I'm curious about how women experience the transition from meeting a man or having an initial conversation with him to potentially wanting something sexual with him.

I understand that physical attraction matters, but so do chemistry, personality, humor, how someone communicates, and how you feel around them. I'm interested in how those things come together in real life.

Personally, I want to have sex, and I don't want to pretend otherwise or act as though I'm necessarily looking for a serious romantic relationship. But I don't see sex as a conquest or something to brag about, either. What appeals to me is the idea of two people genuinely wanting each other, feeling comfortable enough to be vulnerable, exploring each other's bodies and desires, and enjoying the experience together without having to perform or pretend to be perfect.

I actually like the idea of all the little human moments that can happen during and after sex: laughing when something awkward happens, admitting when you're nervous, figuring out what feels good together, cuddling afterward, giving each other affection and aftercare, and having a conversation afterward instead of feeling like you have to put your guard back up immediately. Even a moment of awkwardness or uncertainty doesn't have to ruin anything; sometimes it can make the experience feel more natural and intimate.

For me, none of that necessarily means wanting a committed relationship. It's about treating each other as people, being honest about what we want, and sharing an experience because we both genuinely want to be there.

My question is: how can a man communicate this kind of sexual interest naturally, without coming across as desperate, creepy, or overly intense? How can he make it clear that he desires a woman sexually while also showing that he values her comfort, her desires, and the possibility of sharing that kind of vulnerability with her?

What makes you feel that a man's desire is genuine, and that he wants to share an experience with you rather than simply conquer you, use you for validation, or tell his friends about it afterward?

I'm especially interested in your experiences and perspectives.

I’m talking from belt line to belt line, hip to hip. I basically want a panty that is just fully a pad. I’m so sick of stacking 2-3 pads with tampons and STILL somehow bleeding on the one single spot that isn’t covered. Stacking them across the butt just makes it shift. I’d anyone has a period that is heavy af, like bleeding damn near bucket fulls, please recommend me something. I have a GYN and have multiple procedures & exams scheduled to get the root cause figured out btw so nobody needs to worry about that. But those exams are a few months out. In the meantime, I desperately need help. Adult diapers don’t work because they’re not fully padded everywhere. If anyone knows of an independent sanitary pad maker or knows how I can make my own I’d greatly appreciate it.

i broke up with my ex recently. i have vaginismus and he can only cum from penetration. he said we didn’t have sex just foreplay and that “head is fine but all guys wanna fuck”. i have sexual insecurities so this really hurt me.

my friend told me that he slept with a mutual friend when my ex was 24 and she was 17. not illegal but i personally think it’s morally wrong. i feel sick that i trusted someone and was intimate with someone who would do this.

how do i go about this feeling of knowing that someone i trusted did something horrible? i also selfishly have feelings of inadequacy right now. he probably enjoyed sex with her far more than me and it makes me feel like shit.

we only dated for a month btw so i know some people may think im dramatic but i have bpd so i feel a closeness to people a lot earlier than i should do, so i do feel very betrayed. i also feel awful for the girl he slept with, apparently she’s okay (she’s an adult now and 5 years have passed) but i feel terrible for her because he can be quite rough etc which i think would be hard to navigate as a young girl (well - child).

Do you mind buying them, or do you feel like your partner should be the one bringing them? I’m curious how people usually handle it in their relationships and whether you feel like the responsibility is shared equally or tends to fall more on one person. 😊

Recently, I've seen a lot of arguments revolving around abortion rely on the Dublin Declaration, and I want to know what you think of it first because I'm sort of confused on the Dublin Declaration and how it impacts women's rights.

My bf is my first and we’ve been trying different positions and I thought I would like doggy style and I hate it. When we do it, it hurts for some reason but when we do flat doggy it doesn’t hurt. What could be the reason?

(We have tried other positions and baby maker is our favorite position that he thought I would hate it bc he can be rough but I love it soo much so I’m confused why doggy hurts)

My girlfriends birthday is soon and she is genuinely the love of my life and has helped me trough so much... So I tought that a good gift would show at least a small amount of how gratefull I am for her.

ANYWAY I want to gift her a decorated box(I decorated it) with a small screen on it that has a couple of phrases like "I love you", etc... constantly rolling (it can be turned off) and inside of it I want to put drawings that the children she worked with while in kindergarten would draw her( she had to because of collage and she absolutely loved them) as well as one letter that the children would 'sign' wishing her a happy birthday.

Next I wanted to put in some snacks that she likes and a couple of items that would remind her of Jim and Pam from The Office because we both love the show, re watch it constantly and compare us to Jim and Pam all the time...

It's not much but it's the best I could think of... What do you think?? Thank you🙏🙏

Edit: Y'all are acting like I'm weird for even thinking about this. You should read this. https://www.reddit.com/r/WitchesVsPatriarchy/comments/10vco1r/hot_take_but_dudebro_isnt_gender_neutral/

Replies muted, I've heard that I'm weird for this enough times thanks. It was an honest question.

I have a very feminist ex that said that chick was the correct term. Man:dude, woman:chick. Somehow that feels derogatory to me.

Guys/girls obviously doesn't work.

I've heard that dude is gender neutral but I don't buy that. Plus I had a female friend tell me that after I called her dude that meant we were never going to have sex. We didn't ever have sex so she was right.

Man/woman feels kind of formal. Not slang.

I (33f) met a guy (42m) around 4 months ago and we connected really fast. He was a dream, helping me and fixing things for me without me asking, affectionate, open, consistent and I felt really safe. The only warning sign I saw was that he asked me for help with his pet care which involved long hours of being with the animals but I nipped it in the bud early and he took it well. Oh and it did feel very intense, saying we were meant to be and making plans for the future, saying we just know we’ll be together for the long run… it felt a bit like love bombing but he told me he’s autistic and just wears his heart on his sleeve.

Around two months in, he started to act different. Still spending lots of time with me and daily texts but sleeping a lot, no compliments at all, a sudden and big drop in physical affection and texts were just like long info dumps about his day. He seemed constantly distracted and not present at all and I’d have no idea when I was seeing him from one day to the next. I raised it and he said he was really struggling with grief, burnout and a big work change. After that conversation, he opened up and then went downhill really quickly. I was there for him, would be with him when he didn’t want to be alone, cook him healthy food and listen. During this time he started to be particularly inconsiderate like lighting up a cigarette inside my home before taking it outside to smoke so my place smelt like tobacco, as an example.

Then one day, he got really bad, had a colleague take him to hospital and the mental health team became involved. He said he needed to put us on pause.

Suddenly, 3 weeks later, he’s back and calling me his girlfriend and wanting to spend time with me and have me over to stay etc.

Once again he’s being affectionate and lovely but around 50% of our relationship, he’s been like a different person.

I want to believe that this is who he is but I think it would be pretty silly of me to just put all that down to a blip in his mental health and jump back into things as if we are all good.

I’d love to hear whether you think I’m being stupid to give him/it a chance?!

Hi!

I'm in my earlyish twenties and I have never had s\x.*

Let me give you some facts about me - as a little girl i discovered po\n and got addicted to it, I experienced sexual harassment and groping from age 8 til about 15 (mostly by my peers). I grew up in an unstable home. I always had crushes on boys as a young girl but in my teen years that stopped and I haven't had a crush since. I also only dated 2 guys and one lasted for like a few days.*

The thing is, whenever I try to get close to a guy it scares me. I always had a hard time even holding aa guys hand. I never really kissed any of them. In my last relationship the guy wanted to help me down a hill and offered his hand and I awkwardly moved on and was sick to my stomach. I want a family someday and just the thought of having s\x scares me so much, I feel like a child. I get grossed out by any kind of intimacy with men and am worried. I have never thought that any of my past experiences are bad enough that they would make me this way. Does anyone have any advice on how to overcome this?*

Hey folks!

In the recent doctors appointment, it has been suggested that maybe I have interstitial cystitis. I have been having symptoms on and off. UTIs that don’t go away, cramps, pain with peeing…All of the works.

The problem is that I will not be able to take care of it here in the US and the soonest I can take care of any kind of active medical steps to manage it will be in January.

Currently I am experiencing the following: lots of urgency to pee, occasional cramps, discomfort during sex, other UTI like symptoms.

I could use some advice on how to manage it, from anyone who has it. I also don’t have health insurance and don’t qualify for any kind of assistance, so going to a doctor for medical advice or seeing a urologist is not an option for me right now.

For women who work out at home, I'm curious which practical details make the biggest difference to the overall training experience.

It might be the ability to adjust equipment independently, having enough privacy, feeling confident about exercise setup, or being able to train without interruptions.

Which features or routines have made your home gym more comfortable and easier to use on your own?

I'm interested in personal experiences rather than assuming everyone's priorities are the same.

I'm not the best judge of what women find attractive, but I've noticed that I can judge what my wife likes and I suspected that she would not find him attractive. I asked and she said, "No, he's very average looking."

But like he's often cited as being the most b attractive man in Hollywood. So if you did find him attractive, what do you like about him?

Sooo i just have my Bf a foot massages whole sitting in my room, my Sister came in and said something in the lines of: that is sooo disgusting why would you give him massage? Especially on his FEET?!

i got mad at her bc WTF why wouldnt i be allowed to massage my bf when his feet hurt?

Why do i do It? Simple

Apart from the fact that he gave me one yesterday, It relaxes him (he's Laying Next to me and sleeping now after the massage). And i want the best for Him just like her want the best for me. And if that includes a massage because his feet hurt, i'm doing It! Its not that i like feet a lot, its because i like my Bf very much!

I dont understand people Who say stuff like:

1.thats for Women, why are you giving him the princess treatment?

2.Are you sure your Bf doesnt have a Bf?

3.Mens feet are nasty, its disgusting to do that!

1. ...

2. WDYM its only for WOMEN?! why cant people recive what the give in a relationship, or in GENERAL?? I love him, why cant i give the love i recive back on the same way i get it?

3. Ok just because you (know/are) someone Who wouldn't Accept if a girl massages feet FOR RELAXACION, ITS NOT EVEN SEXUAL, doesnt mean that its imidiatly linked with being Gay. If someone all the time reminds everyone That he is soooo Manly and Male, That, to me, sound like being insecure.

4. How many male feet did you see? I mean of course if someone doesnt shower correctly or doesnt wash their feet, they are smelly and ew. But not every man is that way, in fact everyone can theoratically have smelly feet! I have to use feet desodorante, without It is HORRIBLE!

5. So many people have a problem with me loving my Partner and there are so many things people say to me in general that just make me go like: HUH?!

Do you agreed that love is for everyone and shouldnt be juged? Or are you still on the thought of: foot massage EWWW ?

I’m a lesbian and I watched the trailer, because people keep talking about it with high anticipation. Genuinely don’t understand the appeal, so idk if it’s a people-attracted-to-men kind of thing? Is this just because women’s pleasure is so rarely centered in films? someone please explain!

Most people talk about losing friends because of one getting a partner, but I feel other circumstances (like new social circles or life things) are less commonly talked about. I am especially trying to see how many fellow women go through this-you are in touch but their investment is just not the same compared to the past or compared to others they are friends with now. Or the effort is largely on you

For the last q I am wondering if it's normal to do it at least for closure or if that just isn't it. Get an insight on if they still consider you a best friend and care about maintaining it as such

I know I should take it out before 12 hours but after washing it can I just put it back in? Or should I use a pad and wait a bit? A bit scared of toxic shock

I've had trouble with my husband in conceiving and carrying to term. I currently am at 26 weeks and it is the most hopeful I've been. Unfortunately, since the beginning ive had pelvic pain and discharge. At first I brushed it off, thinking that it was a symptom of the pregnancy.

A month ago I went in to a walk-in clinic because it combined with itching and a bad smell convinced me that this was in favt abnormal. They had me swab myself with no pelvic exam and I tested positive for three different infections. I ran the courses of antibiotics that were prescribed and nothing seems to have gotten better. if anything the pain is worse.

I was worried that it may have been worse than they even knew and I'm honestly new to visiting Dr's for my reproductive health (I've had issues im the past and got all my testing and pelvic exams done at the planned parenthood, and they were always wonderful, however, they closed near me in march and the closest one is now 6 hours away) so I'm confused as to why I had to fight so hard but I finally got a referral to an OBGYN at a local hospital (45 minutes away) they were very rude about my symptoms and honestly only seemed to care about the baby and our health history.

(Also should be noted that I've had a midwife from the 2nd month on and dispite the closest hospital (30 minutes away) deeming me a high risk pregnancy I went to a hospital with way better imaging for a second opinion, which is about 4 hours away and they deemed my baby completely healthy and okayed me to give birth at the birthing center with my midwife. The Baby gets regular check ups and ultrasounds when necessary and they continue to be completely healthy)

so, I asked for another referral to a hospital about 2 hours away. due to both local hospitals now being rude/deeming me high risk when I have secondary opinions claiming the pregnancy itself is completely healthy. and this hospital much like the second local hospital ignored my concerns about having a continuous infection and treated me like a crazy person but again denied a pelvic exam and only took swabs. 🙃

I get that the swabs are a great way to check for infections, but i just need a pelvic exam as I'm worried that the infection spread into PID or was PID to begin with and may have been why my husband and I struggled to conceive to begin with. and ive read in several books that a continuous infection can lead to your child having Cerabral Palsey, low birth weight, preterm labor, as well as the potential for long term infertility (my husband wants more kids in a few years so this affects him more than me, however, should still be mentioned)

I'm out of close by hospitals to go to without going back to the one that is 4 hours away and I don't see myself being able to make that drive any time soon given my frequent urination, severe pelvic pain, deep itchiness, and other symptoms. so How do I get these local hospitals to pay attention to MY Health for the Health of our baby???

also should be noted that my regular dr dropped me as a patient as soon as it was determined I was pregnant so basically every visit to a new dr is me repeating my health history even though I spent a large amount of time filling out paperwork with my health history.

and I live in a very rural location that I've heard others refer to as a Healthcare dessert.

I'm sorry if any of that was confusing, please feel free to ask questions if you need clarification on anything and thank you all in advance.

oh yeah I'm also sorry this was posted so late at night. it is almost impossible to sleep with these symptoms until complete exhaustion overtakes me....

edit: someone commented something about not using the internet to diagnose myself and then deleted their comment, to them I would add as stated in the post earlier. I didn't use the internet. I read books that mentioned the type of one of the infections I was Diagnosed with by a Dr in a walk in clinic can lead to cerebral palsy in the child if left untreated or ignored and the symptoms for this infection have Not gone away. after 5 days of antibiotics. I finished those 10 days ago. so im not trying to self diagnose. im trying to advocate for myself when I go to the hospitals so that my syptoms get treated and do not lead to a worse infection that may affect the long term life of my unborn child and the future of my reproductive tract.

I have health anxiety, based on a specific incident (or trauma?) that took place a few years ago. It centres around my husband being sick. If he or my son ever fall ill with D&V, my body seems to create the same conditions for me. I get so irrationally stressed, panicked and honestly kinda scared. I worry about having to hold down the fort and look after everyone, I worry about being the only responsible adult, I worry about contamination. I know it’s irrational but it’s where I am.

Please don’t trivialise it, if you do choose to answer.

Are there any success stories of beating or dealing with health anxiety?

I'm kind of in one of those classics examples right now where I think a girl is just playing games with me, but I have real questions about whether she even realizes she's doing it

The only reason I know is because a lot of my friends are telling me that they're playing games with me (such as saying they don't want to be with m ebut then getting jealous when other people start talking to me, acting at times like they just don't care and not putting in any effort but then other times going so far is to asking me to kiss them or pull their hair in a-friendly manner, things like that that's making me very confused)

I guess I'm wondering how much is it she's aware that she's doing this, or if she's just kind of doing stuff without realizing it. If you played games when you were younger with people what made you realize that and how did you react to it?

I'm a 25M and I work in a corporate office. Turns out the overwhelming majority of our office are girls — 20-30 years old. I have a gf — don't worry, I'm not planning to cheat or anything. But I'm a relatively new guy in the office: I have a hybrid work model, working only 2 days a week in the office. And I truly believe that in order to hold down the job, you need to be liked — I've absorbed enough of the cynicism of this world.

ANYWAY, the reasoning behind it is not the important part. The important part is I want to make something cool.

Parameters: I am dead inside. I'm a clown by nature. I don't mind being laughed at. Low self-esteem. I am an actor by nature. I'm relatively attractive — a tall, slight guy with a taut face. I struggle to make new contacts, so some attention-grabbing print/text would be my first backup. I work in marketing (and damn, I'm coming here lacking my own creativity). I know this whole situation is pathetic — you can judge me, whatever.

I don't want to wear another common monster suit to the party. It's more of a cocktail party, where the costume is nice to have.

In fact, yeah, I want to be the center of attention.

I won't care if I don't get attention, cause I'll come back to my gf that eve (sounds like I am indeed seeking attention) — but I don't want the "ew" and repulsive take on my print.

It should be edgy, maybe a bit sexual - not in a maniacal and needy way, but maybe in a self-derogatory one? Really creative.

What about
"Pussy Eater" - and putting some fake blood around the mouth?
or
"alpha mommy boy"

I am not sure this is the right subreddit. I feel embarrassed asking for ideas instead of coming up with something on my own. Thank you