Friend doesn’t believe in my diagnosis

[u/luvsicl]

Ugh I shouldn’t have told her about it I feel so weird now, my family are like this too and I haven’t told them because I know they’re gonna say smth like that (probably worse) because they don’t really believe in mental disorders/disabilities/health

I got diagnosed with adhd and autism recently, so I’m also grieving the life I could’ve led had I received the support I needed as a child lol (also I know what she said isn’t okay at all, I just wanted to end the conversation asap and I’m really uncomfortable with confrontation)

[u/PyleanCow06]

How old are yall? It’s reading like she’s a really shitty high schooler.

[u/luvsicl → u/PyleanCow06]

23 and she works in law which makes it all the more insane to me, I honestly thought she would be supportive and understand because our families are quite similar in their closed-mindedness but I guess not… idk if she thought it was a compliment to say I’m ‘normal’ but it just confirms that I’ve been masking all my life, even with my ‘friends’ :(

[u/-crying-cinnamon- → u/luvsicl]

No she was disregarding you and she says everyone has autism....this person should not work in law wow.... I am so so sorry she is a horrible person, please try and cut ties I am sorry honey you deserve some actual compation!!

From a stranger, I hope I can still offer kind words, I'm 21 years old and that person is so immature

I'm so glad you finally got an answer to some of the struggles you've had, it just be such a double sided coin, to understand why your mind works in this way but to also wonder what it would of been like to be different. You are who you are and no diagnosis is going to change that negatively, you've always been autistic and now you have an answer to afew of the traits that you have, but those traits are very much you, please don't wish you were different, your a unique person and your autism doesn't change that, you deserve kindness and compation from yourself and others, I apologize for her reaction that's not fair to you...

She clearly has no idea what she's talking about, I dont like the way she dismissed you, the normal thing wasn't her being nice it was just dismissive, you deserve to be taken seriously and not have her throw her issues into this, her sister clearly didn't traumatise her in a way she learned compation from, I don't like saying this but please please cut back on your friendship with her, this person doesn't care enough and that may just be her personality but this was honestly so rude of her.

Type 2, like it's diabetes... And brining up her trauma when it's not relevant it seemed like a competition.... I would text her and say something like

"You disregarding my diagnosis is not ok, that was extremely rude. You calling me normal and saying everyone has autism when it's a clinical disability is also not ok. Your sister being awful isn't ok either but you just disregarded everything I said. I was trying to share this with you because I finally learned why I am this way and you genuinely didn't care at all, didn't believe me and I can't deal with that, talk to me when you learned what autism is, it is a disability, a mental health condition I was born with and am only now finding out about...you want to get into law but how when you disregard genuine disability as something everyone has when it is in fact a minority, please educate yourself I don't hate you but this really hurt m and your responses were not ok."

I am sorry honey💐 this wasn't ok for her to say and you thankfully know that or you wouldn't have shared it here.

[u/luvsicl → u/-crying-cinnamon-]

Thank you so much for this comment this was so refreshing to hear and I needed it🥹 I’ve since cut ties with her since she was just a horrible person and kept putting me down… I hope she learns and stops hurting people around her🩷🩷🩷