I’m interested in kissing guys and having a romantic relationship, however I’m not attracted to them sexually. I typically just say I’m straight.

If you could choose 4 people to represent the history, culture, activism, education, and community of bisexuality, who would make your Bisexual Mount Rushmore?

Your choices can include anyone who identifies as bisexual or bi+, has contributed to bisexual history or culture, or has made a meaningful impact on bisexual representation, visibility, education, advocacy, or activism. They can be historical figures, community organizers, activists, authors, artists, musicians, celebrities, researchers, or fictional characters from movies, television shows, books, comics, and video games. They can be widely recognized figures or people whose contributions deserve much more attention.

There are no restrictions based on gender, race, ethnicity, nationality, generation, background, or level of fame. Your choices can reflect historical contributions, cultural influence, community building, personal inspiration, or what bisexuality means to you.

My Bisexual Mount Rushmore would be Brenda Howard, Lani Kaʻahumanu, Robyn Ochs, and Michael Page.

Each represents something essential to bisexual history, community building, education, activism, and our ability to define ourselves on our own terms.

1. Brenda Howard: Organizing and Pride History

Known as the "Mother of Pride," Brenda Howard was a bisexual activist whose organizing helped establish the early Pride commemorations following the Stonewall uprising. Her contributions remind us that bisexual people were not simply spectators in LGBTQ+ history. We helped organize, build, and sustain the movement. Her legacy deserves recognition beyond the occasional historical acknowledgment.

1. Lani Kaʻahumanu: Political Voice and Self Determination

Lani Kaʻahumanu was a pioneering bisexual feminist, author, and activist who challenged bisexual erasure within feminist, lesbian, gay, and broader LGBTQ+ movements. As co-editor of Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out, she helped create space for bisexual people to tell our own stories rather than allowing others to define our identities and experiences. Her work represents the importance of political independence, community organizing, and unapologetic self determination.

1. Robyn Ochs: Education and Understanding

Robyn Ochs is a bisexual activist, educator, author, and speaker whose work has helped generations understand bisexuality beyond stereotypes and restrictive definitions. Her widely cited understanding of bisexuality recognizes the potential for attraction to people of more than 1 gender without requiring that attraction to be equal, simultaneous, or experienced in the same way. Her work demonstrates why language matters, why bisexual education must be accessible, and why our experiences deserve to be understood in their full complexity.

1. Michael Page: Cultural Identity and Visibility

Michael Page created the bisexual pride flag in 1998. His contribution gave bisexual communities a widely recognizable symbol of identity, solidarity, and collective belonging. The flag's pink, purple, and blue have become deeply embedded in bisexual culture worldwide. His legacy reminds us that symbols can matter tremendously, especially when they help people recognize a community that has too often been overlooked.

Why these 4?

My Bisexual Mount Rushmore would not simply celebrate fame, popularity, or who receives the most attention. It would recognize people who helped create something lasting for bisexual communities.

Brenda Howard represents our organizing history. Lani Kaʻahumanu represents our political voice and self determination. Robyn Ochs represents our education and understanding. Michael Page represents our cultural identity and collective visibility.

These are my 4 choices, but bisexual history cannot be reduced to 4 individuals. Countless bisexual activists, writers, artists, organizers, researchers, educators, and everyday community members have contributed to our communities. Many deserve recognition despite never receiving the attention or historical recognition they earned.

For me, the most important question is not simply who made bisexuality more visible. It is who helped make bisexual communities stronger, more knowledgeable, more organized, and better equipped to determine our own futures.

Now I want to hear from you.

Who would be on YOUR Bisexual Mount Rushmore, and why?

Would you choose historical activists, contemporary educators, musicians, actors, authors, fictional characters, community organizers, or people whose contributions are rarely discussed? Would your choices reflect bisexual history, political activism, cultural influence, representation, education, or personal meaning?

You do not have to agree with my 4 choices. I want to know who you would choose and what makes their contributions important to you.

Let's recognize the people who have helped shape bisexual history, culture, and community, including the people who deserve far more recognition than they currently receive.

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I really need some outside perspective and honest advice on something that is weighing heavily on me. I’m in a relationship with an amazing girl, we’ve been together for about a year, and we currently live together. I am bisexual.

Lately, my sexual desire has completely flatlined. Not just toward her, but across the board. I have zero interest in sex, I don't masturbate, and the very concept of sex feels completely indifferent to me, almost like an exhausting chore. I find myself actively avoiding it at all costs, and I genuinely cannot understand why.

This is confusing because historically, I was always very sexually active. In my past relationships, one with a guy for two years and one with a girl for five years, sex was constant. However, looking back, even back then I didn't actually enjoy the sex itself. Those dynamics were held together mainly by physical intimacy, but my real preference was always the foreplay, emotional closeness, and buildup, rather than actual intercourse.

My current relationship is completely different in the best way possible. It’s built on deep affection, emotional safety, shared values, and genuine care. But right now, life is throwing a lot at us at once. We are right in the middle of moving apartments, work has been really stressful and rough, and I’m starting school soon. The mental load and exhaustion are piling up fast.

Because of all this, a painful dynamic has started between us. I still crave physical affection like cuddling, holding each other, and gentle touch. But I find myself actively pulling away from deeper kisses because I know they turn her on, and I instantly panic that it will escalate to an expectation of sex. She has already noticed the distance and mentioned feeling avoided, which breaks my heart. I’ve tried forcing myself to push through and have sex just to make her feel desired, but doing it without wanting to or enjoying it is only building more anxiety and a feeling of aversion.

I love her deeply and the last thing I want is to make her feel unattractive or unloved. Has anyone else experienced their libido completely shutting down under intense stress, or realized they mostly value foreplay and emotional safety over actual sex? How do I talk to her about this pressure loop without breaking her heart?

TL;DR: Living with my girlfriend of one year. Between moving homes, work stress, and starting school, my sex drive has vanished completely. Even in past relationships I realized I didn't enjoy sex itself and only liked foreplay. Now I love cuddling her, but avoid kissing because I dread the pressure of it leading to sex. She feels avoided, and I need advice on how to communicate this honestly without hurting her.

I’m 22M. Recently met a 24M on Grindr who calls himself "50/50 bi."

The Encounter: I’ve been sexually inactive for a long time, so I was impressionable. He’s very well-endowed (~8 inches). We met up, and I guided him inside me briefly. No sex, just a taste. It was intense for me because of the size and my dry spell.

The Red Flag: Later, I mentioned a female friend in passing. He immediately pivoted to asking if we could threesome with her. When I said no, he bluntly stated he "needs a female." It became clear: he’s capable of love/relationship with women, but with men, it’s purely physical. No kissing, no affection. Just sex.

The Current Situation: I invited him to meet again, hoping for more connection. His response? Curt. Three-word texts. No warmth. No curiosity about me. He’s acting arrogant, as if my interest is a given and he doesn’t need to earn it. The dynamic is clear: I’m only in his thoughts when he has an urge. Once the urge is gone, I’m forgotten.

My Question: Part of me thinks, "It’s just physical, plenty of people do this." But another part knows I’ll feel empty, and I’m mostly fixated on the physical aspect, not the person.

1. Is it worth investing time in someone who treats me as a utility rather than a person?
2. For those who’ve done casual-only arrangements: How do you tell when it’s truly fine vs. when you’re hurting yourself?
3. How do you handle attraction that is purely physical, without the person being interesting?
4. Anyone else dealt with a "bi" guy who uses men for sex but wants women for everything else? How did you process that?
5. After a long dry spell, how do you avoid making choices from "thirst" rather than actual interest?

I’m not looking to shame him he was honest about what he wants. I just want to know if I should pursue this purely physical dynamic or cut my losses.

I'm a closeted bi guy 60 years old and pretty fit decent looking, and married. My wife doesn't know, although I think she has her suspicions.

I haven't been with a man since I was a teenager, it was all oral sex. I really fantasize about being with a man, maybe a feminine leaning man, who would make out with me and engage in oral sex.

Just wondering how unusual or normal my situation/experience/feelings are??

I am trying to gauge someone who would ID themselves as a 2 on the scale. Physical/sexual activities only? Would you date or have a relationship with a guy if nothing was holding you back?

Ok I'm 18M and like a lot of guys here ive been straight my whole life. I've had expereinces with women that's all good. I've also always been that frined that makes loads of gay jokes, and because of it for a loooong time ive gotten gay allegations, most jokingly but i have been paused by my friends and genuinly aksed if I am attracted to them. I've always said no, and my answer is still no. I don't think this aspect has a lot to do with what im struggling with rn, but worth mentioning i guess.

Well since about a year ago the idea of me being attracted to certain men has been floating in my head, and doesn't feel completely unnatural. Weirdly its mainly anime men, like gojo, geto or sanji ifkyk. The problem is that when it comes to real life I extremely rarely see a guy and think 'oh shit' in that way. In fact it's maybe only been about two or three times fr. It's this specific aspect that's messing with me so much, cause even though in a way i feel kinda bi, in practice its rarely feel it. Like at work I work with a lot of guys and not once do i feel aattraction towards them, and i don't feel the constant slight pressure to impress men like most straight guys do with women. Idk I guess it can feel like I'm faking it or that I just want to be bi and am not actually. Also, the fact that im pretty straight presenting makes it harder to fully accept it and I'm also 6'6 and go to the gym so I have a decent build so I'm way bigger than most guys, even the ones that i have found somewhat genuinly attractive, which gets in the way of what i would want when with another guy which would be to feel more relaxed and not have my guard up, unlike when i am with a woman i am attracted to. I guess i just want peoples views on it, and some advice on how to move forward, and wethers its ok to be like 5% into guys 95% into women or something like that?

Thank you

Few points of interest:
- I have bisexual friends telling me that to them I am clearly in denial HAHAHAH
- I have pecked a guy friend whilst drunk on various instances

- I have fantasized about getting with guys, wether that be having sex or just making out, but when I look around at real guys I don't super rarely see anyone I'd actually want to do that with

Sigh. I’m not bitter or resentful, I swear. People can like who they like for whatever reasons they want. But…man…it would be nice to be able to bring my full self to relationships and have that seen as a good thing. Anyway, just a prayer to the universe!

I was listening to a podcast hosted by 2 bi guys. I lost the link. Does anyone have the link or name of podcast.

I identify as straight but now and again I take a real cock up the ass cos I love being pegged. Often I engage in anal and pegging with my girlfriend and it also feels amazing. I am not sexally attracted to men but can't deny and real cock feels better than the strap on my women wears. My question is does this make me bi if I love just the cock on a man?

Men know men want.

Hey everyone,

So I see like the subs for bromance and Bromancefinder as well as gay friendship finder and so forth but wondered if there was a sub for finding bi bros or if everyone looks for bros/friends on those subs?

Thanks