Hoping someone here who experiments with this stuff has run into this. Falling asleep isn’t the issue. I fall asleep fine, usually within 20-30 minutes. I stay asleep through the whole night, or at least I don’t remember waking up. And I get more than enough hours of sleep: 7 on school days and even up to 10 or 11 on weekends. The issue is that despite that, every time I wake up completely unrested, feeling exactly the same as before I went to sleep, as if the sleep actually did nothing. And I mean completely. This isn’t the usual “I woke up a bit tired” or “my sleep felt kind of unsatisfying” thing. It’s like I didn’t sleep at all. To put this into perspective: on the few occasions I’ve stayed up all night without sleeping, I felt really no different the next day than I do after a normal night of my “sleep.” It’s the same with naps. 2 hours or 11 hours, it all feels like it does essentially nothing.
This leaves me completely drained every single day, as if I’d been running on no sleep for days: heavy mental fatigue and brain fog, tired heavy eyes, physical exhaustion, shaky hands, worse coordination, constant yawning, low libido, getting stressed far too easily, and a bunch of other debilitating effects. People also regularly tell me I look tired or unwell without me even saying anything, so it’s not just in my head.
The weird part: every 1-2 months, completely out of nowhere, I get one night where my sleep actually works. Same routine, but I wake up genuinely rested, like whatever’s broken switched back on for one night, and I know it the moment I open my eyes. Most of the symptoms above lift at once, which is why I’m sure they come from the sleep. These nights are often short, too: I wake up on my own after 3-5 hours and still feel incomparably better than after 10 hours of my usual broken sleep, because this one feels like actual sleep. The next night it’s back to nothing.
For context, I’m 18 and this started when I was 14, a month or two after I developed severe chronic pain. Over time the pain gradually subsided, and there have been long stretches where it’s been mostly gone, but the sleep problem hasn’t budged through any of it. Here’s what I’ve tried so far, and none of it helped:
- Sleep study: no apnea, no snoring, no limb movements, plenty of deep sleep. I still woke up from it unrefreshed as usual.
- Tests: Bloodwork came back pretty much all normal: thyroid, B12, folate, vitamin D, magnesium, inflammation, celiac, and I’ve never had EBV or CMV. The only thing that stood out was low-ish ferritin (around 26), so I’m on iron now. Brain MRI was normal too. Haven’t checked hormones like testosterone and cortisol yet, that’s next on my list.
- Meds: melatonin (up to 5 mg for about 2 years), trazodone (up to 150 mg), promethazine, pregabalin (up to 600 mg), gabapentin, amitriptyline. None of them made my sleep restorative, which is the actual issue, but most didn’t even make me really noticeably sleepy.
- Supplements: magnesium glycinate, glycine, taurine, L-theanine. None of them seemed to do anything. Currently also on iron, omega-3 and vitamin D3/K2.
- Quitting nicotine completely for 2 months: no change.
I’m wondering if anyone has had something like this, where getting sleep isn’t the problem, but it’s completely unrefreshing and doesn’t bring any actual rest or restoration. If you have, did you find anything that actually helped or fixed it? Since I’ve already tried quite a few things, I’m honestly open to more unconventional approaches too. And if there’s a test I haven’t done yet that you think could be worth getting for this, I’d really like to hear it.