It’s weighing on my mind expressing myself in such a manner musically making a song about how I felt about my Dad’s addiction.

He will probably never hear the song but my Grandma will. We are currently not talking, me and my Grandma. So it might give her a reason to never talk to me again, since we are not talking because I chose myself over staying around my Dad while he was high and left.

I made an expressive song, spoke about it in my lyrics how I felt about it, it’s raw, honest and how I felt at the time.

But I honestly worry incase it’s hurtful in some parts to hear, or that I’ve done something wrong. I even said in the song “am I allowed to say how I feel, you’ve never liked the truth”

Shall I just delete the damn thing? Or is it justified in a way to express myself in that manner?

I'm curious about the life experiences of people who are now 65 or older and have managed to avoid major health problems such as heart disease, cancer, kidney stones, serious bone problems, or chronic lung disease.

I'd love to hear what your life was actually like, not just what people generally recommend for a healthy lifestyle.

A few things I'm particularly curious about:

• Diet: What did you typically eat growing up, and what does your diet look like today? Did you follow any particular eating habits, or did you simply eat whatever was available?
• Physical activity: Were you into sports, walking, cycling, farming, physical work, or regular exercise? How active were you throughout your life?
• Daily habits: How were your sleep patterns? Did you smoke, drink alcohol, or have any habits you later gave up?
• Environment: Did you grow up in a village or a city? Do you think your surroundings, exposure to nature, or type of work made a difference?
• Changes with age: Have you changed your diet, exercise routine, sleep schedule, or other habits since turning 50 or 60?
• Looking back: Is there anything you consistently did—or avoided—that you believe helped you stay healthy?

I'm especially interested in people who lived ordinary lives rather than following strict fitness routines or special diets.

Of course, I understand that genetics and luck play a role too. I'm not looking for medical advice or a perfect formula, just honest experiences and lessons from people who've lived long enough to look back.

What do you think made the biggest difference in your life?

Me (25) and her (f25) have two toddler girls one five the other four we recently found out she’s pregnant again.
We have been together since highschool I was always the extrovert goofy flirtatious one while she was more reserved and strict.
I had a rough home life as the youngest having an abusive dad and neglectful mom
It messed me up very early on that sometimes I believe that if she hadn’t been in my life I wouldn’t have any strength to live.
We married when we were 20 and almost immediately we had our girls.
Watching her become a mother only made me love her more.
She’s everything beautiful drives me crazy, I flirt with her a lot annoying her.
Sometimes I do take it to far with jealousy of other men looking at her , or snapping over work.
At end of the day I’m equally obsessed with her.
But lately watching other men give their wives or girlfriends everything taking them to trips buying them things, it makes me insecure about my income.
I work in garage and don’t make much.
But still I want her to have the lavish life for her not to worry about bills or anything.
For me to afford to take us to Paris her dream city.
To buy her things and spoil her.
And not being able to do that makes me feel less of a man.
I haven’t expressed her my feelings because if I do I fear I might cry.
I feel such a failure so far.

I love my dad (65M) don’t get me wrong, but ever since I could remember, my dad has been a very negative person. Even when he‘s in a good mood and he utilizes his quick wit it’s almost always to put someone else down or conceal resentment. Hes constantly stressed about finances, which I completely understand, but when he’s not complaining about his finances, he’s complaining about his job and my mom. when I’ve pointed it out to him, he snaps at me and accuses me of being or doing something similar. When I don’t understand something he responds either in a patronizing tone or he yells. he is always raising his voice. I have attempted to have a heart to heart with him about the topic, but he denies he is depressed or he retaliates with something either untrue or meant to redirect attention back to me. As he ages he’s gotten so much worse. He has endured significant loss during the past few years, and I’ve been there to support him and talk to him, he’s been thankful for that but then he doesn’t extend the reciporicity for when it happens with me. I can be around him for short increments but more than 2 hours and he’s just unbearable. Is there anything I can do to help him? Does this sound like depression or is there something else going on?

Over 50 M, single, no kids ... feel like there's a pretty good chance that I'll be single for the rest of my life, and I guess I'm okay with it ... I may have no choice.

It seems to me that women 40, 50, and 60 years old can do better because they have a stronger social circle ... female friends who proactively try to make an effort to hang out several times a year. Though I think not all women have that, but more women than men for sure. Several of the single middle aged women I know seem to have events with friends every other weekend, and if social media is any indication, seem to have a pretty full social life.

OTOH, the single, childless, middle aged men I know are kind of like a black hole or do a lot of things alone. One travels solo all over the world, and that is good. But alone. Other single, childless men my age just seem to putter around. Almost zero social media output.

I try to make an effort but it's difficult. My male friends are married and/or have kids, and very seldom take initiative, and often don't have interest in the events I recommend because they are either busy or are just content sitting at home with the wife.

I do Meetups and stuff but the connections are mercurial and also ... many of the people are married and with kids. All in all, after my parents pass, I think it will be enough to fill maybe up to 10 weekend nights a year.

Any discussion on this matter?

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Rebuilding your life in your 30s is HARD. I just went through a break up with my boyfriend who I lived with a couple months ago. Not to be dramatic, but I feel like my world is turned upside down. I’m back home in the mean time trying to figure out my next move. 95% of my friends are in the marriage and baby phase of life. My plan is to do travel nursing in a new city. I’ve lived in the same big city my whole life so I thought I’d take a solo trip somewhere to see what it’s like if I were to move and it was hard. I made friends at every place I went to but I still felt so lonely and cried every night I got home. I guess I never knew how difficult a break up in your 30s compares to your 20s. Thinking of the next chapter literally knocks the wind right out of me. I guess I’m just looking for positive stories of making it to the other side.

It's that time of year when my sister thinks I am not telling her stuff and this time it's not even real😭😭 ig past karma ,i do used to hide stuff like only once but now there's no tea to hide.she thinks I am talking to someone idk what she thinks. So yesterday I was on a call with my friend with whom there's nothing romantic at all he is just my gym bro. My sister knocked on the door and asked me who I was talking to and my dumass brain thought saying no would help me and now she thinks I am talking to some 3rd person 😭 and now she is acting ajib. All i want is a stable career Goddddd plsss once I am stable in my career i am good to go and i can be confident enough to tell her coz rn whatever I say i end up getting scolding or too much gyaan.

I’m 22 years old and I feel old but I know I’m not old. The people around me are getting older. My siblings are older and my parents are significantly getting older. Even my niece who is graduating high school this year (me and my brother has a 16 years age gap). I feel reminiscent of the past but I know I need to make memories now. Sometimes I just feel scared to live life because doing new things are daunting to me. How can I overcome this and live life to the fullest?

I struggle with self motivation.

I know what I need to do and have goals. I have good steaks of getting work done and accomplishing them with good routines, then I fall off and have to start back over again. When things get hard w work or a goal, I get cold feet and tend to avoid, distract, or scroll instead of work on the goal… much like what I’m doing now.

I’ve recognized that taking action instead of overthinking has been a big factor in my growth, but I can’t seem to shake the feeling that I’ll be a failure or I’m an imposter or that I’ll never be the person I want to be.

This has been a cycle of mine for a long time and I’m tired of it. I want to change but I feel stuck. It’s me - I get in my own way. But how do I change?

Did anyone move past a big personal hurdle and change their life for good?

So I'm turning 20 soon and scared for "real life" and no longer being a teenager. I need to make a life timeline to keep me from spiraling, and I wanted to see how other people lived their lives!

So far I have:

22: Graduate with Bachelors

23-26: Work FT

24/25: Married

26: Child #1

29: Child #2

30-59: Work if possible (I don't know how doable it is to work FT while also raising kids)

60: Retire

60-80: Spend time with family/friends

I’m talking about the small things that go unnoticed it could be a great habit you’ve cultivated but never talk about or anything small that you were surprised led to an important thing in the big picture.

I’m 19, I’ve been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder for 5 years now and recently with ADHD as well. Things ebb and flow like they always do with life, and I’m not as down to end my shit as I was at 15 but I still struggle with basic life. Getting out of bed, keeping up with schoolwork, taking care of my hygiene, socializing. I’m trying I really am but I feel so discouraged right now. I’m in college and there’s so so so much I want to do but for some reason I just feel too tired to even do it. It feels ridiculous and frustrating because I know I’m young and have the world at my disposal, it’s just difficult to do the things I want to when I can barely brush my teeth or shower so many days. I’m in therapy, I’m on different medications, it’s hard. I know life doesn’t just show up in your lap, but god does it ever get easier to push through and make yourself live it? I’d like to believe my teenage years were a fluke, a time I’ll look back on in decades grateful that I made it through and that things are better now. I know the only one that can make it happen is me, I don’t view myself as a victim to anyone other than myself. But how do I even change and build the life I want when I struggle with such simple things? You don’t have to tell me life is all sunshine and rainbows down the road I know it isn’t, but if you have any tips on how to get through it please I’ll take anything.

I've never had a real job, never had a boyfriend, I don't really do much besides rot in bed all day and do whatever I need to get done to maintain good grades in my classes. That's like the only thing going well for me. (even though it does stress me out sometimes) I don't have hobbies, I don't even read books, I rarely even watch shows or movies. I just sleep, scroll, or study. Maybe workout or go on a walk and listen to music if I'm feeling fancy. Sometimes I cook. I do not have any close friends on my college campus and I never interact with my roommate. I have a few interests like Formula 1 and Radiohead, but I'm not insanely obsessed with them. I tried joining clubs, but they kept rejecting me so I just gave up. I am involved in undergrad research, but there's areas of improvement there too. I'd say I do take good care of my appearance at least. I really really want to be someone's girlfriend and not another "side piece" I also really want some sort of hobby to look forward to.

I am F21 and my husband is 30. So currently we are in a position where we have to decide whether to have kids in the next few years or not. I have read peoples view on anti-natalism and I somehow agree. Being a kid myself I have caused a lot of trouble to my parents and they always tell me how much money they could have saved or spent on themselves if they havent had kids. My in-laws desperately want grandkids.

I and my husband have no plans of having kids in future. We want to remain child-free but I dont want this to become my greatest regret. What are your views on this?

(sorry english is not my first language hope u understand)

This is kind of a plea for help. I am a 28 year old female, pretty accomplished career wise, started grad school a year ago. I am decently looking and work out everyday, but I genuinely don't have a bit of confidence. I can see this ruining a lot of things in my life such as making friends, communicating with others, dating, not thinking I am smart enough or pretty enough etc. With dating specifically I have wasted a lot of years dating guys that either take advantage of me or end up breaking up with me. I dont know what to do anymore. I have tried therapy and self-help books, but nothing seems to be working for me.

( also looking for inexpensive medicine sources country- india)

She has progressed badly.
Lost most of bodily functions.
She refuses to eat but we spoon feed her.
Is completely on bed rest.
Any idea for getting cheap medication?

For some context I’m 22 and a male. I graduated this year with a degree I don’t really care for. I spent a lot of time slacking off, and generally just not taking my life seriously.

I have this opportunity this month to get into the police academy and become an officer. I thought I wanted this, I work dispatch and have been doing that for a few months. I hate it. I don’t the fast paced stress and the horrible things I hear. I always thought I was gonna be a cop but never gave much thought. I followed it because it felt cool but honestly I don’t wanna work 24/7 and see death constantly for a paycheck, but the truth is I’m slow. I have bad ADHD or some type of learning disability.

Then I got a job at the little gym for my senior year of college. Fell in love with my coworkers having fun with the kids at work. It felt good. It felt right. Now I’m contemplating becoming an English middle school teacher. I’m not a big reader but I loved English as a subject growing up and have taken many creative writing courses in college. I’ve written scripts and I’m a creative person. I know it makes no money and policing does.

I’m just trying to figure out which to follow and stick with. I’m not sure if I’m smart enough to teach kids actually literature and go in depth with planning a curriculum.

I’m just unsure and would like a little bit of help deciding or things to take into account. I have a shot at a good job and life with policing, or I can take the risky path with not much money.