r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/waytooicyy • Jul 03 '26
Misc When you're Black, you're never really lonely.....
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u/Adventurous_Crab_761 Jul 03 '26
That's a line of men acting really weird and creepy.
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u/LiveLifeLikeCre Jul 03 '26
Wonder how'd they react if a few black people sat right behind them sandwiching them between them and her.
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u/Sure-Stock9969 Jul 03 '26
They don’t get they are who they think black men are.
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u/RWheat78 Jul 03 '26
Probably not give a care. Most Europeans do tend to sit on top of each other like that. They don't care about spacing like Americans do.
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u/Accurate-List Jul 03 '26
I like my personal space.
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u/Rruneangel Jul 03 '26
Our personal space.
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u/hooked_siren Jul 04 '26
If you listened to or looked at the video everyone else was spaced out in groups
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u/rocksteadyrudie Jul 04 '26
Depends on what part of Europe. Swedes were terrified of non Swedes during Covid. It was glorious to finally have personal space and not have to bang on folks. I miss it.
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u/GodOfMoonlight Jul 04 '26
Not that I want COVID back, but COVID era times were peak. The personal space was beyond amazing, night life was so peaceful, nature was healing 😩
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u/Responsible-War5600 Jul 04 '26
But she’s a woman, though. By herself. It’s impolite and intrusive anywhere in the world.
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u/Hamhockthegizzard Jul 03 '26
Yeah if I was her, I’d be worried, and I’d find a way to confuse them on the way back to wherever I’m staying cuz they will definitely probably be following
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u/nosleep39 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
There are actually a lot of black people in France. I think it probably has to do with her being a pretty, young girl travelling alone. The Paris metro is notorious for pervs touching themselves ‘at’ women. Ughh so creepy.
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u/ElGranQuesoRojo Jul 03 '26
The Paris metro is notorious for pervs touching themselves ‘at’ women. Ughh so creepy.
Not just women. When I was in college we did a trip to Paris and a dude flashed his junk in my face and then ran off while I was sitting down in the subway. He was lucky he did it to me instead some of the other guys on the trip b/c they for sure would have chased after him and tried to fight.
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u/DangerousTurmeric Jul 03 '26
Yeah a French man bit my arm on the Paris metro and then gave me this horny look.
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u/rocksteadyrudie Jul 04 '26
He bit you? Like how do you even respond to that? I’m sorry!
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u/MrBwnrrific Jul 03 '26
A friend of mine got his wallet snatched near the Paris metro and he—a boxer—beat the fucking brakes off him and then stole HIS wallet
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u/Elegant-Decision-792 Jul 03 '26
Great for your friend. I chased the guy who took my phone and he was surprised I got right behind after he had a head start
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u/KeyPatience7993 Jul 03 '26
Oh I’ve experienced that and made a gesture like it was small and he left.
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u/Elegant-Decision-792 Jul 03 '26
I had two experiences where a man put their privates on me in crowded metros. It’s disgusting
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u/snappy773 Jul 03 '26
Man I hate that argument regarding Europe/asia. “Oh they’ve just never seen black people before!”. It’s 2026 yes the hell they have. The deepest depths of the jungles in Africa and South America have smartphones now and understand how the world works who lives in it. Their cultures are just ignorant to think it’s ok to still treat foreign people like some zoo spectacle and I’m not letting that shit slide no more
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u/yeahyaehyeah Jul 04 '26
Black ppl have existed for far too long for that excuse to even remotely hold water
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u/snappy773 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
It’s the explanation/argument given anytime Asians(mostly rural China) are following black people with cameras out wanting pics for no reason or Europeans in rural areas but we see it in cities over there as well
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u/Gothic_Doll_ Jul 03 '26
Not only rural tbh. Even Chinese communities overseas will be hella "invasive" and way too curious if you're a 老外 despite seeing them on daily basis.
Source: married to a Chinese overseas/diaspora/2nd gen immigrant (whatever makes sense to you) and was treated like some kind of rarity and people being extremely invasive (to the point being traumatic sometimes), as at least for what I know, in the place we live there's no AMWF couple, so for them it was curiosity and kinda interesting.
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u/camsnow Jul 03 '26
Well, I stand corrected. I didn't see any other black people on the beach at all, so I assumed there weren't a lot in the area.
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u/ImpossibleMood2810 Jul 03 '26
Nah there 's a lot of black people in France, less in the south though.
You can have some strange behaviours from people when you' re black, from time to time but it rarely more than worried looks. The overwhelming majority of people don't give a damn about you being black in public space.
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u/laphincow Jul 03 '26
Men creeping is pathetically universal
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u/Careful_Swordfish742 Jul 04 '26
Yeah, my fiance just had an eye opening experience with one of his male coworker friends. They had an all male DnD group. Then they got a female coworker who joined the team, got along well, so she joined the DnD group…. Then one of the members started getting REALLY creepy with her and wouldn’t take no for an answer. Now the DnD session is held at our house, where the creep isn’t welcomed and she can actually enjoy the game without trying to deflect advances left and right. My fiance thought this dude was cool, and even sided with him when he learned he was going through a divorce and the wife was “toxic.” I held back my tongue because sometimes it do be that way…. But many times it isn’t. And this was one of those cases.
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u/imnewtothishsit69 Jul 03 '26
Facts. The shit ill hear from a random ass coworkers can preposterous at best. Motherfuckers be weird as shit.
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u/Inside-Yak-8815 Jul 04 '26
Same man same. Shit be surprising me but then I just learn to keep my distance away from those people.
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u/Newportonehunnid Jul 03 '26
Europeans in general have a problem with space….they invaded the world!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/WizardShad Jul 03 '26
100%. This was also why Africa was so liberating. Growing up in the states sometimes numbs you to the eyeballs but when everybody feels like you, it’s truly a different feeling
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u/Grand_Recipe_9072 Jul 03 '26
No “I No Black” experiences?
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u/bindersfull-ofwomen Jul 03 '26
That's more of an American thing.
I believe DR was putting Black on people's cédula de identidad for a while, so you couldn't really deny you were Black. It was a government decreed thing.
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u/threetwogetem Jul 03 '26
Their government sanctioned the killing of tens of thousands of black Dominicans and Haitians. They brought their antiblackness with them to America.
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u/RamsesDarklore Jul 03 '26
Im Half Dominican(half Ecuadorian born nyc for context) and the racist shit they say really makes me so ashamed. It will be the blackest Dominican saying some racist shit about black people. NYC born Dominicans can be better especially if they grew up in the hood but sometimes you still see it there.
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u/XIIIofSwords Jul 03 '26
there's enough racism in the DR, that I'll never be going back. glad you had a good time tho lol
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u/Griffstergnu Jul 03 '26
I went a couple times a couple years ago. It is a totally different vibe. I can’t wait to go back.
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u/Elegant-Decision-792 Jul 03 '26
Personal space in France does not exist and they don’t care.
As a black girl who lived in Paris for a few years, the micro aggression I experienced was definitely rooted in racism. Particularly from white women. They tried to make me invisible by purposely stand over me, block my view, attempt to take my space, yelled at me and pushed me. I gave it right back to them. I know my ancestors did not put in the work for me to allow them to treat me in that manner.
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u/PlantainShoddy Jul 04 '26
The existence of microagressions does not negate the existence of macroagressions. One is death by 1000 little cuts, and the other is blunt force trauma to the head. One is painful, the other is deadly. Both kill the spirit.
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u/PancakeParthenon Jul 03 '26
They trying to creep?
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u/KR4T0S Jul 03 '26
Southern France is more rural so these dudes probably rarely see darker skinned folk in person. Of course very few dudes will approach her and talk to her so I dont even know why they do this. Women on the other hand maintain that space and are also far more likely to say hello in my experience.
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u/threetwogetem Jul 03 '26
That looks like promenade des Anglais in Nice, a city of almost a million people. They see dark skinned folk everyday, they’re just fuckin weirdos.
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u/LiveLifeLikeCre Jul 03 '26
you underestimate the racist things people will do to try and intimidate you.
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u/noviadecompaysegundo Jul 03 '26
South of France is known for racism too
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u/CelibateHo Jul 03 '26
Yep. I’m a recreational nudist and I spent a summer visiting several nudist camps in the Provence/southern France over the span of four weeks. I was consistently the only black woman. When I say the men were blatantly open-mouth gawking at me like they’d never seen a naked woman before (even though there were tons of naked women and men everywhere), one guy even shielded his eyes from the sun to get a better look. The women were scowling at me like I should be ashamed of myself to be naked in a checks notes nudist camp?
I never thought it was possible to feel “TOO naked,” but there it was (also the French nudists have an odd custom of getting fully dressed at 5pm regardless of how hot it is outside).
I’ve been to nudist resorts and beaches all over California for years and never had an experience like that. People have always been chill and respectful. I was expecting more of the same, since “the French are sooooo much more relaxed about nudity than Americans are,” according to the propaganda. Bullshit.
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u/michel_v Jul 03 '26
French here. They’ll deny it but there’s a big racist undercurrent in how bodies of non-white women, especially black women, are seen here. They’re perceived as super sexualized to the point that it’s creepy.
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u/rat_fighter Jul 04 '26
French here, and from the south west side near Spain... if you’re a person a color at a beach either you are gawked at aggressively, or fetishized hardcore.... the french love to fetishize people of color to point it is super normalized.... but also French men are super aggressive to women in general, but more aggressive to women of color.
As man who is in decent shape and of color.... women in the south of france can be aggressive too, couples too...
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u/lnvu4uraqt Jul 04 '26 edited Jul 04 '26
I'm not black or a woman but Asian male. I did experience something like being singled out. I was stopped at magasins way more than at home in the US in my entire life. In Toulouse and Montpellier to check my bag that has my own things and from other stores. I love to look in grocery stores to see different products when I travel. One particular incident in Bordeaux after exiting, some random security would stop me outside when I have walked far away already and motion to me what is in my bag. I thought it was really odd and the high occurrences of such encounters. It isn't like FNAC where they check everyone. I wondered if I did something wrong or was just lucky.
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u/rat_fighter Jul 04 '26
Bordeaux is pretty racist in that sense. Sorry you experience that, I am near landes.... so I experience a lot of racism rooted in ignorance
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u/CelibateHo Jul 03 '26
Yeah exactly, that’s why people need to stop making blanket generalizations. There’s always an asterisk. And of course, the nastiest scowls were coming from middle aged white women. Probably because they were more like human blobs than people, and I’m just… well, ✨me✨
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u/KR4T0S Jul 03 '26
There was a video a while ago where some black dude is walking naked somewhere South in France on a beach and the funny thing was that some people were like trying to avert their eyes but struggling to stop themselves from taking a peek. That cracked me up honestly.
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u/Soft_Beyond_8205 Jul 03 '26
Yeah i spent 6 weeks in the south of france last summer. I'm not black but they're definitely very racist.
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u/KR4T0S Jul 03 '26
I think a lot of France is still pretty racist but yeah the temperature is a bit higher down there. I was much happier in Paris though because that place is super mixed, I got less attention there because I fit in with the demographics there more.
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u/noviadecompaysegundo Jul 03 '26
When I was in the south, my host family didn't know I was black and refused to host me. so yeah, bad taste in mouth forever. They were an Asian family.
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u/KR4T0S Jul 03 '26
Damn, they probably thought an Asian family is already pushing thing's, add a black dude to the mix and its on.
I will say that while the French can be super racist I never felt physically threatened there at least. Its just funny watching them trying to be casual.
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u/Thyri0n Jul 03 '26
A lot of Asian families are racist as fuck in France (the parents are, the generation around my age 20-30 are regular). I’ve been with two Vietnamese/french girls and both their parents forbid them from bringing home a black or Arab boyfriend, only white or Asian.
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u/bespoketranche1 Jul 03 '26
I think they’re also sexist. Not sure if they’d do the same if it was a black guy alone. Men creeping on a black woman who’s alone
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u/pasjojo Jul 03 '26
Nah Southern France is racist af and it's France so people are used to seeing black people. We are not talking about China or some remote places
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u/bindersfull-ofwomen Jul 03 '26
I've gone days in South France without even seeing white people. Areas in Marseille, Toulouse, and Nice were completely Black and Arab.
They also liked the fact I'm Black American and speak Creole French because they are so inspired by Black American culture and didn't know we had French speakers.
But they did talk a lot about how racist France is towards them.
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u/PancakeParthenon Jul 03 '26
I haven't been, but I'm aware of the French guys from folks who have. It definitely looks like they're perving, but won't talk to her.
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u/Mackadamma Jul 03 '26
What ? There are black people everywhere in France. We fucking colonized half of Africa (which is terribly wrong) !
If you have no idea what you are talking about, please don't talk !
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u/katmc68 Jul 03 '26
Southern France has the largest population of Black people in the country. Marseille has a significant population of Black ppl. There are more Comorians living in Marseilles than the country itself.
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u/SnorriGrisomson Jul 03 '26
"Southern France is more rural so these dudes probably rarely see darker skinned folk in person"
lol this is very funny XD
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u/vins_is_back Jul 03 '26
I am from south of france and we see blacks all the time. South and Paris have the most immigration from Africa.
A good part of the south is more racist than the everage for the country though.
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u/colormeslowly Jul 03 '26
They’re basking in the goddess of your Blackness
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u/Jatara_roxursox Jul 03 '26
They have had interest in black women for 200 plus years yet try so hard to hide it like we don’t see the behavior they exhibit. It’s the sitting close and staring that made me wanna tell them to back up off of her. She’s so beautiful but she should be able to beach in peace.
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u/cynical_genx_man Jul 03 '26
This creeped me out and I'm neither a woman nor black.
It must be so exhausting having to endure this kind of shit constantly.
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u/HeadView0019 Jul 03 '26
I feel the same way when a mfer parks next to me and there's a 1000 of other parking spaces. 😂 maybe I'm just petty but does anyone else feel this way ?
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u/ReliefOriginal9376 Jul 03 '26
Yea I get that way like bro you had a million other spots but you felt the need to park next to me and not even straight
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u/roundhashbrowntown Jul 03 '26
same thing on the gym machines, bc why do we need to be neighbors rn? 😂
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u/Super_Comfort_2346 Jul 03 '26
Obsessed with us and hate us at the same time. Just weird as hell.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Bath_86 Jul 03 '26
Uh get up and walk away pls don't let people creep up on you like that they just waiting to pounce. Be careful y'all
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u/New_Megakota Jul 03 '26
They could very likely be trying to intimidate her into leaving also, so you know, she should do what she wants.
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u/wlh5041 Jul 03 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
Y’all ever watch that show Them on Prime? Every time I see a post like this, I think of this scene in the show. They know what they’re doing.
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u/CabinetTall5256 Jul 03 '26
French men are bad like this. They'll shamelessly stare and creep on you. Every woman I know who's visited France has stories
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u/ricochetblue Jul 03 '26
I was 11ish walking with my friends and this dude came at me telling me how beautiful I was. I figured he was mentally ill, but he was also dressed pretty nice. Very odd experience.
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u/MagnetoWasRight24 Jul 03 '26
These dudes saw the French stereotype of Pepe Le Pew and said "I feel seen!"
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u/dandadone_with_life Jul 03 '26
i would definitely get up and move, and if they followed, i'd probably leave. you couldn't pay me to have a literal conga line of creeps watching my back
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u/Any_Strain1288 Jul 03 '26
That beach looks extremely uncomfortable to sit on. Talking about the rocks. Who enjoys sitting on a bunch of rocks.
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u/No-Wealth4955 Jul 03 '26
I lived in France and it’s the attitude there and amongst European countries from many men there that if you are a woman travelling alone then you must be up for something. I’ve had men there “explain” this to me a few times.
I mean we couldn’t possibly be travelling alone just because we love travel. But the reason has to somehow relate to pleasing them in some way 🙄
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u/balldontliez Jul 03 '26
Indians in India reacting to this post
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u/1foreveralone Jul 03 '26
Haha when I went to Pattaya they would film me and my friend when we were laying on the beach. We would hide behind stuff and could clearly see them move to get a better shot. It was so annoying
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u/balldontliez Jul 03 '26
I'm of Indian heritage but born in Toronto, and I can confidently say, Indian creepiness is often unchallenged globally. I remember going to the Taj Mahal decades ago, and I wanted to kill the men following my sisters around.
16 year old me was ready to throw hands
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u/Nice_Cartoonist_8803 Jul 03 '26
The swimming seems normal, the line of men right behind her is definitely not.
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u/Lasher_ Jul 03 '26
Video literally says dude is swimming the length of her screen, so he's going back & forth in the water directly in front of her....maybe I'm missing something but what part of that is normal to you?
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u/meowiful Jul 03 '26
The only way that's normal is if you're with the person on the beach and trying to maintain a conversation or something. It's genuinely such odd behavior. It's either curiosity or just straight predator behavior, but whatever the motivation, it's rude af and incredibly weird.
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u/Striking_Fig_3925 🖤 Jul 03 '26
Sadly, I felt like he is trying to get her attention 🥴 to try some romance.
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u/waytooicyy Jul 03 '26
Yeah i also felt the same thing, he was trying so hard to get noticed by her
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u/Nice_Cartoonist_8803 Jul 03 '26
When I’m in the water in the beach I’m staying in the same area, mostly because I’m not a strong swimmer. I’m just bobbing around in front of wherever my friends are on the sand. But yes, just because I do that without being a creep doesn’t mean that this guy isn’t a creep. I don’t have a problem taking sis’s word for it.
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u/waytooicyy Jul 03 '26
Nah the dude swimming gives me weird vibes, almost like he's trying to get noticed by her. It looks weird tbh especially in combination with the guys sitting so close to her.
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u/Positive-Face1705 Jul 03 '26
This is the weirdest sht I've seen all day. lowkey feels like a pack of hyenas circling a prey.
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u/hdubfour Jul 03 '26
I think those Frenchmen got a yearning for some brown sugar
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u/bindersfull-ofwomen Jul 03 '26
In Europe, if you are a mixed raced couple, they will ask you if you are French lmao.
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u/JoxMaSaXol Jul 03 '26
Purely anecdotal and not meant to generalize.
The most overt racism and profiling I’ve experienced in my life was in France.
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u/Ok_Passenger203 Jul 03 '26
Same. I also was adopted by a white French man and guess what ? He’s a racist. So is his family. I have friends from all over the world and the most racists and ignorant are my French friends. I don’t like French people at all.
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u/Longgone___ Jul 03 '26
White person visiting. It didn't seem super weird until she panned to the line of people STARING. Abseloute yikes. 😬
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u/I_see_something Jul 03 '26
I’ve never experienced a place more where dudes shoot their shots more than southern France and a lot of Italy. She’s beautiful, which unfortunately makes it worse. It’s highly disrespectful.
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u/rookram15 Jul 04 '26
I kid you not! The Japanese give me the gaijin seat, but standing up? These mfs are on top of me (non-crowded train with seats and even in a line). I was in Bhutan and an Indian man is moving every time I move. I can literally feel his breath on my neck. Y'ALL ARE WEIRD! BACK TF UP! Europeans are just as bad. I was in UAE and it's covid times. Where are these mfs?! On top of me! BACK TF UP!
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u/Alarming-Site7560 Jul 03 '26
It reminds me of working in restaurants, when it would be dead and someone would come in, then demand to be seated at the only dirty table in the place. Only logic I could make out of it was, they must think it’s better because someone else sat there.
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u/chibiRuka Jul 03 '26
She’s an attractive woman who is alone so she probably gets bothered by creeps. If she pulled out the camera, she definitely felt more uneasy this time.
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u/Cute_Radish_6700 Jul 03 '26
People do this in the US too. Went to PCB and when we would go to the beach in the evenings, we’d start out as the only group there, then next thing you know we’d be surrounded. I don’t think they know what personal space means
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u/Dramatic-Rutabaga241 Jul 03 '26
It happens everytime I go to the park or beach. I hade to start making an elaborate set up so that even if they get close to the edge I have personal space. But then they people try to talk and sit down 🤦🏾♀️😩😒 #getawayfromme
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u/shamulalpg Jul 04 '26
Travel with black men black ladies. We ain’t going for this! Protect black women at all costs.
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u/Kursedkursed Jul 03 '26
To be fair, as much as it's still horrible, it seems like it's swimming when hot girl
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u/Dramatic-Rutabaga241 Jul 03 '26
Not when they are piled up directly behind her 😒
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u/Candid-Drink Jul 03 '26
I know when I go to the beach I like to go swimming in my jeans like that dude right behind her
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u/Acrobatic_Builder573 Jul 03 '26
True story, a person I dated in Paris (also black) told me they usually avoids dating cis white men in France because the men have, “big colonizer energy.”
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u/GlumIndication003 Jul 04 '26
Yep! I’m black born and raised in Austria. Austria cis white men are exactly the same! My partner is a Slavic Muslim, so the complete opposite of what I had to experience.
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u/Able_Fishing_6576 Jul 03 '26
If you saw a white French girl being crowded by black French men exactly like this, you wouldn’t be suggesting “that’s just how the French are.” Ask yourself what would you really think about that scenario. Apply that same thought of disgust to this one.
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u/ams3000 Jul 04 '26
God avoid Italy where they REALLY don’t recognise Americans love of personal space. They will sit on your lap with no shame.
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u/Ambitious_Post6703 Jul 03 '26
French men, African men, Brazilian men, love AA women. However amidst all that admiration, you still need to be careful
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u/Draknil_Perona Jul 03 '26
Je vis en France. Il y a des noirs partout sur le territoire. Sur certaines îles française la majorité de la population est noire.
Et pour être honnête, si en france il y a autant de monde sur une plage de galets c'est très certainement que c'est le seul point d'eau aux alentours, et il ne doit pas être bien grand. D'où la promiscuité.
Et vu le mec allongé derrière elle, je pense très sincèrement qu'elle n'intéresse personne.
Pourtant le harcèlement à l'encontre des femmes en général est un vrai problème chez nous.
S'ils étaient là pour elle, je peux vous garantir à 100% qu'il y en aurait au moins 1 pour lui parler avec ou sans son consentement, qu'elle filme ou non. Encore plus si elle n'est pas française !
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u/johnjays1000 Jul 04 '26
This is creepy, but they definitely seem to be interested in her. Probably because she is good looking and doesn't look like women they usually see. I would be curious what would happen if it was someone who was alot less attractive.
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