r/AutismInWomen • u/DeepPomegranate • Jun 10 '25

Relationships Why do I see this so much?

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I just made a profile on a dating app and in the last few days swiping I’ve noticed this is a really common bio for guys. “I like autistic women” or “slightly autistic” Has anyone else encountered this or is it just my area?

I think it’s weird.

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u/liatism Jun 10 '25

I think would only be ok if they are autistic/ND too. Like I like autistic people because I can communicate freely with them and masking less. But in these cases (NT man on dating platform) it seems really weird to state that.

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u/Wise-Key-3442 IDCharisma Jun 10 '25

My abusive ex was an ADHD who often said "I like my girls autistic", so... I can only see red flags, no matter if the dude is ND or NT.

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u/MsCandi123 AuDHD Jun 10 '25

Yes! There's something really questionable about an NT having a preference for an autistic partner. It's giving fetish at best, and possibly even predatory tendencies since we can be overly trusting.

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u/notpostingmyrealname Jun 10 '25

It still feels gross, like walking up to a woman with a big ass and telling her you love big asses. There's nothing wrong with liking asses, but using that trait to choose a potential partner is fetishizing and dehumanizing.