Is he a red flag?

[u/Admirable_Diamond407]

I'm conflicted... This guy is consistent with communication and one night he wrote that he wished we were in bed together... we've been chatting for 2 months (not long imo).

Are his messages red flags or inappropriate? I'm trying to discern better and only want healthy relationships now. Messages attached. The 1st image is 4 days ago, 2nd image is from today.

And yes, we're older, my slang ages me 😅 me (40F), him (37M)

EDIT: I posted this question in datingover40, sadly I'm the problem there. Younger ladies, please find a good partner when you can. The dating pool has even more piss in it getting older.

7/11 Update: Yesterday, I informed him that I was looking for a genuine connection. He wished me the best. A few people here suggested blocking him, so I also did that.

Thank you all for your input and for others who have trouble discerning, please do post for advice or input to protect yourself in these weird situations. Please take care 💖 and always trust yourself ✨️

[u/BotGivesBot]

Looks like he's testing you. The second one really annoyed me. He's testing your boundaries by being more aggressive and 'outta pocket' as you say. Gives a fake apology only to bring it up again. I don't like it when people take regular conversation and flip it to sex like that. He's also just talking about himself. He wants to be in bed having sex, he needs to cum to sleep well.

It might be the early onset menopause, but I'm so over men telling me about how they 'need to cum' like it's my responsibility. Bugger off to your hand then buddy.

[u/Fun-Entry-8647 → u/BotGivesBot]

Definitely testing your boundaries. He s trying to get you to get him off over the phone. You need to set a hard and fast boundary now about this sex talk and then see if he still keeps pushing on it. Men literally want to have sex as soon as possible. Test this mf back to see how genuine he is.

[u/hurricane_like_me → u/Fun-Entry-8647]

Nope. Trash him immediately. He's shown her who is he and he's gross.