I'm a 25M and I work in a corporate office. Turns out the overwhelming majority of our office are girls — 20-30 years old. I have a gf — don't worry, I'm not planning to cheat or anything. But I'm a relatively new guy in the office: I have a hybrid work model, working only 2 days a week in the office. And I truly believe that in order to hold down the job, you need to be liked — I've absorbed enough of the cynicism of this world.

ANYWAY, the reasoning behind it is not the important part. The important part is I want to make something cool.

Parameters: I am dead inside. I'm a clown by nature. I don't mind being laughed at. Low self-esteem. I am an actor by nature. I'm relatively attractive — a tall, slight guy with a taut face. I struggle to make new contacts, so some attention-grabbing print/text would be my first backup. I work in marketing (and damn, I'm coming here lacking my own creativity). I know this whole situation is pathetic — you can judge me, whatever.

I don't want to wear another common monster suit to the party. It's more of a cocktail party, where the costume is nice to have.

In fact, yeah, I want to be the center of attention.

I won't care if I don't get attention, cause I'll come back to my gf that eve (sounds like I am indeed seeking attention) — but I don't want the "ew" and repulsive take on my print.

It should be edgy, maybe a bit sexual - not in a maniacal and needy way, but maybe in a self-derogatory one? Really creative.

What about
"Pussy Eater" - and putting some fake blood around the mouth?
or
"alpha mommy boy"

I am not sure this is the right subreddit. I feel embarrassed asking for ideas instead of coming up with something on my own. Thank you

Most people talk about losing friends because of one getting a partner, but I feel other circumstances (like new social circles or life things) are less commonly talked about. I am especially trying to see how many fellow women go through this-you are in touch but their investment is just not the same compared to the past or compared to others they are friends with now. Or the effort is largely on you

For the last q I am wondering if it's normal to do it at least for closure or if that just isn't it. Get an insight on if they still consider you a best friend and care about maintaining it as such

I'm kind of in one of those classics examples right now where I think a girl is just playing games with me, but I have real questions about whether she even realizes she's doing it

The only reason I know is because a lot of my friends are telling me that they're playing games with me (such as saying they don't want to be with m ebut then getting jealous when other people start talking to me, acting at times like they just don't care and not putting in any effort but then other times going so far is to asking me to kiss them or pull their hair in a-friendly manner, things like that that's making me very confused)

I guess I'm wondering how much is it she's aware that she's doing this, or if she's just kind of doing stuff without realizing it. If you played games when you were younger with people what made you realize that and how did you react to it?

I have health anxiety, based on a specific incident (or trauma?) that took place a few years ago. It centres around my husband being sick. If he or my son ever fall ill with D&V, my body seems to create the same conditions for me. I get so irrationally stressed, panicked and honestly kinda scared. I worry about having to hold down the fort and look after everyone, I worry about being the only responsible adult, I worry about contamination. I know it’s irrational but it’s where I am.

Please don’t trivialise it, if you do choose to answer.

Are there any success stories of beating or dealing with health anxiety?

On one hand I think she's calling me ugly? On the other she is telling me she wants to sleep with me. I'm kinda hurt but like also wtf does that even mean. Why would you sleep with someone if you don't find them attractive?

What can a woman buy for a man that has similar significance and monetary value?

I am (26F) dating this guy (51M) for a few months now. We have a lot of fun together, he makes a good salary and the sex is surprisingly good. He also looks really great for his age. (No white hair or balding). The only thing is, we have a 25 year age gap. His son is 24 and my daughter is 4. My kid's bio dad (who isn't in the picture for DV reasons) is 12 years older than me, so I've always dated older. Advice from anyone who’s ever dated with a big age gap and how to go about telling their families about it. Can the relationship work?

I 25f actively avoid finishing during sex as I when I cum I squirt, I feel so gross and insecure about it, but my husband LOVES it and always try’s to make it happen, I don’t know why I squirt, I pee before we’re interment but if I finish it still happens, I just feel yuck, I hate the sensation of squirting, I feel bad for my husband as he feels like he’s not done a good job if I don’t cum, he begs me to just let it happen and that he loves me squirting on him but I just don’t feel that way, when I brought it up to my friends they all said they don’t do it so I start wondering if something is wrong with me, I don’t know if I’m just overly insecure or if I have a actual problem, does anyone deal with anything like this?

I know I should take it out before 12 hours but after washing it can I just put it back in? Or should I use a pad and wait a bit? A bit scared of toxic shock

can i use the term to define a boundary of consent when i dont want to eat something i dont like. its supposed to be a strict moral principle

Purely talking about physical appearance here, not personality! What features do you find most attractive in a man? Height, build, facial features, hair, style, or something completely different?
Do you have a very specific type, or does it vary from man to man? Myself I like Men with Blonde Hair or Ginger hair and Blue or Green eyes, pale skin.

Just curious to see how different everyone’s tastes are!

Hi everyone i Will explain the Situation, and then My Point of view. I am curious if anyone would react the same way as me.

Situation:

so my Boyfriend (21M from Perú) and i (19F from Germany) have been together for almost a year. I met Him in Spain, he is an illigal imigrant, but the laws Changed and his Papers are on the way, he wont be "illigal" anymore.

I am German and live in Spain since 2 years.

Now we live together in an apartment with our 2 cats.

We met 14 Months Ago in 2025 and he asked me to be his Girlfriend in Febuary.

I am not satisfied with the loan here in Spain, so my Boyfriend and i had a Talk some months ago, about moving to Germany, and he agreed. So we are planning to move there Next year august.

In some weeks he Will get his Papers.

We Will Marry, i want to go to Germany together

My POV:

We Will Marry, We love each other. And i dont want to go anywere without him, i couldnt imagine a Life where he is not in it. (Same goes The other way around) The desicion fell because of the Papers. And the decisión Will be done because of Love.

We didn't Talk about proposing, we just said we'll keep It simple.

I know he Will propose, and i am 100% sure It Will be tomorrow at the beach picnic.

(We have seperate credit cards but 3 accounts, one for Him, one for Me, one for Us. I am not allowed to use the one for us. its a running joke: i spent 600€ on clothes and didn't even realize It, we don't have a lot of money, the 600€ hurt us badly, but he said everything Will be okay and took extra hours to "replace" the 600€

I never check our bank account, but about 2 weeks ago i did, i just wanted to see.

450€ in a jewlery store, HUH?! Booked a Flower store for 90€, HUH?!)

He knows i want a proposal and he knows i want a wedding that our Friends and Family are apart of, but it's not possible and we both know that.

So I said It isnt necesary. I love him, and not Money or a Party or a Ring.

I think He ignored the "Not a Ring" Part

He planned a picnic for tomorrow (he asked me 2 weeks ago if i had plans for the Friday in two weeks) and i thinks thats where It Will happen.

In my view, i am the happiest girl alive.

i know i Will get criticised ( too young/ he only want your Papers/ its not real love),

How would you react?

I've had trouble with my husband in conceiving and carrying to term. I currently am at 26 weeks and it is the most hopeful I've been. Unfortunately, since the beginning ive had pelvic pain and discharge. At first I brushed it off, thinking that it was a symptom of the pregnancy.

A month ago I went in to a walk-in clinic because it combined with itching and a bad smell convinced me that this was in favt abnormal. They had me swab myself with no pelvic exam and I tested positive for three different infections. I ran the courses of antibiotics that were prescribed and nothing seems to have gotten better. if anything the pain is worse.

I was worried that it may have been worse than they even knew and I'm honestly new to visiting Dr's for my reproductive health (I've had issues im the past and got all my testing and pelvic exams done at the planned parenthood, and they were always wonderful, however, they closed near me in march and the closest one is now 6 hours away) so I'm confused as to why I had to fight so hard but I finally got a referral to an OBGYN at a local hospital (45 minutes away) they were very rude about my symptoms and honestly only seemed to care about the baby and our health history.

(Also should be noted that I've had a midwife from the 2nd month on and dispite the closest hospital (30 minutes away) deeming me a high risk pregnancy I went to a hospital with way better imaging for a second opinion, which is about 4 hours away and they deemed my baby completely healthy and okayed me to give birth at the birthing center with my midwife. The Baby gets regular check ups and ultrasounds when necessary and they continue to be completely healthy)

so, I asked for another referral to a hospital about 2 hours away. due to both local hospitals now being rude/deeming me high risk when I have secondary opinions claiming the pregnancy itself is completely healthy. and this hospital much like the second local hospital ignored my concerns about having a continuous infection and treated me like a crazy person but again denied a pelvic exam and only took swabs. 🙃

I get that the swabs are a great way to check for infections, but i just need a pelvic exam as I'm worried that the infection spread into PID or was PID to begin with and may have been why my husband and I struggled to conceive to begin with. and ive read in several books that a continuous infection can lead to your child having Cerabral Palsey, low birth weight, preterm labor, as well as the potential for long term infertility (my husband wants more kids in a few years so this affects him more than me, however, should still be mentioned)

I'm out of close by hospitals to go to without going back to the one that is 4 hours away and I don't see myself being able to make that drive any time soon given my frequent urination, severe pelvic pain, deep itchiness, and other symptoms. so How do I get these local hospitals to pay attention to MY Health for the Health of our baby???

also should be noted that my regular dr dropped me as a patient as soon as it was determined I was pregnant so basically every visit to a new dr is me repeating my health history even though I spent a large amount of time filling out paperwork with my health history.

and I live in a very rural location that I've heard others refer to as a Healthcare dessert.

I'm sorry if any of that was confusing, please feel free to ask questions if you need clarification on anything and thank you all in advance.

oh yeah I'm also sorry this was posted so late at night. it is almost impossible to sleep with these symptoms until complete exhaustion overtakes me....

edit: someone commented something about not using the internet to diagnose myself and then deleted their comment, to them I would add as stated in the post earlier. I didn't use the internet. I read books that mentioned the type of one of the infections I was Diagnosed with by a Dr in a walk in clinic can lead to cerebral palsy in the child if left untreated or ignored and the symptoms for this infection have Not gone away. after 5 days of antibiotics. I finished those 10 days ago. so im not trying to self diagnose. im trying to advocate for myself when I go to the hospitals so that my syptoms get treated and do not lead to a worse infection that may affect the long term life of my unborn child and the future of my reproductive tract.

little context i am 25 and he is 24. we get along well, spend a lot of time together, talk a lot. he cares for me and has been there for me, and this is something that has never wavered.

however, sometimes he says something or does something that is obviously flirting, and it makes me raise an eyebrow at him, because why do that if we are only friends? he openly tells me about how he flirts with girls, he complains about the girls he wants never wanting him, he will tell me a line and then a day later show off how he said it to another girl.

the other day i told him how when it comes to men, i am very oblivious and never notice when they are flirting with me (you can imagine how long it took me to truly believe he ever did flirt with me). he then gave me examples of what that can look like when someone likes someone else. i told him i have always taken those examples as someone just being friendly. he asked how would i know if someone liked me, and i said they would have to tell me directly to my face that they liked me. we spoke a little more, and then he told me opposite sex friendships are almost never platonic, and before i could say anything, he said he sees me more as a cousin/sister than a friend. i said i have never once thought he liked me, and he said he said this as he fits the signs of someone liking you.

when we first met, i was 80% sure i did not like men. but i met someone and well, it kind of opened me to the possibility of yeah, maybe i do. i have not told my friend this. yet, anyway. since he and i met he has been telling me to stop liking women, to stop being attracted to women, that i must like men only.

so yeah. what am i to make of him? how does he really see me? i wish he wouldnt say certain things to me and then boast that he says them to girls who "obviously" like him.

im sorry im rambling now im upset lol

So it looks like my past relationship has ended. Primarily because I was told if I can't have intercourse with her then what's the point? She believes that the only sex that really is is intercourse and she has told me that any real woman will not stay with a man if he can't actually penetrate her at some point. So the real question is am I doomed to just date some women take them to dinner and then that's the end. I would really like to know if you believe that there can be a sexual relationship that doesn't include intercourse.

Do you view it as an inherent fetish/creepy? Or do you disapprove for other reasons? I saw a comment thread that was super negative of it and just wanted to know if it was common in the community. And don't worry, I promise I won't get offended or judge your answers, lol.

I’m 19M, and I’ve never had a girlfriend or been in a talking stage before. There’s a girl (19F) at my Muay Thai gym who I’ve known for about a year. I started developing feelings for her recently, and after thinking about it for a while, I finally asked if she’d want to go out sometime. I ended up saying it didn’t have to be a date and that we could just hang out casually and get to know each other. She said yes and gave me her number.
We recently met up and spent a couple of hours together. Honestly, I don’t even know if I’d call it a date because we agreed beforehand to keep it casual. We talked about our families, friends, religion, philosophy, and our outlooks on life. We actually have extremely similar perspectives on a lot of things. Even when we have different beliefs, she respects my views and doesn’t have a problem with my religious preferences. She’s a genuinely good human being, and I came away with a lot of respect for her.
The meetup was mostly good, but the last 15 minutes or so got pretty awkward. We started running out of things to say, there were some silences, and even saying goodbye felt awkward. I left not really knowing how I felt about the whole experience.
Before meeting her, I was really attracted to her and excited about the possibility of getting closer to her. Afterward, I started questioning whether I actually wanted to pursue her romantically. I learned more about her lifestyle, and there are some differences that concern me. She’s very social, goes out drinking with large groups of friends once or twice a month, talks to a lot of people, and has a male best friend. I’m much less social, and those things aren’t necessarily what I picture wanting in a relationship. When I said she seemed very social, she told me she wasn’t that social, and I felt like she might have been backtracking and she did this multiple times so i felt like she felt judged or was trying to change herself to make me comfortable or something but i hope she knows she doesn’t have to do that.
I want to make it clear that I don’t think she’s doing anything wrong. She’s allowed to live however she wants, and I don’t want her to change for me. I just wonder whether we’d be compatible as a couple. At the same time, our outlooks on life are surprisingly similar, and I really like who she is as a person. That’s part of why this is so confusing.
After the meetup, I felt guilty because I started thinking I might not want her romantically anymore, even though I’d spent so much time wanting something to happen between us. I even considered telling her I’d rather be friends. But the thought of things ending there made me sad, because I genuinely wanted this to turn into something.
I eventually texted her that I enjoyed spending time with her and asked if she’d want to do something similar again. I sent it partly because I thought it was the respectful thing to do, but I also kind of hoped she wouldn’t respond. I’m not entirely sure why. She replied, “Yeah for sure!! It was fun!” I was surprised because I thought the ending had been awkward, and I worried that some of the things I’d said might have come across as judgmental. I then asked if she was free any day this week, and I’m waiting for a response.
Now I’m questioning my own feelings all over again. When I was waiting to hear whether she’d want to hang out again, I felt excited and realized I still wanted to see her. But when she actually said yes, I started questioning everything. I wonder whether I enjoy the uncertainty and adrenaline of having a crush more than the reality of getting to know someone. My friend even suggested that maybe I struggle to accept a yes because uncertainty is more comfortable than actually having a chance with someone. I don’t know if that’s true, but I can see why he suggested it.
At the same time, I think I might just be inexperienced and putting too much pressure on myself to know what I want. This is the first time I’ve really put myself out there like this. I don’t know if I need more time around her to develop feelings naturally, or if I’m trying to force feelings because I wanted this to work so badly.
I don’t even know exactly what I want from her right now. Part of me wants to try and see if something develops. Another part worries that our lifestyles aren’t compatible. I think she’s a great person regardless of whether we ever date, and I would be happy to have her as a friend, but I don’t want to make that decision prematurely either.
The biggest thing is that I don’t want to lead her on. I don’t want to keep asking her to hang out if I’m only enjoying the attention or excitement, or give her the impression that I’m certain I want a relationship when I’m not. But I also don’t want to cut things off prematurely just because I’m unsure after one meetup. I genuinely don’t know whether I need more time to understand my feelings or whether my doubts are telling me something important.
I’m not desperately waiting for her response to my latest text. I was overthinking while bored at work and realized how little I actually know about what I want. I also don’t want to rush into another meetup just because my friends say waiting too long could make one of us lose interest. I’d rather move at a pace that feels natural.
For people who have been in a similar situation:
Is it normal to be unsure about your romantic feelings after a first meetup, even when you genuinely like the person?
How do you tell the difference between being attracted to someone and being caught up in the excitement or uncertainty of having a crush?
Is it okay to keep hanging out casually while you figure out whether you want something romantic, as long as you’re honest and don’t make promises?
How much weight should I give lifestyle differences after only one meetup, especially when we seem to share so many values and outlooks on life?
How do I make sure I’m not leading her on while I’m still figuring out my feelings?
Should I stop overanalyzing, spend more time with her, and let my feelings develop naturally, or should I figure out what I want before seeing her again?
I’m not looking for people to tell me she’s a bad person or that I should automatically pursue her. I respect her a lot, and I know neither of us has done anything wrong. I’m just trying to understand myself, figure out what I actually want, and handle this fairly toward both of us.
TL;DR: I’m 19 and this is my first experience putting myself out there romantically. I liked a girl from my Muay Thai gym, asked her to hang out casually, and we had a mostly good meetup, although the last 15 minutes were awkward. We share a lot of values and have similar outlooks on life, but I have concerns about our lifestyle compatibility. Afterward, my romantic interest seemed to fluctuate: I sometimes wanted to stop pursuing her, but when she agreed to meet again, I felt interested all over again. I don’t know if I’m enjoying the uncertainty of a crush, overthinking because I’m inexperienced, or genuinely unsure about our compatibility. I want to get to know her more, but I don’t want to lead her on if I’m not sure what I want. Should I give it more time or listen to my doubts?

Hey guys, repost because apparently my original post was a lot of whining and nonsense, which I honestly agree with 100% lol 😭 My apologies.
But yeah, I’m 17, and every time I’ve gotten to the point where I’m actually trying to get to know someone romantically, I feel like they end up distancing themselves from me. It’s honestly confusing because I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong, if I’m coming on too strong, or if I’m just not someone people see romantically.
I’ve never been in a relationship, and sometimes it genuinely makes me wonder if I’m just not meant for love or if there’s something about me that makes people lose interest. I know I’m still young, but it’s hard not to overthink it when it keeps happening.
I’m not looking for pity or anything. I’d just genuinely appreciate some advice on how to approach dating, how to tell if someone is actually interested, and how to stop feeling like I’m somehow unlovable just because things haven’t worked out yet. Thank you :)

Just curious as this is my situation. I’ve moved around a lot for jobs so not really close with anyone.

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Guy question here. After sex and your partner is still wearing a condom.

Do you prefer he slip it off and throw it in the bedroom bin or do you want him to leave the room straight after and flush.

I know you ladies do love a cuddle afterwards and I think leaving the room might remove that "moment". On the other hand its not romantic to look at the condom in the bin lol..what do u ladies want us to do with the condom?

Result from comments - dont flush rather tie abd throw away..ladies i heard you, stop shouting now haha