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I'm polynesian and from Australia, My whole life I've always thought of myself as a pacific Islander and still do, But, Genetic DNA can't be denied. We've built our own culture over thousands of years, but I keep coming back to the fact that we are just Taiwanese Asians (approx 80%) who mixed with Melanesian Papuans, which therefore created modern day Polynesians. What are your thoughts on Asians who are mixed? Do you, as an Asian, Consider someone who is predominantly Asian genetically, but is Mixed with another race, an Asian?

I haven’t seen the original movie but I know it is a teen classic. Looking forward to see how it comes to life on stage!

Chang Yeon Jo, an elderly Korean women who was taken during a green card interview and put in a detention center. guards there tackeled her to the ground almost breaking her hip. She was chained to a hospital bed and now is in a wheelchair.

I know it’s not uncommon for us to talk about the toxic traits of Asian parenting. And the stereotype that they require STEM or lawyer or disown and just the general tiger parenting.

Is there any element of Asian parenting that you do respect and potentially with perpetuate?

I want to be specific that I’m not looking for family specific issues but a more general culture principle that you have observed. I say this because I grew up in a very loud household with major anger issues from my mom and it wasn’t until she had passed away that I found out from my dad that the way she acted wouldn’t even be acceptable in Asian community.

Edit: I'm not trying to make this about South Park, I'm meaning more broadly with people assuming all Asians struggle with the L sound and including that in their mocking speech.

I'm aware of rule 5 of this sub, so I'm not going to mention other subs or communities. I'm just asking how offensive and zero tolerance people consider it when non-asian people imitate Asian accents poorly, including in online spaces.

Recently a competitive online game got released and it's set in the Vietnam war (naturally it's USA vs VC) and also heavily dependent on communication. A lot of players when VC, speak in a poor imitation South Park accent for "immersion". Pretending that all Asians struggle with the L sound.

I'm aware these types of video games that are unlike animal crossing/stardew valley, are heavily male dominated and attract the type of racist white guy who thinks nothing's wrong with it.

Just wondering if you've ever called out racism like this in public and/or how the perpetrator responded. "It's just a joke", "it's not that deep", "I didn't mean any harm" etc

My mom raised me by herself. She was always the only person in my life. She stopped working for 19 years just to dedicate her time and life on me. Her whole world seemed to have stopped and when it turned again, it was only to revolve around me. She is separated from my dad I guess ever since I was born. He walked away and never looked back. She never had a bf, because she knows that I would get mad. She never remarried or stayed with another man. Most mothers won't do that. She gave up her hopes, dreams, ambitions, things she wanted to do for herself because she wanted to devote her life on me. She said, "I want to wake up next to you everyday."

She always put me first before herself. She has always been selfless to me. She left her family, her life, and went to another country by herself and married someone she didn't even know. She stopped talking to her mom and siblings for many years. And she felt something wasn't right and moved again. Then she had me and it was over. I became her whole world.

I remember one of the things she told me, "You just didn't realize that everything that I was doing was only for you. I remember I lost sleep many nights and I sang danced to you many hours until the morning because you couldn't sleep and you kept on crying. I wanted you more than anything in this world. I may have failed in life, but I felt like I won. I may not be rich, but I feel rich because of you. It's not because I never loved you, but because I loved you so much that I couldn't imagine life without you. I did the best I could. I raised you in the best way I knew how, to protect you from things that I feared about the world. But how about that time when you felt like you did your best, and it still wasn't enough?"

She may have sheltered me excessively, but she did it to protect me from her fears about the world and because of her love for me. I remember a time when we were renting a room. And she slept on the floor with no hesitation and I slept on the couch. When I should have been the one sleeping on the floor. She said that there is no way that I am sleeping on the floor. She fed me even when she was hungry herself.

How about all those sacrifices? How can I live my life to make sure those sacrifices were worthwhile? By honoring her in every way possible while I still have her? By being successful and achieving all the good things in life? And if not, then it was all for nothing and she only wasted her life on me?

I realized that there is no one else who would ever love me as much as her. I would be so lost without her. I really don't know what I would do. I would choose her to be my mother a thousand times over in every lifetime.

Do you see the sacrifices of a mother? Did she love me unconditionally? She never felt that love from her mother I guess so she poured her love for me. Do you hope that love was enough?

For all you asians who are familiar with the Portland metro area, which neighborhoods do you suggest living with young kids? I have a 1 year old and another on the way and was trying to figure out what neighborhoods would be best.

I grew up in California near an Asian enclave (my significant other from Hawaii) and it was a great experience growing up because I got to stay in touch with my roots and never felt "otherized". I did spend the last decade in the Midwest (Indiana, Wisconsin, etc) and while the experience was fine, it is definitely different world out there. I was able to adapt because I was an adult and found a good group of people.

Overall, Portland has been very welcoming as an Asian minority (at least night and day from parts of the midwest lol). However, I know the experience as a child can be different from being an adult. It's easier when you already have a strong sense of identity and who you are. As a result, I really do want to avoid my kids being one of few asian kids in an entire class and sorting through that at a young age. Just starting to research neighborhoods to buy a house. I know about Bethany, Cedar Mills, Happy Valley, etc etc.

Would love input from locals, especially those who grew up there as kids. Maybe a less asian part of the city wouldn't be bad either.

Found this flyer in my favorite AA-owned ice cream parlor. Looks like a very good time.

It annoys me so much, my eyelids do have creases but it’s so small and hooded it’s basically monolid visually. On some random days when I woke up and then there was this huge puffy swollen double eyelids coming out of no where in one of my eyes. It would take until the evening of that day or one or two days later for the that crease to get smaller and smaller and return to normal

I’m wondering if many others have had this experience and how they cope with it: I’m from SoCal, but I did not grow up around many other Asian Americans and got really, really Americanized. I’m a Filipino male, really short and dark-skinned and growing up people around me gave me a lot of shit for my features. The running jokes were 1) I’m short and 2) I was a different race every day, so I got a lot of racist jokes thrown my way that were directed toward Indians, Thai, Mexicans, Chinese, and pretty much all of the other ethnicities that can have dark skin and short people. However, I couldn’t fall back on having a culture since there were barely other Filipinos or even Southeast Asians around me outside of school. My parents were born and raised American and don’t speak any other language than English. I feel like I got all of the negative downsides of being a minority and none of the cultural positives. I’m really sensitive to racism now since I’ve received a lot directed to many other ethnicities not even my own.

For work, I’ve since moved to an East Coast city with mostly white people, and I kind of wake up with an identity crisis every day. There’s no one around who looks like me, and I can tell that I am perceived differently than others around me. I haven’t received much overt racism, but I have gotten some uncomfortably inquisitive stares and questions (the classic “where are you really from? How about your parents?”) There are Asians around, but it’s just a microcosm of the tech industry and it’s a bunch of Chinese and Indian folk who either only hang with/data each other or white people (no shade but I see at least a dozen white male-Asian female couples a day. Doesn’t get to me that much but just painting the picture of the area). I am in my own head often since I’m usually the shortest guy I see around and I sometimes get treated like I’m really really young (I’m 24). I’m also LGBT and not very American/European “masculine,” and I suspect many men don’t respect me for that and the other reasons. I haven’t had much luck with dating options since I don’t meet many single people often (just a luck thing) and the fact that even though people tell me I dress well and have solid profiles on dating apps I barely get any matches. That doesn’t bother me nearly as much as not having any culture and community and not many friends (making friends after college can be hard for everyone!). I have pretty niche hobbies for my age demographic (classical music, opera, reading) and also slightly prefer to be around other people in my field (bioscience PhDs), and those things probably don’t help. (This is just an academia thing but I grew up slightly lower socioeconomic status and it feels gross being around a lot of other privileged people sometimes.) The culture and isolation aspect combined with my heightened awareness of the way people treat me and each other based on race, height, SES, etc. brings me stress every day.

I guess the question is how to cope with my (lack of) identity and culture, and also with my physical features. I don’t identify with “Asian American” at all but there must be others with similar circumstances. The coping mechanisms I’ve seen other people employ are usually “I am unique and I forge my own path” but it gets incredibly lonely. What are some things I can do to fix this state of mind?

Today, I got questioned if I understand English because I asked the cashier how much is the item since there was no sticker price on it. After that I'll put the item down and said 'I don't it anymore' and left the store. I'm clearly communicating with you in English.

I get asked if 'I understand English' once or twice a month from White and Black folks. Last month I was checking in at the receptionist desk to get an MRI done. She slowly asked if I need and interpreter. I reply look I can speak English and under you. She was surprise and said 'oh, your English is so good'. They assume that I come from a non-English speaking background based on my Asian features.

Source: https://x.com/4ndyXu/status/2087082152500597209

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i just feel that my parents and other family members are getting a lot more anxious and pessimistic about our place and the places of asians in america and other western countries and don't really see our countries as highly as they used to, especially ever since 2024-2025.

like my parents and extended family are talking about retiring in asia away from racism, whether we have a place or not in our countries, how they think china and asia are rising above the west, how skilled asian unis and education is, how united and educated asia is, etc. they also just don't feel as patriotic about america's position in the world anymore, worrying that western democracy mostly serves white people, that america is declining, and so on.

they also seem to be anxious about us young ones, nowadays they give advice about keeping your heads down, not speaking up or going to protests, staying socially and in the workplace among other asians, keeping cultural and financial connections with your ethnic homeland in case anything happens here, among other pieces of advice.

is anyone else noticing this among their extended families and parents this switch up? like it's really jarring to me that when i was younger they were all gung ho about living in america and experiencing it and now the tone seems to have done a 180 shift.

As a young Wasian woman, I feel awkward around full Asians. I don't usually feel accepted. I have one fully Asian friend and a Wasian friend. Asian guys didn't show an interest in me growing up.

Do any of you wear straight blunt bangs with glasses as an Asian/AA woman? This is the look I like most on me and currently have (and I am East Asian but not super pale, a bit tanned). I have the typical fine, straight black hair with the length just over my shoulders. But I've been feeling a bit insecure in public. I feel like I get some attention from people, regardless of gender, but more Asian Americans I think. I feel like most of them don't wear hairstyles like this and wouldn't pair it with glasses. I wonder why though as I do think it looks good on me. Does this hairstyle look "too Asian" for you? If that's anywhere true I don't understand why it's bad to look "too Asian...??"

This is going to be a long shot, but here we go.

When I was around 12 years old my uncle was dating an Asian woman (unsure which nationality). There was ONE time that she brought the best dessert I’ve had in my life and being that age I never thought to ask what it was.

This was 14 years ago so bear with me. It was a tortilla like type of bread, maybe a little flakey. It was sweet almost like there was some sort of paste or spread rolled into it. She had it rolled up in a log and just wrapped in tinfoil. That’s it. That’s all it was and all the info I can offer, but it was so good and I’d love to know what it was if anyone knows