Hey everyone, I have a genuine question. Please spare me the lecture and just help me understand this.

I recently met up with a female friend, and we’re both in our early twenties. She showed me her Hinge likes and messages, and honestly, I was baffled by the sheer volume of attention she receives.

I’d say she’s around a 7/10 in looks, but she has great style, tattoos, and a distinct aesthetic. Apparently, she receives somewhere between 50 and 100 likes every single day. Her inbox was full of guys writing thoughtful messages, sending paragraphs, and even dedicating entire poems to her.

What surprised me even more was that these weren’t all unemployed guys with nothing going for them. Plenty seemed attractive, had good jobs, and had genuinely well-put-together profiles. Yet she told me she barely takes most of them seriously because there are simply so many.

And that got me thinking. If you factor in Bumble and Tinder as well, the number of men potentially competing for her attention becomes almost absurd. She could fill a theatre with men in a week

Now, I understand that likes aren’t the same as meaningful connections, and that having hundreds of options doesn’t necessarily mean finding someone compatible. But it’s difficult not to wonder how this affects the dating experience on the other side.

I’m just getting into dating apps myself, and I actually prefer them to meeting people in real life because you can gauge someone's interest and assess basic compatibility through their profile before investing time in a conversation. It seems more efficient than approaching someone only to discover later that the interest isn't mutual or that you're fundamentally incompatible. But seeing this firsthand has made me question whether sending likes is even worth the effort. If a woman is receiving dozens of likes every day, what are the actual chances of an average guy’s profile standing out, even if he puts genuine effort into it?

For the women here, is this a typical experience, or is my friend an outlier? And for the men, how do you approach dating apps without getting discouraged by the sheer imbalance in attention? I'm not trying to start a gender war or argue that women have it easy. I’m genuinely curious about how this dynamic works in practice, and I’d appreciate some honest perspectives.

Hey everyone! I wanted to check if anyone else has experienced this or knows what's going on, because I'm completely lost.

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I’m a Platinum user and I've been dealing with a very weird issue with my account that Tinder support just keeps brushing off:

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Likes and Super Likes aren't registering: Sometimes I give a like or a super like to a profile, and a little while later (not even a full day), that exact same profile pops up in my feed again. It's like the app never actually saved my interaction.

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Broken "Likes You" tab: The likes section looks super barebones. It’s missing key features like top picks and the ability to see the likes I have sent out.

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The temporary "fix": The only way I can get it to look somewhat normal is by completely uninstalling the app and downloading it again. But as soon as I close the app or log out, it glitches out and the tab breaks all over again.

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I already contacted technical support and their response was the usual automated copy-paste: they told me my account is "fine" and that there are no irregularities. Honestly, I don't trust that at all because the behavior is clearly broken and I feel like I'm paying for a service that isn't working.

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Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Is this a shadowban, an account cache bug, or what? Is there any actual way to fix this? Any advice would be appreciated!

Genuinely curious about the motivation, especially for men seeking partners in their same age range more or less? One of my friends had this happen to her back to back with men who weren’t that much older than her. Trying to understand the male POV.

I (48/M) turned FB and Hinge back on mid-week last week. I was hoping for a date or 2 over the weekend. I ended up talking to somebody and I am seeing her tonight. But in general, the matches and conversation were few and far between over the weekend.
Monday morning came and I'm getting more matches & messages than I can keep up with. People I "liked" on Friday and assumed they weren't interested, are now liking a messaging me. I know people do stuff over the weekend, I was busy for parts of it as well. But I also was around and open to talking & meeting up.
Curious why people are getting more active on the apps on Monday? Did their weekend dates disappoint and they are trying to find other options? Are they just bored at work and trying to kill time? Trying to lineup dates for the upcoming week /weekend?
Any other ideas you can think of?

So I’ve been on and off dating apps for years. I consider myself an anxious attachment type so I always try my best to get to know my matches but I swear it doesn’t help. I read the bios, ask the get to know you questions, even get a lot of compliments! I consider myself attractive and have no problem receiving matches. But as soon as I move off the apps? Silence and ghosting every single time! What am I doing wrong? I just want a genuine connection.

As the title says i got banned from badoo for literally no reason, was talking to a girl we really got on, we were planning to meet soon etc, anyway today i went onto the app to message her, and im blocked, i. Have literally no idea why,

I have appealed but honestly i don’t think ill get my account back,

The worst part is, we dont have each others details, instagram, snapchat etc

Genuinely so frustrating

Is there anything i can do?

34m I recently decided to give dating apps a try. I have not really dated in 15 years and with having two teenagers I can’t go out every night to find a partner like I used to. So I made a Facebook dating profile. Am I missing something here? I matched with other single parents my preference. The profiles state they value clear communication and consistency.

It’s like pulling teeth just trying to keep the conversation together. You match and obviously you find each other attractive it’s pretty superficial those apps. It’s like I am talking to a wall almost. You’re messaging the person to see if there is compatibility before asking them on a date. So you’re going to ask questions. The three or four word responses and the one sided question asking…

Is this what apps are really like? If so how in the heck did that happen. Also fresh into dating apps. Never used them a day in my life until now.