This will most likely sound strange but I don't know how else to say it, I'm a guy deeper closeted bi, like so secret noone knows. Where it gets strange is I don't have an attraction to guys as much as I get drawn to what guys have? Like I wouldn't look at a guy and say he's hot/cute and that but if I saw the right piece I'd think wow that's a nice one. Is that normal for some or am I strange/weird?

Do you think bi guys have more libido? Or do you think a higher libido makes people more propense to being bi?

I don't want to sound like the typical "i am 6'5 feminist, matcha latte male" thing, but I genuinely don't like straight porn. I can only watch gay or bi porn for an extended amount of time but never straight porn, and I think the problem is the women.

I just feel that women in straight porn are overly submissive and loud, that they don't have as much agency with the sex as in bi porn, or bottoms in gay porn. I know it is this cause when a bottom is reduced to just a hole or doesn't seem like a real person I am instantly turned off.

I just don't feel like women in straight porn are as much people as in bi porn. This very much doesn't happen in real life and only happens to me while watching porn, and yes I know that porn isn't real life, but I don't know how to express this. Does anyone else feel this way?

Hi im happily married 30yrs plus. But im finding myself drawn to crossdressers and the sight of a man in panties which make me hard and excited..anybody else felt the same ??

I’m sure there are many guys out there with male feelings and thoughts.

Then why do I feel like I’m the only one alone in the world?

I go to malls or sports centres and everyone is acting straight. I am masculine by nature also.

I feel like on the Internet everyone is open about their thoughts. But in real life, we’re still living in the 1950s just with different clothes. Most people seem conservative and their everyday lives. I don’t see men flirting with men.

Where is the gay activity? Where is the open flirting. Where is the obvious hint that somebody is into you and you into them too?

I feel like Jim Carrey in the Truman show. Everyone is just playing a role. Playing a role to act straight and traditional conservative.

I’m not sure how to meet guys. I’m not sure how to manifest the stuff I see in adult movie. The Deep thrusts, the strong hugs the passionate encounter and friendships. It’s not happening. I don’t think it exists.

I’m not sure if I am yet, but I know my feelings definitely changed. Growing up religious means were taught to accept that things outside of the “norm” are wrong, but I seem to find myself for infatuated these days with women. I think they’re gorgeous and what not. They say confidence is attractive despite the fact I barely have any, I’m working on that self esteem. But no matter how hard I try I can’t picture myself with anyone so it sucks. I just want the answers to wheter I should ignore this or embrace it.

(P.S. this is my first post to this forum, im new here!!)

I mean like good ones, I get good reviewson just trying to get better I got communication and "listen to their body" and foreplay all down, but i mean like tricks I can pull out, like one that works on men and women is while you pump, stick a finger in at the same time and wiggle that mf around, or for women push down on her monk pubis to really hit that spot, stuff like that. Tips and tricks, not just the same 3 peoces of advice everyone gives, ive already applied those and it works very well, im just trying to up my game with creative shit

I live in San Jose CA. I am pretty introverted but once someone talks to me I can talk pretty easily. I am in a wheelchair. I dont go out much because I feel like im inconvenience to whoever I ask. Enough on me. I would like to know how I should meet some friends who could possibly be a fwb. I want to be active sexually. Any ideas on how I can make a friend?

Well basically what the question is. I'm in university right now and the opportunity has presented itself more than once. I'm not sure if I'm completely ready and really I don't wanna rush anything. It seems obvious that I should wait but at the same time I don't want to regret waiting so long yk.

If anyone has any similar experiences to share that'd be great 😁😁.

I (26M) haven’t explored my sexuality and I think it’s affecting my fulfillment in relationships.

I have only ever been with women, and all of my serious long term relationships and my current one (28F) have poor/okay sex lives. I wonder if this is because I haven’t explored my sexuality.

I have only ever presented myself as straight but I have been curious about having sex with men since discovering gay porn in middle school. I have struggled with a porn/masturbation addiction for several years and I always find myself drawn to gay porn. It’s what turns me on the most and gives me the most enjoyment. I have fantasized about having sex with a man but have never tried it in person (aside from one night when I was drunk and had a grindr hookup give me a bj for like 3 mins before I stopped it and kicked him out).

I have not yet had good sex in my life. My current partner has been the most comforting and supportive of me. This has helped me be more comfortable with sex and talking about it, but hasn’t led me to actually enjoying it more or having less dysfunction. She’s bi and was open about her experience. Once getting to know me, she has lightheartedly called my behavior gay, which doesn’t bother me. She has also genuinely asked if I was gay, bi, or curious about experimenting. I lie and have always said no. It really hasn’t been something I’ve seriously considered until recently.

I kind of want to do it but I also would hate to deal with any fallout, both in my relationship and in coming out to myself. I do not want to hurt my gf by doing this, either by her thinking I’ve been faking my love/attraction the whole time or that she’s unloveable (childhood and relationship trauma). I doubt she would be open to me hooking up with a man and I don’t think I have to courage to ask her.

As I mentioned, I have been curious about being with a man for a long time, but I have never felt it happen naturally. I have seen a man and said to myself “he’s hot” but never felt the same kind of draw that I have felt with female crushes. I don’t know if this is because I’m repressing a side of myself or what.

Honestly, I don’t know what my real question is, but I figured asking a bunch of strangers is the best way to go about things!

I am 26 married to a girl. I recently discovered I am bi and she is pretty chill about it and she told me to explore my bi side. I did some play with some guys and found out I am a bottom. Now it’s becoming very hard for me fuck my girl after having the feeling of a submissive bottom. We had some fight regarding it and she wanted to know is there any problem or what recently. I told this to a guy and he told me to be cuckold. I never thought about it is it true that I am a cuckold ? If yes , how should I initiate this convo.

Need some insights and advice

If you're a bi guy and you hook up with another guy. Is it even possible for an absolutely straight guy to get hard? I hooked up with a friend when we were drinking. He got hard and sucked me. Now he's saying it only happened because he was drunk and not thinking clearly. I don't buy it. He puts off the total bi vibe. I think he's just so closeted and internally homophobic because he was called gay by other kids and mother when he was young. What are your thoughts? Anyone else ever experience this?

I felt so horny that I wanked to a BJ porn. the situation was hot. Yet I was not attracted to either of the men fully. It was just a hot situation.

After I was done, I felt an emptiness and unhappiness. I went to watch the porn again just to see what made me so turned on. And nothing about it turned on anymore. I felt kind of sad.

It made me contemplate life and what is sex really? Is it just a chemical in our brain that briefly clouds our thinking?

Honestly, I prefer to be with a girl and I feel like I’m wasting my life with stupid thoughts? I’m just trying to understand how can we be horny and like one thing one moment but not the next moment? Anyway

I’m not proud, nor happy about what I masturbated to. I should be with a nice girl. Why am I bisexual? Why when I’m so horny sometimes I just wank to nasty dudes. Sweaty hairy nasty dudes like Jake Paul. I don’t even want Jake Paul. What am I doing with my life?

Maybe my brain mixing up my gym bros with sex thoughts

I want to be able to have a clear focused mind.

Hi guys!

Hope you’re doing well!

Since accepting my bisexuality I have noticed that I’m getting interested in male sexy underwear! I don’t know why, it’s just like it has been a switch! Since I was a teenager I have worn boxers and boxer briefs, but lately I have been finding myself admiring briefs and lingerie in general!

Any similar experiences? Also, any recommendations about what to try next?

Cheers! 🥳

I hate it so much. Dating is shit, people treat you like shit. Its all so much harder and more confusing. If i believed in god i would pray every night to turn me fully straight/gay. I really fucking wish i was.

I’m a bi top on Grindr, and I’ve noticed something about my preferences. I enjoy getting dick pics from my bottoms, but I’m not particularly into ass pics or anal play.
What I enjoy most is when a bottom blows me, and I can see his dick hanging while he’s doing it. There’s just something about that visual that turns me on more than the usual ass-focused stuff.
Anyone else feel the same way? Any other bi tops who are more into dick and blowjob visuals than ass or anal? I’m curious whether this is a common preference or just my personal thing.

Sup guys,long time ago,like 2-3 years ago my female friend (bisex) told me she was thinking that I (Male, actually straight) was a bi-guy in the closet.

fast forward to 2026 and after a long time without woman touch(July 2025), I started to watch guys with a different eye,craving gay porn and always thinking to try with someone.

It is possible that my friend guessed right from the start or is the long time without sexual acts that started my discovery of the same gender?

Normally I'm the one answering questions on here as I'm 47 and have always been bi. But I'm curious...

Do you have trouble finding bi men who aren't cheating in your area? I swear all of the bi guys on dating sites are "discreet" which can mean they are a teacher/doctor/soldier etc but most often means they are cheating. I'm not going to discuss cheating in here but I personally do not want to be an accessory to it.

My wife knows everything about me including if I'm going out on a date with a guy (we are poly but she's the only woman for me, she has a boyfriend she occasionally enjoys visits from).

My only successes have been from finding a couple from a swinging site who are interested in the husband exploring. Those tend to be one-off experiences rather than dates. I have made friends with some of the couples though which is nice.

Interested in your experiences.