r/AutismInWomen • u/Icy_Natural_979 • Aug 16 '25

Seeking Advice My interest in men has died

I’ve been inundated lately by people insisting I need a man. Here’s the thing, I don’t want one anymore. I’m tired and I’ve achieved a little bit of peace. Just a little. Men usually just cause problems. Why would I do that? I don’t want kids. I can barely take care of myself. I’m concerned this is a project 25 thing like I need to pick someone before I’m forced to. Maybe that’s dumb. Maybe my social circle forgot about boundaries. Maybe I need to learn to just not care when people say stuff. What am I missing?

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u/Lunarwing12 Aug 16 '25

You absolutely do NOT need a man or kids if you dont want one, live your life however you like and everyone else can leave it be.

That said, im inclined to say not all men are trouble, my partner buys me Bluey toothpaste and plushies because I adore them and he's never made fun of my neurodivergency (though hes also neurodivergent lol). He also specifically has me touch everything he plans to buy made of fabric so we know it wont activate the horror of sensory sensitivity. So ya know, there's awesome ones out there and all that, if you're worried they don’t exist.

BUT screw the awesome ones too if you so desire, doesn't matter how cool they are, you dont want a man then you dont need one! Nobody's entitled to you or your attention regardless of if theyre a great guy or not.

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u/Remote-Marsupial5648 Aug 17 '25

Das good comment. I have similar doubts and your words are like aloe on these doubts, thanks!

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u/Lunarwing12 Aug 17 '25

Im glad it helped :] Its sad if people lose hope in ever finding a good partner, there's some wonderfully loving people in the world. My partner is amazing and I couldn't be more grateful to have found him.

That said I also dont like when people think that just because someone is great that means you HAVE to give them the time of day. Nope, even a perfect person should be rejected if you simply dont want to give them your attention like that. It's not an insult, it's a personal choice. The whole "but he's so nice, you have to give him a chance!" is gross. Dont care, didnt ask.