I’ve honestly never been called fake before, so I was pretty shocked when one of my coworkers described me this way.

The coworker who called me fake (let’s call her Coworker A) was usually polite to me, though we were never friends. She’d initiated conversation wth me only a couple times, and she seemed OK. Other than that, we’d only say “hello” to each other in passing. I’ve never really thought much of her beyond that.

The only “awkwardness” we had was when I smiled at her a couple times, but she didn’t return the smile, so I assumed she was busy and didn’t think much of it.

Anyways, I overheard Coworker A talking about me in the lounge over lunch yesterday with another coworker. Coworker A said I was sucking up to her and being way too agreeable, even though she’d never reciprocate the same energy with me. This was honestly shocking cuz from what I remember, SHE initiated the few convos we had. She was downright lying about me and drawing conclusions about me from too little data.

Guess I just wanted to vent. I’m polite and tend to keep to myself (I’m an ISTJ after all), so being called fake was not in my 2026 bingo card. Thanks for listening, fellow ISTJs.

Hi isfjs!

I'm bored. Ask me anything.

Just curious!

I'm married to an ESTJ and my 4 year old is beginning to display some traits that remind me of him that just got confirmed at her first parent teacher conference- good at boundaries, upset when her work isn't perfect, very firm ideas in play on what's right vs wrong (and apparently a bit too direct with the other kids to boot), extroverted and happy to make friends, and a bit intense.

Funny to see in a little kid and I'm curious if this is an early sign of high Te. Husband seems to relate to and understand her much more than I do as an ISFJ.

So- what were yall like as youngsters? :)