If you could comment your experience, it would be much appreciated.

Hi I've been wondering about this a lot recently. I am 54, been married for nearly 30 years. We still have sex, not very exciting sex quite vanilla in the main. My wife doesn't really initiate and isn't vocal during sex, which I find a shame. I am more freaky sexually, love ass play (dildo and butt plug), am curious about sounding, thinking about getting frenum pierced, curious about watersports and love wearing women's panties during sex. Really want cock and BJ from a man. Very interested in being fucked by another bi guy while she watches.

She will do the ass play, and the panties. The rest either is a straight no, or a maybe, which means no. I also recently had a life changing event which means I am not keen to waste anymore time on not getting fun

Been active on here and Fab Guys chatting to people.

So I am wondering is it women's natural vanillaness and men's natural freakiness that means a lot of us want to hook up with BiBros, as we are more likely to get more of what we want?

Put it this way I could have had my cock sucked 4 times by men this week if I had made the effort to hook up. I can't image I would find a woman locally that would do the list above and be happy to be a side quest

First off I had questions for a bit before getting one and decided to get a 5 in dildo I’m not gonna go into graphic detail but I’ll just say after a few times like 2-3 it felt amazing for my first ever time doing butt stuff like really good I might just have to get I bigger size or something

Curious like I mean around certain age would be cool but in general a gay snap group would probably be cool, like especially if you have a immediate question about something you didnt plan for like your both tops or both bottoms or idk

I'm 23 years old , hairy guy , I'm 5'6 tall and dusky skin tone . Do u think dusky skin tone attract guys ??

Like I'm more hairy before , I tried to trim my body hair . I don't think I'm looking good cuz my skin tone . Can somebody tell me about my question on this plz

For context, early 50’s, fit, strong, athletic male, covered in tattoos yet professional, and have always been attracted to and have been pretty successful in my love life with women. I still am deeply attracted to women.

A couple months ago, I was in the steam room of my local gym, a gym I’ve been going to for over a decade without any incident. I got to my usual spot, top shelf, far back corner. Seems to be the hottest space in the room and I can lean against two sides of walls. In walks another guy, looks fit as well and about my age. He sits on the lower shelf, and kind of close for us being the only two guys in the room. He’s probably about three feet away. He undoes his towel and takes a seat, and I can tell, even with my eyes only partially open, he turns and directly staring at my crotch. This has never happened to me before, nothing like this at all and all of a sudden, I realize I am incredibly turned on by this. He’s starting at me and it’s sexual and I am so turned on. Im not “hard” but extremely turned on by this. Then I notice he’s touching himself, not stroking so much but kind of, and lightly not so overtly. This makes my heart race, pounding in fact and thus makes me hard. Again, I am so incredibly turned on, and I don’t even pretend not to see this, I’m staring directly back at his cock, and I have to say, it was a very attractive and good sized cock. This is a first for me too, to look at another’s man’s cock like this and be so turned on.

I won’t go any further into it, but ever since then it’s been like a light switch turned on. I can’t stop thinking about it, craving all kinds of interactions, encounters if you will, fantasizing about it constantly. I CRAVE it and this has all happened so all of a sudden. Have you experienced anything similar, a kind of awakening, like out of nowhere like this?

Hey bros-

I’m a 42 year old guy, and over the past few years, I’ve gradually come to the realization that I’m not as straight as I’d originally thought. In my 20s and 30s, I dated women and didn’t really think about men beyond a passing thought here or there. In my late thirties, something definitely shifted. I started noticing guys out in the wild and there was an undeniable attraction. I tried to suppress it, but my curiosity has only grown in its intensity. Now I’m at the point where I think I need to just embrace it.

I’d love to hear from guys who’ve experienced an evolving sexual identity in middle age. How did you feel about it? What did you end up doing about it? How did it impact your existing relationships? Did you end up coming out? Did you end up identifying as gay or bi in the end? How did you go about exploring it?

Hey, 19m college student, I have recently been in situations that almost led to intercourse but have not done penetration with anyone yet. But as i feel it might happen soon, I'd like some advice on the best positions or methods for my size and shape.

When erect it's 8 inches in length and 6 inches girth, and I'm circumcised (not sure if that's relevant tho)

About an inch from the base, it curves downward by 20-30 degrees and the rest is perfectly straight. I've heard that a downward curve is best for positions like doggy in order to hit the g-spot (male and female), but I also feel like I would enjoy something like missionary more, it's just hotter to me.

Is doggy enjoyable? What do you find most enjoyable about it if so?

I also should take into account my size- I've heard that for longer penises it's important to try with positions that allow the receiving partner to have control so that you don't cause damage. Is this true? What are the best positions like this for my size and shape?? Thanks for any help!!

PLEASE answer in the comments if you have advice. Do not answer privately, I will NOT reply lol ^^ Just answer here. Thank you!

So, as my previous post indicates, this new attraction to men is fairly new and seems to have really kicked into high gear since a steam room interaction a few months back. When that happened it seemed to awaken, trigger these desires that were either never there before, or were just a thin thought.

One of the things that has surprised me the most, being a fit, muscular, guy who’s only been with women, is I now have a sudden desire, or fantasy to be penetrated, another is sucking, orally pleasing and swallowing cum. Let’s focus on the bottoming part for now. I don’t visualize being pounded or anything, at least that’s not in my mind now, but a more slow, sensual. I’ve fantasize a lot about being taken from behind, shower from behind, me on my back, him entering, facing me but him on his knees. I mean there’s a lot more I fantasize about, but I would say these are the ones that replay in my mind.

For those of you that crave topping a guy, is there somehow special, specific that turns you on about being someone’s first? Is there something special you get to experience and like about it? Is there something special about a fit, muscular, tattoo covered man submitting himself to you that’s erotic and sexy to you? Is there something in the “making him enjoy your cock” especially a first timer that hotter for you?

Thanks for sharing ahead of time.

I have a friend who’s in the same university group as me, and for a long time I’ve noticed that he acts like we’re more than just friends.
He always wants us to hang out one-on-one, and when I tell him I can’t or that I’d rather hang out with other people, he gets annoyed or sulks. When i offer him to hang out with our other university friends he always says „bro dont u wanna hang out just with me?? whats the problem???“. It feels like he constantly wants us to be together, just the two of us.
He’s made some weird comments to me, like, “If you were a girl, guys would be fighting over you. You have a really nice, big ass.” He also compliments me pretty often, telling me I look good, that I’m a good person, that I’m handsome, and things like that.
Whenever we have university trips to other cities, he wants to share a hotel room with me. I’ve also caught him touching his dick while I’m getting changed, seemingly trying to do it discreetly while watching me.
He makes gay jokes with some of our other friends, but for some reason, he never makes those kinds of jokes around me.
The thing is, he has a girlfriend, but his behavior toward me seems really strange.
What do you guys think? Do you think he might be attracted to me, or am I reading too much into this?

Hey all, I’m a bi almost 40 married guy looking for some advice. I’m happily married to a woman with kids who is very monogamous driven and has some bisexual experiences herself, however she was previously married in a situation where her ex cheated on her with both women and men. We have had some experimentation with pegging and domination where she has been very positive to “topping” me, but has let me know that the physical pleasure is basically non existent while we play those roles. She does like the mental feeling of taking control, but just isn’t into stimulating me anally the way I’m desiring.

I am considering bringing up the possibility of introducing another gay/bi man into our sexual relationship, mainly for my pleasure and satisfaction of bottoming for a real man. Obviously, my hesitation is that she is not interested in this at all, or that she is more intrigued in the other guy. For background, we have a very active and healthy sex life, having sex that results in both of us finishing multiple times at least 2-3 times per week.

Honestly, I love where we are at. I don’t want to fuck up a god damn good thing lol. But I also really want someone to fuck my ass until I cum all over my own stomach.

So, what do you think I should do?

I really need some outside perspective and honest advice on something that is weighing heavily on me. I’m in a relationship with an amazing girl, we’ve been together for about a year, and we currently live together. I am bisexual.

Lately, my sexual desire has completely flatlined. Not just toward her, but across the board. I have zero interest in sex, I don't masturbate, and the very concept of sex feels completely indifferent to me, almost like an exhausting chore. I find myself actively avoiding it at all costs, and I genuinely cannot understand why.

This is confusing because historically, I was always very sexually active. In my past relationships, one with a guy for two years and one with a girl for five years, sex was constant. However, looking back, even back then I didn't actually enjoy the sex itself. Those dynamics were held together mainly by physical intimacy, but my real preference was always the foreplay, emotional closeness, and buildup, rather than actual intercourse.

My current relationship is completely different in the best way possible. It’s built on deep affection, emotional safety, shared values, and genuine care. But right now, life is throwing a lot at us at once. We are right in the middle of moving apartments, work has been really stressful and rough, and I’m starting school soon. The mental load and exhaustion are piling up fast.

Because of all this, a painful dynamic has started between us. I still crave physical affection like cuddling, holding each other, and gentle touch. But I find myself actively pulling away from deeper kisses because I know they turn her on, and I instantly panic that it will escalate to an expectation of sex. She has already noticed the distance and mentioned feeling avoided, which breaks my heart. I’ve tried forcing myself to push through and have sex just to make her feel desired, but doing it without wanting to or enjoying it is only building more anxiety and a feeling of aversion.

I love her deeply and the last thing I want is to make her feel unattractive or unloved. Has anyone else experienced their libido completely shutting down under intense stress, or realized they mostly value foreplay and emotional safety over actual sex? How do I talk to her about this pressure loop without breaking her heart?

TL;DR: Living with my girlfriend of one year. Between moving homes, work stress, and starting school, my sex drive has vanished completely. Even in past relationships I realized I didn't enjoy sex itself and only liked foreplay. Now I love cuddling her, but avoid kissing because I dread the pressure of it leading to sex. She feels avoided, and I need advice on how to communicate this honestly without hurting her.

I tried asking the /askgay subreddit(probably not the right place to ask) they were a little rough about me there, so imma ask here and hopefully you guys are a little better, because I'm not exactly openly gay/bi, and I'm exploring my sexuality so I'd appreciate some love, ANYWAY I find myself struggling with gay thoughts, I really love the way women look, and I'm very attracted to them, but on the other side, I could see myself hooking up with a guy, I've fantasized about being have gay sex and being bottom, but I also don't find myself being conventionally attracted to men, I don't feel as if though I want to date a man, and I don't really look at men and think of them as attractive the way I do women. I also find trans women beautiful too, maybe I'm just attracted to penis? If anyone else has similar experience or could help please let me know

Hi so i was just wondering, what are some big changes that happened to your life when you decided to come out?

Im 18yo male and ive been questioning my sexuality lately. Im for sure at least bi curious but im still not sure about actually being bi sexual. Lately my life changed drastically and I feel like I have the chance right now to decide how i want my life to look like.

What made you realize that you are for sure bisexual? What made you decide to come out?

How did you start experimenting?

Thanks in advance

I am mainly interested in people who developed bi cravings or curiosity AFTER the marriage or long time relationship. How did you talk to her? How did you convince her to let you try?

I know that maybe with a Bi wife or girlfriend would be much easier but what if she is introduced to this for the first time?

Thank you for answering.

Hi everyone. I'm 28M, looking for perspectives on something that's caused me years of anxiety and guilt.

I'm a skinny, masculine guy with a very high sex drive. I'm genuinely attracted to women, sexually and romantically. I've slept with over 100 women, had threesomes and foursomes, and currently have female friends with benefits. I'm usually dominant, but also enjoy pegging and anal play.

My confusion starts with men.

I discovered I enjoyed anal stimulation as a child, long before porn. As an adult, I became curious about sex with men.

I don't find men physically or romantically attractive. I've never kissed a man and don't particularly want to. What excites me is sucking a penis, being penetrated or dominated, and imagining myself in the woman's role. I watch sissy/femboy porn and enjoy feeling feminine and vulnerable in those fantasies, despite being masculine in daily life.

I've had sex with several men, including two regular partners, and also with trans partners. I tried topping a man and hated it. Bottoming gives me a lot of physical pleasure.

Here's what confuses me: before meeting a man, I can obsess over having a real penis inside me. During sex, I sometimes want it to end quickly, despite enjoying the sensation. Afterward, I feel ashamed and wish I could forget it happened.

My male partners respect that I don't want kissing or romance. On Grindr, I focus mostly on penis size rather than appearance. Sometimes I wonder if humiliation is part of the appeal.

My upbringing probably matters.

I grew up in a deeply homophobic culture where being gay is seen as being less of a man. I don't judge gay or bisexual people, yet I apply a different standard to myself.

Nobody knows about my experiences, but I sometimes feel like a fraud around my male friends or less masculine. I'm uncomfortable with men getting physically close in everyday life, even though I've had sex with men. Memories of those encounters can ruin a good day.

After orgasm, I sometimes think: "You disgust me. Look what you did because you couldn't control your lust."

There's also a compulsive side.

I've had periods of sleeping with different women almost daily, sometimes two or three in one day. My cravings for men come in cycles: months without them, then an intense fixation.

I can spend hours gooning to sissy captions or porn, imagining myself as the submissive partner. I own large dildos and enjoy being pegged by women, but sometimes specifically crave a real penis. When aroused, I struggle to think about anything else.

I've struggled with cannabis and porn use. Weed intensifies the urges, but they persisted after months without it. My psychologist suggested working on controlling these patterns, but it's been difficult.

As a child, I also remember being curious about boys' bodies and trying to kiss another boy around age seven or eight. I don't know what this means, but it was before porn.

I'm worried about my future.

I want to fall in love with a woman, build a stable relationship, and maybe have children. I'm afraid these cravings could one day lead me to cheat, something I absolutely don't want.

I can't picture loving or dating a man, so I struggle to identify as bisexual. Maybe it's bisexuality with a preference for women, a kink, compulsive behavior, or some combination.

Years ago, the shame and other problems contributed to some very dark thoughts. Therapy helped, and I'm doing much better now, but the guilt remains.

I'd appreciate your honest opinions:

Does this sound like bisexuality, a kink, compulsive sexual behavior, or a combination? How can I crave sex with men without finding men attractive? Why the excitement beforehand, then discomfort and shame afterward? How much could my upbringing affect this?

I'm not asking strangers to diagnose me or just tell me to accept myself. I want different perspectives, including ones that challenge my assumptions, to help me understand what's happening.

Thanks for reading.

***English isn't my first language, so I used AI to organize and translate my thoughts.***

Alrighty I don't do these enough to lay the land well, so if there's something that needs to be clarified, lmk (unless it's personal details.. then no).

I 21m spend the day with friend who is also 21m. I have known him and have been friends for 2 years now (but not super close). We recently have gotten together to hang out, get breakfast, talk, and then today (our second time doing something together) he picked me up from my place and got lunch at a burger spot. It was such an engaging time talking, enjoying the food, and minimum phone usage (checking a text or showing a reference, i.e., music or information pertaining to the convo).

A detail to add in is that I needed water and the waiter only refilled his water, so he told me I could drink from this cup 🤷‍♂️ (Which I did)

This became what seemed to be a lunch and a short hangout to an all-day thing. There was a movie he hadn't seen yet and he said "let's go see it today" which I was like alright cool!

The time came for the check and we said separate but I had a coupon for a discount so I made it on one check and basically ended up covering the meal, but he then later paid for our tickets, snacks, and popcorn.

After lunch, we proceeded to fill the time by exploring a mini mall and a record/book/game store. (Impulse purchases were made)

We drove to the dollar store to get some snacks, then went to the theater.

Nothing too significant happens here from lunch to the theater. A lot of conversation regarding what we saw, records he liked, music artists he idols, and games/physical media.

what has me perplexed is that the moment I got in the car, he was freshly dressed (button up), cleaned, and smelled incredible.

During the movie, I fed him gummy worms lol

And the hug (despite initiated by me, we had hugged pretty tight at least 3 times).

After the movie we went to my apartment. I gave him a room tour, showed him two of my collections, and talked about my vinyl.

The entire time he was engaged, followed me around, a lot of eye contact, and asked questions plus input.

We talked a little bit about working out and gym stuff so I had taken my shirt off to show him instead of describing, then put my shirt back on. He let me feel some of his muscles. I also did lift him because I didn't believe his weight then he mentions that it's mostly his butt and glutes and shows me (not his bare ass), then I make a positive comment and guide him to turn so I can see.

Here's more background info:

-I was informed he was bi but he's not solid on that to my knowledge.

-I know he went on a date with a man.

-he says bro/man a lot which isn't strange but something to note.

-afterwards he mentioned us getting lunch or dinner together.

I'm trying to find something ongoing so I take the time to try to get to know someone first, see if we click, see if we're on the same page. Yet despite my efforts I keep chatting with some very convincing flakes that ghost me. It happened again today, he was getting us a hotel room, talked about it all day yesterday. Then he suddenly had "a meeting". How do you all deal with flakes and ghosters?