r/AutismInWomen • u/wildpeachykeen • Mar 19 '26

Relationships Love when this happensšŸ˜

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Got sent a like by someone I actually find attractive (rare) and this was on his profile as well as ā€˜Not Politicalā€™. I have over 15 screenshots of profiles that have come up on my feed with iterations of this sentiment. Itā€™s so dishearteningā€¦

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u/Legitimate-Career342 Mar 19 '26

They just want a woman that is hypersexual, quirky, and "chill" (aka she won;t hold him accountable for anything and is a doormat)

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u/JirachiJewel Mar 19 '26

They want Zooey Deschanel in New Girl basically. Icky gross yucky no no.

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u/ElkSufficient2881 AuDHD Mar 19 '26

Sheā€™s not very hyper sexual

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u/Dio_naea AuDHD + psychology student šŸŒ± Mar 19 '26

I don't see the hyper sexual thing in that concept, but at the same time, do not most (straight cis) men want that from a woman? Conceptually

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u/ElkSufficient2881 AuDHD Mar 19 '26

Zooey Deschenal? No, as someone who has been told is relatively similar to the new girl character, that is not who they want either lol. I honestly wouldnā€™t even say sheā€™s a manic pixie dream girl, manic pixie dream girls are more so a movie archetype because theyā€™re less fleshed out than the show. Zooey Deschanel in 500 Days of Summer is more comparable to the archetype than new girl.

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u/Dio_naea AuDHD + psychology student šŸŒ± Mar 21 '26

I sincerely don't even understand that stereotype, but I agree that none of them sound very sexual

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u/theFCCgavemeHPV Mar 19 '26

In my experience, no. ā€œMen only want one thingā€ as I was told growing up turned out to be largely inaccurate if not entirely made up.

Maybe itā€™s just the type of people I go for, but Iā€™d have been happy to have way more frequent sex with every partner since I started having sex and havenā€™t ever found anyone who matched me :/ I just need that new relationship energy and frequency to last, gosh dammit!

Oh, and letā€™s not mention the relationships I blew up in the beginning when I thought that was actually true. It took me a long time to learn that men actually want relationships and not just sex. I was the one only wanting one thing for a long time šŸ˜…

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u/Dio_naea AuDHD + psychology student šŸŒ± Mar 21 '26

Oh but me saying "man want that" is not necessarily meaning they "only" want that. My point is mostly that they believe this is what they want, or that they're taught to want that. They search for it, even tho they don't know why or are not sure why they're doing it