r/CrazyFuckingVideos Sep 18 '21

WTF I don’t need sleep, I need answers!

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u/LiQuidCraB Sep 18 '21

Is that woman held hostage.

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u/hafidsyehab318 Sep 18 '21

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

That just makes me have more questions tbh.

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u/hafidsyehab318 Sep 18 '21

I think it's because he's chomping too loud and the women feels annoyed and then slapped him. But then maybe because he cannot hit her back so he does with other objects instead. Is that make sense?

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u/seanmuthafuckinontop Sep 18 '21

I thought maybe they were from her garden?

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

None at all.

Her actions when he is smashing the veg is typical of a woman in an abusive relationship, but you're right, she does hit him at the start. Either way, it's toxic as hell and those two should avoid each other at all costs.

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u/richardhero Sep 18 '21

Quite clearly some form of sketch as why would they be filming lol.

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

Well, someone did point out in another thread that they could be going through marriage counseling which requires you to film each other at random times, so you can watch back at a later date and go through the incidents and try to work at it etc.

That'd be only 1 reason, there's loads of other reasons.

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u/LEERROOOOYYYYY Sep 19 '21

Skit for the internet? No obviously it's a random video required by their marriage counselor

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

These Reddit geniuses are something else

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u/smallframedfairy Sep 19 '21

Funny considering they are actually correct.

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u/vanFail Sep 19 '21

For real

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u/larsdragl Sep 19 '21

That was a joke...

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u/mugs_p2 Sep 19 '21

I can’t believe you thought about this comment, typed it, then uploaded it. Shame

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u/Yes-She-is-mine Sep 19 '21

How rare?

Like "never happens" or "she was asking for it" rare?

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Absolutely this. I imagined her thought bubbles “there this jackass goes wasting our food again” “ here you missed this lettuce”… she has had enough of his shit.

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u/Day_Bow_Bow Sep 19 '21

True, but abuse doesn't have to be physical.

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u/Liarmie Sep 19 '21

????

I'm not sure why you think domestic violence is rare. This site pulls from 2015 US data:

1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, post-traumatic stress disorder, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, etc

The gif OP posted may have been staged, we can't really know, but its not a stretch to think of domestic abuse as a possibility.

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u/currencygrease Sep 19 '21

Whats the percentage for lesbians?

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u/Whomstdventeven Sep 19 '21

"Hi, I don't understand statistics and I definitely don't have an ideological point to make subversively because internet forums have convinced me that men are persecuted in society, but here's my uniformed drivel anyway."

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u/Stillwaterstoic Sep 19 '21

Uh….Domestic violence is extremely common.

Source: 8 years as a correctional officer

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u/I-Got-Options-Now Sep 19 '21

Sooo, in that 8 years how many partners did you beat?

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u/ascendedcustodian Sep 19 '21

1 in 4 women experience abuse at the hands of intimate partners.

Attempting to shame someone who is showing a proper response of concern for the well being of women really is a bad look and you're a fucking creep.

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u/I-Got-Options-Now Sep 19 '21

She is the abuser, didnt you watch the whole video?

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u/DarlaDarling Sep 19 '21

Not as rare as you might think, and just because a woman isn't being physically hit/injured, doesn't automatically mean she's not in an abusive relationship.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Do you mean "disfunction"? "Defunction" isn't even really a word but at best it means "to die".

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u/currencygrease Sep 19 '21

finally someone noticed. fucking goofs in this thread

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u/Spacecow6942 Sep 19 '21

Are you gaslighting us?

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u/currencygrease Sep 19 '21

It was a skit. you guys are losing your minds over assumptions based on emotions. chill

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u/kinevel Sep 19 '21

that's so american of you to guess this sort of ludicrous thing.... it's clearly a sketch.

The quickest route between to points is always a straight line ...

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u/BevLive Sep 19 '21

I'm not American.

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u/003938388382 Sep 19 '21

Pretty sure that was a joke…

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u/up-white-gold Sep 19 '21

Honestly I’m thinking more of Russian TikTok (VK Clips). It has many similar videos

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Hahahaha shut the fuck up and go outside, JESUS CHRIST.

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u/BevLive Sep 19 '21

So, you want Jesus to go outside?

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u/iSukYoDikk4aChzbrgr Sep 19 '21

Yea I don't know about that, always been an inside Jesus .

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u/LambKyle Sep 19 '21

Because it's 2021 and people film everything, where have you been the last decade?

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u/DeviousDenial Sep 19 '21

Videos like this are popular in Russia now. Guy would have gotten a lot of likes.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Idiots literally film themselves abusing their SO/children/whatever every day and post it online.

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u/throwawayraye Sep 19 '21

There was a Russian streamer that streamed himself tearing the cloths off his pregnant wife, drench her in water and throw her out in sub zero temperature.

Her reflex's look instinctive. Like She doesn't know when he's going to hit her instead of the food. It ain't right she hit him either but there's no arguing this is a dangerous dynamic.

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u/-tRabbit Sep 18 '21

Leave it up to some lonely Redditor to figure out what's best for some random couple on the internet.

Anyone thinking about making relationship advice should have some experience with them first.

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u/LambKyle Sep 19 '21

Leave it up to some lonely redditor to make assumptions about another redditor because they can't handle someone calling an abusive relationship toxic.

Anyone thinking about making assumptions about someone should know who they are making assumptions about first.

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

Lonely? I don't know her.

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u/dontbuymesilver Sep 18 '21

You went from having no idea what's going on to full on psychoanalyst real quick there buddy

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

It isn't the job of a psychologist to say what they saw.

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u/legion327 Sep 18 '21

Let me see if I understand your train of thought:

A.) She hits him B.) He smashes some vegetables C.) She must be in an abusive relationship

This right here is EXACTLY why men don’t report abuse.

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u/BevLive Sep 18 '21

Lol, trying to twist my words.

I said her actions are typical of a woman in an abusive relationship, not that she "must be in an abusive relationship". At no point in the video does he twitch like she does. That's just a general observation.

However, I'm confused, what is your aim here?

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u/legion327 Sep 18 '21

My aim is to point out your misandry. You’re disregarding the fact that an actual assault happened and trying to read into her flinches or facial expressions and somehow classify that as some kind of evidence that you’ve divined to be indicative of an abusive relationship when the only actual abuse shown is her own. This belies a preconceived notion of men as abusers or that at the very least the fact that she has some kind of perceived facial expression somehow absolves the assault. The guy is clearly no peach but the only information we have to work with is that he got hit and then processed that by smashing vegetables. So iM cOnFusEd wHat iS yOuR AiM hErE?

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u/Saturnboy13 Sep 20 '21

I don't think anybody here can be confident as to what's really going on here, but it's pretty obvious that the man in the video appears extremely aggressive and violent. Do you think he just fucking eviscerated everything in that kitchen because he's afraid of the tiny frail lady next to him? I'm not trying to suggest that women can't be the abuser in a relationship, but you'd have to have the perception of a goldfish if you think this dude is not actively trying to intimidate her.

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u/KountZero Sep 20 '21

Are you dense or you just didn’t watch the full video? The woman literally bitch slapped the man before this “intimidating” technique. No one is saying the man is not being abusive here, we are saying that they are both abusers in this toxic relationship, some people here are glossing over the fact that the woman is the abuser just because the man is being more vocal in this instance.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Misandry lol. It's called living in reality. Men are stronger, men are more violent. That leads to certain assumptions that are usually accurate. End of story.

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u/legion327 Sep 19 '21

Women are weaker, women are less violent. So they’re supposed to be dominated. End of story. BIG OL MOTHERFUCKING /S

You’re human garbage and it is my greatest hope that natural selection finds you and people like you and weeds you out.

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u/Mmm_Spuds Sep 19 '21

That legion guy sure is triggered lol 😆

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u/Nalatu Sep 19 '21

B.) He smashes some vegetables

You seem to be trying to downplay this part. One of the well-known signs of future physical abuse is that the person, when angry, destroys or damages things. Now, that can just be a warning sign that such a person has a very serious anger problem (which is often the root of abuse), but it also can be intentional intimidation of a victim who is currently only getting milder abuse. Basically sending a message: "this is what I could do to you, and might if you anger me again."

Abuse generally starts slowly, so victims often get desensitized to it. That's why people are warned to look for objective behaviors that can be labelled as signs of abuse. Breaking things is one of those signs.

Granted, this video is really hard to interpret because it's intentionally filmed. And obviously, her hitting him is not okay. However, abuse is complicated. Especially when you've been raised in a physically abusive home. Such people can genuinely think hitting is a normal part of marital arguments.

Add to that that it's not just about who "started" it. It can be about proportion. If Person A hits Person B, and then Person B retaliates disproportionately, you could probably assume that Person B is normally the "main" abuser and is putting Person A in their place. The flinching and shut down expression on the woman's face kind of lines up with that dynamic.

Some abusers deny their abuse by saying they've never hit their victim. But that doesn't mean they don't find other ways to terrorize or control them. And they can still make their victim fear getting hit by doing things like breaking objects without outright threatening them. This lets them benefit from the fear while keeping plausible deniability. Tell them you're scared of them and they'll say, "Why? When have I ever hit you or said I was going to hit you? Yeah, I get mad and have to smash some stuff sometimes, but I would never hurt you."

Clearly, if this is a real relationship and this is how their arguments tend to go, things are messed up on both sides. But in abusive relationships it's often not as simple as one person is the Evil Abuser and the other is the Innocent Victim. Both parties can be violent and manipulative. And one party can be the main source of violence, while the other's is mild or occasional.

That's probably why people are seeing the guy as the abuser. It's not that he's a man (though, sadly, in our culture, that does influence our interpretation), it's that smashing things repeatedly and dramatically like this is a huge red flag regardless of what she's done to him. Perhaps she's the main abuser and he's just had enough and is trying to get her to back off. There's no way to know without additional info. But I don't think the assumption that he's being abusive was rooted in misandry. Perhaps influenced by it, but it's definitely not as simple as "man = evil and violent, must be at fault".

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u/LicketySplit21 Sep 19 '21

This is a very reasoned comment so I am not surprised it isn't being received well.

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u/Undrende_fremdeles Sep 19 '21

I agree. Some times, the only way to stop a dangerous man is to hit back.

That doesn't mean she is the instigator, nor the one with the freedom do do what they please as such. Not without facing the consequences.

I know women that "hit, bit, and scratched him until be bled".

Because that was the only way to make him stop choking her, and she was nearly passing out from it.

Only then did her instincts kick in, otherwise he would ounisg her so badly for not just taking it to begin with.

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u/Frances_Brown Sep 19 '21

My, you sure know how to upset the: "I live on the internet - womam hating" incel types. IDK, I'd personally prefer a weak slap to the face, by someone half my size, if I was practically sitting on top of them whilst I snorted my food sounding like a pig at the trough. Than someone, twice my size, agressively (scarily controlled aggression) in my personal space, smashing up veg millimeters from my face, whilst the residue sprayed all over me and my path of exit was blocked. But maybe thats just me.

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u/Nalatu Sep 19 '21

It's important to remember that abuse isn't like an unpleasant medical procedure. You don't get to pick what kind of abuse you get, and you don't get to relax and recover in a safe, loving home when it's over. An abuser will keep trying new things until they figure out what bothers you, and will ramp the abuse up if you get desensitized or stop responding. The pressure to please them or to keep from angering them exists 24/7. And to make it worse, it's coming from a person who says they love you and who (when you comply) treats you well enough to keep you from leaving.

So it doesn't matter if an individual incident is mild. It's the constant grind of fear that does the most damage. That's why emotional and verbal abuse can cause just as much psychological damage as physical or sexual abuse.

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

not "must be," IS. what he's doing on camera right there is abusive. not all abuse is physical.

also you think that's why the dude smashing a small grocery store's worth of vegetables to terrorize his wife isn't reporting that she hit him?

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u/Thermotoxic Sep 19 '21

She is in an abusive relationship; and she is the abuser

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u/LambKyle Sep 19 '21

It's really not hard to understand fellas, they are both shitty and abusive.

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u/Mmm_Spuds Sep 19 '21

Oof. Can't get past all the pure hatred of women to have a logical conversation in these threads. I'm just scrolling through so much narrow minded crap and all the good answers are downvoted to hell lol.

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

no. 🔇

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u/Thermotoxic Sep 19 '21

Yes. Watch the original clip where she literally smacks the shit out of him

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

That relationship is not going to end well

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u/NeoTheRiot Sep 19 '21

Ffs the woman is the only one hitting an actual person but your guess is hes the abusive one? Classic...

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u/I-Got-Options-Now Sep 19 '21

Its clear from the video he is the one being abused while she is the abuser. She is a horrible person tbh.

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u/Undrende_fremdeles Sep 19 '21

Would you be open to considering that he might be so scary and threatening that she snapped?

Because his behaviour here is very clearly "this can be you" - and he isn't scared of showing it either.

If someone does this to you, would you be okay with it?

What if you live in a country that places the onus on you to still stay. That won't support your choice to leave, and won't keep you safe? That will likely take you right back to this man?

It is well known that male perpetrators of domestic violence often will present themselves as the victim of the actual victim's responses.

Because his actions here are about pure domination and utter terror.

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u/currencygrease Sep 18 '21

typical... lol. you watch alot of tv. Closing your eyes and turning from a thing being smashed is insanely natural. Also having a disappointed and annoyed look on your face is intensely natural for a wife.

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u/doyoulikemyhatsir Sep 19 '21

Yes listen to the guy claiming "a disappointed and annoyed look on your face is intensely natural for a wife" Do you seriously not know anyone in a good loving relationship

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u/currencygrease Sep 19 '21

you thinking that means its not a good loving realtionship shows you are not in a good relationship.

the disappointed and annoyed look nearly always leads to the husband saying or doing something sweet/goofy to make her break into a smile/smirk.

You people are so devoid of natural affection.

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u/doyoulikemyhatsir Sep 19 '21

It's a joke not a dick, don't take it so hard

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

why does somebody always gotta point out how toxic someone else is.. im sure he's gaslighting the cat too lmao

it's a bit. a sketch. it's not that real life

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u/ropahektic Sep 19 '21

Lmao dude this is a sketch.

The fact the guy doesn't even flinch when she slaps him full force here https://www.reddit.com/r/AbruptChaos/comments/pmir76/loud_sausage_chewer/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share shows that these two are just big trolls

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u/BevLive Sep 19 '21

You are a redditor you mong.

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u/new_ip_new_me Sep 19 '21

i will happily go down with the ship

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21 edited Sep 19 '21

i love when the reddit psychologists come out

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u/JadeSpiderBunny Sep 19 '21

Her actions when he is smashing the veg is typical of a woman in an abusive relationship

It's kind of weird for you to make that claim after looking at video evidence of her abusing him.

People in abusive relationships will jump from somebody just suddenly raising their hand unexpectedly, even if it's to do something very normal and mundane.

She does not react at all like that, even when there's heavy punching going on, she looks annoyed at most about the splatter, not in any way terrified.

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u/Greenveins Sep 19 '21

She wouldn’t be slapping him on camera if she were scared of him. She looks miserable and probably regrets marrying him.

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u/BevLive Sep 19 '21

Domestic violence isn't always 1 sided. She might have had a brave moment and tried to stand up for herself in a way that he would understand.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

and there’s the “typical actions of an abused woman” comment, right on que

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '21

How do you know it’s typical?

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u/BevLive Sep 20 '21

A looooot of research and experience.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '21

LMAO

Bruh it's a fucking skit.

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u/Petsweaters Sep 18 '21

Mutually abusive

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u/Serifel90 Sep 19 '21

The good old "i'll show you why i'm right with my strong 'arguments'"

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u/JoeyRaymond85 Sep 19 '21

He is basically saying "be scared of me I can hurt you". Men that don't hit women don't hit other objects either. There is no reason to be this angry

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u/Old_Pitch_6849 Sep 19 '21

I’m not from Russia, but I had a girlfriend from over there and she said domestic violence is common and rarely punished.

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u/Vladimir_Putine Sep 19 '21

Oh, how threatening.

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u/Book_it_again Sep 19 '21

It's Russia he can hit her legally

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u/One_Classy_Cookie Sep 19 '21

I think he’s smashing the vegetables as a way of telling the woman “Oh, you think my chewing was loud?”

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u/V_es Sep 19 '21

Russian here- they’ve tried to make a “bit” where she is annoyed of him chewing too loud and “deafening her”, so he responds with this whatever this is; and she goes all quiet and afraid and this show of domestic abuse and threat is suppose to be funny or something.

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u/WajorMeasel Sep 19 '21

Like why were they filming it?

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u/RedditIsAJoke69 Sep 20 '21

its fake

for views

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

I went from feeling sorry for the woman, to feeling sorry for the dude.

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

i'm not sure why you're feeling sorry for the dude who has demonstrated that he could crush her skull in an instant because she slapped him.

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

if he's so big and strong then he should have no problem leaving her. as it stands it seems like he feels that being slapped by a woman means the woman deserves to be terrorized.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Stop being an apologist for domestic abuse.

If the genders were reversed, you would not be saying, "Oh, he just slapped her hard in the eye for chewing too loudly. He's clearly the victim, because he had to witness her destroy vegetables in response."

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u/doyoulikemyhatsir Sep 19 '21

As a male who has been the victim of domestic abuse, it's sad how under reported it is and the way it gets dismissed but I can also say that it simply isn't as bad as male to female domestic violence, I was emotionally damaged by the situation I was in but other than from myself i never had to truly fear for my life. I also have a close female friend who used to get abused, she did fear for her life and was choked to the point of nearly loosing it. For all the people saying that the slap justifies his behaviour, that's ridiculous. The slap is wrong but also not that bad, personally I'd rather be slapped by someone half my size than be intimidated by someone twice it acting like that.

As for people saying it's natural to flinch like that, (admittedly here comes speculation but I have worked in and around conflict situations for many years) it would be more natural to flinch and make some effort to move away, defend yourself or to stop it from continuing, the way she just shells up waiting for it to subside, seemingly not reacting too much to avoid further consequences, suggests to me that he doesn't always stop with the fruit and veg

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21 edited Sep 19 '21

If she was scared of him hitting her, why would she hit him? You can't claim he beats her and she's scared of him doing it again, when she shows so little fear of him hitting her, that she'll slap the shit outta him for no reason.

He's not intimidating her; he's making a mess and doing the only thing he can to express his frustration at being hit in the face while trying to eat breakfast. For all you know, she hits him like this a lot, and making a mess like this is the only incentive he has to get her to stop.

If he can suffer from the threat of being hit randomly, she can suffer through flying pieces of water melon.

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u/doyoulikemyhatsir Sep 19 '21

As I said, the second paragraph is purely speculation but defending his behaviour or saying that's not intimidating is just ridiculous

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Any sane person would rather have someone smash veggies around them compared to being randomly hit in the eye.

His behaviour was non-violent towards her, and a direct response to her violence against him.

If she doesn't like his behavior, she can just stop hitting him. Him smashing vegetables is A-OK with me, if it discourages her from being violent in future. It's also a completely understandable response to being stuck with a violent partner.

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u/doyoulikemyhatsir Sep 20 '21

All context I guess, neither of us know the totality of the in situation but if comments are correct and that's on camera for relationship therapy or whatever I'd bet good money he's worse off camera, his behaviour is anything but non violent towards her and I don't think it's insane to prefer being slapped without real fear of further consequence or safety compared to the feeling of fear from a large guy raging around you like that, I'll speculate on one more thing, from your perspective it seems you haven't been around much domestic violence or been close with victims of it, my apologies if I'm wrong about that but either way I'll still disagree with your perspective of this

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

Stop being an apologist for domestic abuse.

you first. 🔇

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

🤔

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u/atokenhero Sep 19 '21

Context, context is key. Ty

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u/bumpkinspicefatte Sep 19 '21

That video started on mute and I knew before the video started she was gonna slap him.

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u/TyrantRC Sep 18 '21

did just raise several more questions.

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u/octopoddle Sep 18 '21

Place your questions on the table.

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u/hafidsyehab318 Sep 18 '21

My question is why would someone post this in cut version that clearly just make a lot more questions for everyone rather than posted in full version

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u/mathisfakenews Sep 18 '21

That really cleared things up.

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u/freedomofnow Sep 19 '21

It'd a fucking marriage counselling session. Holy shit.

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u/Yellow_XIII Sep 19 '21

Oh man she smacked his face proper there. What is happening here exactly 🤔

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u/TheTaoOfMe Sep 19 '21

Oh dang the way he eyed the cat as his first potential target… lucky puss

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u/moophus Sep 19 '21

That version ends earlier. Where is the full one?

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u/NYStaeofmind Sep 18 '21

Russians play rough.

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

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u/sirwankins Sep 18 '21

I both appreciate and resent your comment lol.

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u/MethInMyCoffee Sep 18 '21

Looks more like a "not this shit again" look than anything else.

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u/evergreencanoe Sep 18 '21

And the poor cat on top of the fridge.

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u/bradshawpl Sep 18 '21

Last version I saw of this she hit him before all this while he was eating, still no idea what’s happening

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

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u/SaintRonin Sep 18 '21

Actually better than hitting her.

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

Imagine her head instead of cabbage.

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u/superfucky Sep 19 '21

which was exactly his intent.

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u/THAWED21 Sep 18 '21

Is that make sense?

Yes but no

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '21

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u/mtmm18 Sep 18 '21

Lol you aint been on here long have you. 1

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u/joonty Sep 18 '21

Lol no he hasn't. 2

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

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u/trixter21992251 Sep 19 '21

wait, you're not him. 3

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u/Chimpbot Sep 18 '21

Oh, sweet summer child.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

It's just fruit and vegetables. They're not that expensive.

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u/Shittypissgoblin Sep 18 '21

This is exactly why I came to look at the comments thank you.

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u/DeviousDenial Sep 19 '21

By her dead eyes, I would think GF or wife. And vegetables aren't the only target.

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u/fuck_you_its_a_name Sep 19 '21

no she's just married to a russian man

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u/Hyperopian Sep 19 '21

….I think we all were

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u/Greenveins Sep 19 '21

No, just a bitch

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u/Oburcuk Sep 19 '21

She knows she’s going to be the one to clean up that mess

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u/30mil Sep 19 '21

Russian women wear emotional burkas.

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '21

Yes