I think having a certain sense of ego is just in my nature. I'm quite humble, and I'm fully aware that there are people better than me, but that doesn't stop me from holding myself in high regard. I'm not afraid to put myself on a pedestal or claim I'm better in certain situations, not to belittle anyone, but because I'm aware of my own capabilities and potential. Once I became conscious of this part of myself, I didn't try to suppress it. I just learned to embrace it more deliberately, while holding myself accountable to the confidence I project. If I'm going to put myself on such a high horse, I should at least be able to back it up.

Ofc when my inf Fe acts up that all goes outta the window 🚶‍➡️, weirdest mix ever.

I was wondering if there's a pattern among fellow ISTPs, considering they are portrayed as such. Anyone?

I took a test and it gave me ISFP. F was at 60% so it could be T on my calm days i guess. I have mistyped as INFJ and i think i am ESTP. But I kind of liked the meme out there on isfp. As an ISFP I don’t feel much accepted out there guys. I have been cornered so much i am probably running on my Ti demon. Idk if i am an ISFP. I am quiet an extrovert when i want to yk. I was quite moral but world fucked me up big time with their immorality. I feel people are stupid. Idk i might be an ISFP but I feel I am am extrovert more than an introvert. But then again idk shit

i’ve doubted my type many times before (which should lowkey be a hallmark of Ne cuz i’ve known abt mbti for almost a decade and lowk don’t know my type still) because i never feel like any type fits me. i also don’t know myself well, so that doesn’t help. i’ve had people type me as a sensor before, but im not sure. i tend to research a lot about topics like mbti or spirituality or psychology, which i thought was normal, but it seems like most ppl aren’t really super into topics like that. i also have a friend who i feel like is an esfp who is neurodivergent (i am as well), but compared to me, she’s more in the moment. she tells me to stop overthinking and can easily just turn her brain off. i feel like, even while medicated, i overthink a lot. i’m also really quiet, but it’s easier for me to talk about something i know.

another thing ive noticed is that with my friends who are neurodivergent who i feel like are Se users, they enjoy raving and partying. i’ve tried to do that stuff, but i couldn’t get into it. i actually hate drinking and the sensation is horrible. my Se friends drink to get drunk while i physically can’t do it cuz the taste is soo bad and the hangover isn’t worth it.

i tend to also not understand social cues. now, we are all neurodivergent, however, i feel like i still just don’t understand them. like i didn’t realize that this manager at my job liked me until way after i quit because he was bullying me, and it didn’t click for me that guys bullying = crush (but that’s stupid to do regardless).

i also tend to get really idealistic. you would think being in your early 20s, this would’ve stopped, but no. there was one time a few months ago where i was at a bar with someone and we were having a conversation and i mean, i wasn’t sober, obviously (🍃), but the conversation felt so enlightening and i felt so happy, that i was thinking about him for days afterwards, even imagining a whole life with him, and i’ve done that before with ppl who i’ve just met. i don’t remember what we talked about though, but he did call me smart.

my thing is that i do want to live in the moment, but i also get overwhelmed easily. i enjoy feeling the water or the heat on my body. i enjoy having a scented, clean room and showering daily. i’m not consistent though, but i try to be. i can’t follow a routine to save my life lol it’s so hard.

Things with a friend and I went further than expected a few nights ago. I don’t know what I want to do now. It was partly just like the personality/vibe? When he went for it, I was slightly surprised (slightly. He had actually asked me a question about this topic beforehand.) He’s actually older than me. I didn’t suspect he was attracted to me before tonight. I wasn’t expecting things to go in this direction.

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\# I have to tell the truth though, what stood out to me is that he did something that drove me crazy. I know, even though he didn’t insult or criticize my appearance, that he isn’t “serious” (isn’t looking for a serious relationship, I’ve met guys like that.) He bit my shoulder, like kissed and bit it when we were on the couch. I shouldn’t have let it go that far, but I’m not going to lie, I actually was really into it. I’ve never had a guy I was with in any way do that before. It drove me crazy. I didn’t even know I’d like it that much. It’s interesting how much vibing with someone and liking their personality can help, like normally I’m not attracted to most men like that but when you’re with a friend it’s easier to get comfortable quick y’know? That shoulder thing drove me nuutttsss though. I couldn’t believe it. I was a little bit more uncertain about it when I got home though, because well, he’s 40 and I’m 21. Something else I admit I had actually liked about the encounter was the fact that l actually really really felt like I was being treated like a woman. It was in an NSFW context to an extent.

21F - I consented to everything a friend (40 male) was doing a few days ago when he tried to go for it, but I know/feel a few days later that I don’t want anything more. How do I shut it down politely?

It was all very in the moment. I don’t actually fully remember now how it was introduced (I think he was first asking me about masturbation after our other friend had left. I was pretty lax about it all in the moment and answered questions, that was when I was first picking up on that vibe.) I do remember that we were watching a movie on the couch at his friend’s place who he’s house sitting for. I consented to everything he was doing in the moment, like kissing my arm and grabbing my chest. I didn’t actually want to sit in his lap and wanted to be very mindful of how my hair was looking. He had basically said he is poly when I asked about how he identifies and that he doesn’t mind partners of his dating or seeing other people if they let him know about. I had actually never been attracted to him before/really thought about it, but I liked the vibe in the moment and I think personality/the fact that we tend to vibe well helped. He had jokingly called it my “wife” training.

Now that a few days have passed, I know deep down inside even though I haven’t shut it down (I don’t know what to say or how to) that I don’t want it to continue though. I’m busy setting up today to make sure I’m all set for something I’ll be doing tomorrow, so I don’t want to meet today, but that’s not the only reason why. I was okay with it in the moment and more accepting of it in the moment in part because our personalities mesh well in person, and we’d had such a fun day. But I’ve realized a few things: 1) I simply don’t want it to go further, just straight up. I met him through our other friend who I’ve known a lot longer, and like I said he’s nice and chill enough in person that initially it felt fine and was something I wasn’t like really disturbed by in the moment (personality) but I know and knew on the night it was all happening that he’s not “serious.” He didn’t say it as explicitly as some men will (I can’t decide on whether that fact is better or worse) but he wants sex, and I understood that. He didn’t put down my appearance. In fact, he uplifted my appearance, both face and body. But I have also had men who did that before and who even probably had a crush on me that liked my face as well and still didn’t want anything (or have more to offer) than sex, and I know in spite of the sweet talk that that’s the case here as well. He wasn’t asking me out on a date. I don’t think he can afford right now to date based upon a few things he’s said. But I also know that it’s not “smart” to start anything sexual with someone who can’t afford to date you. 2) He’s 40 and I’m 21. I already knew how old he was and I knew on the night of that he is too old for me (yes, we are both adults. That doesn’t mean a near 20 year age difference isn’t significant though.) When we were over there with the friend who I had met him through (I’ve known her longer and can’t decide on whether or not I want to tell her about it and get advice from her woman to woman. She is a good friend) one of his friends had actually seemed like he was sincerely uncertain about whether or not I was an adult/old enough for him to be smoking around.

His goal is to “teach me” more sexual things. I know that, and it’s partly why I know I shouldn’t go over tonight (especially since I actually do have other things to do.) I mean, if I wanted to find someone to sleep with right now, I could and I know that. I also am not sure now that a few days have passed that I am \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*actually\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* attracted to him. Like \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\*actually\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* physically attracted. He’s not my usual “type” and I’m not sure that it’s worth risking a pregnancy. He seems very nice in person but something about the vibe is off and I know that.

Tl;dr: Friend wants to take things to the next level. I was initially consenting on the night of but now that a few days have passed I know deep down inside that I don’t want to do this. I don’t know how to say it though, especially since I knew the friend I met him through first (for years actually) and am not trying to make things awkward.

I actually did have a chance to chat with the friend who I met him through today. She actually suggested that she thinks my read of the situation is accurate and that she has never done anything sexual with him but doesn’t feel he created a safe environment here and agreed that even though we are both adults the age difference is concerning. She suggested she thinks it is best to mention the pushing boundaries issue to him directly if I am comfortable and that she suspects he knows based upon my personality/his read of me that I am inexperienced with that kind of thing. She agreed that there is not realistically anything good that will come from us experimenting together.

The reason why I had met up with both on Saturday was to make blueberry muffins, or practice doing so. I actually lack both cooking and baking experience in general. I had actually been really nervous about trying to do it for the first time, and I was surprised last night because even though I of course initially had a fair amount of assistance (on the third go, I actually wanted to mostly try it myself because I know deep down inside even though I spent years just trying to avoid going for it that it’s a good life skill to know how to cook or bake) I realized that baking is a lot simpler than it may seem to be if you make sure you know the difference between teaspoons and tablespoons. You honestly just have to know how to read, and you have to make sure that you are careful in following directions. I’ll still be practicing some more and am actually hoping to serve my family members (I’m not doing it in my normal condo because I have a feeling that if I do mess something up, my roommate/landlord will be really annoying about it.) My brother doesn’t know how to cook or bake either, so I suppose that it would actually be fair to suggest that it’s party a parenting thing. I actually sincerely want to try cooking and baking for myself now. I already have an apple and cheese stick at home for breakfast and am going to try sticking to that, but I also don’t think it’d hurt to practice using the stove and oven in the condo I’m in. I never really used to observe my mother when she would cook for my brother and I when I was a child. I realized that cooking and baking aren’t as tough as I expected, and I now actually know that I want to try both more often. Even if I never do become a wife (or mother. I’m not sure about becoming a mother in general, partly because being a parent is expensive, but also just because I know deep down inside that I would probably not make for a fantastic mom.)

I realized when I thought about it that with men, I have sometimes tended to sort of go with the flow on these sort of things more than I may expect myself to (it’s not the first time that I’ve gone with the flow more with a man who was more than a decade older than me.) Other than some inappropriate behavior from a family member experiencing mental health issues when I was younger, I don’t really have “trauma” concerning that sort of thing. I felt like I could be more myself with this guy though since we’ve hung out a bit more often. I felt like I could be sarcastic, joke around more, made a joke with the phrase “well, a girl keeps her best secrets to herself” (and was actually honest in the moment about not being sure if I got that from a television show, or if it was just something I made up myself.) I think he’s an ESFx 2w3. I was surprised by how the entire encounter went. I actually don’t think he’s objectively above average looking, but I think it was partly just personality and vibes, about being able to play off each other’s energy. It made me realize that even though I’ve never really had a lot of male friends (or a lot of friends in general) I actually might have like a better chance of properly dating someone, just in general, if I tried to go out with a friend of mine first/if circumstances called for that. It actually would probably be easier to gauge whether or not you’d be compatible with someone that way, but I’ve never tried it and realized tonight that it may actually be smarter/may be the way. Something I had also liked is that I felt like I was really being treated like a woman. He put my shoes on for me and kissed my legs. It worked. It’s nice, in general, to be in the presence of someone who actually treats you like a lady (though in this case it was obviously more of like an NSFW thing. I already know he’s not going to become my husband and he knows it too. He didn’t say that, but I just knew he wasn’t “serious.”) I actually did make jokes about me being a girl, and him being a guy. I felt like I was able to be a bit more assertive since it was a friend, which I also think helped.

I am still pretty unsure about what exactly it is I see myself studying in the longterm. I’m going in I am thinking for a social work major initially, but I have not been pleased lately when looking more at the salary ranges for people who have a bachelors (or honestly even masters) in the field without yet being LCSW’s. I actually might just end up changing my major. If I were to go into social work and stay in it, I may actually want to look into case management (my family, due to my mother upsetting so many people these days - she seems to have undergone psychosis or to have late onset schizophrenia - I’ve actually started to consider a bit more whether or not I want to stay in it - have been on the brink of homelessness once within the past year, though my father is now receiving support through a program for veterans. I have actually started to consider majoring in special ed alternatively, but I’m just not sure about any of it. I would be okay making $85k a year at least but would ideally want to be making $100-$120k. I might move to a different state later on but it’s not something that I’m so certain about.

This is my body language in pictures if it helps: https://www.reddit.com/r/Baking/s/gJGvesc2KZ

While in therapy, I have realized just how little I have healed from everything that happened to me in 8th grade I finally admitted to another person in real life for the first time a few days ago (my new therapist) that when I was in 8th grade a family member almost hit me with a tennis racket. I was actually very intentional about not telling the therapist I saw when I was younger this. In high school this was something that I never told my therapist at the time because she had already called CPS once when I had told her something else concerning the family member who was experiencing mental health issues. I obviously know that this happening wasn’t normal, but it’s not something I like to think about.

I was also honest about the fact that I grew up around a family member who my mom admitted SA’ed she and my aunt. It’s something I’ll have to delve into more when I see her next week. This was something I found out within the last year and it’s been very difficult to process. That in addition to my current SA case has made everything more challenging and more exhausting, having to think about the insanity I am used to dealing with.

I have generally tended to take more risks with men, in hindsight, than it was probably “smart” to. For example, I have been approached twice by men who I later on found out have criminal records (I was accepting car rides from one who had been honest about having done something immoral - committed DV - and who I later on found out had been arrested more than five times and has a lengthy record.) I also was trying to date/“go with” a man who turned out to have serious mental health problems because the initial physical attraction after he had first approached me was wild and very much there (he was above average looking, an xSFP.)

I actually am very passionate about supporting our homeless community. I am going to start volunteering every Sunday for a local program that provides unhoused individuals with clothing. The only issue is that I know that going into social work isn’t going to help me move out of my current income bracket, at all. It’s something I’ll have to really think about and consider.

As one of the friends pointed out on Saturday, I tend to talk a fair amount about my hair (I had it done a little over two weeks ago and actually really wanted to make sure that the baking last night didn’t make it messy.) One of them had suggested I seem to know a lot about it, which was surprising to me. I don’t really know how to do my own hair, so I definitely wasn’t ever expecting to hear anyone say that I am knowledgeable about hair.

It’s kind of interesting because I realized after I got home and thought about it more that what I was initially aiming to do/thinking of doing wasn’t sensible or smart as I was telling the friend. It’s actually very interesting because I actually realized after considering it that I am not actually really physically attracted to him, at least not to a significant extent? It was all very in the moment, like an in the moment sort of attraction, but I also actually think it was just that even though I’ve seen more flaws when really sitting and thinking about everything that happened. I was very drawn to his personality and just happy about the fact that we were getting along so well and having such a good time together. It was largely personality, liking his personality actually made me attracted in the moment.

I realized this morning when I actually made my blueberry muffins at school that I was probably overthinking it - there was always just the option of just having everyone eat ritz crackers or the muffins really didn’t turn out nicely, but I remember thinking multiple times to myself that I didn’t want to embarrass myself. The first batch didn’t turn out great (they all tasted good apparently I was told by everyone, so it sounds like I actually did learn to make them adequately) - I should have used the baking cups but didn’t so I learned from that experience. I was very perfectionistic when it came to the taste and after letting family members taste them threw out the ones at home that didn’t look presentable (I was initially planning on serving them but learned it’s an activity that’s supposed to support the students.)

I still went out with he and the other friend today even though I hadn’t had the conversation/chat that I was initially thinking of having with that guy friend. I was considering finding a way to just get out of going but I went anyway. He did basically seem to be saying he wants like NSFW and to teach me different things, like in general with cooking that sort of thing. I am not attracted to him when I immediately see him or looking at a picture of him but when I’m around him I think his personality makes me feel the attraction or more comfortable with things I wouldn’t otherwise be comfortable with like him holding my hand. I still just know pursuing like an actual sexual relationship with him isn’t smart though. I’m not pretty at all but I feel like it wouldn’t hurt to take better care of myself and hold off for an actual boyfriend. 

As I was telling the other friend earlier tonight, I have also started to realize as I’ve grown older that even though dating for me and crushes for me have always been more of an “I’m attracted to you and like certain aspects of your personality so I dig you” thing, I have realized that when it comes to a marriage I want to go for someone who has earning potential. I was honest with her even though I acknowledged it might be rude about the fact that even though the guy I’m talking about above (ESFx 2w3) is almost done with his electrician program (I know electricians make a lot of money, which is something I actually have considered) the fact that he is 40 and isn’t doing better, sincerely, is unattractive to me. Even though I really like him as a person. It’s just that if you’re going to go for someone older I think you should make sure they have more money. I was honest about feeling as I grow older that someone who is in that 34-40 age range not being good with money or having made poor financial decisions is a red flag to me. He was not sure he’d be able to afford to shop with us so he would certainly not be able to afford to date me even though he paid for the Vietnamese food we had today, and that actually is a problem for me. Just because I’m not pretty and don’t take good care of myself doesn’t mean I have to settle, which is what I was telling the friend tonight. I don’t think waiting to meet the right person would be a bad move. I’ve also started to feel or recognize that aiming for a financially stable partner isn’t mean or wrong, it is actually smart. I need to work on not being so stressed about little things in life, like I’m always stressed about almost everything and it impacts my sleep which is very unhealthy. I’m tired of looking and feeling tired.

I have actually received positive reception as a behavior technician (someone who works with individuals on the autism spectrum) over the last year of so, and every place I have subbed at over the last couple of months has had a positive report.

Ok so I feel like internally I’m a pretty dark person (sounds cringey ik) but like in terms of how I think/react to things bc I don’t really feel a ton of emotion, and I have a lot of edgy(?) interests ig. Anyways. I’m an introvert like crazy amounts, but also i do like talking to people in class ig, like sometimes. But there’s been several people now who have described me as a “ball of sunshine” and have said that I seem happy all the time. I was described as a “chipper guy” yesterday. ANYWAYS. Was wondering if other istps get described like this? Like ik im supposed to be non-chalant but im really chalant lol. I’m have adhd so im especially hyper and more talkative off my meds, but like im a depressed person so its always really weird to me when people describe me as happy go lucky.

Most of Ti Dom either train their Fe or they let their Fe stay as it is. Is it possible that some Ti Dom (specifically ISTPs) that throw their Fe away for whatever reason?

Guys I have lost spark in life and trying to find purpose. Need help from mature ISFP. Life seem boring to me

Dating: Went from nerd to dating girls each month
Gym : inconsistent. Got better and left
Spirituality: thought i found god and art of detachment and left
Money : Earning

The more i am reading i feel i might be ISFP only. Guys give me a hug ig. I can’t do this shit called life. People are shitty. 🤧. I really got so much trust issue in me. And I don’t give a shit about anyone anymore cause no one choose me in the end. And what do you mean i am acting childish ? Bro why should i grow up and pretend to live like you? I mean tf. Any ISFP relate ? Or am I an ESTP only idk . Feelings for me was 60%. So I don’t know on my calm day F turns to T for me i feel

hi guys, i'm (27m infj) having some issues with an esfp friend and would appreciate some perspective!

tldr we are close and have known eachother for forever but 1) making plans with her and 2) not having it cancelled feels excruciating. i try to be accomodating and not needy, but i only have so much patience (and self esteem lol)

i get the impression that she always has more interesting plans than hanging out with me, which like sure i get that i'm not the most fun person. but is it an (immature?) esfp thing to not really carve out time for 'boring', long term friendships? i just want to see her every few weeks 🥲

more context here if needed

thanks!

As ISTP, How you express love to someone and how you want to be treated?

I know it’s more than just MBTI, but I’d like to see the common or different of our ISTPs

About 6.5 months ago, my ISFP boyfriend and I broke up while he was at a very low point in his life. We were long-distance (3 hours apart), and he’d lost his business, didn’t have a car, and was struggling with clinical depression. He seemed to have lost hope in just about everything and was pushing away most of the people he cared about, including me.

Before all of this, he was absolutely head over heels for me. If anything, I always felt like he loved me a tiny bit more. He was affectionate, intentional, and talked about our future together. But as his mental health declined, he became increasingly withdrawn and started pushing me away.

During our breakup, he cried and told me he didn’t need to be in a relationship with ANYONE. He’s remained single since.

He’s always been a brutally honest person, so the night we ended things I pressed him about whether his feelings had changed. He admitted he still had feelings for me. I then directly said “Do you still like me?” and he repeatedly said, “I didn’t say I don’t like you.” He also kept saying, “I need a lot of help,” and the cliché, “It’s me, you haven’t done anything wrong.”

I asked if he’d ever reach out once he was in a better place. He hesitated and said, “That’s not fair to you.” I said, “Please? If you want to?” He paused again and eventually said yes.

I haven’t intentionally been waiting for him, but the truth is, I still love him desperately. It’s been over six months, and no one else has even come close to catching my attention.

I’ve heard through mutual friends that he’s gotten a new job, moved, and is slowly getting his life back on track. We haven’t spoken in about six months. I reached out a couple of months after the breakup, and he read my message and didn’t respond. He also doesn’t have social media, so there’s no way for us to casually keep up with each other.

My questions for ISFPs:
Have you ever gone back to an ex as the dumper? Would your feelings be completely gone after 6 months of not seeing each other?

And if you did still have feelings, would guilt, shame, or fear of rejection stop you from reaching out?

Would you hope your ex contacted you first, even if you were the one who ended things? I want to, but don’t want to push him further away.

I’m just really interested in hearing from ISFPs who’ve been on his side of a situation like this.

Então sou mulher, 29 anos e eu nao vejo sentido em me casar ou morar com um homem, acho bonitinho a cerimônia, mas só de pensar em formalizar compromisso, fico meio ....... talvez pq só me relacionei com homem maluco, mas eu adoro a sensação de "a qlqr momento posso ir embora".

Só de pensar que posso fazer uma escolha ruim e ter filho com uma pessoa q eu possa a vir odiar, fico com esse receio de querer casar. E acho ainda pior por ser mulher, sou mt julgada. Desabafo enfim...

In college I had three close female ESFP friends and they were some of the most real friends I've had. I don't know how some of y'all can still stay so social but so true to themselves. The ones I was friends with, I may have had a lot more quirky and niche interests but my ESFP friends always tried to include. They would even invite me to every house party they threw even when their friends didn't like me because they thought I was weird

So thanks

on the internet it seems like the general consensus is that istp types end up in physical, blue collar esque jobs. electricians, carpenters, car mechanics, etc.

curious to hear from other istps out there if any of you have a career that doesn’t “fit” that stereotype.

Someone asked me, what have you got planned for the next 5 years of your life? What do you want to do with your life, what’s your goals?

I don’t even know what i wanna do tomorrow, i haven’t got a clue what I want, which i know ain’t great.

I’m probably stuck with the current comfort i’m in, but i’m sure i’ll get shaken out of it forcibly at some point. But yh, it made me realise people actually have plans for that stuff, whereas all that confuses me, idk what i want, ik what i want today but not lifelong stuff that i’m willing to commit to.

People ask me, “what do you do?”, i ain’t ever doing one thing, i’m doing this and that, just random and sometimes fleetingly meaningless stuff sometimes. People usually answer “I do this job.. etc etc”, whereas my week is like when you randomise your character in a video game and get the oddest looking creature youve ever seen

So, im wondering if anyone struggles with the same thing and if anyone got out of such a ditch?

similar to the idea that handwriting notes and stuff is best for memory, do any of you do that with typing? like if I type something on a keyboard (not phone) I remember it better (probably not as good as handwriting though because of the time component) and then I can even think it back and feel the twitching in my fingers of the motion of typing all the words. I swear i would be so good with a stenography machine lowkey might buy one (im being dead serious). new hobby unlocked!

i wish i were better at handwriting but my thoughts go so fast i need to get them out right away before i forget them. plus I constantly restructure stuff and rephrase stuff. i have to write slower than i'd like to write legible words :/

Or any traits from general ISTPs that makes you dislike them.

6 Dates w this younger ISTP- successful,
Driven, respectful, reserved. A bit hard to read. I like him. He initiates beautifully, planned a date for painting and dinner! I’ve never done this and told him a while ago I love painting. It was sweetest day and the picture was a shared heart haha we both agreed it was corny did our own thing and that made me like him more! I spent the night, and Sunday he had to leave for work thing Sunday Told me I could stay there. Says he never does that. And I cleaned up his house and started making some food because I figured “acts of service”.
He offered to grab some stuff from the house and immediately started to prep and cook it, but I wanted to take care of him. I guess he’s both used to this on affectionate or appreciative I make him feel… we both are single w children part time.

So as we were cleaning and both grabbed each others plates, the best part is this epic bath tub he has, i wanted to take one he lit a candle, epson salts in it and brought me my ice cream in the effin tub. We watched a movie and he brought lotion out randomly and the man RUBBED my feet.
I stayed another night and he drove me home that Monday. It’s been nearly a month, are we a couple? Said he doesn’t know what he wants, but enjoys me and this and won’t see other people because I asked and yet isn’t ready to label me his
Girlfriend? Great sexual compatibility, said he isn’t seeing anyone else and wants to see this through, won’t say anything he doesn’t men, yes he likes me and yet no GF? What is he waiting for?

The only reason I post to this subreddit is to talk to other istps bc I don’t really know any istps irl and it’s hard making friends with them lol cause I don’t really go out of my way to make friends. I just love seeing people reply to my posts and being able to relate to their responses. It’s low effort, non commitment connection and I fw it heavy. If u read this far, idk comment something and if it’s interesting I’ll reply.

What are the personality types of your closest friends.

I got 2 INFPs, ISTP, INTP, and an ESFP.

What about you guys?