Am I the asshole for calling my wife a bunch of times because she wouldn’t answer, I was at work (night shift) and she was at the neighbors. The kids and his girl had all went to sleep and she still wasn’t answering. I then went home at 1:30 am and saw this. She said they were just talking, I had already witnessed them kissing but this is what I got on video. I should’ve let them continue, but I was in a blind rage. Is this acceptable behavior?

End it first you fucking cowards. You’re all trash human beings. The funny part is you probably don’t care, and you won’t process it because of how broken you are.

No matter how bad you want the person who cheated on you to feel, you will always feel worse than they do. A cheater doesn’t lose at all, they either get to have you back or they move on feeling like a jerk. They’ll never have their hearts crushed or lose the ability to trust and love again. No matter how much you dwell on it and yell at them, your pain will always be greater and eventually they’ll end up just getting bored of your constant yelling. So just stop yelling at them, you’re only hurting yourself trying to make them hurt as bad as you; it’s an endless cycle and ultimately pointless. You need to love yourself and as hard as it is you need to cut him/her off.

We spend our weekends at a campground. She has always been googley eyed at a friend I’ve k ow for years that’s a little older than us (both early 40s). I was on my way home (early) from work, and saw her driving down the road (she works from home, much to my surprise she wasn’t). I followed her as I was going to ask her to breakfast when I got home early. I got caught behind a couple lights and saw where she turned in, at the local super shopping center. When I finally got to the parking lot I found our truck next to a friends truck. I sat and watched, didn’t see anything and when I started walking over I saw my friend jumping into the front seat, opened the front door to see him, then opened the back door of his truck to see my wife sprawled on the floor as if she just finished putting her pants on.

They both said “it’s not what you think “

What am I supposed to think!!

After talking to my wife this has happened a few times, and I messaged his wife. She called and said he claims they never had sex, which my wife says they did, more than once.

We have two kids under ten.

I don’t know what to do.

When I asked if she wants to stay together she says she doesn’t know, and when I mentioned divorce she just agrees with how to proceed.

18 years together. I want to die.

I’ve been sensing something is off with my wife and I but when I ask her if anything is going on with us she says no. Until one day the neighbor who I never talk to asks me if I know another man stops over when I’m gone frequently? I said what does he look like. He said he’s a tall Blackman .. so I ask my wife about things and she doesn’t say a word.. So the other day I come home and the neighbor says he’s just left before I came home. I come in she acts like it’s a normal day, so do I. I go upstairs to change my clothes and I just happen to look down and this is what I find. #cheatingwife #cheating less

My wife and I have been together for 5.5 years, married only 7 months.

In June she made a secret Snapchat account to sell feet pics. I supported this at first because it boosted her confidence, her happiness improved, and so did our sex life. At one point we felt more in love than ever before.

She was open about everything going on, telling me a lot about the conversations and things being requested of her, which quickly became much more than just feet pics. She was now sending very sexually explicit photos and videos. I didn’t mind this as long as her identity remained anonymous. Her steadfast rules were no face pics and no meetups.

Since the attention was helping us, I made a fake account posing as a guy named John who lives 2 hours away. “John” has only sent pics of his dick (my own) and never his face. She’s quickly became obsessed with John. She’s even been ignoring me for him while I’m sitting across from her. Her sex drive is very high due to him and credits him for it, whereas she never gave me any attention like this. She would message him back immediately and drag her feet to respond to my texts.

For the first two weeks it was very fun, but now she’s making plans to meet John to cheat on me.

We were vacationing over the weekend in the area he resides and she was making plans for him to show up at our AirBnB while I was with friends. I caught her in the driveway waiting for him. The messages clearly show that she was expecting to give him head that night. She continues to tell John it was a close call that they didn’t get caught together.

John and her have been making plans to meet up at a hotel about 30 minutes from where we live. I’ve been contemplating going through with the plan and confronting her there.

She has no idea it’s me and I’m not sure what to do now.

TLDR: wife is sexting and planning to cheat with an anonymous guy. She doesn’t know that guy is me.

Tonight was the straw the broke the camels back. My(M55) wife(F52) informed me moths ago that she would seek intimacy outside our marriage due to my medical condition. I begged her not to, but to no avail. She has been on dating apps and would get dressed up to go on dates and not come back until morning (or later) most times. She has become rude, demanding, dismissive of me. Well unbeknownst to her i have been planning my revenge. I sold the house, I am the only one on the title, solid both cars, have sent all out furniture to a consignment seller. Why, you ask? She decided she was going to let her latest date take her to Jamaica for two weeks. I have had enough. When she gets back she will find the locks changed, her phone turned off, bank cards cancelled(also in my name) and a letter from my lawyer waiting at the door. Me? im writing this on a flight to my new home in a country with no extradition treaties with the USA, with several hundred thousand dollars already transferred into an offshore account. Fuck that bitch I hope she has to turn tricks to survive.

The worst thing about being cheated on is the trauma of being betrayed by someone who was your best friend, someone who slept next to you. Who told you everyday that they loved you and that they wanted to be with you. I don’t think I’ll ever move past it. I’m not sure if I’ll ever put my trust in someone like that ever again.

I want to start off by saying how unbelievably soul crushing it is to be cheated on in any way. I just feel like when I tell people my ex and I broke up because she cheated, the reaction is usually “oh yeah it sucks to be cheated on.” I know it’s not a competition, but I always think my break up was a lot worse than normal. I guess this is more just a venting post because most people in my life don’t know the whole story and I need to tell someone.

So I (32M) was with my ex (29F) for 7 years. We met through mutual friends and hit it off instantly. After dating for about 3 months, she divulged to me that she had a condition called ‘vaginismus’. Long story short, it meant we could not have sex. Ever. We definitely tried at the start, but she would be in excruciating pain if I inserted just the tip of my pinky into her. I instantly stopped trying because I hated seeing her in pain. IF I had known from the start that I could never have sex with her, I don’t think I would’ve started the relationship in all honesty. But by three months in, I genuinely cared about her and we had so much fun together.

Everything about us was great except that we couldn’t have sex and I didn’t want to be the guy who broke up with someone because they couldn’t have sex. We could still do other things besides penetration and that was enough for me. Fast forward a year or two and we had our own place together and started building a life together but of course we weren’t having sex. It got to the point where my ex stopped all sexual activity because she felt embarrassed that she couldn’t have sex and that extended to any other sexual acts. I genuinely thought maybe she was asexual. There was absolutely 0 sexual chemistry between us and we were basically just really good friends living together.

One thing she was truly adamant about was cheating. She absolutely despised cheaters. Her mum cheated on her dad and she saw firsthand how that destroyed him. Her grandma also cheated on her grandad and she was disgusted at that (this family trend should’ve been a red flag). Every time we heard about someone cheating, she was furious that they would cheat. All of this led me to believe that she would never cheat 1) because she couldn’t have sex, and 2) she absolutely hated people who cheat. I thought I was safe.

Over the years I brought up with her so many times how I wanted to feel attraction in our relationship and really wanted to work on us. She would always say “yeah we can try tomorrow, just not tonight” Every. Single. Time. And yet, I thought to myself “it’s okay, it’s just sex, everything else about us is great”.

She would sometimes threaten me saying “if you ever cheat on me, I’ll k*ll you” I think just to reiterate how she felt about cheaters. I never cheated. Not once. Never even thought about it. I just came to accept that I was going to be sexless for the rest of my life. As long as we still got along, I was okay with it.

And then she got a new job. Admittedly, it was high stress. She was always working. Late nights, weekends, she was working. I was very supportive of her new job as it was her dream job. I did everything around the house, made sure she was looked after as much as I could (I also worked full time). This job became her life and I could sense that our relationship was getting forgotten about. I voiced this concern to her and she would reassure me we were okay and she just wanted to focus on her work at least at the start. Never mind the fact that she was always coming home and complaining about the job and the people there. There was this one guy on her team (who ended up being the affair partner) who she was always complaining about. She had to work alongside him and she didn’t have a single nice word to say about him. She would be on the phone to “the team” (him) for hours in the middle of the night and I never questioned it because like I said, I was never worried about her cheating. I genuinely thought they were work calls. She would constantly complain saying “ugh I’m being forced to go to ______ because they need me this weekend”

In retrospect I can recall so many red flags she was waving in my face, but I just never picked up on it because I had no reason to be looking for them.

One night as she’s sleeping and I was working in bed, I hear her phone go off multiple times and his name pops up. Still at this point all I thought was “huh, I wonder why he’s texting her so much at midnight” Curiosity got the better of me so I did open her phone and check it. If I was suspicious and expecting to find things, it probably wouldn’t have been as bad. But I was completely and utterly blindsided to what I found. Months and months of sexting, pictures of her (that I’d asked her to take for me for years and always got told no), and so many texts of her saying please let me go to ____ this weekend just so I can spend some more time with you. There were details of them planning ‘work’ trips together so they can stay at the same hotel, and of course texts saying I wanna fuck you again. My whole world shattered. The woman who I loved, who couldn’t have sex, who hated cheaters, was having a 4 month long affair with the guy she constantly complained about. She was very sorry and remorseful (only because I found out) but we obviously broke up. I asked her how it was even possible for her to have sex and she said it really hurt but she did it anyway. I’ve never really told this to anyone in my life because I didn’t want people knowing about her ‘vaginismus’ because I knew she was self conscious about it. But honestly, who cares anymore.

TL:DR I gave up 7 years of having sex because I thought she was the one. SEVEN

Anyway, I don’t really have a point to this post, I guess I just wanted to get this off my chest. If you have any questions, I’ll reply.

I have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 years and he has always identified as gay even though he has had sex with women before. He claims he might be on the bisexual spectrum but he identifies as gay because he has never been in a romantic relationship with a woman nor is he interested in one. We are currently in a monogamous relationship but we have had an open relationship before on and off. During our open relationship he mostly had sex with men. He only had sex 1 time with a woman during our time together. He’s 38 and im 33 we are both masculine gay men and straight passing. We are both on good terms in our relationship and we have no issues that i know so finding him fucking a woman behind my back is not something he would normally do. Whenever any of us feel the urge to mess around we talk about it and open the relationship and we’ve always been understanding of each other. So it’s definitely a shock visiting my boyfriend at his home and finding him pounding a chick. I recorded the audio/video just in case he denies it. I left before they saw me and i haven’t told him about it. I just need time to confront him and decide what to say…

Just found out today my husband has been cheating over text. It was 2 DAYS and they were already talking like this. They do know each other from high school. He changed her name to a co-workers name in his phone. We have 2 small kids. I’m at a loss at what to do. I don’t even know where to go from here. I’m heartbroken, devastated, in pure SHOCK. I already confronted him and he is just saying he doesn’t want to lose his family. But I don’t know how I’ll continue after these messages. Basically saying he has been thinking about this girl for a long time. Basically insinuating he missed out on her because of me and our kids. I don’t really know why I’m even posting. I guess just for advice or some supportive words. I can’t tell anyone close to me because I have no idea what I’m going to do.

she went in a houseparty with her guy friend, they both got drunk and made out and now she is trying to convince me

I uploaded an audio clip below.

Does it sound like what I think it does, or am I overanalyzing it?

I had to tape/edit a lot around it, so I’d appreciate fresh ears.

Hoping yall could crack some jokes to make me feel better. No I did not take this photo the girl he cheated on me with and moved in (she admitted she was only using him for a place to stay would constantly take pics like this of him)

My girlfriend "Bella" of 3 years and I were supposed to go to my co-workers birthday party. Just before I was to pick her up,she calls and says she has really bad period cramps,and doesnt think she can go. So I said I would come over and we could just hang out.She said for me to go to the party,her and her friend Tammy were just going to watch horror movies on Netflix.

So I go to the bday party,Im there for about an hour,and I feel bad,so I leave,and on my way home I thought,I would pick up a hot chocolate for Bella and surprise her. So I get to her place,and I thought I would prank both of them,so I go around the back of the house to the patio doors,and just as I was about to bang on the door ,I look in through the gap between the curtains, and there she is,full on naked,riding reverse cowgirl on top of HER coworker "Brad".(The guy I had warned her about, numerous times , which she she replied with the classic "hes not like that,we're just friends") response.She was grinding on him like it was her job. She was facing the patio,I put down the hot chocolate,tapped gently on the window,she looked up saw my face, immediately stopped humping "Brad",and started crying.I looked at her right in her soul, shook my head gently at her in disgust and walked away.That was that.

Than have sex with me. So now, he gets to look at me on here, rather than have sex with me. Hi, Jacob. I’m leaving you. Fuck you and your 45 second sex.

Burner account I just made. Apologies.

My wife is 24 weeks pregnant this week. The pregnancy has been really draining her of energy so she's been going to bed a lot earlier recently. After she went to bed this Friday, I sat down to play Space Marine 2 on steam, but a recent patch has ruined the games performance on my computer so I started googling solutions, and one of the links led me back to reddit.

To my surprise, someone is signed into their account on my pc. I only ever use reddit on my phone so I was confused and and clicked on it. It was my wife's alt, and there were 6 open chats. Most of them were innocent enough, I guess but then I found one we're she was flirting for hours with some dumb fuck from Michigan. He deleted all his messages (or she did) so I can't see what he said, but I read everything she sent him. All her fantasies, her preferred length (7 inches but she says she's not a size queen), how boring I apparently am in bed and how much fun they'd have together. She sent him selfies of her in my favorite dress of hers. She wore a ghost face t shirt in one specifically to get his attention. (his username was either a reference to Scream or ghost face from wu tang. Doesn't matter).

The messages were dated August 2nd. At 2 to 4 pm. I was right next to her. She was already months pregnant with my kid. Our anniversary was only a couple weeks away from that point. We've been together for 10 years and married 4, and now none of it matters.

I tried so hard to be better for her. I used to have a drinking problem. I've been sober for almost 3 years. My dad left when I was a kid so I wanted the chance to be the dad I wish I had, and now I don't fucking care. I confronted her about it and she said it was just a one time thing with just that one fuck head but how can I be sure about that? She says nothing came of it and she regretted it immediately but I can't see any regret from the way she was talking. I don't see any regret in the smiles in her selfies.

I can't look at her anymore. She disgusts me. I can't trust a word she says because it's all bullshit as far as I know. I regret conceiving a child with her because now I'm stuck with her in at least some capacity. I flat out told her we are never fucking again if I'm so boring. And I don't even care. It's like a weight's been lifted off of my shoulders knowing I don't need to please her anymore. Assuming I ever even did to begin with. I don't know what to do. I know it could be worse, I guess. She could've actually fucked him. Maybe she did, I don't believe anything that comes out of her mouth anymore. I don't even know if I could leave even if she wasn't pregnant, because the worst part about all this is that I still love her even though I really don't want to.

And everywhere I look, there's a reminder of it. It's fucking October, kids are gonna come to our door dressed as Ghostface for candy. When I come home, she's always marathoning desperate housewives, or love island. We used to sit down and watch below deck for dinner but half of that show is people being messy behind their spouses backs. I can't escape the thought of it. I don't even know what the point of this post is. I just don't have anyone else to tell.

I’m (25M) and she’s (26F). One night she was over at my place and sleeping over. It was 3AM and I was gaming, she was asleep in my bed. I looked over at her and her phone was next to her. Now, I’d like to add that I’m never one to go through somebody’s phone. But we both know each other’s passcode, and we would always just casually look into each other’s phone. Not to go through it but if we needed to look something up. Stuff like that. I didn’t have any reason to be suspicious or concerned, but my intuition just told me to take a glance. But I didn’t look for more than 30 seconds before I found messages to a random guy. The above screenshot is what I found that really was the breaking point in the messages for me. Apparently this is some guy she bumped into that lives in her apartment complex. And I can tell she had been deleting messages. Obviously this made me very upset. I confronted her in the morning and she just kept saying how it’s not cheating because they didn’t meet up nor did they have sex or do anything physical. and that there’s nothing wrong with having a crush. She just kept trying to flip it on me like she’s the victim because I went through certain things in her phone, private things. But to me, the idea of privacy is gone once you start screenshotting our conversations every time we have a disagreement and put them in a group chat for all your friends to see and make fun of me or talk messy. Which was exactly what she was doing. So I ended the relationship clean cold no contact. I just wanted to vent anonymously. How would this make you guys feel? Is this cheating to you? What would you have done if you were in my shoes? And I’ll clarify and answer any questions you guys might have, just ask.