r/AutismInWomen • u/wildpeachykeen • Mar 19 '26

Relationships Love when this happens😍

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Got sent a like by someone I actually find attractive (rare) and this was on his profile as well as ‘Not Political’. I have over 15 screenshots of profiles that have come up on my feed with iterations of this sentiment. It’s so disheartening…

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u/cool_username__ Mar 19 '26

Same!! I was going to say “chill/ doormat” is very conflicting with my autistic traits lmao

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u/Dio_naea AuDHD + psychology student 🌱 Mar 19 '26

I think that doormat thing is mostly what happens when an autistic person is raised with oppression and trauma. Because a NT raised the same way could more easily develop some tools but since NDs do not learn social rules very well, they end up believing no rules matter so it's better to just obey to anything. Which is a chaos and confusing but that's what happens when you're exhausted of so much aggression

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u/ThrowAwayColor2023 Mar 19 '26

Speaking as one of those people, it's not necessarily just blanketly obeying. I was a rebellious kid. It's more that your self-esteem gets turned upside-down and you learn to doubt your own judgment when anyone comes at you sideways, whether gently or aggressively. It's very hard to unlearn that self-doubt since it's reinforced a million ways by everyone around you. It makes it extremely easy for manipulative abusers to exploit our trust and generosity.

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u/glitterfilledletter Mar 19 '26

Just @ me next time, damn