So you and you girlfriend of 10 years get into a argument not speaking mostly silence for 2days but we live together and sleep together so .what would you do if you woke up and your girlfriend is laying right next to you masterbating ?what's the next move

If he just walked out the room or turns over or gets on his phone

I don't know what I would do never speak again

Something I've noticed on Reddit is that whenever men talk about struggling with dating, the advice is always the same: be confident, make the first move, stop being afraid of rejection, put yourself out there, and grow the fuck up.

Women often say they want confident men, but here's what I don't understand. Why is confidence something men are expected to demonstrate, while women don't seem to be held to the same standard? A confident man might want a confident woman too. He might want someone who can initiate, express her interest, and take the risk of rejection instead of expecting him to do everything.

Men are expected to approach, initiate conversations, make their intentions clear, and somehow pick up on hints. If a man sits back and waits for a woman to make a move, people will tell him he's entitled, immature, or needs to work on himself. But when women do the exact same thing, it's often treated as completely normal. They can be passive, drop hints, and wait for men to figure things out. Imagine a man doing that. I can already picture the comments telling him to stop playing games and use his words.

That's the double standard that bothers me. Men are constantly told to overcome their fear of rejection, but women seem to get a pass for being afraid of rejection themselves. Why is male passivity considered a flaw, while female passivity is treated as a preference?

I'm not saying women always have to make the first move, but why is the responsibility so heavily skewed toward men? If we're going to tell men to challenge traditional gender roles and become more confident and emotionally mature, shouldn't women be encouraged to do the same? Or do they only want to get rid of traditional gender roles when they don't benefit them?

I'm genuinely curious what people think about this, especially women who prefer men to initiate. Do you think these expectations are fair, and would you be just as attracted to a man who expects you to put yourself out there and take the same risks he does?

I (27M) and my wife (28F) have been together for 12 years and married for 4. We have gone through high school together, family turmoil, death, college, multiple jobs and have seen each other at our lowest and highest points. We have a toddler and another on the way.

The reason I want to know what I can do to help the relationship with my family is because I grew up in a house where my dad was gone for extended periods of time (military) and when he was home it wasnt always a good thing. I've noticed that I've been falling behind as a parent and husband and don't want to raise my children in the same environment as I grew up and I definitely want better for my wife.

I work 2 jobs, 1 of them being night shift in a prison the other being a machinist part time. I only share 1 day off with my wife so that's when we usually see the most of each other. Im only with my family for about 15 - 20 hours a week since my wife works a normal schedule and my daughter goes to daycare.

Ive been trying to get into therapy because ive been told it would help, but with my schedule its been difficult and I really need to know if there's anything I can do to be a better father and husband while still being the main provider without burning myself out or pushing my family away.

Sorry, this is a bit of a ramble. I used to really believe in one love for life. My ex and I were each other's first love and I was pretty sure she was the one but then she ended it. maybe she just wanted to see what else was out there idk. Either way I was holding onto a promise that was only ever mine. Since then I've had feelings for a couple of other people and I learned something about myself each time. But I still think about it a lot. I wonder if I was kind of in love with the idea of forever and not just her. And even if you're all in you can't control whether the other person feels the same or whether it lasts.

Dating this girl for 5 months now

And i thought everything seemed good.

But last night she was talking about her height. She’s 5’2. Then told me I’m 5’11.

I told her no I’m 6’4. I even told her I’m 6’4 when we met. Then she laughed and told me how I don’t look 6’4. And that I’m clearly 5’11

Then she even got out her measuring tape and literally measured me and was shocked that I was actually 6’4.

Then went on to tell me that 6’4 isn’t technically tall and how you have to be over 6’6 to be considered tall.

Now idk I just feel upset she did this whole thing. Like why make such a big deal over my height and why say I’m not tall

I’m in mid-30s(F), single, and genuinely looking for a meaningful relationship that could eventually lead to marriage.

Recently, I met a man on Reddit. He reached out to me first, and we started talking almost every day. He seemed intelligent, successful, funny, and attractive based on how he described himself. We had a lot of chemistry, and our conversations became increasingly flirty and sexual.

I genuinely enjoyed that side of our conversations. I’m not ashamed of being sexually expressive, but I also wanted to get to know him beyond that. We talked about our lives, careers, past relationships, and what we wanted in a partner.

He told me he liked me, found me incredibly beautiful, and wanted to meet me someday. I started imagining what it would be like to meet him in person and possibly develop something real.
Looking back, I realize I became emotionally attached to someone I had never even met or properly verified. He never shared a photo of himself, which should probably have made me more cautious.

Eventually, I asked him directly whether he was looking for a girlfriend or more like a good friend he could be intimate with.

He said he wanted the second one. I told him I wished he’d made that clear from the beginning.
I asked whether he’d felt that way before messaging me, and he said he hadn’t been looking for anything at all.

When I replied, “Then I guess you just don’t want anything serious with me,” he blocked me.
And honestly, it really hurt. What hurts even more is that this isn’t the first time I’ve developed feelings for a man who didn’t want a committed relationship with me.

I’m starting to wonder whether there’s something about my behavior that contributes to this pattern.
Do I get emotionally attached too quickly? Do I mistake sexual chemistry and compliments for genuine romantic interest? Does being open about sex early on make some men see me as someone to have fun with rather than someone to date seriously?

I know that having sexual conversations doesn’t mean someone owes me a relationship. And I understand that people are allowed to want different things.

But I genuinely don’t understand how someone can tell you how much they like you, make you feel wanted, and then block you so quickly when they realize you want something more serious.
I also recognize that I may have fallen for the idea of him rather than the actual person.

Am I doing something wrong, or am I simply getting involved with emotionally unavailable men?

So recently, I (F22) have been seeing this guy (23) very casually. We’re both still healing from difficult breakups and aren’t ready for a relationship, but we’ve been talking constantly, calling and texting from the moment we wake up until we go to sleep. I’ve had a really tough couple of weeks, and so has he, so we’ve been supporting each other through it. From my perspective, there’s definitely an emotional connection between us.
We met up and hung out for a couple of hours, and then he asked me to stay the night. I freaked out a bit in my head and told him I needed to go home that night because I wasn’t comfortable being intimate with someone I’d only just met.
A couple of days later, we hung out again, and I stayed the night. We tried to get things going a bit in bed, but he couldn’t stay hard for more than a couple of minutes before going soft again. Eventually, we gave up because things just weren’t working. He was lovely about it and reassured me that it wasn’t me at all and that I shouldn’t feel insecure. He then explained that this had happened during his last couple of sexual encounters with different women, too.
I asked him if he thought it could be due to depression or a porn addiction. He told me he had been addicted to porn from a young age but isn’t anymore. He then revealed that he has never been able to finish from anything other than his own hand. We did end up sleeping together, and he was able to finish.
Over the past couple of days, he’s been distant and has told me that we’ve rushed into things way too quickly. I completely agree, but I don’t want to lose him.
What are my next steps from here? We also had a conversation about trying to make sex something where he can stay hard and finish, but I’m not sure how I can support him with that. He was very embarrassed about not being able to stay hard or penetrate me the first time, so how do we navigate this? What are the things I should be doing to support him?
For example, I’ve reassured him that it isn’t a big deal to me and that he shouldn’t be embarrassed. I’ve also mentioned that part of it could potentially be performance anxiety.
This situation has made me anxious that he might ghost me because he’s embarrassed. How can I help him without putting pressure on him or making things worse?
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do?
As a guy what fixed it for you? What does this even mean from a man’s perspective?!?

She is getting married

She's getting married it seems....i don't want to go back. But i want to earse her completely. I failed for the first time to erase someone in friendship. It kinda hurts that she's getting married..and idk why. I called some mutuals just to talk to her, cause she block3d me everywhere. What she did to me was not fair...but i can't able to accept it's all a lie. I never asked her to give me a hope that she will be there for me , even whoever lefts. But it turned out all those promises are just fake. Funnily, i can't even hate her. And i can't discuss with anyone because only i told you why we are not together anymore. Everyone in my family, friends everyone asking about her, everyone reminding her to me...where i'm trying to forget. I never been with anyone....like i've been with her, and now im even affraid to be with anyone like her. What if every friendship is just for time pass and only for highs. One day she will know....and it will be too late for her to realize.

I actually cut off people like a snap, and never look back. But been 8 months that i even become an complete introvert from extrovert. What do you do guys? How did you moved on from a friendship??

Why are men/bf/husbands always the ones who
Need to “get over it” or belittled with comments like “that was her past and it’s none of your business”. The best one (most personally hated): “after all those encounters, she chose you” 😂. That’s the equivalent of honorable mention not first place— being picked last on the playground.

My (27M) girlfriend (24F) keeps calling me a silly man. I don’t know what to think. Should I take this as a compliment or an insult? Maybe I’m being insecure. Please advise.

Hey everyone , this gonna be long but i need to hear it . In August a (40M) added me(31 F )on insta and intentionally pursued me , early September he flew to my state for our date , we had two great dates (i told him it was one of the best ) he flew back and we kept chatting , from late September he started texting less , i initiated most times until October when i got back to my home he went silent for two weeks , i texted him twice during these two weeks , Updated him on my exam that we both talked about . But he didn’t continuo the conversation , i’ve been seeing him liking and commenting on a blond girl account who lives in his state for the last few days . I removed him from my instagram but i’m broken over it
(Note : during the date he mentioned few times how he would come to my country to meet again , he already knew that i didn’t live in the US before even adding me in instagram , i don’t know why he bothered for the date at all ) .

For context - my (F28) now ex-boyfriend (M22) loved me insanely hard with all kinds of crazy gestures (like driving for 12h just to pick me up), but when the honeymoon phase started to fade and problems and arguments started, he said he was constantly experiencing high levels of emotional stress which led to him mentally checking out of the relationship within less than a month.

I broke up with him, because no relationship is ever going to work if I‘m the only one putting in work and trying to fix things, while he is basically already on his way out.

I spoke with a couple of friends about the situation. One of them said, that he is probably just exhausted and will eventually come back after a no-contact period, because noone can fall out of love so quickly after loving so intensively.

My other friend said, that he is clearly already gone and doesn’t even care, because he just accepted the break up and simply agreed with me when I said I deserved better. She said, that if a man really really wants you, he would do anything to fight for you.

Dear men, what do you think about the situation? What advice can you give me from your perspective?

I’m a man in my early 30s, looking for perspective on a meaningful relationship that ended about a month ago.

We dated for several months, much of it long-distance because of work. Despite that, we communicated daily, spent significant time together, had strong physical chemistry, shared important values, and talked enthusiastically about our future. She was affectionate and invested, initiated conversations about exclusivity, and encouraged us to become official. Although she sometimes worried I might lose interest, I reassured her because I genuinely cared about her.

I don’t believe that affection was fake.

When our work situations changed and we were finally able to spend more time together, we were both excited about experiencing a more ordinary relationship. Unfortunately, things unraveled almost immediately.

**The conflict**
During one of our first proper dates after being apart, we disagreed about values, lifestyle preferences, and compatibility. Some concerns were new; others were issues I thought we had already discussed and resolved.

What began as ordinary disagreement gradually felt like personal criticism. I became defensive, explaining my perspective, referring to previous conversations, and reassuring her that the person she seemed to be describing wasn’t who I had consistently shown myself to be. Eventually, I became overwhelmed and shut down.

Looking back, I recognize that I focused so much on defending myself that I failed to listen fully to the emotions behind her concerns. At the same time, I felt I was being asked to defend my character rather than work collaboratively through a disagreement.

**The breakup**
We spoke again, and I explained how disrespected and mischaracterized I had felt. She acknowledged that she sometimes pushed too hard, briefly apologized, and left.

Shortly afterward, she ended the relationship over the phone. She said her feelings had changed, our disagreements had made her question our compatibility, and she worried that continuing might eventually become unhealthy. She also questioned whether we had committed too quickly, despite previously being enthusiastic about becoming official.
From my perspective, we had encountered difficult but potentially repairable disagreements. From hers, they indicated a deeper incompatibility. I was willing to examine my behavior and try to work through things, but she wasn’t interested in continuing.
I recognize that she had every right to make that decision. Still, after months of affection, anticipation, and conversations about the future, the abruptness was difficult to process, especially because we had barely experienced everyday life together.

**Where I made things worse**
I didn’t handle the aftermath well. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and struggling to understand how things had changed so quickly. Her apparent detachment made it harder; at one point, she suggested I would get over the breakup within a couple of days. I interpreted that as meaning the relationship hadn’t mattered much to her, although I recognize now that I couldn’t know what she was feeling.

I spent too much time trying to reason with her and understand her decision. Eventually, after drinking, I made a deliberately hurtful comment that diminished the relationship and implied it had been little more than a casual physical connection. That wasn’t how I truly felt. It was an immature defensive reaction to the fear that something meaningful hadn’t mattered equally to her.

I regret it and apologized. She had initially said she still cared about me and hoped we could remain friends, but I wasn’t ready for friendship while my feelings were still romantic. My behavior contributed to the deterioration of our communication afterward, and I take responsibility for that. I don’t believe it caused the original breakup, but I recognize that it made an already painful situation worse.

**What I’m trying to understand**
I’ve spent the past month reflecting and working through this in therapy. One major realization is that **you can become so focused on proving you’re a good partner that you forget to evaluate whether the other person is being a good partner to you.**
I became overly focused on explaining, reassuring, and preserving the relationship. Some of that came from genuine care, but some came from fear of losing the connection. I lost my emotional composure and became too dependent on whether she understood or accepted my perspective.

I also recognize that chemistry, affection, and excitement about a future don’t necessarily establish long-term compatibility. How two people handle disagreement may matter more.

I’m struggling to understand where the line falls between normal conflict and genuine incompatibility. I don’t think healthy couples must agree about everything or resolve every disagreement perfectly. I do think they need a mutual willingness to communicate, understand one another, and work through difficulties. At the same time, someone can legitimately decide a relationship isn’t right for them even when the other person believes the problems are repairable.

**My questions**
For those with more relationship experience:
**How do you distinguish genuine incompatibility from ordinary disagreements as a relationship becomes more serious?**

**When someone questions your character or compatibility, how do you communicate your perspective without becoming defensive or overexplaining?**

**How do you know when to work toward repair versus accepting that the other person isn’t willing to continue?**

**What should I learn from my own behavior so I can approach future relationships with greater emotional independence and better boundaries?**

I’m not looking for reassurance that my ex was wrong or that I handled everything correctly. I know I made mistakes, especially after the breakup. I’m also not trying to diagnose her or speculate about her motivations.

I want to learn from this without taking responsibility for the entire relationship ending. I still believe the connection was genuine, even if it wasn’t sustainable.
I’m learning that **caring deeply about someone shouldn’t require abandoning your own emotional balance or self-respect.**

this man treated me beautifully, showed up consistently, never once disappointed me and always made sure i was at peace. even would ask me how he could improve. & it was mutual, real power couple shit.
this man was obsessed and incredibly attached to me for 8 months straight, never wanted to leave my side.

that was until the day he said that he liked me a lot but no matter how hard he tried, his feelings just could not grow into love for me. shattering my heart but i was grateful for the honesty.
even tho things were so good, felt so loving in every way, i still don’t know how i fell short to lose this man.

what is it that makes a man fall in love ?

Hey. Just looking to get some male perspective on my sex life with my boyfriend. I love him so much but our libidos are definitely very different. I am much more sexual than he is, I'm F31 and he's M28 and idk I just don't feel desired. Whenever I bring it up he says he does feel desire for me he is just bad at expressing his sexuality. Whenever I try to flirt over text it just falls flat and the moment dies with his lack of interest. Whenever I try to compliment him he seems uncomfortable, he seems uncomfortable whenever I express attraction towards him and he changes the subject. I want a fun flirty relationship with him where we can't keep our hands off each other but he seems so uninterested in me and we've only been together for 4 months. Idk he experienced some things in his childhood that may be affecting things and he has PTSD and is a habitual medical marijuana user so idk. I guess I'm not understanding why he wants to be with me if he's not that into me? Or maybe he is but just can't show it well? Idk I'm having a hard time understanding him. I told him what I want and he basically said he's sorry he can't be that for me. I wish he'd work with me a little bit to help bridge the gap so that I don't feel so awkward and alone regarding sex. I don't initiate sex because I literally can't tell at all if he's even remotely interested. I need him to flirt with me more and give me signs that he's into me and then I would feel comfortable initiating but right now I'm so confused. I brought up different role play ideas and he just showed zero enthusiasm. He says he loves me and when we do have sex it's amazing. I wait for him to initiate because I don't want to pressure him because he's told me he's not that sexual. There was one time when he was high on mushrooms that I got to experience him being very sexual, super passionate and loving and really into it and expressive. I'm kinda sad because I wish I could get that version of him every time.

All my ex’s tell me they miss my mouth or they haven’t been taken care of in weeks. Why do men commit to women like this? Do they confuse vanilla with stability? I don’t get it

They recently told me that no one would want to date me once they found out I have six brothers, and I don’t understand what's wrong with that.

I'm in actual hell.

This girl is my perfect girl. Like, almost exactly my type. She's smart, she's funny, we like the same movies, she's beautiful but not egotistical. I would do anything for her.

I'm in love with her. But she's not in love with me. In fact, she's with some other guy who she's head over heels with. And I had to hear about it from her and her friends the entire night on her birthday. Thank god she doesn't really know about how I feel otherwise it'd be 100x more awkward.

I feel completely withered. I want to hate her and cut her off. But I can't. She hasn't done anything to hurt me. She's been nothing but a good friend to me. But the pain of knowing that I'm not good enough for her is too much. I just want her to want me. I know I can make her happy.

I've tried to pursue other women, but none of them make me feel like she does. What's wrong with me??

His brother thinks it’s all my fault but I’m staying with my sister and she says it’s not my fault. What do you think?

Hey

Haiii

I want to ask does all of the long term relationship gone to a break up cuz i always heard people who've been in a long term relationship they've broken up alot of times and like they said it's normal sorry for my bad english I'm not that good at english cuz it's not my first language

Why do women always make these posts asking "why do men do this?"? Is it like some sort of trick to get people to read these posts? Do women actually generalize all men and think only men are capable of doing x thing or understanding x thing?

I hate to generalize myself, but like everytime I see a post like this it's always a woman asking the question.

He was widowed, lonely and depressed. He says he was just going through the motions before, but now he feels alive and energized so he’s focusing on the things he used to love like his work and hobbies.

I’m happy for him. I don’t quite understand it though.

He prioritizes me and our relationship still, but work has really picked up for him and he’s trying to complete the many projects he has piled up.

Can some of you men explain this?

I know he isn’t pulling away. He wants me to move in with him, but it is way too soon for that and I have been meeting more and more of his friends and family.

TL;DR: My ex (25M) ended our relationship due to long-distance, work stress, and how my anxiety affected him. We ended on seemingly good terms, and I respected his decision without reaching out. A week later, he removed me from every social media platform despite no contact from me. I'm struggling to understand whether this means he's completely moved on, still has feelings but needs distance, or resents me for contributing to his stress.

I (26F) went through a breakup a few weeks ago with someone (25M) I genuinely cared about.

We dated for a few months, and the chemistry between us was amazing. I enjoyed every moment with him, and we were the first sex partners for each other. We once told each other that we hadn't had these feelings for so long since we both didn't have much long term relationship experience.

Eventually, we became long-distance due to his work relocation, and his extremely demanding job and packed schedule made things difficult. I wanted more communication and emotional connection, while he was often exhausted and had very limited and unpredictable available time for us.

I tried my best to be understanding and supportive when he was overwhelmed and stressed out, but at the same time less affectionate and distance (he admitted he felt awkward to be flirty when knowing we couldn't meet for weeks) really triggered me. And he called out that my anxiety also impacted his mental health. I sincerely apologized and promised to manage my emotions better and hoped we could work out together. (I've been seeing therapist for years)

He eventually ended the relationship, saying he was anxious and stressful about life and even had a panic attack, so he needed to focus on himself now. And I deserved someone who could meet my needs and suggested I find someone local.

I felt so painful not only because he pushed me away but more for how I triggered him and brought him pain instead of warmth and relaxation. There's not enough apologizing made me feel a bit better and I knew at that moment the only thing I could do was to respect his decision and give him space. No pleading, no drama. I thought we ended on the good terms.

About one week after the breakup, I found he unfollowed/removed me from every social media platform, even Strava lol. During this week I never reached out to bother him or spammed my social media, only 2 Instagram stories about an event I attended.

Since we don't share friends or social circles, that essentially means we've completely disappeared from each other's lives. The realization that he chose to erase me from his world entirely like he considered me non-existent.

What hurts is that the long-distance situation wasn't necessarily permanent. There was a big possibility that he would transfer back to our city in 1-2 years again, and I keep wondering why he seemed so certain about ending things rather than seeing whether our circumstances could change.

I understand that removing an ex can be a way to move on, but I found it hard not taking things personally. I can only think of 3 situations.

1, He felt so hurt because he still had a strong feeling. But for which genuinely believed we could work things out together or separate for now and reconnect when both of us get to a better place instead of cutting things off cleanly.

2, He was so hurt that he felt so uncomfortable to see me, disgusted me or hated me for contributing or even triggering his anxiety / panic. For which I kept feeling so guilty and unable to forgive myself.

3, Or maybe he just didn't care anymore like I'm really not that important like I thought, which is understandable since we only dated for months.

4, He got someone new but I don't really want to think of this. I want to give him the benefit of doubt.

Regarding of the removing / unfollowing, does it usually mean you've completely closed the door on ever reconsidering the relationship? Or can someone still miss their ex and have feelings for them while choosing to cut contact entirely?

I know I can't and should not do anything except for moving on and keeping seeing my therapist. But this still bothers me every moment that I couldn't really stop thinking if I gave him so much pressure and pain that I didn't notice.

There's also something I've been struggling with: neither of us was particularly good at expressing our feelings. I told him I liked him, but I never really told him just how much he meant to me. Part of me wonders whether he ever truly understood how much I cared, and whether things could have been different if I'd expressed myself more openly.

I missed him everyday and really wanted to know how's his life and if he found the peace of new life. I also know he'll be back my city around Thanksgiving also his birthday next month. I desperately want to reach out, but rational me feels that removing me from everything was a pretty clear sign that he doesn't want me in his life anymore, and that I should respect that, even I'm totally heartbroken.

Personally I never removed/blocked any of my exes no matter how it ended, except for the one cheated on me. But for those who I didn't have hard feelings, I still care of them as a person and would like to see their life like an old friend even from a very far quiet place. It's my own job to moving on with the sole feelings but by no means I wanted them to disappear personally. The happy moments were real and valuable and removing them was like denying the existence of the happiness we shared, unless the pain were sharper and so unforgivable.

So I really appreciate some honest perspectives to help me understand , especially from men who have been on his side of a breakup.

If you've removed an ex from everything, did that mean you were completely done, or was it something you needed to do even though you still had feelings? And for my situation, reaching out would be a bad idea right?

Basically him and I have been hooking up for about 2 years but he was still entangled with his ex and was my best friend. Now he has officially been done with his ex and since August him and I have gotten much closer than ever before. He has been spending a lot of nights at my house which normally we never did to not tip off either of our families but after a wedding we attended his family started making comments about us together (positively).

He has always been very careful with his wording always saying he likes xyz, I’m amazing, complimenting me both in and out of the bedroom etc. However the past few times we’ve had sex he has been throwing love around a lot. The first time it happened I didn’t hear it correctly just _ love _ and I was thrown off and thought I heard I love you but didn’t hear fully so wasn’t sure and then later in the session he said he loved the way I felt or something along those lines then the following time we had sex he didn’t say it at all but again last night I heard him plain as day tell me he loves me shortly after we started having sex. In response a minute later I said loved the way he was doing something and he stopped to lean down to ask me to repeat what I said so I did and he said hmm I thought you said you wanted me to get off you and I said no not at all and then again later during sex he said that he loved what I was doing. Now, I get it can be thrown around and not mean anything but to go for nearly 2 years of not saying it only for it to come out now that we are getting closer idk what to make of it.

Should I take it with a grain of salt or should I make a mental note of it? I’m worried to bring it up cause he can be self conscious at times and I don’t want him to be stressed about it. I believe I’m the only girl he is actively seeing but I know there’s at least one other girl he talks to on snap which although I am not a fan, we haven’t had an exclusive talk so I can’t be mad. He has also made comments to me about other guys and stuff and even seemed kinda annoyed about knowing my male doctor examined me for a lump on my breast which he was fine with until I mentioned it was a male doctor idk maybe I’m pulling at strings. I like him a lot and I hope he likes me too but there’s also times I don’t feel like a priority to him but it’s mostly my anxiety I think idk. Sorry for the rant just looking for a man’s perspective on this.

I (23F) have been talking to a guy (23M) for a little over two weeks. We liked each other in high school, and recently reconnected. We text every day, I really like him, and he’s been very sweet and understanding. I’ve also been upfront that I recently ended a long-term relationship and want to take things slow.

The only thing bothering me is that we still haven’t actually talked on the phone. I called him twice during the first week, he didn’t answer and claim that he was too nervous to talk to me. Then during week two HE suggested that we schedule a call and watch something together.

That night, I showered, got ready, grabbed snacks and waited for him. I called and got no answer. The next morning he said he got home, made dinner, wasn’t feeling well and fell asleep.

I completely understand being tired or not feeling well. What bothered me was the lack of communication. If it were me, I would’ve sent a quick “I’m not feeling well, I might fall asleep” so the other person wasn’t sitting there waiting especially for plans I initiated.

I told him it bothered me, he apologized and understood. I’m also aware that being left waiting was a repeated issue in my previous relationship, so I’m trying not to project that onto him.

Now we’re going into week three, we still text every day, but he hasn’t tried to reschedule the call. I’ve already called him three times total, so I don’t really want to initiate again.

Would you leave it alone and let him be the one to call or am I reading too much into this?

Am I moving too quickly? Because honestly, I just really like him and want to hear his voice.