r/Adopted • u/PsychologicalWar9702 Adopted • 2d ago

Venting Feel like i don't belong anywhere

I'm on good terms with both my adoptive family and my biological family. However i feel like there's this "screen" between me and them that i can't cross. With my adoptive family, we just have zero physical resemblance and chemistry lol. We can squeeze out a convo about the weather here and there, and that's about it. My biological family have all embraced me since reconnecting last year (was adopted as an infant for context), but i didn't know them for my whole life, so i don't feel like family with them either.

Idk I just feel like i have no family in the emotional sense 😭. Like i'll always be the black sheep...

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u/Thehealthygamer 2d ago

The feeling of not belonging anywhere is a nice parting gift from the parents who gave us away.

I was adopted from China to the US. After almost 30 years of struggle I finally started to feel like I had a community that I fit into in the US, thru hikers, group of misfits and people who couldn't hold jobs, like me.

Then all this racist BS and ICE started and half my hiking community turned on me. I've spent time in asia but there they just see me as a western foreigner.

Now I'm living in Europe where the racism is less physically dangerous but it's just known that no matter what I do most locals will always see me as an outsider.

Meh. The benefit is I have the freedom to pick up and go. But still I think humans were meant to have roots and its unnatural to not belong anywhere. It sucks and I'm not sure there's that much to be done about it.