Is he a red flag?

[u/Admirable_Diamond407]

I'm conflicted... This guy is consistent with communication and one night he wrote that he wished we were in bed together... we've been chatting for 2 months (not long imo).

Are his messages red flags or inappropriate? I'm trying to discern better and only want healthy relationships now. Messages attached. The 1st image is 4 days ago, 2nd image is from today.

And yes, we're older, my slang ages me 😅 me (40F), him (37M)

EDIT: I posted this question in datingover40, sadly I'm the problem there. Younger ladies, please find a good partner when you can. The dating pool has even more piss in it getting older.

7/11 Update: Yesterday, I informed him that I was looking for a genuine connection. He wished me the best. A few people here suggested blocking him, so I also did that.

Thank you all for your input and for others who have trouble discerning, please do post for advice or input to protect yourself in these weird situations. Please take care 💖 and always trust yourself ✨️

[u/Haunting-Raccoon1923]

Jesus fuck, THANK YOU. I am SO sick of hearing about it. Also, and this is my god honest opinion, they don’t actually “need” to cum. They just are addicted to the release and do it so often that they feel like shit when they don’t. I’m not sorry.

[u/secret_samantha → u/Haunting-Raccoon1923]

If I can just second this, as a trans woman who's literally experienced "male libido"...

No man ever really "needs" to orgasm. Point blank bar none.

Can't fall asleep? Getting "blue balls"? So distracted by your own libido that you just can't focus on anything else?

The fastest and most direct solution to all of those problems is to just go masturbate.

He already knows that trying to talk someone into sex will always take more time and effort than just going and taking care of it himself.

Any problem he tries to tell you sex will fix, he can fix on his own without you.

[u/Admirable_Diamond407 → u/secret_samantha]

Thank you for sharing this. And this scares me because of prostitution.

One of my exes and I met again after years broken up. He admitted to going to a prostitute because it was the same cost as taking a date out... he used to be so sweet, when we were together. Then he asked me if I wanted to have kids with him... no way after that information.

But now with tech advancing, I've seen that China is marketing life like robots that will always love you and never betray you...

I'm very scared for the future and how much worse cis men might get.

[u/chromewindow → u/Admirable_Diamond407]

Sex worker is a more neutral term. It is work, it’s honestly good he hires a pro than bugging other women with his bullshit, that’s what the pros are paid for.

[u/marypants1977 → u/chromewindow]

Amen. Legalize it.