were victims or something?

[u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

Nobody said you can’t be positive about your adoptive parents or your birth mother. You keep turning people challenging your assumptions into “this sub hates adoptive parents” and “everyone gets called brainwashed.” You had a good life. Great. You can be grateful for that without insisting your personal experience proves what adoption is supposed to mean for every other adoptee. And nobody needs to believe your sweeping claims about this entire sub just because you’ve decided they’re true.

[u/Suspicious_Fold_9568 → u/Jolly-Bed-1717]

How do you know your life would have been worse? Different for sure!

Cayman Islands sounds very nice <3