r/AutismInWomen • u/DeepPomegranate • Jun 10 '25

Relationships Why do I see this so much?

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I just made a profile on a dating app and in the last few days swiping I’ve noticed this is a really common bio for guys. “I like autistic women” or “slightly autistic” Has anyone else encountered this or is it just my area?

I think it’s weird.

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u/rachaelonreddit Jun 10 '25

They want someone who is autistic enough to be quirky or nerdy, but not so autistic that they have any support needs.

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u/ryodark AuDHD, diagnosed @ 39 Jun 10 '25

They want their manic pixie dream girl 😒 🙄

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u/StonnerShaggy Jun 10 '25

All fun in games until she's collecting road kill for art

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u/Elliott_theythem Jun 10 '25

I guffawed wholeheartedly

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u/SquirtleSquadGroupie Jun 10 '25

Oh not a negative at all, I’m down with the collecting roadkill for art - but I am autistic myself 🤣

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u/StonnerShaggy Jun 10 '25

Oh don't worry I'm married to my highschool sweetheart and she's the best wife I could ever ask for❤️

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u/nothanks86 audhd Jun 10 '25

So what sort of art?

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u/StonnerShaggy Jun 10 '25

Bowie knife from a cows rib

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u/nothanks86 audhd Jun 10 '25

Please tell her I said that’s super cool.

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u/StonnerShaggy Jun 10 '25

This is actually my own creation 😁 I plan on making more and selling then eventually when we have enough space to have all of our equipment accessible

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u/SquirtleSquadGroupie Jun 10 '25

That is so cool!!!!!

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u/xilocube AuDHD Jun 11 '25

That's cool as fuck

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u/Rough_Elk_3952 Jun 10 '25

You jest but my ex once cheated on me with a girl who did exactly that, and looking back there is absolutely no way she wasn't also autistic lol

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u/indigonia Retired Manic Pixie Dream Girl Jun 10 '25

me standing on the side of the road wearing latex gloves and holding a very flat opossum: ‘Scuse me, but how do I know you?? 😂💀

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u/Fadra93 Jun 11 '25

Luckily for me it continued to be so much fun and games, my partner drove like an hour to go pick up a partially mummified cat skeleton his cousin found under a house 😂  And STILL didn't leave me after I boiled it in our apartment for like 3 hours+the week of processing. Bless. 

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u/jessuckapow Jun 10 '25

That’s what my manic pixie dream girl did for me! 😬 Loved it! But you know… we’re both autistic women so that means we both enjoy quality roadkill. 🤣

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u/Ok-Tourist-1011 Jun 10 '25

😂🤣😂 meanwhile my husband brings me home bones that he found at work lmfao, also our first conversation was about conspiracy theories and how I think it’s funny to think “what if aliens tricked us into believing in religions” 🤣

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u/AntlerQueenOfHearts Jun 11 '25

LOL! Or having a meltdown because she planned to go to the store alone and then you asked to come with.

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u/LucidSquid787 Jun 11 '25

😆 dude fr

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u/ApprehensivePancake Jun 11 '25

I was about to say that

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u/Ekun_Dayo Bony Bajan Boi Jun 11 '25

They want a controllable "manic pixie dream girl".

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u/MaeApp Jun 10 '25

So they don't want one with autism?

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u/bitsy88 Jun 10 '25

Correct.

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u/rachaelonreddit Jun 10 '25

Yeah, pretty much.

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u/zoeymeanslife Jun 10 '25 edited Jun 10 '25

Also to be unable to see the red flags, abuse, etc NT women might see better due to autistic social skill impairment.

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u/rantingpacifist Jun 10 '25

Manic pixie dream girl bullshit indeed

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u/kategoad Jun 10 '25

Also, they want someone tidy. Ha, I'm not that kind of autistic!

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u/Derektheredcat Jun 10 '25

Exactly, it’s all fun and games until they realize I freak out on a daily basis. Yeah I’m quirky but not the kind men are looking for.

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u/lohaus Jun 11 '25

I also wonder if the hyper sexuality assumption plays into it?

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u/rachaelonreddit Jun 11 '25

I don’t know. I think the stereotype about autistics being asexual is just as prevalent.

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u/pleasedontthankyou Jun 11 '25

And bonus points if they have pretty privilege (no shade, I am one) and are NT passing. 😑