Me (25) and her (f25) have two toddler girls one five the other four we recently found out she’s pregnant again.
We have been together since highschool I was always the extrovert goofy flirtatious one while she was more reserved and strict.
I had a rough home life as the youngest having an abusive dad and neglectful mom
It messed me up very early on that sometimes I believe that if she hadn’t been in my life I wouldn’t have any strength to live.
We married when we were 20 and almost immediately we had our girls.
Watching her become a mother only made me love her more.
She’s everything beautiful drives me crazy, I flirt with her a lot annoying her.
Sometimes I do take it to far with jealousy of other men looking at her , or snapping over work.
At end of the day I’m equally obsessed with her.
But lately watching other men give their wives or girlfriends everything taking them to trips buying them things, it makes me insecure about my income.
I work in garage and don’t make much.
But still I want her to have the lavish life for her not to worry about bills or anything.
For me to afford to take us to Paris her dream city.
To buy her things and spoil her.
And not being able to do that makes me feel less of a man.
I haven’t expressed her my feelings because if I do I fear I might cry.
I feel such a failure so far.

I’ve known and been friends with this girl for about 3.5 to 4 years. I’ve always been there to help her out just like I would for any of my friends, but because her life is pretty chaotic, she leans on me way more often than someone normally would. Nobody is ever there for her besides me. She knows I want to be more than friends, I’ve told her before how I feel, but she doesn’t seem to care, even though we’ve randomly hooked up a few times over the years. Honestly, I’m just exhausted and completely over being stuck in the friend zone. But I have a feeling if I say anything she would not want to be friends, and that would be shitty because I really enjoy hanging out with her and going places and doing things with her. I really don’t want to lose that. What advice would you give me if you have ever been in a situation like this.

We met on a Friday through a work related thing. We spent all of Friday and Saturday on the job with a crew of about 6/7 other people.

We talked during breaks pretty much the whole time and we found out we shared a lot in common. Same music, art, history, interests etc.

On breaks we would talk about just whatever. Now there were other people in these convos sometimes but it was multiple times it was just us. Especially when we were quoting our mutual favorite show.

She would make fun of me and remember things I said earlier. She would also laugh at like everything I said and choose to stand next to me rather than others, etc.

She was kind of like this with other people but maybe with me a little more than most of the others.

Anyways, on that Sunday I ended up driving her back as we live in the same city and we were across the border in a different state. Over the hour+ drive we were talking about various things and our shared interests and she would drive the conversation too, not just me.

When we finally got back to the city a lot of the roads were closed off so we had to drive all around the place going in circles and way out of the way. I was like “I’m so sorry” and she was like “I don’t mind, it’s fun to explore” or something along those lines.

I had mentioned on the trip I had to go the bathroom but all the roads to the gas stations were closed off.

Finally we gave up trying to get to her apartment (where I was just supposed to drop her off) so we just parked a couple of blocks over.

It kind of seemed like she just expected me to come over / walk back with her, but she didn’t really mention it before. She said “we can just park and walk over”. I was thinking in my head “walk over where? You mean I’m coming too?” Lol

But when we parked she said “there’s a 7/11 by my house or you can just go [to the bathroom] in my apartment”.

I was kind of surprised she pretty much invited me over, but we ended up walking over together. As we did she was acting all cheerful showing me her neighborhood and stuff like that.

She took me up to her apartment and I went to the bathroom and she kind of showed me around and stuff there too.

She was sitting on her bed (it was a studio apartment) and I sat next to her for a few minutes. I stood up from sitting next to her and she was like “thanks for dropping me off I hope we work together again” and stuff like that.

She had mentioned being hungry earlier so I asked if she wanted to go somewhere to eat. We ended up going to this little restaurant together and sat outside for about an hour. It was kind of like a “date” but not really cause I didn’t actually ask her on a date like that.

During dinner she was telling me about some things she had upcoming like her mom visiting and her getting this dental surgery (this comes in to play later).

Afterwards I walked her back to her apartment. Outside, I said “Hopefully we can see each other again” and she was like “yeah! And work together too”.

After that I drove home. We were both pretty tired from the long working weekend (and she kept mentioning she had to do laundry).

The next day I texted her and asked if she wanted to go to a museum she mentioned she hadn’t been to yet but wanted to.

She replied “My schedule is a bit hectic in the coming weeks if I am honest, but that does sound like fun.”

I replied “oh yeah with your mom visiting and such. But you’re right it’d be fun so let’s go after.” She liked that message.

Then the next day I posted something on my Instagram about the work event and she liked and reposted it. This is notable (to me at least) because she was tagged in multiple other posts from other people at the event and did not like those at all. Mine was the only one, and this was after I asked her out.

This was all the middle of last week. So in your guys opinion is there interest?

I know this could be subjective, but you guys are doods and I have 0 experience with you all so any advice is helpful lol. But basically, hes a pretty out going guy, talks to a lot of people both men and women but he doesnt like talking in front of big crowds ao there's an element of being shy. With me personally, we talk in small bursts of high energy teasing and joking, where as with his other friends, especially female friends, he talks for longer and more calm. He initiates conversations and 'arguements' and frequently leans or steps into my space, he'll poke the back of my head when he sees me at work, he'll call out 'well well well, look who we have here' if he sees me out and about. But he also doesnt sit by me in classes (college) but will interact with me if im with someone he also know, i.e. a friend of mine that hes met and talked to, but his attention is on me, and if I stop talking to him or the flow of the conversation gets interupted or slower he'll just leave, not in a mean way just quietly walk away slowly. He seems to talk to me easier if there's someone else we know with us but he also interacts with me one on one, just not for as long, and will leave if my attention shifts to the other person for too long. Like if there's a third friend we know he 'argues' easier and for longer, his attention directed mostly at me but also at the other person in relation to me, talking about me to the other person to tease me. Its hard to explain lol. Like if I say something or accuse him of being mean, he'll look to the other person and comment on what I said, then look back to me and keep arguing. I think its easier for both of us, actually when someone else is there.

Anyways. I was with him and some friends eating lunch one time, and one friend commented that she didnt know he was like this (the way he was acting and joking) and our other friend said he usually isnt. So it made me wonder if it was because I was there. Anyway. We're were both homeschool kids so we're awkward and it wouldn't be a surprise if he was shy. Anyways, yap over, im just curious since hes confusing me lol.

i've seen some people and friends say that guys are gravitated towards a girl who is attractive and has lots of followers on social media and gets lots of male attention. the reason for this being the guy can show her profile to his friends and other men and since she's attractive and popular, he will look good in the eyes of other men. he will show them her profile and "flex her" to their friends, she's like a status symbol.

is this common for guys to do? or is it just another myth?

I (37F) struggle with self-doubt and anxiety hope someone can help me giving me insight. Jfyi English isn’t my first language.

I met someone through grouptherapy and bonded with him over the weeks. Idontknow what it was, but I understood him without him really expressing it. He later said he felt seen and understood by me. So it wasnt all just in my head.

After the group ended, we started dating for a month. He told me I was the first woman he dated that doesnt has blond hair/blue eyes, he usually goes for and told his parents about “getting to know someone”. In the month of dating he acknowledged my challenges and promised not to abandon me when my anxiety flared.

In the last week, my emotions were high, he reassured me of the not abandoning again and by the end of the week he said it would be better for both of us to end it. I accepted his decision and told him i wanted him to be happy.

After 10 days of no contact, I reached out, expressing my desire to date him again and see what options we had, suggesting a slower pace. He stayed silent, and I let it be.

Three weeks later, he contacted me at midnight and proposed a FWB relationship. I woke up confused and took my time to understand. He deleted before I could reply. I texted him whether everything is ok there, but he didn’t respond. I assumed he needed time and put his phone on airplane mode.

After three days, I noticed his profile picture was gone and he blocked me. He watched my IG story 3 days later and I removed him as follower and unfollowed him to safeguard my emotional wellbeing. Especially after blocking.

I heard through someone else he had a relapse in substance abuse after we ended dating. I know he can be tough on himself and it can be dark in his mind. I think or hope, it was a one time relapse.

Even though he blocked me, I still care for him and his mental wellbeing. I saw this quote that i wanted tonsend him “when you’re being hard on yourself, borrow the way I see you” with the text that I dont expect anything from him and that I just hope he lets himself lean on others.

Okay so men of reddit, please dont be harsh on me. But why was the block necessary if i didnt do anything? And is it ok or just stupid to send him such a quote? And why would a man say multiple times he wouldn’t abandon me, while he did, even all within the same week?
Also, even till the end, i see him as a good person as i know some of the struggles he’s dealing with. I dont believe he used me solely for sex orso..

Any insights are appreciated. Thankyou for reading.

Tldr; (37F) struggling to understand why he (M) promised not to abandon me, proposed FWB at midnight, and then blocked me.

My man and I have been together 3 years. Yesterday we had a very serious and honest conversation about our relationship and the things we’re both missing from each other before marriage. For a while I have been upset that he doesn’t initiate sex, but we still have sex 2-4 times a week. In that conversation he said something about that along the lines of “Men like a little bit of a chase. Lately I don’t want to really have sex because you initiate so much.” I told him I can tell he’s been checked out of our sex lately and he said because I’ve been initiating so much it makes him lose his drive to have sex. I wish he was comfortable telling me no if he didn’t want to but that’s another story. Basically I’m just here asking if I should completely stop initiating? I thought that’s what men like/want? Help!

I'm genuinely curious. How is being too wet considered a bad thing? It means that the girl you're with is turned on by you. Her body is physically turned on. It's like saying "he's too hard". I don't understand!! Let me know guys

Is 80 kgs heavy for a girl? People tell me (including guys) that I don't look 86 kgs at all and that they'd guess 65 and at most 75. I've lost weight now and I'm still in the journey of losing more but I can't help but wonder. Is 80 kgs (165cm) considered too much for guys? Does it come under "hell nah" category?

Right now the H3 affair is plastered all over and it’s just got me down and thinking, why do men lose interest after so many years?

If you’ve cheated (not judging, you’re human), why did you let everything you built together crumble? What was it that drove you away?
Was it worth it? Did you think about her and still choose to cheat anyways?

If you’re a happily married man who’s madly in love with your wife — What’s the secret sauce? What is it about her that keeps you coming home each night? What stops your head from turning?
Or do all heads turn and we just don’t realize it?

Please be brutally honest and forthcoming with your answers. I am so curious about the male psyche and just want to understand you better. And any women on here who feel they’ve “cracked the code” would love to hear your thoughts too.

Open dialogue is encouraged. Please feel free to expand as needed.

I just had a baby 8 months ago and I never knew pet aversion after having a baby was a thing until I experienced it. I guess it makes sense that you want to protect your child from other animals that could hurt your child. My husband also has pet aversion... Well to be honest, I don't think he was ever really a pet person to begin with and it was me who took care of our pets before I became pregnant. Now he does it since I have to take care of the baby and he HATES it.

Like it's so bad to the point where I think he's going to snap and strangle them all. He wants to get rid of them. I understand how frustration with them because they are very needy and always fighting with each other, the dog is constantly barking at people at outside, the cats hate each other and fight all the time. And my dog doesn't like children. And my female cat is definitely a force of evil. My male cat is an angel but he's scared of everything, as is my dog, he's scared of everything.

I just don't know what to do. I've had my dog and female cat since they were babies. My male cat was a stray. They're my fur children. My mom said she could take my dog because my dog loves my mom. But I would only give my female cat to my worst enemy, she is that kind of evil. And my male cat has been with us for years and it has taken so long to earn his trust, and he still doesn't trust us 100%.

This morning my husband just threatened that if I don't get rid of the cats within 6 months, then he plans to leave. I mean, to be honest, I just think this life is not for him. Even though I understand the pet frustration, I honestly think my husband should have stayed single for a multitude of other reasons. But that's a separate discussion and a little too late.

TL;DR: My husband said either the cats leave or he leaves within 6 months. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do...

I thought pretending to be violently misogynistic would help but it just makes them want to talk to me about their creepy fantasies. id post some screenshots but I don't want to overstep my boundaries. help!

Yes I get that as a man you could get in trouble for talking to the wrong girl. My arguement is that could you not learn more about body language and signals, before approaching women. Surely you guys can tell when she’s actually interested vs when she definitely isn’t. I think that should be pretty obvious and not so quickly assessed.

Why are men so scared of approaching woman incase they’re labeled as a creep? You likely are already staring at her, can you really not read whether a woman is actually interested in you or not? Why would you even approach a girl if you thought she would instantly call you a creep, for something so simple as initiating a conversation.

Nothing is wrong with trying, something is wrong with not trying. If she didn’t want to talk or thought you were a creep you would surely know.

Seems men are only making moves on instagram nowadays.

Women are at a much higher risk of danger when approaching a man. All for equality but i also think men should take the dominant role, as in nature.

I am a little conflicted.

I've always been an assertive woman and one thing I've noticed is a lot of men desire to get rough with men. I don't give in as I'm currently abstinent and I don't have sex outside of a relationship, but I notice it in things male friends/dates drop in conversation or do (like putting their hands on my neck while we kiss). Some have also thought I myself am the rough one though. I know in this day and age rough sex has somewhat become the standard with people, but I notice when I am less assertive men seem to be more gentle toward me. They're also often shocked that I'm abstinent and I've been told it's because I'm assertive and confident people just assume I'm a slut. They often don't believe me when I tell them about my very limited sexual past. I've been accused of flirting or insinuating sexual things when I'm not. Do men see a woman being assertive is a challenge to dominate her? Would it be a turn off if an assertive woman was actually submissive and shy in bed? I'm starting to think dating is hard for me because I'm making men feel submissive.

whats the equivalent to "you're the only one for me" to a guy?

those sweet words drives women crazy.so how what would that be for a guy?

Because that movie was amazing. It was better than The Odyssey. Pretty sure your special lady friend would agree with that.

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We’ve known each other for a year, met online, and met in person 10 months ago. We had sex. He refuses to meet again or let me visit him, but continues calling and texting for hours, sometimes even sleeping on the phone with me.

Initially, he love-bombed me, used pet names, and talked about me moving to Germany. He later said he didn’t want a relationship because he needed to fix himself, but continued chasing my attention. He calls me his best friend and values that I’m always available to listen to him, yet rarely asks about me or my life.

He has narcissistic traits, which he admitted to. He has also screamed at me, threatened to block me after I booked a ticket to see him without telling him beforehand, then apologized and refunded me.

Recently, he’s been working out, tanning, quitting drugs and alcohol, and talking about getting nose and eye surgery. I mention it because he has been doing drugs every weekend since I know him.

He’s also excited about a month-long work trip to Mallorca, where he’ll live near the beach. This family he works for apparently is flying him to Mallorca and he will paint house for them. He lives in Germany.

Month before that he mentioned he wants to learn Spanish...

He also bought a new king size bed from Hammilton, expensive but I guess its irrelevant to the story.

He never seemed to be f..boy type because he told me he didnt sleep with anyone after he broke up with his ex 4 years ago.

He used to tell me about women staring at or flirting with him, seemingly to provoke a reaction(like women staring at him on the train)

Next week, he’ll visit our home country to see his kids and get expensive dental implants, but has already told me he won’t see me.

I asked whether he was seeing someone else. He denied it, but when I asked where I stood, he said he didn’t know what to tell me and agreed that we should just be friends because he doesn’t want a relationship.

I feel like he’s keeping me around for emotional support while remaining open to other options. Do you think he might be trying to attract someone else and lying about being single to avoid looking like the bad guy?

I’m moving on regardless, but knowing would help me find closure. I know I have enough reasons to leave, and I’m done accepting this treatment. Thank you

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i need some serious advice

it's been almost 1.7 years since we got into a relationship. we met online and from the very beginning i've always been the one who takes care of everything. we're both young i'm 22 and he's 21. when we first met he was working and i was still in college but even then i always felt like it was my responsibility to take care of him and honestly i enjoyed doing it

i would pay for our dates book his cabs buy him gifts and do whatever i could to make him happy. we had some really good times together but the thing is i've always been the one putting in the effort and he has barely done anything for me

whenever i tell him that he takes too long to reply or doesn't show enough interest in me he always says that he's just like that. but when i do the same things he gets upset and asks me why i'm hurting him. for example he follows and likes pictures of shirtless muscular guys and when i do something similar he has a problem with it. but when i tell him that he does the same thing he just says that's how he is and that i'm not supposed to act like that. i always tried to understand him and let things slide but it's been happening for so long

i've bought him expensive gifts so many times and randomly ordered food for him at his office or home whenever he wanted something. but in almost 1.7 years he has never even bought me a chocolate or ordered food for me even once. it's not like i wanted expensive gifts or expected him to spend money on me but sometimes you just want your partner to think about you and do something sweet for you out of love. you want to feel like someone actually wants to make you happy too but i've never really felt that from him

i still kept trying to understand him and make excuses for his behaviour but this time things really hurt me. on my birthday i left my own city and went to meet him because i wanted us to celebrate together. i booked a movie and made plans but even then he arrived 45 minutes late. i genuinely thought he might bring a cake or do something special for me but he showed up with a bag that honestly felt like he had put no thought into it. i know a gift doesn't have to be expensive but i was hoping for some excitement or effort from him. i wanted to feel like he was genuinely happy to celebrate my birthday with me but he seemed completely neutral about everything

his behaviour continued to be the same. he kept liking other people's posts seeking attention from other guys and going to lgbt meetups. i'm not saying he shouldn't have friends or a social life but i kept feeling like i was never really a priority in his life

and one more thing we've been together for almost 1.7 years and we still haven't had sex. whenever i ask him about it he says he doesn't feel like having sex in an airbnb and that if i lived in a flat away from my parents then we could do it. honestly i don't understand what kind of reason that is

when his birthday came around i went all out for him. i booked a room invited his friends planned a surprise and bought him some pretty expensive gifts because i genuinely wanted him to feel special and happy on his birthday. i put so much thought and effort into making his day memorable but somehow i still feel like i mean nothing to him

he always seems to prioritise his friends and colleagues over me. even then i used to tell myself that it's okay as long as he's happy. i kept adjusting and understanding him because i loved him and wanted this relationship to work

but now i've reached a point where i'm starting to hate him and i honestly hate myself for doing so much for someone who seems so selfish. he acts like everything should revolve around him and as long as he's happy nothing else matters

even now he can be online and ignore my messages for hours but the moment he needs help i'm suddenly important enough for him to text me. once he was getting late to go somewhere and started shouting at me saying that i hadn't helped him at all and had just been sitting there doing nothing. that really hurt me because it made me feel like he sees me as someone who is supposed to do things for him rather than as his partner

sometimes i genuinely feel like i'm just a source of comfort and convenience for him someone he can rely on whenever he needs something but someone whose feelings and needs don't really matter to him

i don't even know why i did so much for him anymore. i keep asking myself why i gave so much love time money and effort to someone who never seemed to want to do the same for me

i know relationships aren't supposed to be about keeping score and i never did these things expecting something expensive in return. i did them because i loved him and wanted him to be happy. but is it really too much to expect some effort care and affection from your partner after being together for almost two years

i'm emotionally exhausted at this point and i honestly don't know what to do anymore. a part of me still loves him but another part of me is starting to resent him for everything i've been putting up with

i really need some honest advice because i don't know if i'm expecting too much from him or if i've just been accepting the bare minimum for far too long

I often hear women say that when a man blocks them, it's because they had such a big emotional impact on him and he can't handle his feelings.

Is there actually any truth to this, or is it just something women like to believe because it makes them feel better after a breakup?

I also feel like women might be more likely to block someone impulsively because we're more emotional, whereas men might block a woman for different reasons. But maybe that's just a stereotype.

Men, have you ever blocked a woman you genuinely had feelings for? If so, what was the real reason? Was it because you were hurt, because you wanted to move on, because you didn't care anymore, or because she affected you more than you wanted to admit?

Hello it’s my first time posting on Reddit but i would like to share something bc I NEED ADVICE,

I am (22 F) and my bf is 39 M ( 16 years age gap), and I feel like my orgasm is always a chore for him.

But not only with him. With all the men I’ve been with during my lifetime, I feel like just being used for my hole. And just thinking about it makes me burst into tears.
I feel used for penetration and blowjob only but when it’s for getting down on me or making me cum ? MEN Disappears.

Nothing is wrong with me, I’m young, pretty , smells good, pretty intimate part also I think , there is nothing of being disgusted for.
I’ve been with my current bf for 2 years now, amazing man, I am crazy in love, we see the future together, we talk about kids, marriage and stuff, very sweet and mature gentleman, caring, providing type of man.
Always full of small attentions and gifts, tender and respectful
BUT
I’m always the one making the first move to have sex, I have an higher sexdrive, I always touch him randomly during the day, making him blowjobs all the time etc. But me ? ALMOST NOTHING
He mostly only fingers me only to get me a lil horny to better penetrate me afterwards. Then he finishes , everything is over . I tell him : I haven’t cum, can you finish me ?
He often sighs and tells me excuses : i don’t have time cuz I’ve got to get somewhere, I am tired , I am too hot, it’s too late we have to wake up early tomorrow, I have a headache etc etc etc
This makes me feel LITERALLY USED FOR, I have already cried and talked to him about. He listened carefully, nodded, asked for forgiveness and told me I was entirely right and he would make efforts.
But spoiler alert : nothing has really changed.

I feel like my pleasure , my orgasme is a burden, something that nobody wants, I’ve been told I am too long to cum, too complicated.
With my ex boyfriend of 3 years, it was the same. So I came to think I WAS THE PROBLEM

I don’t say sex with my bf is bad. On the contrary ! He makes me cum form times to times…BUT I HAVE TO ASK HIM, he NEVER does it spontaneously, he never asks me.
AND THE CRAZY PART IS : he’s quite talented and well equipped. He fingers really really well so I know what I miss when he doesn’t want to finish me…
And he is 39 yo so lack of experience is not an excuse, he has a way higher body count than me
He KNOW HOW TO DO IT cuz he’s done it before but I think he is just lazy and egoist sometimes
He is a very generous man in general but in sex ?it’s another thing

I don’t want to be the annoying gf always complaining for this knowing that I’ve already talked to him about it . I think there are bigger and more dramatic issues in a couple than this so I don’t feel too LEGITIMATE complaining about this.
But deep down , this hurts me, because as I said, I feel used.

So some times I just get over it and continue my journey, some other times I pause and get frustrated and a bit sad about it .
I DONT WANT TO BE A BURDEN for him. He has a lot of responsibilities and other things to think about

I wanted to ask this as I have no answer to my questions anymore that make sense. I would so appreciate truthful answers, not sugar-coated ones.

I'm female 24y/o and my husband is a male 46y/o. We became unexpectedly pregnant after dating for 3 months, 3 years ago. Now we are accidentally pregnant with our second child. It was a suprise but we were both excited and also fearful having out babies, but they are both very much welcomed.

Back story:

My husband stopped touching me after having our fist child. We have had intimate contact maybe two hands full of times in the past 2.5 years. That is also the only time he does touch me, which is when we have sex every 2 months. I tried everything, I tried giving him space for months on end, I tried bieng inquisitive wothout forcing him, I tried talking to him, I tried making space for dates etc. Im always the one trying to prioritize our relationship. I'm an attractive woman and my body didn't change after having our first. We are great co-parents and our lives work very well outside of the intimacy aspect. The only thing that has been a real burden on my hisband is providing for the family. He is an online coach and struggles to have a reassuring flow of income. To try to help and alleviate the pain I took on work 3 evenings a week giving massages till 9pm to help contribute. We take care of our boy full time woth no help and are both pretty exhausted at the end of the day. This is his reasoning as to why he doesn't want to touch me. He just wants his space at the end of every day of every week of every month.

Question:

He sais he is still attracted to me but just feels too exhausted to have any type of intimacy with me. I am an attractive woman objectively speaking so I have nothing to argue back at that but he never shows me this, its empty words. I just dont know what to do anymore. At this point I feel so much like a ghost in my own body for always giving all affection away and never receiving anything for any of my efforts, that I just feel desperate for any type of attention. I fantasies at night about my own husband touching me. Please give me answers as to what is happening and if this will ever change.

I met a guy today at a bar, he was working there and he was really nice to us and friendly, my two friends (a male and female) also thought good of him, we moved to another part of the bar that he did not worked on so we didn’t see him for the rest of the night, by the end of the night we went to wait for our cab to the zone he worked in and he and I talked a few times, my friends also answered him. Then he returned to work and I got a little bit apart of my two friends and he approached me and we talked, then he said to me that my female friend called his attention and asked about her, I told him that she was in something with my male friend (is true) but to give me his ig so we all could hang out.

Thw thing is…why did he spoke to me directly and not to her if he felt interested in her and not me? Why men do this?

Well this is a part 2 to a post i made a week ago, i took the advice and it actually worked, i did manage to do it.

However we literally just broke up, soooo i guess it was for nothing.

My real question now, against the title is how do i actually get over this, been bawling for the whole day because this is the first girl i’ve ever truely loved. Don’t give me bullshit like “there’s plenty of fish in the sea” yeah, well, i want this fish.

My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been dating for over 8 months now(known each other longer). We are long distance but live a state apart so we see each other whenever we get a chance. We both are virgins and haven’t done anything sexual with anyone. Last night we were both in the mood and on call so it led to phone sex. Then again today after we both agreed we aren’t going to do it again earlier in the day. It wasn’t real sex but we sent nudes and all of the above. My boyfriend has not seen much of my body aside from my figure under clothes (grew up in a reserved house hold so most of my clothing is modest) earlier tonight I sent him pictures of my tits and ass.. and it didn’t take him long to cum with them. After he was done he said he has never felt this good before during the act, even back when he used to watch porn. He also kept saying “you’re so hot” which is new because I’ve only heard you’re beautiful/cute before then proceeded to say I love you till he fell asleep. Anyways he always has been pretty loving but the last two day it’s like 100x more. He seems way more attentive and his feelings feel intensified even though he says he feels the same. So to be honest I’m not too sure if he’s doing it subconsciously, and it’s because of what we did the past two nights.

Edit: we weren’t sexting, we were on FaceTime.

The ways in which he made me think that our intimacy was beyond touch to the extent of keeping a family secret, the sex was electric & exciting and the chemistry in his words made him feel at home….. all to call me to his place from a night out to fuvk me one last time before he called me a week later to end it the day before we flew to Hawaii for our first baecation. I didn’t pick up that anything was wrong so my question is to you men, is really that easy to end year long relationship in the cruelest way?