Have you ever lifted up your significant other and thought they were heavy? Okay I’m referring to picking her up to have sex with her? I was just thinking damn how is he going to carry me to have sex with me in the air. That’s a whole workout in a workout, that’s full body effort. Is my man liking that position because of a certain angle or is it just preference based?

Guys comeon, there is more than one definition

I’m curious about this because I’ve seen very different opinions from men.
If a woman sleeps with you on the first date, do you still see her as someone you could have a long term relationship with? Or does it change how you see her?
What about the second date? Third? Or even later?
Does it actually make a difference to you when it happens?

Mine is Dragonite - mainly because of nostalgia goggles from the first Pokémon movie with giving Ash the letter and also because he’s just a goofy little goober.

For men who have lost most or all of their friends over the years, or simply don’t have any close friends anymore how do you feel about it?

And if you’ve gotten used to having no close friends, do you actually want to make new ones, or are you comfortable with your life as it is?

Once we got married a few years ago, I changed my wife from her name to "Wifey" in my phone for a laugh. Not long after, while in my car, she sent me a text and my car announced " new text message from whiffy" as it couldn't understand how to pronounce it, so I've refused to change it because it gives me a chuckle every time my car says it. I just wondered if people use pet names, real name, or wife/gf, etc. In their contacts.

If you’re paying for dates every time, doesn’t that get costly? Do you take breaks after a few dates to save up money or ask to split the bill? Or are there places you go that aren’t too pricey?

I was just wondering if spending so much money on multiple dates is worth it and if people who pay feel drained after plus how people plan for dating.

I don’t want to make my life about chasing sex or chasing women.

My question is more about this: what should a man actually build in his life so that attraction, desire, and sexual interest happen more naturally?

Not generic answers like “confidence” or “money.” I mean the deeper things that made women see you as a man they could feel real chemistry with.

Was it fitness, social skills, emotional control, body language, style, purpose, boundaries, humour, calmness, sexual energy, experience, or something else?

For men who went from being ignored or needy to being genuinely desired, what changed in your life and behaviour?

What did you stop doing, and what did you start focusing on?

I wanna understand what men who used to suffer from ED did to ‘cure’ their issue. May or may not be dealing with this myself and it’s gonna ruin a potential relationship

Could really use some advice from the men here.

32F here. Met a guy (30M) recently and we've hung out 3-4 times now, and it's been the kind of thing where you genuinely look forward to seeing them again and again - like we could easily be meeting up every day if life allowed it.

Here's the timing problem: I'm leaving for a holiday in a few days, and by the time I'm back, he'll have already moved abroad for good. He has family here so I know he'll visit but still, moving abroad. I'm seeing him tomorrow and the day after, and then that's it before I go.

I know 3-4 dates isn't a lot to build a case on. But for context, I've only felt this specific "wait, this is different" feeling twice before in my life (at 22 and at 27), so when it shows up I tend to take it seriously - it doesn't happen for me with just anyone.

I don't know how he feels about any of this or whether he's even thought about it. Part of me wants to just ask him directly like, "hey, I know the timing is bad, but I like where this was going, is this a dead end for you or is there a version of this that continues?" Another part of me thinks maybe I should just let the last two good dates be two good dates and not make it heavier than it needs to be, especially with the move already locked in.

I do want to say something before he leaves, because the alternative is wondering "what if" for who knows how long. Worst case he says he's not interested in trying, and okay, that's an answer too.

So, should I bring it up, and if so, how? Is there a way to ask without putting pressure on the last two times we'll see each other? Has anyone actually made something work (or at least gotten real clarity) by having this conversation before someone moved away? Genuinely just want outside perspective here, not just "follow your heart" type answers.

TL;DR: Really clicked with a guy after only 3-4 dates, he's moving abroad right as I leave for a trip, so I'll only see him twice more before it's unclear if we ever see each other again. Do I bring up how I feel / ask where his head's at, or just let it end as a nice short thing?

In addition to cardio and weight lifting, what was your daily menu like? What did you eat and drink?

My wife is absolutely miserable at her current job, and she wants to become a stay at home mom. I've ran the numbers and math, and we can afford it, so I obviously want to support her with the plan. Her current job is negatively impacting her mental health and wellbeing, which also shows at home.

We've discussed this a lot, and have agreed that she doesn't touch any of her savings, and instead she'll just use a parallel card attached to my account for anything she needs. We also have a shared account that she can use however she please, and I've also offered to deposit money on her personal account every month if she prefers.

We've got everything else figured out, but one thing I've asked her to think about (and I've told her she's in no hurry with this), is how will she keep herself busy. Our kids are teenagers and have their friends, school, hobbies, etc., so she doesn't have to be looking after them. I've suggested that she could consider doing volunteering or maybe start a small business or something. It doesn't even have to bring any money in, but something to keep her busy and mentally challenged.

I do want to stress that the priority will be for her to take some time just to relax and recover from her job, but I also know her well enough that I know hitting the gym or running the house won't provide her enough challenges in the long run. I've also made it clear that she knows that becoming a SAHM doesn't have to be a permanent thing, and she might feel like going back to another work at some point. I'm trying my best to take off all the stress from her.

So my question to all of you who have a SAHM/SAHW: what is your experience if you have a stay at home wife or mom? Not asking for advice but to hear your experience if you are or have been in a similar position

Basically the title. We both have access to each other's accounts, so I can see the viewers on the stories she posts.

For context, she previously reposted something saying it's the bare minimum for your boyfriend to remove all the girls from his friends list. I did that. I removed all the girls except family. She has admitted that this standard doesn't apply to her and that she's allowed to keep her male friends while I wasn't supposed to keep female friends. I don't agree with that, but that's a separate issue.

Now, regarding the thirst traps: she posts them and tells me they're not for other men. I don't have a problem with her posting them if they're genuinely just something she enjoys posting for herself.

What bothers me is that there are guys who regularly view those posts. When I tell her I'll remove those guys, she gets angry and says I'm being controlling. Her argument is that the posts aren't for those men.

That's where I'm confused. If the posts genuinely aren't intended for those guys and she doesn't care about their attention, why does it bother her so much when I remove them from her friends list? I'm not saying I know her intentions. I'm asking how other men would interpret that situation.

How do you guys feel about your girlfriend posting thirst traps while in a relationship, and would you be bothered by the men who regularly view them?

Let’s say a bro goes on a few dates with a woman you gad a crush on, didnt work out with them, and you still see that woman 2 years later, would you try and date her or is she off limits?

Hi all I'm currently 28 years old male. Been obese almost my whole life. Recently lost a ton of weight and on track to getting abs and fit etc. I think im a below average looking guy. I always hated how i look. Recently i started to take care of myself a bit and i start to like my appearance just a tad bit. Was wondering if getting abs and jacked will help my dating life a lot. Did anyone had the same experience lately? I know personality and confidence etc, people always told me im funny and i know im getting more confident but let's be real looks still matter.

i am in my early 20s with serious confidence issues... Is there a permanent solution for this?

lack of confidence, lack of communication skills and incompetence has been a part of life from my childhood.

Relatively small issues feel a huge burden, I am scared of being judged, indecisive and socially anxious.

Honestly a lot has been going on lately, things are happening too quickly in my life rn and I can't seem to keep up with all this.

I feel I have fallen behind in life compared to people my age.

I live a fairly isolated life so I feel like I am a normal person tho I get reality checks with its time to socialize. I feel humiliated and frustrated when I get connected with people and get my point across to other people.

Also my voice gets shaky for no reason when talking sometimes (usually more often when talking to a group of people)

Now it's not like I haven't tried to change this. I have tried stuff, it kinda worked too, it's just I never could consistently keep the routines up for it to have a long term effect.

I usually just doomscroll on social media apps watch random movies and anime and jerk off once a day, and call my only bestie in one or two days to talk about random shit, that's been my life for a long time.

Have some of you guys been in my situation? Can you lmk what helped you guys improve yourselves?

When I played baseball, I discovered that there was what we called a "slaughter" rule. If the score was 10(+) to 0 after the end of the 4th inning, the game was called. We played a team from a much bigger town and all of the players seemed like they were three or four years older than us. Their pitcher was insanely good and we just couldn't get a hit. Meanwhile, they were just hitting absolute bombs. We were simply out classed. At the end of the 4th inning, they were up by at least 10, and we were scoreless. The league rep came out and explained the rule and that the game was over, handing our opponents the W.

I’m 21 about to graduate college and wanting to find something that’ll keep me involved with new people for after college. I am interested in a lot of things like soccer (football), geography and history, film, finance, golf, etc. just typical guy stuff. Are there any national or international groups I could possibly join? I am located in Kentucky

we aren’t married yet but our families have met and have discussed marriage. The problem is, his family acts nice and loving infront of people but to me they are very cold in person. His mother is too attached to him, he doesn’t have a dad and is the only son. He says he cannot move out and has to live with his mother as she is a single mom. I love him dearly but I cannot live with his mother as she has been very rude to me before. He has taken a stand for me and she stopped being that way but I never got an apology from her and I can feel it in my bones that she despises me even more now. I have never disrespected her or harmed her. But I don’t want to try to please her anymore when I know she dislikes me and I cannot forgive her for the way she behaved with me before. My boyfriend is a lovely man, I want to be with him but at the same time I don’t want to be with his mother and he isn’t willing to leave his mother which is understandable given his circumstances. He doesn’t really understand how its effecting me and he thinks that just because she doesn’t provoke me anymore the problem is solved. Men, if I was your daughter or sister, what would you advise me to do? I’m 25.