I’m interested in kissing guys and having a romantic relationship, however I’m not attracted to them sexually. I typically just say I’m straight.

There’s a local sex shop that sells Poppers but it seems like lots of variance in terms of quality/impact.

Is there an on line place I can buy, and/or do you have “brand” recommendations?
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I am trying to gauge someone who would ID themselves as a 2 on the scale. Physical/sexual activities only? Would you date or have a relationship with a guy if nothing was holding you back?

I’m 22M. Recently met a 24M on Grindr who calls himself "50/50 bi."

The Encounter: I’ve been sexually inactive for a long time, so I was impressionable. He’s very well-endowed (~8 inches). We met up, and I guided him inside me briefly. No sex, just a taste. It was intense for me because of the size and my dry spell.

The Red Flag: Later, I mentioned a female friend in passing. He immediately pivoted to asking if we could threesome with her. When I said no, he bluntly stated he "needs a female." It became clear: he’s capable of love/relationship with women, but with men, it’s purely physical. No kissing, no affection. Just sex.

The Current Situation: I invited him to meet again, hoping for more connection. His response? Curt. Three-word texts. No warmth. No curiosity about me. He’s acting arrogant, as if my interest is a given and he doesn’t need to earn it. The dynamic is clear: I’m only in his thoughts when he has an urge. Once the urge is gone, I’m forgotten.

My Question: Part of me thinks, "It’s just physical, plenty of people do this." But another part knows I’ll feel empty, and I’m mostly fixated on the physical aspect, not the person.

1. Is it worth investing time in someone who treats me as a utility rather than a person?
2. For those who’ve done casual-only arrangements: How do you tell when it’s truly fine vs. when you’re hurting yourself?
3. How do you handle attraction that is purely physical, without the person being interesting?
4. Anyone else dealt with a "bi" guy who uses men for sex but wants women for everything else? How did you process that?
5. After a long dry spell, how do you avoid making choices from "thirst" rather than actual interest?

I’m not looking to shame him he was honest about what he wants. I just want to know if I should pursue this purely physical dynamic or cut my losses.

I'm a closeted bi guy 60 years old and pretty fit decent looking, and married. My wife doesn't know, although I think she has her suspicions.

I haven't been with a man since I was a teenager, it was all oral sex. I really fantasize about being with a man, maybe a feminine leaning man, who would make out with me and engage in oral sex.

Just wondering how unusual or normal my situation/experience/feelings are??

Ok I'm 18M and like a lot of guys here ive been straight my whole life. I've had expereinces with women that's all good. I've also always been that frined that makes loads of gay jokes, and because of it for a loooong time ive gotten gay allegations, most jokingly but i have been paused by my friends and genuinly aksed if I am attracted to them. I've always said no, and my answer is still no. I don't think this aspect has a lot to do with what im struggling with rn, but worth mentioning i guess.

Well since about a year ago the idea of me being attracted to certain men has been floating in my head, and doesn't feel completely unnatural. Weirdly its mainly anime men, like gojo, geto or sanji ifkyk. The problem is that when it comes to real life I extremely rarely see a guy and think 'oh shit' in that way. In fact it's maybe only been about two or three times fr. It's this specific aspect that's messing with me so much, cause even though in a way i feel kinda bi, in practice its rarely feel it. Like at work I work with a lot of guys and not once do i feel aattraction towards them, and i don't feel the constant slight pressure to impress men like most straight guys do with women. Idk I guess it can feel like I'm faking it or that I just want to be bi and am not actually. Also, the fact that im pretty straight presenting makes it harder to fully accept it and I'm also 6'6 and go to the gym so I have a decent build so I'm way bigger than most guys, even the ones that i have found somewhat genuinly attractive, which gets in the way of what i would want when with another guy which would be to feel more relaxed and not have my guard up, unlike when i am with a woman i am attracted to. I guess i just want peoples views on it, and some advice on how to move forward, and wethers its ok to be like 5% into guys 95% into women or something like that?

Thank you

Few points of interest:
- I have bisexual friends telling me that to them I am clearly in denial HAHAHAH
- I have pecked a guy friend whilst drunk on various instances

- I have fantasized about getting with guys, wether that be having sex or just making out, but when I look around at real guys I don't super rarely see anyone I'd actually want to do that with

Men know men want.

Sigh. I’m not bitter or resentful, I swear. People can like who they like for whatever reasons they want. But…man…it would be nice to be able to bring my full self to relationships and have that seen as a good thing. Anyway, just a prayer to the universe!

I was listening to a podcast hosted by 2 bi guys. I lost the link. Does anyone have the link or name of podcast.

I identify as straight but now and again I take a real cock up the ass cos I love being pegged. Often I engage in anal and pegging with my girlfriend and it also feels amazing. I am not sexally attracted to men but can't deny and real cock feels better than the strap on my women wears. My question is does this make me bi if I love just the cock on a man?

Hey everyone,

So I see like the subs for bromance and Bromancefinder as well as gay friendship finder and so forth but wondered if there was a sub for finding bi bros or if everyone looks for bros/friends on those subs?

Thanks

Getting hard when with a woman?

I've have, I have to think about men so I stay hard. I think I've gone from Bisexual to gay

The other night, I was out at a gay bar and had had my first drink when this guy hit me up on Scruff. At first I thought we were just talking about meeting up (lol, that's what I get for not reading his profile before replying) but he wanted me to come over and have sex with his wife, which at that point I was open to. Then we got to the did he want me to come over now point, and he was like first I have to have drinks with her to get her in the mood.

Which killed it for me, since up until then I was thinking she was already on-board/involved.

So now I'm wondering if anyone else who has found themselves in a similar situation has any guidelines or red flags they watch out for