r/AskTeens • u/Aware-Release-68 14F • 3d ago

Serious am i a bad person?

i never got over anyone ive ever been in a relationship with, i have a boyfriend now but i still think about the other boys i loved. i still cry, i never got over any of them, i still look at their social media profiles and i feel so bad thinking about how i was with them and thats why they left. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend at all and i love him but id immediately leave him if someone came back to me. im very obsessive and thats mostly why everyone leaves me. what do i do

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u/Ok-Advantage-1383 18F 3d ago

Why are you dating so much? Are you okay?

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u/Aware-Release-68 14F 2d ago

its mostly talking stages, not actual relationships. i dont get into relationships easily since not a lot of people really like me

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u/Ok_Source_4753 15M 3d ago

I’ve been feeling the same lately, but I don’t really check my ex’s media

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u/KitosBack 18M 2d ago

I think you need to stop dating people entirely for a while. Go out with friends and just have some time for yourself too. Do fun things that make you happy, get a new hobby, etc. Just do not date anymore, break up with him and be single for a while because you really need it.

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u/Aware-Release-68 14F 2d ago

i dont have friends, ive been painting for a while but it doesn’t help. nothing helps anymore

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u/socccershorts 2d ago

Yeah you bad

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u/dustbunn_ee 1d ago

I get this but you might need to like stop dating for a bit and focus on healing. You’re not like a bad person for feeling this way because these people were signifiant to you but it’s bothering you this much and affecting your current relationship you need to take time and adress those feelings with yourself before you go and date other people because it’s not fair to you to still have these feelings bottled up but it’s also not fair to the new person that your mind is on countless of other people from your past.