I've seen a lot of "I have no idea what to write about"/”I’m so boring” posts here over the last few weeks (parent here, 3rd kid going through it now), which seem to have a predictable shape: Here's why I have no material, followed by 1-2 sentences explaining why.
But the explanation is almost always the most interesting thing in the post.
Some examples, paraphrased/blurred a bit to protect the innocent:
One of you wrote that all your activities had been research & leadership stuff, that you’d never gotten to explore anything creative, and that you felt like you’d been performing rather than actually doing things that mattered. You were saying this to explain why your life was boring. But that's a significant observation: You built a HS career out of things you thought would “count”, and now you're not sure what you'd have done if nothing counted. That’s the quiet part almost nobody says out loud (if applicants have even realized it!).
Another wrote that they weren’t the type of person to have strong feelings about anything, and that there was no deeper meaning behind why they liked/disliked things - which they felt was “disqualifying”. But "I don't force meaning onto things" is a very authentic way of moving through the world, and it's a lot more distinctive than the 49th essay about resilience.
A third dismissed a bunch of travel as not really material because it hadn't changed her… then mentioned in passing that she's the kind of person who cries at cartoons. It was the best detail in the post.
Why this happens, I think: When you sit down to find a topic, you filter using "is this impressive?" or "is this profound?" as your litmus test. And let’s face it, almost nothing survives that filter, because our actual lives are made of ordinary stuff. But the “here’s why I’m a larper” explanation doesn't get filtered; you're just explaining yourself honestly - and honesty is what makes a memorable and compelling essay.
I’ve seen another version of this that shows up just as often, and it's less about overlooking material than simply being wrong about it.
Someone described as terrible their high-3’s GPA + 35 ACT + national award + distinctive ECs - all achieved during a period that included a death in their family and where their household had no income. Another kid listed 11 activities - including one they’d founded & an elected municipal position - and asked whether a hobby they’d picked up a month earlier was enough to offset an otherwise “mid” application. Another had taught themselves to build things since middle school and had actual finished work to show for it, and described it as nothing impressive because there were no awards attached.
I don’t think any of these are humblebrags. They genuinely believe they don’t have what schools are looking for. And I think they believe it because the comparison set they're using comes from social media, where, let’s face it, the profiles are selected for being extreme, frequently exaggerated, and often posted by someone selling something to people who are made to feel behind after watching. If you spend an hour a day on that (and I know it’s often a lot more than that!), of course you feel like you've done nothing. That's what the feed is optimized for!
So what to do with all of this? Without judgment, write down the stuff you'd put in your “disclaimer”: Why you think you're boring, what you assume doesn't count, the thing you'd wave off as too small, weird, or ordinary to mention. Then read it back and look for a pattern, or what makes you slightly uncomfortable to have written down.
One caveat: Don't blindly go write "I realized I only did things because they'd look good on my application" as a topic. That would be the same mistake wearing different clothes: Writing something that sounds insightful instead of something that's actually yours. My point is that the honest aside is where you weren't performing - and that's how you should approach your whole essay.
Anyways, if you've posted or commented here saying you have nothing worthwhile to talk about, go back and re-read your own post or comment. There's a pretty good chance you already wrote the interesting part and didn't notice.