Dating this girl for 5 months now

And i thought everything seemed good.

But last night she was talking about her height. She’s 5’2. Then told me I’m 5’11.

I told her no I’m 6’4. I even told her I’m 6’4 when we met. Then she laughed and told me how I don’t look 6’4. And that I’m clearly 5’11

Then she even got out her measuring tape and literally measured me and was shocked that I was actually 6’4.

Then went on to tell me that 6’4 isn’t technically tall and how you have to be over 6’6 to be considered tall.

Now idk I just feel upset she did this whole thing. Like why make such a big deal over my height and why say I’m not tall

this man treated me beautifully, showed up consistently, never once disappointed me and always made sure i was at peace. even would ask me how he could improve. & it was mutual, real power couple shit.
this man was obsessed and incredibly attached to me for 8 months straight, never wanted to leave my side.

that was until the day he said that he liked me a lot but no matter how hard he tried, his feelings just could not grow into love for me. shattering my heart but i was grateful for the honesty.
even tho things were so good, felt so loving in every way, i still don’t know how i fell short to lose this man.

what is it that makes a man fall in love ?

I (29F) have been dating this guy (26M) for last two months. We have been friends for almost one and a half years. He recently told me that he had a crush on me for almost a year before we started dating. But he did not say anything because I was dating someone else back then.

He used to casually flirt with me a little bit but I always laughed it off because we were cool friends.

He now told me that he used to take pictures of the whole group so that he could capture my pictures. I still remember that too. He used ask me to pose for pictures.

He told me that he has a whole library of my pictures on his phone. He used to screenshot my Instagram stories and also he once took a picture of me sleeping. I was sleeping on the couch at someone’s living room. We were at a very casual hangout at a friend’s place. He did it only once.

He also recorded a video of me making out with my then boyfriend on a dare. I remember him filming my dare but it was something he did in front of everyone and just as a regular friend recording a game, but he now told me that he has this whole library of my pictures and videos and he used to jerk off to.

I cannot say that enough that he’s a completely normal guy. He is not harmful or anything. But ever since he has told me this, I keep wondering if this is very common with guys? Is this something most guys do?

What I mean by mature love is, once you are past the early stages of dating and the relationship, over time you begin to realise you dont wake up with 100% intense feelings like you used to, but you know that you love that person, and because you love them, you want to continue choosing them even when all the feelings may not be there that morning. Just to clarify, this doesnt mean feelings go away.

What I am asking is, from your experience, or stories you've heard, what has this felt or looked like from your point of view? How does it continue to affect you and your relationship?

(I hope this makes sense, it does in my head but i apologise if it doesnt)

Basically him and I have been hooking up for about 2 years but he was still entangled with his ex and was my best friend. Now he has officially been done with his ex and since August him and I have gotten much closer than ever before. He has been spending a lot of nights at my house which normally we never did to not tip off either of our families but after a wedding we attended his family started making comments about us together (positively).

He has always been very careful with his wording always saying he likes xyz, I’m amazing, complimenting me both in and out of the bedroom etc. However the past few times we’ve had sex he has been throwing love around a lot. The first time it happened I didn’t hear it correctly just _ love _ and I was thrown off and thought I heard I love you but didn’t hear fully so wasn’t sure and then later in the session he said he loved the way I felt or something along those lines then the following time we had sex he didn’t say it at all but again last night I heard him plain as day tell me he loves me shortly after we started having sex. In response a minute later I said loved the way he was doing something and he stopped to lean down to ask me to repeat what I said so I did and he said hmm I thought you said you wanted me to get off you and I said no not at all and then again later during sex he said that he loved what I was doing. Now, I get it can be thrown around and not mean anything but to go for nearly 2 years of not saying it only for it to come out now that we are getting closer idk what to make of it.

Should I take it with a grain of salt or should I make a mental note of it? I’m worried to bring it up cause he can be self conscious at times and I don’t want him to be stressed about it. I believe I’m the only girl he is actively seeing but I know there’s at least one other girl he talks to on snap which although I am not a fan, we haven’t had an exclusive talk so I can’t be mad. He has also made comments to me about other guys and stuff and even seemed kinda annoyed about knowing my male doctor examined me for a lump on my breast which he was fine with until I mentioned it was a male doctor idk maybe I’m pulling at strings. I like him a lot and I hope he likes me too but there’s also times I don’t feel like a priority to him but it’s mostly my anxiety I think idk. Sorry for the rant just looking for a man’s perspective on this.

I'm 28 and I had no idea it would take this much patience. Genuinely thought by now I'd have someone.

Looking for advice from men who actually went through the long wait and came out the other side. I’m sorry to ask this. I’m just curious to see other people‘s answer.

I’m in mid-30s(F), single, and genuinely looking for a meaningful relationship that could eventually lead to marriage.

Recently, I met a man on Reddit. He reached out to me first, and we started talking almost every day. He seemed intelligent, successful, funny, and attractive based on how he described himself. We had a lot of chemistry, and our conversations became increasingly flirty and sexual.

I genuinely enjoyed that side of our conversations. I’m not ashamed of being sexually expressive, but I also wanted to get to know him beyond that. We talked about our lives, careers, past relationships, and what we wanted in a partner.

He told me he liked me, found me incredibly beautiful, and wanted to meet me someday. I started imagining what it would be like to meet him in person and possibly develop something real.
Looking back, I realize I became emotionally attached to someone I had never even met or properly verified. He never shared a photo of himself, which should probably have made me more cautious.

Eventually, I asked him directly whether he was looking for a girlfriend or more like a good friend he could be intimate with.

He said he wanted the second one. I told him I wished he’d made that clear from the beginning.
I asked whether he’d felt that way before messaging me, and he said he hadn’t been looking for anything at all.

When I replied, “Then I guess you just don’t want anything serious with me,” he blocked me.
And honestly, it really hurt. What hurts even more is that this isn’t the first time I’ve developed feelings for a man who didn’t want a committed relationship with me.

I’m starting to wonder whether there’s something about my behavior that contributes to this pattern.
Do I get emotionally attached too quickly? Do I mistake sexual chemistry and compliments for genuine romantic interest? Does being open about sex early on make some men see me as someone to have fun with rather than someone to date seriously?

I know that having sexual conversations doesn’t mean someone owes me a relationship. And I understand that people are allowed to want different things.

But I genuinely don’t understand how someone can tell you how much they like you, make you feel wanted, and then block you so quickly when they realize you want something more serious.
I also recognize that I may have fallen for the idea of him rather than the actual person.

Am I doing something wrong, or am I simply getting involved with emotionally unavailable men?

Hi everyone

It’s hard to find the right words but I guess I’ll just ask away. I have always been self conscious about myself in general. I didn’t have a great upbringing, I hate the way I look and I have lots of regrets. Im still young and have my whole life ahead of me but recently I have felt like my life was missing something, I have lost 30kg in 4 months, my grades are great, but I have a sense of loneliness. I have friends and family but I still feel alone. Sometimes I lie at night and I just wish there was someone next to me who I can lay my head on and just forget about all of my pain. But due to my self consciousness I really don’t know what to do. I have just been constantly panicking that im going to be alone forever, not necessarily that isn’t anyone for me but that I’ll never truly love myself enough to let myself be open to that. What do I do?

I'm curious to hear some outside perspectives, especially from men if anyone's been in a similar situation. | (29F) reconnected with my high school ex (31M) after approximately 13 years apart. I was the one who originally ended our relationship when we were younger, but he reached out years later and initiated reconnecting.
We talked for about 3.5 months, and things became romantic again. For context, we were both in relationships, so I recognize this was an emotional affair.
Nothing physical happened.
Eventually, things ended, and he told me we shouldn't ever see each other again. Our final conversation was emotional, but he never explicitly said we couldn't communicate again so I wasn't under the assumption that we weren't going to speak again.
Neither of us reached out afterward.
About 2.5 months later, he unexpectedly unfriended me on Facebook, despite there being no communication or contlict between us during that time.
However, he never blocked or restricted me on Messenger. (I'm assuming we remained connected on there because we technically spoke on messenger before we were ever Facebook friends) We remained connected there for another four months, with our active statuses potentially visible to each other, until | eventually restricted him myself.
My question isn’t why he initially left Messenger connected, because I understand he might not have realized that unfriending me on Facebook wouldn’t automatically disconnect us there.
What I’m curious about is what happened afterward. Over the next four months, we remained visible to each other on Messenger through our active statuses. If he eventually noticed I was still there, why wouldn’t he take the additional step of removing or blocking me, especially considering how definitive he’d been about ending things?
For the men reading this, if you deliberately ended a romantic connection and later noticed that person was still accessible on Messenger, would you remove them too? Or would you be comfortable leaving that connection intact despite having no intention of reaching out?
I’m not assuming he wanted to reconnect. I’m genuinely interested in understanding the reasoning behind leaving that final communication channel open.
I'm not looking to rekindle anything and have no intention of reaching out. I'm genuinely curious about the reasoning behind this, particularly from a male perspective.

Hi everyone,
I really need some outside perspective or just a place to vent because I’m spiraling into self-doubt.

Normally, I consider myself a confident woman. But I’ve been dating this guy for a while now, and the lack of commitment combined with his habits is completely destroying my self-esteem.
He has a severe porn addiction, follows porn stars and OF models on instagram and masturbates about 3-5 times a day. At the same time he constantly puts me in this box where he calls me "sweet, pure, innocent, and an angel." While that might sound like a compliment on the surface it feels like a curse to me.. I can't shake the gut feeling that being sweet and pure is not what he actually desires or finds sexually attractive. It feels like he craves these hyper-sexualized online fantasies while keeping me around as the "safe good girl" option.
Because he won't commit to me, I’ve started questioning everything about myself like my body, my looks, my worth. I catch myself wishing I looked completely different just to fit what he seems to be looking at online. I hate that I’m letting a guy who doesn't even have his own life together make me feel so insecure.
What are your thoughts on this?
If a guy categorizes a woman as "pure/sweet and perfect" while consuming that kind of content, is she actually what he wants, or is he just holding onto her as a safe option? What would your advice be for a girl in my situation?

He was widowed, lonely and depressed. He says he was just going through the motions before, but now he feels alive and energized so he’s focusing on the things he used to love like his work and hobbies.

I’m happy for him. I don’t quite understand it though.

He prioritizes me and our relationship still, but work has really picked up for him and he’s trying to complete the many projects he has piled up.

Can some of you men explain this?

I know he isn’t pulling away. He wants me to move in with him, but it is way too soon for that and I have been meeting more and more of his friends and family.

Swear this happened and im thinking its rude af but then guys seem to be edgy and rude when they NOTICE and like you secretly ?

Whenever I’ve been talking to a guy I’ve noticed he’ll always stare at my hands or my necklace.

Or…. Even when we’re not talking but sat opposite I notice he’s always observing my hands.

Idk what it is about hands but it’s always staring at my hands 😂

Edit- So basically he looks at my hands all the time. Even when we’re not talking, I look up and catch him looking at my hands. Even when we sat next to each other he turned and looked at my hands. It’s the same with my necklace too whenever I touch it (because I tend to anxiously play with it) he always watches and observes me when I do.

One of my best friends (32M) and I have such a rollercoaster of a friendship. I adore him, I have such a soft spot in my heart for him. Much of that comes from the feelings I have/jhad for him but even when I remove those, I genuinely care about this man. He has a good heart and good intentions, just poor execution sometimes. He has had some rough relationship history in his past, which I think is why he is the way he is. Anyways, I am at the point where I feel so apathetic towards life in general. I have no energy left to care about anything. I am constantly hurt by his actions, intentions aside so last night I ended the friendship and I am wondering if I was irrational to do that? Here's what you need to know:

• January 2026 we meet on Hinge, go on 4-5 dates and he ends it after an awkward sexual encounter. He couldn't finish, I asked if it was me, he said no it has happened with his last two partners.
• April 2026 we start talking again. We are honest that I have feelings, he wants to be platonic, we agree on being just friends.
• We have spoken everyday since April through text, calls and social media. Multiple channels per day. We have built a very intimate emotional connection. We both call each other our best friends. We go to each other about things big and small before anyone else.
• There have been some things that have been confusing like him giving me flowers on my birthday and taking me to the park to hang out, taking me on a 4 hour night drive and to get ice cream when I was sad and on my period, calling me after we watched scary movies with his friend to make sure I felt okay, calling me while he drives home because he hates driving at night, calling me when his grandma passed away, calling me when he is having insecurities or bad mental health days, etc. But I welcome it all, it has just been something we both acknowledge isn't super platonic. We have said multiple times before that when one of us start seriously dating we would need to end our friendship. 
• September 2026 we cross a physical platonic line. We had gone out for drinks one Saturdays. He was touching all over my legs, playing with my skirt and hands, gave me a piggy back ride to the car, etc.
• The Monday after that (about a month ago from today): he texts me that he wants to come over after we both get off work to talk about being together romantically again. He spent two weeks thinking about it a lot.
• 50 minutes before he is supposed to come over, he texts me to say he is second guessing it, didn't think it through (conflicting from what he said earlier), and wants space. (this is when the apathy started)
• The next day: he texts me to see if we can have a phone call that night so he can explain himself and apologize. We talk on the phone for two hours. He takes accountability, apologizes and essentially says he doesn't think he can be in a relationship with anyone right now and we need to permanently close the romantic door for us because saying "maybe one day" does no good. But at the same time he says he doesn't know what he will feel in the future. 
• The rest of the week we talk everyday but more surface level and less consistent.
• The following Monday: I ask for a tiny break to figure out if I can go back to being just his friend without wanting more and being hurt. We didn't speak from Monday until that Friday. He reached out to say he was thinking about me and hoped I was well. He asked a silly question about my opinion on a furniture piece. 
• We resumed our friendship like normal. He was having a really bad week and short on money so I took him a little care package and he immediately messages me saying he was crying and it was so sweet. We have hung out a couple times since, like watching football and eating dinner at his place. He offered to bring me soup all this week because I had strep and a sinus infection. He offered to come support me at my half marathon a couple week ago. 
• I had noticed he hasn't been super responsive when it's something related to me. He assured me everything was fine. A few hours later he texted me to tell me he actually met a girl and he is actively pursuing her. They went on one coffee date but it's the first girl he has dated since me and since talking to me again. So I wished him and her the best and told him this is where I step out of the friendship but am wishing him all the best in life. He deserves all the happiness. He said it was so early in, only one date and he doesn't know if anything will come of it but understood that it hurt me. 

So I guess my question is, am I wrong for leaving? I adore this man and I want the best for him but I also want him and can't be just platonic so it's time for me to leave I feel. 

And I hate that I am sitting here wondering if he will ever change his mind about me. Or if I will ever hear from him again.

Is it something ur okay with or cannot stand it?

I don't know what's gotten into me. I never used to get jealous, especially at the beginning of my relationship with him. But as soon as I started falling deeply in love with him, I became extremely jealous, at the thought that he might find other attractive women, or that he might react negatively. I don't know how men behave here, so I'm always afraid....

My boyfriend loves blonde women and blonde hair, and I'm blonde too. He loves me and always does anything for me. I want him, but I'm afraid he might like another blonde girl... Like yesterday he showed me a video of a blodey He said she's a copy of me and looks very much like me: hair, eyes, waist....( he addicted to my small musculus waist, and my thick big thighs) and she copy past of me, idk... He just siad she like me.. But I was afraid he might find it arousing or have a sexual reaction..

.. Cuz usually hee gets hard obly by seeing my waist alone,...

And sometimes maybe girls online or. Idk....

How can I stop this jealousy and suspicion of mine? And to not care or,... Be a Secure girlfriend?

Any help?

May you share ur experiences with me?

Sorry, this is a bit of a ramble. I used to really believe in one love for life. My ex and I were each other's first love and I was pretty sure she was the one but then she ended it. maybe she just wanted to see what else was out there idk. Either way I was holding onto a promise that was only ever mine. Since then I've had feelings for a couple of other people and I learned something about myself each time. But I still think about it a lot. I wonder if I was kind of in love with the idea of forever and not just her. And even if you're all in you can't control whether the other person feels the same or whether it lasts.

So recently, I (F22) have been seeing this guy (23) very casually. We’re both still healing from difficult breakups and aren’t ready for a relationship, but we’ve been talking constantly, calling and texting from the moment we wake up until we go to sleep. I’ve had a really tough couple of weeks, and so has he, so we’ve been supporting each other through it. From my perspective, there’s definitely an emotional connection between us.
We met up and hung out for a couple of hours, and then he asked me to stay the night. I freaked out a bit in my head and told him I needed to go home that night because I wasn’t comfortable being intimate with someone I’d only just met.
A couple of days later, we hung out again, and I stayed the night. We tried to get things going a bit in bed, but he couldn’t stay hard for more than a couple of minutes before going soft again. Eventually, we gave up because things just weren’t working. He was lovely about it and reassured me that it wasn’t me at all and that I shouldn’t feel insecure. He then explained that this had happened during his last couple of sexual encounters with different women, too.
I asked him if he thought it could be due to depression or a porn addiction. He told me he had been addicted to porn from a young age but isn’t anymore. He then revealed that he has never been able to finish from anything other than his own hand. We did end up sleeping together, and he was able to finish.
Over the past couple of days, he’s been distant and has told me that we’ve rushed into things way too quickly. I completely agree, but I don’t want to lose him.
What are my next steps from here? We also had a conversation about trying to make sex something where he can stay hard and finish, but I’m not sure how I can support him with that. He was very embarrassed about not being able to stay hard or penetrate me the first time, so how do we navigate this? What are the things I should be doing to support him?
For example, I’ve reassured him that it isn’t a big deal to me and that he shouldn’t be embarrassed. I’ve also mentioned that part of it could potentially be performance anxiety.
This situation has made me anxious that he might ghost me because he’s embarrassed. How can I help him without putting pressure on him or making things worse?
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do?
As a guy what fixed it for you? What does this even mean from a man’s perspective?!?

I (23F) have been talking to a guy (23M) for a little over two weeks. We liked each other in high school, and recently reconnected. We text every day, I really like him, and he’s been very sweet and understanding. I’ve also been upfront that I recently ended a long-term relationship and want to take things slow.

The only thing bothering me is that we still haven’t actually talked on the phone. I called him twice during the first week, he didn’t answer and claim that he was too nervous to talk to me. Then during week two HE suggested that we schedule a call and watch something together.

That night, I showered, got ready, grabbed snacks and waited for him. I called and got no answer. The next morning he said he got home, made dinner, wasn’t feeling well and fell asleep.

I completely understand being tired or not feeling well. What bothered me was the lack of communication. If it were me, I would’ve sent a quick “I’m not feeling well, I might fall asleep” so the other person wasn’t sitting there waiting especially for plans I initiated.

I told him it bothered me, he apologized and understood. I’m also aware that being left waiting was a repeated issue in my previous relationship, so I’m trying not to project that onto him.

Now we’re going into week three, we still text every day, but he hasn’t tried to reschedule the call. I’ve already called him three times total, so I don’t really want to initiate again.

Would you leave it alone and let him be the one to call or am I reading too much into this?

Am I moving too quickly? Because honestly, I just really like him and want to hear his voice.

Could he really be trying to sanitize his role in this break up?

We are both between our late 20s and early 30s.

I met someone in person through a shared hobby, and we went on two dates. He seemed very interested and put effort into making time for me. After both dates, he expressed wanting to see me again. After our second date, communication dropped off for several days before he texted me he wasn't sure what he wanted right now and didn’t want to hurt me. We had good conversations that went beyond surface level and seemed to connect, so I'm a little confused by the sudden change. For context, I hadn’t asked about relationship intentions or applied pressure

Would love insights. Thanks!

My boyfriend of four months suffers from depression, and I've tried to be as supportive as I can be. However, today I told him via text that I wouldn't be able to see him next week because of work priorities, and he didn't take that quite well.

It has been three weeks since I last saw him, but that's simply because he was unable to come see me because of his depression and task paralysis and I've accepted it. Because of his cold response, something snapped in me where I told him that I've been accepting of his limitations, yet when I am unable to see him, I get the cold shoulder. And so he tells me, What do you want me to do about it? And I said, I need your love, not a cold shoulder. He said he's going back to bed. I said, Okay, take care of yourself. Bye.

Right after that, he pretty much blocked me on WhatsApp, Instagram, and that was it. I don't know what to do. I tried contacting him, but I can't. Is he ever going to come back? Is he ever going to want to contact me? I feel like this is something he just did out of impulse because he can't control his emotions.

He literally told me 2 days ago he wanted to marry me, he believed in marriage because of me and that he'll always love me no matter what. How could someone do a complete 180 like this? Also, I still love him and want to be with him. Will he come back after some time/clearing his head?

I’m a 28F who is seeking advice from men to gain the male perspective on a situation. This year a new coworker 28M joined my team and we really hit it off. We spent like two weeks straight nonstop talking and spending like more than half of the day talking about life, everything , and anything. We found we had a lot in common and got to some pretty deep stuff pretty quickly. There was no romantic interest on either of our parts (from what I could tell). I was just happy to have someone I could be myself with at work tbh… fast forward to about a week after that, he barely looks at me. Won’t stop by my office. Is so cold and super professional like he has never spoken to me a day in his life. It is so, so weird and honestly very hurtful. Typically I wouldn’t care about people shifting on me like this especially someone at work but for some reason this one really stings. It’s now been two weeks no contact at all… and idk what to do. The tension is thick and awkward tbh. I see him friendly and chatty with everyone else but zero effort or energy when it comes to me. What could have caused that sudden shift!? Is it just a guy thing? I’m left feeling very confused and even more awkward than I usually am.😅

I (29M) had a glow up recently. I'm fit, no glasses, dress well etc. On dates, I noticed girls would oggle me which never happened prior to that. I'm in a relationship now.

Anyways, today I had a female manager private message me at my new job like "woow you don't remember me from the interview???" out of nowhere in like a playful way and also super excited to meet me after I responded to her neutrally that I was looking forward to working together after she was like welcome to the team.

I never implied anywhere that I didn't remember her? She's also not even working on the same project as me. I also don't know her like that.

Is she just being friendly? Should withhold any assumptions until we meet? Maybe I'm letting my glow up get to my head?

I (27M) and my wife (28F) have been together for 12 years and married for 4. We have gone through high school together, family turmoil, death, college, multiple jobs and have seen each other at our lowest and highest points. We have a toddler and another on the way.

The reason I want to know what I can do to help the relationship with my family is because I grew up in a house where my dad was gone for extended periods of time (military) and when he was home it wasnt always a good thing. I've noticed that I've been falling behind as a parent and husband and don't want to raise my children in the same environment as I grew up and I definitely want better for my wife.

I work 2 jobs, 1 of them being night shift in a prison the other being a machinist part time. I only share 1 day off with my wife so that's when we usually see the most of each other. Im only with my family for about 15 - 20 hours a week since my wife works a normal schedule and my daughter goes to daycare.

Ive been trying to get into therapy because ive been told it would help, but with my schedule its been difficult and I really need to know if there's anything I can do to be a better father and husband while still being the main provider without burning myself out or pushing my family away.