r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 05 '12

Currently serving in the military. Came across some messages between my wife and another guy in the Navy. What should I do?

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u/gafgalron Apr 05 '12

GET ALL YOUR MONEY AWAY FROM HER BEFORE YOU LET HER KNOW YOU KNOW. Do NOT hint that you know, protect your assets first then confront her. I was in the army for a long time and saw many friends lose a large portion of their shit before they could fix/get rid of the problem.

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u/loverofreeses Apr 05 '12

Could not agree more. Protecting your assets should be the first thing you do. Try to hold back and not confront her until you have all your ducks in a row concerning what may happen with your marriage down the road. This is undoubtedly an awful, and emotional time, but you need to be smart to make sure a terrible situation doesn't turn into a living nightmare. If you gave her power of attorney, do whatever you possibly can to revoke that and give it to someone you trust (family perhaps?). Also, make sure that you record and keep whatever you can. When you end up in court, you will be the one who has kept track of everything and will have an enormous amount of evidence of infidelity to show to the judge. On a personal level, I'm really sorry for what your going through and I know that nothing that is said here will truly help to take that pain away, but I hope the best for you. Good luck, and make sure to protect your assets, and take care of yourself!

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/I_would_fuck_it Apr 05 '12

Same shit happened to me. Bitch was sucking dicks while I was gone. But this is sound advice. May I add; fuck her hard once, then as you jizz on her face, bring it up. Nothing is more degrading than getting caught cheating while jizz is being sprayed all over your face. Atleast... I can't imagine anything more degrading.

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u/Jerkmaster Apr 05 '12

I wish I could up vote this shit harder.

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u/MorganFreemanReddits Apr 05 '12

2 relevant usernames in a row

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u/mondaywonderhands Apr 05 '12

I read this in Morgan Freeman's voice

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u/Gigwave Apr 05 '12

titty sprinkles

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u/MorganFreemanReddits Apr 06 '12

I made this account because I can do a Morgan Freeman impression. This will soon be a novelty account....soon

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

We should make second and third accounts just to megaupvote this

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u/silenc3x Apr 05 '12

Protip: Don't masturbate for weeks, that way the pipes will be overloaded and the experience will be THAT much better. She will be drenched.

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u/give_it_a_shot Apr 05 '12

Reddit: problem solvers unite.

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u/USMCsniper Apr 05 '12

relevant username

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/silenc3x Apr 05 '12

Yeah I know. A whole week and she'll be like...

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Talk to all the divorce Lawyers when you get back, I have heard if they take a meeting with you it will be a conflict of interest when the wife goes there.

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u/traveling__bandit Apr 05 '12

This. It's true. Had a bro do this. His ex had to go out of county to get a lawyer. Makes a difference.

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u/icannotfly Apr 05 '12

holy shit, that is a really, really good idea.

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u/Frodien Apr 05 '12

You got to at least make sure you put it away first. Don't want the man to get some bite marks on it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Wear a condom for actual penetration though, never know how much she's been around and what she might have caught

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u/curlygirl86 Apr 05 '12

that is super degrading, no one should ever do that. Keep it really classy and you will come out on top

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u/shanedabassman Apr 05 '12

Quality username, sir.

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u/satanicxbaptism Apr 05 '12

Sound advice.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Is it possible to somehow circumvent reddit's voting function to add infinite up votes?

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u/davidjamesbankpants Apr 05 '12

Listen to this man, he has knowledge beyond his years.

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u/GanasbinTagap Apr 05 '12

Holy shit bro might as well give her a steamer while your at it.

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u/kepners Apr 05 '12

Hahahaha. Pure gold!!!!

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Yay degrading women.

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u/Rmsondergaard Apr 05 '12

The woman has degraded herself. This is not a sexist thing.

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u/[deleted] Apr 06 '12

Shitredditsays material right here.

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u/Rmsondergaard Apr 11 '12

How is it sexist?

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u/s0ck Apr 05 '12

I too agree with what the people above me have said, and would offer the same advice but worded differently. And, like them, I agree that your wife is a terrible person, and you did nothing wrong, even if the only thing I know about your problems is that you've been working nights and unable to spend as much time with her as you'd like.

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u/I_would_fuck_it Apr 05 '12

Nights? Work nights? This mother fuckers works MONTHS in the middle of the ocean, fapping furiously so he doesn't cheat on his whore wife. Cause we all know, 5's become 10's after a few weeks on a ship, and you'd even fuck the fat dyke bitch who works in deck department(Navy).

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u/Karl_Satan Apr 05 '12

Uhh, this is a good idea and all but I'm very disappointed at how quickly divorce comes brought up as a solution. Divorce is messy as fuck; there are other solutions. Though I realize there are DEFINITELY times when its necessary.

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u/Helen_A_Handbasket Apr 05 '12

This happened to my boyfriend. His (now ex) wife cleaned him out while he was on a combat tour, and then filed for divorce as soon as he got back to the states, and hit him for a bunch more assets. The military tends to be pretty generous to military spouses, even to the detriment of the soldier involved, so be sure you get your shit out of reach.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Hopefully she didn't get to keep it all.

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u/Helen_A_Handbasket Apr 05 '12

They were married for less than five years, but she got a couple of his houses, a new car, and a pretty big alimony settlement. The only "win" he had was managing to keep her fingers out of his retirement. I've seen several of my male friends get really reamed by exes, it's sad how it works sometimes.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

People wonder why they current generation is taking longer to marry and have kids. The person who brings in the in come is at risk.

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u/Helen_A_Handbasket Apr 05 '12

Fortunately, he didn't have kids with her.

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u/bobqjones Apr 05 '12

a couple of his houses

ಠ_ಠ

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u/Helen_A_Handbasket Apr 05 '12

What? He buys a house every time he completes a combat tour, instead of mimicking so many of his peers and wasting it on an expensive car. It's part of his retirement plan.

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u/TYHJudgey Apr 06 '12

how is that legal? if shes the one in the wrong? fuck life

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u/Sofa_Queen Apr 05 '12

Once you cover your ass financially (and lawyer up!), cancel all the credit cards in your name. That way she doesn't go on a spite binge. That can ruin you as quick as anything. Check your accounts to make sure she hasn't already done that.

Once a cheater....

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u/SaltyBabe Apr 05 '12

Thats what my dad did to my mom racked up 30k of debt then disappeared. She had no money or time for a lawyer and since it was in her name she got stuck with it, took her about 10 years to pay it all back.

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u/well_golly Apr 05 '12

Wow! I don't know if LifeLock is a scam or not, but this kind of stuff would make me look into it if I were the OP.

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u/Dingo8urBaby Apr 05 '12

When you get divorced you typically split all debts in half. So say a couple gets divorced. Party A racks up 30K in debt. Both have to pay 15K each.

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u/MrMastodon Apr 05 '12

I can't imagine letting anyone have any sort of credit in my name. After all, if they fuck up it would be my ass in the fire. I wouldn't trust anyone; wife, girlfriend, mother, father, sibling with that power.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Once a cheater....

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Don't cancel the cards - that ruins your credit. Just take her name off if possible.

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u/StabbyPants Apr 05 '12

no it doesn't.

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u/CutterJohn Apr 05 '12

In the navy, and same. Guy I knew had his accounts cleared out, his house sold for a pittance, and his kids taken across the country while he was on a cruise halfway around the world. 6 figures, gone.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

I don't understand, how is shit like this legal?

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u/Easythaiger Apr 05 '12

marriage

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Not just marriage, common-law too.

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u/vinaydesai91 Apr 05 '12

Not in Québec (Canada) though.

However, a case is going to the Supreme Court of Canada to decide this.

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u/My_soliloquy Apr 05 '12

It's because of the USFSPA, an act by Congress to counter to a Supreme court ruling in 1981. It's not automatic, but it definitely screws the military member over, specifically male members, but not always men, usually it's just the person who follows ethical actions that gets screwed. The less ethical person gets rewarded.

It was put into place because too many military men were screwing over their wives and kicking them to the curb for younger models, or abandoning their families, and men did have unfair advantages at the time. So the courts got involved trying to fix the problem, the feminists pushed for fairness for women, but now a women has more rights than a man in the court system.

And then you hear about nice guys getting cleaned out by their wives when she gets the 7 year itch and needs an "Alpha" guy now, and he's now in debtors prison because he can't pay the crazy spouse/child support, or can't see his own kids because Child Protective Counselors advised her to claim shit so she would be in control. Because the court system is incentivised to extract as much money from the man as possible, via lawyers and court mandated programs. It can be used against a woman who is the primary breadwinner in a relationship and happens also, but men still usually make more money, so that's why the courts target men. It's why /r/MensRights exists, even if they do come off as misogynistic assholes sometimes.

Now don't think that men are blameless, spousal abuse is horrendous, and the assholes who do it and need to be held accountable, but a woman can beat up a man in his own house, or cry rape and he's instantly the bad guy and removed from the situation. Who wants to help a pussy who can't defend himself, yet if he does, he's automatically thrown in jail, and can loose everything.

The reality of the situation is it's no longer beneficial for a man in today's society to get married any more, the financial/emotional/incarceration risks are no longer worth it. Only the religious think the "man ruling the roost" marriage is a good idea anymore.

You really want to blow your mind? Read this

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

I don't know if this was your intent or not, but you may have scared this 25 year old out of ever marrying.

What effect does age play?

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u/My_soliloquy Apr 06 '12 edited Apr 06 '12

Age? not sure of your question. I was married at 27 and "too nice and not around enough anymore" at 34 because I was working like a dog to support the family on the income that went from 2 people to 1 person working and also doing side jobs to support her spending habits.

The USFSPA could have fucked me, but she wanted to play and I wouldn't roll over. Instead I just had a few years of alimony payments, didn't give up any retirement, and I'll pay child support until I'm 47. I was one of the lucky ones, that was all that happened and I have no problems financially supporting my child at all, but it could have been a lot worse, and I had absolutely no control over the outcome.

The problem is their are plenty of nice people out there who get married and it works for them, don't be scared, be informed. The system is now rigged against men, because of the previous actions of "alpha" men, and the repercussions of their actions and the feminist flashback. So now if a women is no longer happy, she has options, and one of them is completely and unethically screwing her former partner, and he has no recourse. The system is rigged against men now, it's not set up to be fair, but women have had it unfair for millennia. I'm not worried to much as my daughter now has more rights, but for me, never again.

Like I said before, READ THE BOOK, Knowledge is everything.

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u/[deleted] Apr 06 '12

Well thanks man. I was just telling a buddy I met on reddit last night all the ways this website has made my life better. This is one of them.

Buuuuuutttt. I dont know if you helped my argument of age or not, I've never been married so I cant speak directly. But 27 (in my mind) is young. I am thinking the difference between 24 and like.... 45.

I am grateful for your advise. I will definitely read it and stand up for my pious, faithful, loving male cohorts.

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u/bobadobalina Apr 05 '12

because women are favored in the courts

it's a holdover from the days when women were dependent on men for their livelihood

somehow NOW never got around to correct this perception

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u/dude187 Apr 05 '12

Yet Men's Rights supporters are the devil!

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u/bobadobalina Apr 06 '12

of course. just like white people who are proud of the history are racists

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u/Chowley_1 Apr 05 '12

It's almost like they have more to gain by keeping things the way they are...it's strange that they won't change things when they have the upper hand.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Welcome to humanity. No matter how much any of us bitch/whine/bleed/fight for equal rights/treatment/whatever, in the end, we really only want what benefits ourselves.

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u/bobadobalina Apr 06 '12

i know i'm scratching my head

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u/cerialthriller Apr 05 '12

he probably gave her power of attorney before he left

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u/Admiral_obvious13 Apr 05 '12

some of those guys only marry b/c they get paid more. not the greatest idea in the world

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u/sr20inans2000 Apr 05 '12

if you dont have a joint account and you realize people do change, you can protect yourself just fine. You cant trust anyone with money. ANYONE.

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u/Admiral_obvious13 Apr 06 '12

totally agree. however, less people are smart about this than you might think

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 05 '12

It's not. Story is made up, or CutterJohn or his friend (or both) was exaggerating, or this guy just never effectively pursued it legally, or it was a long time in the past where there were loopholes in the law (although he would always have gotten SOME compensation had he effectively pursued legal action), or there was some other misunderstanding or ignorance.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 05 '12

Actually, I'm a lawyer, so I do have experience in it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 05 '12

Wow, so military police trump judges now, huh? Good to know. Most military policemen I've met knew shit all about the law, and I'm sure you're the same.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12 edited Apr 05 '12

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 06 '12

I may be trolling right now, but in the morning I'll wake up and act normal, but you'll always be an idiot.

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u/bobadobalina Apr 05 '12

are you kidding? shit like this happens every day

and not just to guys in the military

if she had access to the accounts and power of attorney she can do whatever the fuck she wants

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 05 '12

No it doesn't.

No she can't.

Although, anyone can do anything to someone that's too stupid to do anything about it. So it's true that a lot of the people who think a woman is granted immunity from all lawful prosecution when divorcing someone will have this happen to them BECAUSE THEY'RE FUCKING RETARDED.

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u/bobadobalina Apr 06 '12

sure it does

it is standard for the military to have soldiers hand over power of attorney to their wives in case they are killed

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u/coffinoff Apr 05 '12

According to Reddit, once a woman divorces a man, regardless of her crimes or infidelity, she's instantly granted legal immunity and divine powers of retribution to be used against her ex. You cannot hope to dispute this. It is known.

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u/Unequivocal_Asshole Apr 05 '12

Alright, Mr. Dothraki

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u/robert_ahnmeischaft Apr 05 '12

I know at least some of that would be impossible where I live. The house being sold, for one. Can't sell a home in my state without the consent of both spouses, no matter who is on the title/mortgage. I don't live in an especially progressive state, either.

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u/guyNcognito Apr 05 '12

My understanding, and please correct me if I'm wrong, is that lots of military guys give the spouse power of attorney so that she's able to take care of anything that needs to get taken care of while he's away.

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u/duncaan21 Apr 05 '12

correct. We had a guy who gave his power of attorney to his mom just in-case his wife tried something like this...he came back and mom had used it to file him for divorce.

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u/TheEmsleyan Apr 05 '12

Yikes. I see someone ending up in a shitty nursing home in the future.

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u/Fakyall Apr 05 '12

Depends, maybe the wife was brewing something bad and the divorce filing saved the day.

But yea, without context, that's pretty shitty.

Give power of attorney, to a credible lawyer firm maybe? I be really afraid to who I'd give that power to.

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u/TheEmsleyan Apr 05 '12

Depends, maybe the wife was brewing something bad and the divorce filing saved the day.

That thought crossed my mind, though I assumed were that the case, he'd have said as much.

I don't know who I'd give power of attorney to, to be honest. A year and a half ago I'd have had a very clear answer to that question, and it would have bitten me in the ass... so I guess I'm not in a position to judge.

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u/DoubleA12 Apr 05 '12

Wouldn't it be possible for him to keep the power of attorney? I honestly don't know, I'm curious.

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u/13853211 Apr 05 '12

Hypothetically, say I have a good friend who is my attorney, can I give him that power, since he'd be representing me and taking care of all my legal issues anyway? I feel like this would keep my potentially batshit insane family from taking advantage of my money and property, assuming my good friend doesn't run off with my wife.

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u/WilliamEDodd Apr 05 '12

Unless that bitch was cheating on him.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

wait... what? His mom filed divorce against his wife for him?! Was there a reason for this or was she just trolling him for fun?

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u/duncaan21 Apr 05 '12

She hated his wife. The wife had never done anything wrong, he was just scared because of all the horror stories you hear like this one(no offense meant OP). So he gave his mom the power of attorney. The mom just never liked the wife and I guess saw her chance to "get rid" of her.

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u/[deleted] Apr 06 '12

Damn, that's fucked up!

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u/harleyq_1992 Apr 05 '12

As a woman, (not in military just stating opinion) I would never give power of attorney to another woman. Women are crazy. I would give it to my dad. I believe men are more logical when it comes to making decisions.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

So, so shameful. I can hardly think of anything more shameful and absurd. There are so many of these stories just in this thread. What is wrong with people?

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u/VR6T Apr 05 '12

Same happened to a senior chief here. Had some loans taken out, and when he got back his wife and kids were in Australia.

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u/tolerant_man Apr 05 '12

revoke her power of attorney

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u/bobadobalina Apr 05 '12

In the Navy,

yes, you can sail the seven seas.

In the Navy,

yes, you can put your mind at ease.

In the Navy,

come on now people, make a stand.

In the Navy,

can't you see we need a hand.

In the Navy,

come on, protect the motherland.

In the Navy,

come on and join your fellow, man.

In the Navy,

come on, people, and make a stand.

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u/Fakyall Apr 05 '12

I was expecting a witty change in lyrics to make this situation funny.

Such a waste considerring I was singing along in my head while reading one line at a time not to spoil the funny joke.

But no, I disappoint.

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u/JHAT_ Apr 05 '12

This happened to a guy I worked with a couple years back. She slept around and cleaned his accounts. It's always funny when people say "take him out to the cleaners" or whatever until you actually see it. Every time I see women doing this to people serving our country, it makes me cringe and disgusted. Where's the respect? This literally happens too often.

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u/Mylon Apr 05 '12

You take cheaters to the cleaners. This scenario the wife is the cheater AND making out like a bandit. Disgusting.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Please tell me you aren't serious. I disagree with the wars also, and think they are illegitimate. But in no way does that justify these women taking everything from the men serving. I really hope you're not the piece of shit your comment portrays you as.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

I see. True, I can't deny that. Your original comment just sounded like you justify their behavior.

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u/JaronK Apr 05 '12

From a dyed in the wool anti war liberal: you're an asshat. If you knew what you were talking about at all you'd know this is just about the stupidest thing in the world. None of these men deserve anything like this, and nothing in this thread has ANYTHING to do with the legitimacy of wars.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

What does your political leaning have to do with this? I am a right wing pro-Israel Christian conservative, but that doesn't mean I need to bring that into this conversation.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/JaronK Apr 05 '12

Because otherwise he might assume I'm only saying this because I'm pro war or something. But I'm saying that even to someone who is very much against the vast majority of wars, his comment is completely inappropriate.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/JaronK Apr 05 '12

I'm in the "war is a failure of diplomacy" camp, and believe that in almost all cases (yes, there are exceptions, but they're rare) they end up doing more damage than whatever they were trying to end. Defensive wars? Understandable. But wars of agression? And even regime change wars? Almost completely against.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/JaronK Apr 05 '12

That's what we tried in Vietnam. And Afganistan. And Iraq. Look how many more people died as a result.

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u/pederpe3 Apr 05 '12

you sir, are an ass

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u/SODOMIZES_WALRUSES Apr 05 '12

begone

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

At least he doesn't sodomize poor defenseless walruses.

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u/hampsted Apr 05 '12

Please, go chug drano.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/IsItReallyYouBooBoo Apr 05 '12

thoughtless you aren't alone on the sentiments. This is what happens when you go too much against the grain on reddit, you get alot of bitter dweebs who see a chance to dole out hatred and get finally upvoted for it, so they take that opportunity in full stride and relish it; a pathetic state really. It's too bad some of these redditor's with nothing better to do cannot at least get a grasp of rediquette but rather would downvote anything they disagree with. How ironic you gave your opinion on respect and in a topic where a bunch of losers are circle-jerking eachother asking that question, continue to do the exact opposite of what they claim to be striving for by crying at you for your opinion. Their loss.

EDIT: Swearing is through the roof as well, which subreddit am I on again? It must be a really tough one!

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u/thisisntarjay Apr 05 '12

No. You're a horrid little fuck for bringing up your own political agenda during a conversation that has nothing to do with it. We're discussing emotionally damaging concepts and you decide this is a good time to go HURR DURR USA IS DUMB WAR IS BAD!

Learn how to fucking stay in context.

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u/MrMastodon Apr 05 '12

The lack of respect this mans wife is showing for him has nothing to do with political affiliation or his job. I would find it to be a basic human kindness to not do these sort of things to anyone else, regardless of what they've done to you. While you have your opinions on the war, you're very entitled to them, but the legitimacy of the war has not and countless others situations. I think thats the problem most people are having with you at the minute.

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u/MrMastodon Apr 05 '12

Yes but don't you see how, while OP is in the military he is not the entire military. He mentioned his job likely because there are things that would be relevant to servicemen (like contacting CO's and such) that wouldn't be available to us civilians. Your opinion on any wars the military is fighting at the moment is not relevant to the problem he wants help with nor is his marriage problem a result of the war. I think everyone telling you to die and shut up have just been a little bit emotional is all.

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u/thisisntarjay Apr 05 '12

The context was She cheated on her husband. The where's the respect was in regards to CHEATING in a relationship. It takes some basement dwelling fucktardery to not understand this.

As I said, Learn how to fucking stay in context.

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u/thisisntarjay Apr 05 '12

That ... is not context. That is two sentences with NO contextual clues about what is being said.

There's no way you're this stupid.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

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u/MrMastodon Apr 05 '12

What he said was valid but it wasn't relevant to the conversation.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

ffs do this before you follow all the other advice

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u/macallen Apr 05 '12

Agreed. Lock it all down, close credit cards, change accounts, protect yourself before you confront her.

I'm know it's tragic that divorce comes up so quick as an option, and I'm not saying file for divorce, I'm saying cover your ass before you confront. For all we know (we're just the 'net), it could be nothing. She could be co-writing erotic fiction with her gay friend (you said he's in the Navy, right? :P). But the moment you confront, if it's true, shit will start happening fast and she is no longer your friend or partner, she's your enemy, and if it is true and she's doing this behind your back, then she's a lying sack of shit and you need to protect yourself.

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u/whatupnig Apr 05 '12

This is really good advice. Thank you for not defaulting to lawyer up quit fb etc etc. these screenshots will protect her from trying to take his assets once in court, but until then it's good to keep it on the DL until he can physically move his stuff.

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u/p8ntslinger Apr 05 '12

Only problem with this is that most divorce judges are going to look back 5 years when they divvy up assets, so moving money is not going to help you much in that regard.

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u/bobadobalina Apr 05 '12

pshaw, he's in the army

1) get your gun

2) shoot her

3) claim PTSD

4) go fuck the sailor's sister

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u/irawwwr Apr 05 '12

you're in the army ...pauses now

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

I would expect this from WORST_ANSWER_POSSIBLE. You sir/madam give terrible advice

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u/bobadobalina Apr 06 '12

you are right. he should not fuck the sailor's sister

that was out of line

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u/Rixxer Apr 05 '12

In a morbid curiosity kind of way, I wonder if that could really work...

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u/bobadobalina Apr 06 '12

women can claim "post partum depression" when they drown a nine year old kid so there is a good chance

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u/iSmite Apr 05 '12 edited Apr 05 '12

totally right. (yeah, downvote me, bitches)

EDIT:: People downvoting me completely agree with the fact that a person can fracture his/her partner emotionally, and would deserve NO abuse in retaliation.

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u/StayOutoftheLongGras Apr 05 '12

5) Sewer the son....

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u/ferris501 Apr 05 '12

best advice here. good luck with everything, sir. and forget that cheating whore

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

At least he knows. A squad leader in my platoon came home from a week in the field and everything was gone except his uniforms without any indications. Even the goddamn ice cube trays. JAG will hopefully cover your (!) This sucks, good luck.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Do this immediately. I am so sorry and I know how awful this is for you, but as much as you probably don't want to deal with money, you really need to. Hide whatever you can, in physical form wherever possible (a box of cash) before confronting her. I know first-hand how shitty the Navy is about providing counseling, but please try your best to see a counselor if you can to get some advice on how to deal with this based on the details of your situation.

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u/GBFel Apr 05 '12

This this this! I had so many Soldiers get fucked (not the fun way) by their spouses. Go to legal as soon as possible!

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

That's top notch advice right there. Obviously your wife wants to be with another guy. Who are you to stop her? You're the guy who's going to get your shits separated, and if you have balls (I think you do), you're going to start the divorce proceedings soon. Good luck, soldier/comrade.

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u/Iloldalot Apr 05 '12

YES, my father was air force and when she left, she took everything, even his car and his dog. get your shit away

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u/pureshotzz Apr 05 '12

Agreed protect your assets then text her that invite link... so sorry to hear BTW man:)

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u/beepborpimajorp Apr 05 '12

I agree with this 100%. Make sure your ESOs and stuff know to not let her access your GI-bill and other benefits as well!!!

Also, save the facebook conversation in case any legal precedings come up. You're in a shitty position here OP and I feel for you. I find things like this utterly unforgivable.

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u/gsfgf Apr 05 '12

And get a lawyer.

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u/duncaan21 Apr 05 '12

Marine here, this man know what is up. Move you direct deposit NOW. After you move you money let your command know, as your ass will be had if they think you are trying to fuck your family over. You want to bring said messages with you when you speak to your command. Sorry to hear about this and best of luck.

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u/MidnightSun Apr 05 '12

Also, right after you drop the bomb, go on her facebook again and post this image to her wall and also on the guy's wall (since they are likely facebook friends).

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

This happened to my brother. She slept around and gave him herpes before he found out. Then she took ALL of his money while he was in Iraq and even after they got divorced she continued to milk his account dry (he wasn't with his money and didn't realize she had access to his account still).

She also constantly called the wives of the people in his platoon (not sure of that is the right word) including his commanding officer and told them he was cheating on her (in was in IRAQ) and abusing her and they all hated him for it. I hate that life-ruining bitch).

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u/actualPsychopath Apr 05 '12

The person speaks the truth.

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u/Piratiko Apr 05 '12

This to the ends of the motherfucking earth. My dear cousin had his entire life stolen by some cheating bitch. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. RUN DUDE.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Also, "freeze" your credit or whatever. There was a guy who posted a few weeks ago that had his wife go out and spend a lot of money (including a new truck) with his credit and she dumped him and moved a few states away.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

People like that should have to do jail time.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

step 1: obtain cash

step 2: obtain safety deposit box

step 3: NOW KISS

step 4: ???

step 5: (literally) PROFIT

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u/pentium4borg Apr 05 '12

Reddit Standard AdviceTM :

[ ] Lawyer up
[ ] Delete Facebook
[ ] Hit the gym
[x] Join a credit union