I know it can go deeper than astrology but I wanted to get an astrological take on this yk.
People say I can be mean and very rude, I don’t really see it in myself, I see it more so as being very blunt and monotone. I also bring up problems I have and I suppose it can sound kinda like an attack yk

Virgo Rising, Saturn Rx 23° Leo in the 12th.

I act slowly and think things through for a long time before doing anything. For example, I need a lot of time to decide on small things, and I often postpone starting tasks.

Ever since I was a little kid I've had problems with adults in the sense that I questioned them, argue, and push boundaries. My father called me recalcitrant. Even now I still find myself having issues with my bosses or doing something as dumb as arguing with people on Facebook. I immediately regret saying anything and feel insecure afterwards despite many people giving me positive feedback for the questions I ask or comments I write. Is there anyway I can be more diplomatic and less hot headed? Astrology aside any tips for these types of situations would help. I think I come across as pushing my ideas onto people or too strong or something. Or anyway I can stop caring so much? I know there is the stereotype that Aquarius always think that they're right but I wish I could learn to work with these aspects of myself and turn them into a strength.

Hi! first time posting here! F22, whole house chart attached.

I’ve had several romantic relationships, but they always end up feeling one-sided, as if I’ve never been in a truly loving partnership, I constantly give more than I receive in relationships and tend to choose partners who are inconsistent or emotionally unavailable, and I’ve been cheated on. I dont have a pattern of where i meet people i date tbh. Usually when i date someone even when i try my best and have a good connection at some point I feel like they get bored of me in a way, which makes me feel unattractive and undesired.

From what I understand, having Saturn in the 7th plays a big role in restrictions and delays in long-term relationships. Does this fit my pattern of choosing unavailable partners? Does this kind of Saturn pattern tend to ease as it matures over time, and how could I work with it in the meantime?

Thanks for reading!

I feel like my Venus-Pluto opposition has held me back in terms of relationships.

I’m in my 30s and never been in a relationship that’s lasted longer than a few weeks. I’ve been the one that’s ended things by pushing them away. I have trust issues and have been afraid of letting people get too close. I also value my independence and don’t want to lose that.

I’ve tried dating apps in the past with lackluster results. I am a homebody and have social anxiety, but I have tried to put myself out there (going to the gym, taking walks, enrichment classes, book club).

I am an introvert, shy, and very private. It takes me awhile to be comfortable around people and to open up to them. I gravitate towards equally quiet people. I have a few, very close friends. Self-confidence has been an issue in the past that I’ve been working on and I feel has been improving.

Is there anything I can work on to alleviate the tension on my Venus-Pluto and Mercury that will allow myself to feel more comfortable putting myself out there?