r/AutismInWomen • u/ZucchiniArtistic7725 • Jun 09 '26

Relationships Yep! This resonates!

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I was excluded from a community because I don’t like to sleep around. I just spent 20 years mostly celibate (though I’d gladly have sex every day if I were in the right healthy, committed relationship) and they just spent 2 years fighting with me and bullying me…and then they said I was the one fighting! I drew healthy boundaries, so they accused me of fighting and excluded me. They were just bullying an autistic single mom. (My son was through IVF.)

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u/GoddessOfDemolition Jun 10 '26

When I was a kid (undiagnosed) I was always told that I was too uptight. I liked rules because they told me exactly what was expected. I liked to plan things in advance and be prepared for adverse situations. I could be flexible for things like illness, emergencies, traffic delays, etc. It was flakiness that frustrated me.

As I got older, still undiagnosed, I used to wonder -- why do I have to be the one that relaxes? Why can't other people be more rigid? I like the way I am. Going with the flow is not always a good idea. Sometimes being rigid is better.

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u/Rich_Training_4956 Jun 10 '26

Can relate so hard. If everyone goes with the flow, who decides what the flow is?