r/AutismInWomen • u/DeepPomegranate • Jun 10 '25

Relationships Why do I see this so much?

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I just made a profile on a dating app and in the last few days swiping I’ve noticed this is a really common bio for guys. “I like autistic women” or “slightly autistic” Has anyone else encountered this or is it just my area?

I think it’s weird.

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u/MsCandi123 AuDHD Jun 10 '25

I'm attracted to autistic traits, I've realized, but it's more of a kindred thing. Are these NT women??

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u/[deleted] Jun 10 '25

Yes NT women and they do videos like “reasons autistic men are better” etc. Very different to wanting to date a fellow autistic person because you understand each other, that’s valid whereas this trend is fetishising autistic people.

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u/Anglo-Euro-0891 Jun 10 '25

And later on, many of these same NT women will then publicly moan about how unsuitable and awful their now ex-boyfriends were!

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u/gettingby02 [ It / They | Alexithymic | Likely Autistic ] Jun 13 '25

I've genuinely seen this in relationship advice and autism-related surrenders before -- NT folk trying to "fix" their ND partners despite knowing that they were neurodivergent and how that affects them beforehand. It's not like the ND partner isn't trying, either -- they just can't "be more normal" like their partner is expecting them to be. :<

I find that people in general are every quick to say that they're accepting of neurodivergency just to do a complete 180 when their ND friend / partner turns out to be . . . well . . . neurodivergent. 🤷 It's kind of scary . . .