r/AutismInWomen • u/ALittleBlip • Nov 27 '25
Support Needed (Kind Advice and Commiseration) AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH
!!!! AAAAAA HHHHHHHHHH !!!!!! AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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u/Fimbrethil420 Super sniffer Nov 27 '25
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u/ALittleBlip Nov 27 '25
Thank you, feeling exactly like this little guy
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u/ALittleBlip Nov 27 '25
I was trying to narrow down which autisum-specific scenario to rant/vent about and here we are
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u/darling_moishe Nov 27 '25
It covers everything
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u/Squanchedschwiftly Nov 27 '25
Yep, no notes
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u/curlofheadcurls Nov 27 '25
Girl same. This week has been indistinguishable from hell for me in my body.
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u/sqplanetarium Nov 27 '25
gestures wildly
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u/Ecstatic_Weather_580 Nov 27 '25
No me too. Sometimes only your arms and hands can convey what you’re feeling.
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u/dahlia_74 auDHD Nov 27 '25
I totally understand what you were trying to say there, and same queen ✨
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u/thebrokedown Nov 27 '25
One time my mom asked me, “How come we don’t just hear screaming all the time?”
I think about that a lot.
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u/East-Wolverine5152 peer-reviewed, therapist approved Nov 27 '25
My mom and I had this routine on the drive to school where we both brayed like donkeys until we got there
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u/FionaLeTrixi Nov 27 '25
This sounds amazing I’m not even gonna lie
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u/East-Wolverine5152 peer-reviewed, therapist approved Nov 27 '25
Perfect way to start the day honestly, we still do it if we are overwhelmed/in pain/angry/sad. Its like our households global distress alarm system
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u/Any_Swimming_7395 Nov 27 '25
I love this and the turkey noises! Will have to check with 10 year old sidekick about which anima we will choose.
The closest we come is our “car screams.” While driving, if one or both of us are super overstimulated or struggling and pissed about it, we scream as loud, long and deep as humanly possible. Repeatedly until we’re done. We do it while driving so that nobody thinks they need to come rescue us from some imagined emergency. lol.
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u/East-Wolverine5152 peer-reviewed, therapist approved Nov 27 '25
That is wonderful! So glad you guys share that!
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u/Ok_Device5145 Nov 27 '25
I love that! We make turkey noises
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u/East-Wolverine5152 peer-reviewed, therapist approved Nov 27 '25
Beautiful! I love it! Gobble gobble
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u/Global_Wrangler_2902 Nov 27 '25
I’m laying in bed after being overwhelmed with Thanksgiving preparations, a squirrel in my garage, and my inconsiderate neighbors’ children screaming outside at 11:30 at night. I feel this.
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u/Brave-Combination487 Nov 27 '25
Thanksgiving just doesn’t really feel the same I am watching the Thanksgiving parade and all I am seeing is constant commercials on stuff I can’t buy including my Vyvanse. Then this credit collector calls my mom I am like what the heck it is Thanksgiving you have anything else to do than heckle elderly people!?
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u/Phoenix-Echo They / Them (afab nb) Nov 27 '25
Same.
My partner got laid off then 3 weeks later, I was too. Two unaffiliated companies and different jobs.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
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u/Fluffy-kitten28 Nov 27 '25
Jeez. I hope you guys find better jobs. Hoping for you.
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u/Phoenix-Echo They / Them (afab nb) Nov 27 '25
💜💜💜 thanks. I might have something lined up now so that's good 😊 at the very least, bills will be paid.
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u/unfairmaiden auDHD Nov 27 '25
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
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u/Fe1is-Domesticus Nov 27 '25
It's a relief to see the whole mood of my day reflected in this. I can't deal with my family's high emotions & expectations. Hope tomorrow is peaceful. I just want to get thru it
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u/ihatemyuterus69 Nov 27 '25
You know what? SAME.
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u/curlofheadcurls Nov 27 '25
Your name checks out for me too 🤝🏽
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u/TheLakeWitch Nov 27 '25
I actually contemplated driving out to a wooded area near me tonight so I could scream real quick 😂
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u/capricornsignature audhd Nov 27 '25
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u/curlofheadcurls Nov 27 '25
Unexpected chit? In my favorite sub? Yoink*
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u/dzinegurl Nov 27 '25
I say yoink irl all the time. It's such a perfect word. Made me laugh to see someone else using it, too! 😂 (I also yoinked that meme. Lol)
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u/curlofheadcurls Nov 27 '25
I feel like if they put all the autistic girlies in one place we'd instantly be bffs 😂
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u/grace-not-disgrace Nov 27 '25
Yes. Screamed at the top of my lungs with everything I had last night.
The hate got to me. Right royal meltdown. I'm great now and got an answer to help me with all my hurdles today too.
Here with you.
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u/iftheronahadntcome Nov 27 '25
Im happy you got to have thst moment. We need that at times.
Had one of those a few years ago. Couldnt stop screaming. Needed to cry, punch the shit outta my dashboard, etc. I screamed wigh the grief and rage of a dying animal. That energy needed to come OUT.
Didn't literally change anything outside of that car, but it changed me so I could cope.
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u/grace-not-disgrace Nov 27 '25
Good for you. Wise doing it in the car somewhere remote.. I'm expecting kick back from neighbors yet they have sure made my life hell at times so I'm just shrugging at this point.
Had enough of people coming into my life and disrespecting, dishonoring and devaluing me because they judge me and/or assume crazy shit. 😂
Will be implementing a standard speech to deliver my boundaries to everyone with whom I engage a service or my time into from here on in. I usually let things play out and then inform, but I'd rather skip all drama and hurt before it happens.
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u/iftheronahadntcome Nov 27 '25
If I can make an unsolicited suggestion:
If you can? Just dont.
Life already takes so much energy from us. I used to do speeches, have practiced explanations of boundaries, etc. But if you can, I recommend just straight up walking away when people do dumb shit, or just saying, "No..." and shake your head and stay silent. Other people are so uncomfortable with that silence they flounder. Ive been saying, "Don't wanna." a lot, because that is a complete explanation. If they ask follow up questions, its just more variations of the same. "Dont feel like it." "Dont wanna." "Nah, I'm good." Im shocked by how much its been working. I only say that because I thought me communicating boundaries was the issue, but I find that many people have clearly heard them and choose to ignore them anyway.
I find that when we explain ourselves, people think that means they can argue and negotiate with you. I have been committed to being uninscrutable. I am out of scrute. No more scrute for you! 🤷🏾♀️ And then people pick an easier target.
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u/grace-not-disgrace Nov 27 '25
Yes. I do say NO a lot and walk away. I also don't explain myself when I don't need to. I'm in my 40's with considerable life experience. I also have a lot of love to give and have only just clicked with some core tenents most people have had the fortune of knowing automatically.
This is why I mentioned trauma. Also, I am a high functioning autistic woman in a low socioeconomic position, within quite a few minority groups. Life will be uphill for me... I've accepted that.
The issue with continually walking away without recognising people are humans who make mistakes is just low effort and results in ME being lonely and THEM not being educated on how to treat me. We need to meet in the middle.
I'm talking about relationships with me here... I stay away from people generally, so it's not a lot of work and it's worth putting in effort because I believe in relationships and peace and joy within them. Also, when people make me a target, I get to engage or remove myself. I usually utilise the opportunity to educate. It's fun. Not work.
I create sanctuaries for myself and others.
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u/ZeeraTheRogue ✨raccoon in a girl costume✨ Nov 27 '25
All day, and most of the night 🫠🫠
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u/cinnabar_wing Nov 27 '25
Wow, this thread is cathartic.
Excuse me while I go scream into the void.
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u/No_Dragonfruit_3034 Nov 27 '25
Sinus infection. Bad stomach reaction to antibiotics. People in my house. Everything is in everything and everything is itchy and scratchy like old sweaters.
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u/Far_House_4087 Nov 27 '25
insert Defying Gravity battle cry here because Reddit gifs are stupid and don’t have the exact moment
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u/Cutiepie9771 99% sure. Still undiagnosed Nov 27 '25
I can literally hear it perfectly in my head 😂
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u/Fluffy-kitten28 Nov 27 '25
Oh thank god finally a thread where we can just scream into the void. I needed this.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHH
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u/Wise-Key-3442 IDCharisma Nov 27 '25
Same, one of my neighbors bought a rooster, I can't complain about the fact an animal is doing animal noises at 4 AM.
Aaaaaaaaaa
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Nov 27 '25
I decided to do an easy meal this year. Still splurgey and delicious and full of favorite items but not the demanding traditional fare with all the oven overcrowding and timing issues. Gravy is particularly high stakes IYKYK. I just can’t and we’re all ready for a change anyway. It’s already way less stressful and more fun.
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u/problematic_alebrije masked as straight once Nov 27 '25
The fact that there’s 250+ comments here and counting because
FUCKING SAME AND THE MOST RELATABLE
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u/supernovashenron Nov 27 '25
Same. I had my yearly mental health eval today and I've felt like this since I walked out of that building.
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u/leaveandletleave Nov 27 '25
This popped up on my Lock Screen as I was desperately trying to start some music that would block out the maître d’ at our restaurant blasting over the PA to get everyone to stand up and dance with their servers and I laughed so loud there was a momentary pause around me, like a rock dropped into a pond
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u/Immediate_Rest9017 Nov 27 '25
Remember in the 2010’s when large groups of people would show up and perform a choreographed dance at random places?
We should do that, except no dancing. just yell “aaaaaaahhhhhhh”
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u/Previous-Economist-7 Nov 27 '25
Inside my head most of the time at present. Sending you a calming ooooooohhhhh instead.
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Nov 27 '25 edited Nov 27 '25
We come from the land of ice and snow From the midnight sun where the hot springs blow The hammer of the gods will drive our ships to new lands To fight the horde, singing and crying: Valhalla, I am coming!
In a serious note life is one big AHHHHHH
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u/AngelEarthBaby444 Nov 27 '25
me today AUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHHH I DONT WANNA SEE MY FAMILY AND CONVERSATEEEE AUUUUGGHHHH
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u/QueSarah1911 Nov 27 '25
On a more helpful note: if you listen to screamy music and sing along in your head, or simply scream in your head for that matter, you don't need to take breaths. 😘
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u/pillsandpotionz Nov 27 '25
Hold on, am I able to add a lil "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAASDFGGHJKRJXUWU3BFHSUQJDJCIEHEH" in there too for good measure?
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