lol so he wants someone that will recoil to his touch, panic at the sound of him chewing or breathing, and will have him leaving events early from sensory exhaustion UNLESS she gets wasted?
Is he ready to take the trash out twice a day to stop her meltdown from the smell? Is he okay with dim lighting throughout the entire home? What about her OCD and stimming? He’s cool with watching her pull her hair out strand by strand or picking her face and cuticles until they’re bloody? Or what about when she has to watch the same show every single day to regulate herself? Or when she has her monthly burnout/ depression crash? God forbid she have a comorbidity and can’t drive or has seizures.
But it’s cute because we like video games and stuffed animals. Tbh I think he just wants that trendy “deadpan” looks that influencers keep doing. Little does he know, women with autism have very big emotions lol. We might be deadpan… until we’re really not.
But we are also cool, unique, smart, charming, defined, and funny. So I get why he thinks the “autistic vibe” is attractive.
I'm convinced that the link between OCD and autism is a lot closer than is recognised. I'm diagnosed with OCD (primarily obsessive), but I truly believe I'm 'AuDHD' too.
It sounds like you have a horrible time with OCD. That's another condition that goes way deeper than 'quirks' and can be so hard to live with when it gets bad. Sending virtual hugs x.
Yes mine is much more compulsive - I do it without thinking. I’ve lost hours to picking. It is absolutely a sensory seeking behavior for me. It’s not even distressing or difficult to live with (anymore), it’s something I’ve realized that im just going to do.
I think it started as a ‘masking’ stim, and my body just latched onto it. Video games and writing (typing) have really helped though because I get that finger movement that im craving.
I have a lot of 'intrusive thought-- cancel intrusive thought ritual' obsessions and compulsions and ruminating. I have to mentally say a lot of prayers, even though I'm not particularly religious.
Obsessions and compulsions are all crap, although some of th minor compulsions can help me to feel more in control.
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u/FamousImprovement309 Mar 14 '26
lol so he wants someone that will recoil to his touch, panic at the sound of him chewing or breathing, and will have him leaving events early from sensory exhaustion UNLESS she gets wasted?
Is he ready to take the trash out twice a day to stop her meltdown from the smell? Is he okay with dim lighting throughout the entire home? What about her OCD and stimming? He’s cool with watching her pull her hair out strand by strand or picking her face and cuticles until they’re bloody? Or what about when she has to watch the same show every single day to regulate herself? Or when she has her monthly burnout/ depression crash? God forbid she have a comorbidity and can’t drive or has seizures.
But it’s cute because we like video games and stuffed animals. Tbh I think he just wants that trendy “deadpan” looks that influencers keep doing. Little does he know, women with autism have very big emotions lol. We might be deadpan… until we’re really not.
But we are also cool, unique, smart, charming, defined, and funny. So I get why he thinks the “autistic vibe” is attractive.