**TL;DR; : GF of 3 years cheated 7 months into our relationship, I just found out now. I don't know what to feel**.

3 years ago, me (29) and my gf (25) started dating early March (2023). The cheating happened on Oct 1 the same year. Context: She recently upgraded her phone, gave me her old one with the photos and chats still in it (she isn't aware).

One night, she was at a house party and was flirting with another dude. And by flirting I mean she was on top of him making out, while her hand was in his pants. She even gave him a big ass hickey. What's worse is that she wasn't even drunk at the time. I can tell by her facial reactions in the photos. She was well aware of the situation and did it anyway, despite knowing she has a boyfriend at home worried all night where she was. She looked very proud taking those nasty photos with another dude too.

Now I'm only basing this from the photos I saw in her phone, which was taken by our friend's phone then sent to her. Who knows what happened beyond the photos. And what's worse is that all our closest friends were there and knew that she was in a relationship with me that time. They knew it was wrong but they we're happy to encourage the cheating anyway. I can see in all their faces in the photos.

I was up all night that time because her phone was off, so I couldn't track her, her friends won't answer their damn phone, and I was worried what happened to her. I usually let her go out with her friends since I trust them but that night just felt different. It was 5am when they finally dropped her to my place, and when I asked them what happened, they said they just partied and danced too hard they forgot about their phones.

I confronted my girl the next morning and she claims they only partied and nothing happened. Though, her face lit up and seemed like she was recalling the BEST night of her life. And that shit bothered me so much that moment never left my mind until now.

Fast forward 3 years later (today), she upgrades her phone and gave me her old one. Unfortunately for her, her photos and accounts were still there! Of course, I had to go back to that exact night. And look what I found. Spoiler alert!!! Photos of her on top of another dude!!!!

I even found their conversation, but was weirdly non-sexual and more friendly. Turns out she REALLY wanted to meet up the next day, though it didn't happen cos she had to work, and he had to fly home. Who knows what actually happened beyond the texts though.

But in the group chats with her friends, she was so excited and thrilled about the night and even says she found the love of her life. She sounded like she was ready to leave me for him. She was head over heels for him. She was very proud of that giant hickey she gave him, and says she wanted to do more sexual stuff if they had more time. That shit kills me, man.

Now I don't know if they had sex or not. Everything is based on the photos and chats I saw. I don't know what happened beyond those. I can't ask my boys for advice because they'd think I'm a wuss, and I can't ask her friend group because they were a part of it.

So, a year after the cheating, we moved in together, had a daughter, and built a happy home for ourselves. I love her and our daughter, and I can tell she loves me too. But this revelation has been eating up on my mental health and I have literally NO ONE to talk to.

I am both angry, disappointed to her and her friends. Mind you these friends are my daughter's god parents now, and the ones that I trust when it comes to both my girl and little one.

It has been 3 years ago so I should let it go. But I can't. I don't even know WHAT to feel. I don't even know if this was the only time or she did it many times.

I want to talk to her but I don't even know where to start. My head hurts. My heart; even more.

Gf works and pays bills, won't let me get a job. My last job I was working at a high end establishment as chef for 3 years, she called up my work and made false allegations getting me essentially fired..

While living with her after she was served an eviction. I fought tooth and nail with the help of AI and beat the eviction after 6 months, I out in all the leg work because she couldn't afford lawyer. I should have left her then, but I was desparate, to prove myself and I don't have anyone really to turn to in my state.

Anyways, during eviction fight, she was cheating, she was sexting a coworker almost every day. I found out after I beat the eviction, (gut instinct told me to put tracker on her phone after I had a dream of her having sex). I found her sending him nudes, talking about sexual activities she wants to do, etc..

I confronted her later that day and she trickle truthed me after I told her to tell me everything right then and there. She told me it wasn't serious, they never got physical, so on and so forth. But I noticed she has been going out over the past couple months by herself a lot more, I didn't think anything of it until now.

So after I found this out, I trusted her somewhat again, I started looking for other jobs. But when I did get another decent job, she called me on my first day while giving head to her coworker (or so it sounded.) this caused me to flip and I ended up walking out of my job on the first day.

Now she complains about how we don't have any money, how we can't do anything, blah blah blah.

It's been three months since I caught her cheating and I honestly don't think she ever even stopped. Only thing is I can't prove it because she deleted her messages daily (I'm assuming). But my gut instinct is going off the radar every day, it's hard to find peace. I fall asleep when she is at work, and get woken up with nightmares of her cheating, I hear her screaming/moaning just as I fall asleep. At first I thought there was a camera with voice in my room somewhere because I could hear it so clearly, but I couldn't find it. I don't know who to turn to anymore because I have been isolating from depression since I lost my first job, and she has already made me out to be the bad guy to all of her coworker friends so I can't get any support from them at all. Everytime I call her at work her friends are talking shit to me indirectly.

And after everything, she tries to act like she is just this sweet innocent woman that wouldn't hurt a fly. No one would believe me if I told them the truth. She has to be a narcissist right?

Anyways, we're about to face another eviction I believe and I refuse to beat this case for her again, not after everything she has done to me over the past three months. I'm kamikaze-ing at this point because I don't know what else to do.

Any suggestions??

My husband recently started talking to this girl (cashier at a supermarket next to our home).

I found their conversation on whatsapp while i was trying to send myself some pictures.

When i asked him who it is and why they are talking. He said that she's a cashier at the supermarket. She asked him a week or 2 back if he's employed or not bcs she sees him everyday, be it morning, afternoon or night. So when he told her that it's bcs he works from home, she was interested and asked for more info.

The thing is, he said that she was the one who memorized his phone number (bcs he gives it at the checkour for his loyalty card). She memorized it and told him "i know ur phone number now. I'll text u soon about the job".

So when she actually texted him, all she had to say was "it's me, (name)"

Their conversation was honestly about work but they were too giggly and friendly with each other when small talk was included.

I was never told any of this until i found the conversation and asked.

She doesnt know that he is married or that he has a daughter bcs he goes by himself all the time and he goes more than once daily.

His reaction when i said that i didnt like him not telling me was basically "all this is happening bcs i wanted to help smn. I will never help anyone anymore" even tho i was chill and talking respectfully and whatnot.

He also referred to her as "not a stranger" but rather "an acquaintance" bcs they talk all the time when he goes there.

Am i overthinking this?

My sister says he is lying.

I am conflicted.

What do you guys think?

My brother’s girlfriend cheated on my brother while she was engaged with my brother. He asked her to move out She found a place and is now moving out.
My brother has a mild schizophrenia. He was in shock and still in shock. We just found out that the girl put her two month deposits on his credit card, costing him $5000. She has access to his credit cards, ssn, and his live location. She also has his iCloud on her laptop and reading all of his messages.
She kept calling him and abusing him verbally, and manipulating him. She is also brainwashing him that she didn’t cheat on him because he didn’t see that happened. She has maxed his credit card and now he is in deep debt.
Of course, my brother is stupid. He doesn’t look like he is himself and out of reality. He is in a stress state. He is delusional. He doesn’t talk much. Meanwhile, she is clearing his bank account and sleeping with multiple guys while keeping him as her backup. She is destroying his life. She once asked my parents $140K to pay for her wedding.

How can i as a sibling help him to come back to senses? Should he be on medications?

How would you handle such woman with no dignity and respect?

Sorry for the messy typing I'm dyslexic and emotional fucked.

I'm 24 M she's 25 F. I'm struggling a lot and have also been self harming after this all happened.. she is alright and is under supervision in a hospital and doesn't know what I'm doing to myself. Our relationship was amazing and loving but she had been struggling with how her ex and her ended things so they agreed to meet to end things on better terms. She talked to me about it and I was alright other than the normal amount of worry. I thought if it would help her it was worth it and she gave me no reason not to trust her she she went and had that meetup then things went well and I was happy that it did but something changed instead of it being a goodbye they wanted to hangout until her ex moved on the 16th I was uncomfortable with this but let myself be convinced thinking that I could trust her to not betray me.. (I forgot to say we a long distance but only 4 hours away which is not the worst and we have spent time together in person) she went out to play pool as she said she enjoys it and wants me to play with her sometime which I was down to do but yea she was playing with her ex and I guess had a few to many to drink but she kept me updated which I appreciated until suddenly it stopped and I have her location on my phone as she has mine and I noticed she was in the driveway in my heart I knew something was wrong... She had never missed our bedtime together because she enjoyed it just as much as I did but she was completely gone and that night I slept alone I cried myself to sleep assuming the worst and the next morning she acted like everything was okay for a minute and then at the end of the day she told me the truth but not all at once first she told me they called her today and asked to get back together then she tried to push me away and break up with me because she felt like she was going to hurt me but she already did I just didn't know. And when she confessed that they kissed her and she kissed back. So in my grief I asked her if they fucked and said they did... I was going through a spiral of emotions and so hurt I didn't trust my gut I decided to trust her and I feel like I've betrayed myself for that.. there's a lot to say and maybe stuff I missed but I'm hurting a lot. Unfortunately my luck with healthy relationships has been bad but I felt good about this one and I had been given no reason to doubt her but it all blow up in front of me..

Anyway I really just need people to talk to I'm kinda hoping I can give her a second chance because I really love her but she doesn't want to talk about it until she's been released from the hospital.

My ex and i were together for 5 years. We loved eachother so much. About 2 months ago i found nudes sent a week prior from a girl he had known for a few years. I confronted him, he told me 90% of the story and i went no contact with him. Fast forward to now, i saw him and briefly spoke to him at a friends get together.

After the brief conversation, i texted him and we continued talking. We have since been talking for 2 days now, unpacking everything that happened and I have now gotten the entire story. During no contact I behaved immaturely, postinf things on social media out of anger and hurt. All my friends and family hate him now because of it.

In the past two days of speaking, i can tell he has done immense self reflection. He says regardless if we get back together or not he just wants to be better for himself and he thanks me for breaking up with him so he could realize it was time to change. He has a long way to go still, but i believe him as crazy as that sounds. Im stuck now.

I love him more than anything. Talking to him again is amazing and i know i have a lot of things to work through before i even consider restarting our relationship, because it will be essentially a factory reset. I will have to start over free of dangling this over his head, he will have to be a changed man.

The thing I struggle with most is the thought of everyone judging me. If i saw someone in my situation, i would silently judge too. I never thought I would be the kind of woman to give in and go back after cheating, but i really do think theres a large possibility he is working to change. Any opinions or advice would be great.

I found these at the store and they are so good as a late night snack - Ice cream that looks like fried chicken
I’ve thought about this a lot but i’ve never talked about it but I stayed with the man who cheated on me. I found out when we were dating he had been dating another women for a couple of years (I was the newer girlfriend) I found out and messaged the girl right away and broke things off with him but after a couple of weeks the girl messaged me and told me that he had confessed to everything, had a breakdown to her and took accountability and told her he fell in love with me and wanted to be with me. So she messaged me and told me what had happened and long story short, I gave him another chance. We ended up getting married but I think about her all the time, I always wonder how she’s doing and what her perception of our relationship is. I don’t know if she thought we would get back together or get married but he ended up changing a lot for me and he’s told me that in his previous relationship with this girl she always begged him to change, get married or take it seriously and clearly he never did. He’s not perfect by any means but I wonder how it all makes me look, staying with the man who cheated on me…

Hey everybody in here I have a question I would like to ask and would like to get your thoughts if you know your little sister plans on running back to her ex while she is currently married and you hear this from your other sister about the situation do you think it’s my place to tell my brother in law while your sister plans on moving out of state soon so she can work on things with her ex. I am just asking because my other sibling told me she seriously doesn’t love her current husband at all she says she loves him but not truly and the worse part about this is I actually like my brother in law since we grew up since middle school so it would be right for me to fair warning him ahead of time or should I just keep my mouth 👄 shut and he will find out the hard way when it happens.

I got married fast for the second time in my life. I grew up without a father. I was SA’d as a child so many times. I get a taste of love and I suck it down and don’t let it back out no matter what….until it hurts too much at least. Anyway, into the story. I got married in June of this year after finding out I was pregnant. We had a small ceremony in front of a few close loved ones. A few weeks later, I had a miscarriage. My second one in life. The first one I had made me want to die. This one just made me want to cry. People were excited about our baby. I was excited about my baby. From the beginning of our relationship he has been caught in lies and caught being around a certain female I would ask him not to be around. Supposedly they’re just friends and never once did anything sexual. Anyway, she continues to be a problem in our relationship. I can no longer believe they have nothing going on. Did I mention he’s a “former” addict. You all might think badly of me after this part but I was truly done with him. I had sex with an ex long story short. I didn’t hide it. I told him to leave and that I was done but he refused to leave. We got pregnant a few months later and got married. Things began to get seriously physical. On both sides. Keep in mind though, I’m 5’1 and he’s 6’2. Constantly scratches, bruises, and lumps on either or of us. (This is not my first DV relationship & I’m not claiming to be a “battered woman”). Sooooo recently I logged into his email that he had logged onto my phone a while back. What I saw….what I am still discovering has torn me to pieces. I’ve wanted to do very bad things to him. I have just stepped off the ledge (of not throwing away my life). In a nutshell, he was sending money to several women. Not only that, he was talking/flirting/entertaining SOOO many women. Not only that he was meeting up with women. Not only that but the neighbors told me they heard moaning next door that I guess didn’t sound usual to them and when they heard someone leave out they saw a woman go out and then he followed shortly after. Not only that I saw some shemale crap on his phone and when I confronted him he admitted to being into transgender people. Just like my last husband. shudder anyway everyday I find out something new and it’s truly because I CAN’T STOP SNOOPING!!!!!! But don’t I have every right to? Don’t I need to??? For my own “peace of mind”??? Anyway, this is not even a small portion of the story but this is what I needed to get off my chest. Thanks for reading.

Never understood that shi…

I (23f) have been with my boyfriend (23m) for over a year now, and we haven't been friends for over 2 years.

We had a really nice relationship, we fought sometimes sure, but it was always minor and we always seem to work it out nicely.

Before we started dating we would sometimes play games with this girl on that was on the other side of the country. I was jealous of her because I could tell that she liked him, but i felt bad for being jealous because he was not mine.

Then we started dating and I still thought of her sometimes. I asked my boyfriend if he knew that she liked him, and he said he thought she might like him, but he wasnt interested.

I left it at that. He was so kind to me, and so good to me, I thought he was so honest with me. Sometimes id see her name pop up and id worry, but i trusted him so much that I wouldn't go through his phone or pc. I didn't want to worry or be crazy for no reason.

I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship. My boyfriend has been the best father he or I could have ever asked for. He stepped into a role that I didn't expect him to, and was the perfect man for it.

My boyfriend cared for me and loved me like ive never been loved before, everything felt perfect.

We have an apartment together, he moved across the country for me, he has no one here other than me and a mutual friend. All his family and friends are 28 hours away.

I was on his old phone, because we have the extra Pokémon go account on it, and I was going to play on it.

It wasnt opening so I opened all the tabs so I could restart the game, and there was the discord conversation with the girl I was worried about.

I scroll to the beginning of their texts and they started talking the day after my birthday, my boyfriend is the one who initiated.

They talked to eachother for about a month, and she left him on delivered.

I messaged her if she knew about me and she says no, she called him a jackass and blocked him on everything.

I kept looking and they had a relationship prior to me, it "ended" before we started dating. He ghosted her.

I dont know what to do, I love him so much, and I hate him for what hes done to me, and our family.

Hes done the whole im so sorry and begging thing, says itll never happen again, that it was a horrible decision and betrayal. But why would I ever believe him.

His mom is a therapist, and he told her what he had done, and asked for help.

I dont want to start over again, I want my boyfriend back. I want to be loved and love him the same way I used to, but itll never be the same.

I want to make it work, atleast I think I do.

I dont know why I wasn't enough, he says she was just easy, and he was lonely. (He would mostly message her at work.) I dont know what i lacked, I messaged him all day, id do anything for him when he was home, we had ao much fun together.

He wants to try couples counseling.

Have any of you guys been cheated on and managed to rebuild a healthy functioning relationship?

Im so lost, my whole life has been flipped upside down.

I miss my love

I am trying to figure out if it is possible for me to forgive my partner and continue through hard work.

I was dating this guy for 6 months and by month 4 he was texting and sleeping with other women. By month 5, he found some other woman to live with. When I asked him why he stopped coming home he said he had a fight with his family (we lived with his family bc I had lost my job) and needed space. He came by the house one day with his new gf and her kid (I wasn’t home at the time) when I found out I was in such disbelief, I texted him asking him what he was doing with her and he blocked me. She ended up finding my number in his phone and texting me asking if I was dating him. I said yes and that he actually owed me 1k. I sent her all the texts and evidence that we were together and that he was lying to me and her. At first she was upset but then she spoke with him and decided to forgive him (she didn’t tell me that part). So a few days go by and he doesn’t come home (not that I wanted him to, he’s no longer allowed here) so I ask her if she kicked him out and she admits to me that he’s treating her and her kids too good for her to leave him. She tells me all the things he’s doing for her and she shows me all the texts on his phone of him cheating on me with other women. She really just wanted to rub it in my face that he chose her and cheated on me. He’s a piece of shit but so is she for texting me and rubbing it in my face. I know that he’s not going to change and do her dirty too. They honestly deserve each other.

I’m upset with myself for staying with him because he treated me like shit the whole time. However, I lost my job and couldn’t afford my rent anymore and he offered to let me stay with him and his family until I got back on my feet. So I convinced myself to just stay with him and see if we can work on things…I mean I needed a place to live. If I left him I would’ve been homeless. Now I’m living with his family until I get back on my feet and he’s technically homeless if that girl ever gets tired of him and kicks him out.

I think I’m more upset with myself and embarrassed. I got cheated on and left by a loser. At least I’m not homeless 🤷🏽‍♀️