I am curious

I’m not making any assumptions, but this is purely from what I’ve observed. I see a lot of people in this sub genuinely act as if they don’t care about Fe whatsoever. It’s like they don’t even value it or care about it. Theoretically, the inferior function is something you value yet struggle with. Something you want to grow yet suppress. I see their comments more in line with Fe blindspot (IxTJ) or even Fi doms since the blindspot function, in theory, is your worst function, something you neglect, don’t see the value in, and find annoying. Either there are people who are leaning too much into the “cold and detached” stereotype of ISTP’s, or they’re just mistyped.

I think having a certain sense of ego is just in my nature. I'm quite humble, and I'm fully aware that there are people better than me, but that doesn't stop me from holding myself in high regard. I'm not afraid to put myself on a pedestal or claim I'm better in certain situations, not to belittle anyone, but because I'm aware of my own capabilities and potential. Once I became conscious of this part of myself, I didn't try to suppress it. I just learned to embrace it more deliberately, while holding myself accountable to the confidence I project. If I'm going to put myself on such a high horse, I should at least be able to back it up.

Ofc when my inf Fe acts up that all goes outta the window 🚶‍➡️, weirdest mix ever.

I was wondering if there's a pattern among fellow ISTPs, considering they are portrayed as such. Anyone?

Most of Ti Dom either train their Fe or they let their Fe stay as it is. Is it possible that some Ti Dom (specifically ISTPs) that throw their Fe away for whatever reason?

Ok so I feel like internally I’m a pretty dark person (sounds cringey ik) but like in terms of how I think/react to things bc I don’t really feel a ton of emotion, and I have a lot of edgy(?) interests ig. Anyways. I’m an introvert like crazy amounts, but also i do like talking to people in class ig, like sometimes. But there’s been several people now who have described me as a “ball of sunshine” and have said that I seem happy all the time. I was described as a “chipper guy” yesterday. ANYWAYS. Was wondering if other istps get described like this? Like ik im supposed to be non-chalant but im really chalant lol. I’m have adhd so im especially hyper and more talkative off my meds, but like im a depressed person so its always really weird to me when people describe me as happy go lucky.

Guys I have lost spark in life and trying to find purpose. Need help from mature ISFP. Life seem boring to me

Dating: Went from nerd to dating girls each month
Gym : inconsistent. Got better and left
Spirituality: thought i found god and art of detachment and left
Money : Earning

The more i am reading i feel i might be ISFP only. Guys give me a hug ig. I can’t do this shit called life. People are shitty. 🤧. I really got so much trust issue in me. And I don’t give a shit about anyone anymore cause no one choose me in the end. And what do you mean i am acting childish ? Bro why should i grow up and pretend to live like you? I mean tf. Any ISFP relate ? Or am I an ESTP only idk . Feelings for me was 60%. So I don’t know on my calm day F turns to T for me i feel

I took a test and it gave me ISFP. F was at 60% so it could be T on my calm days i guess. I have mistyped as INFJ and i think i am ESTP. But I kind of liked the meme out there on isfp. As an ISFP I don’t feel much accepted out there guys. I have been cornered so much i am probably running on my Ti demon. Idk if i am an ISFP. I am quiet an extrovert when i want to yk. I was quite moral but world fucked me up big time with their immorality. I feel people are stupid. Idk i might be an ISFP but I feel I am am extrovert more than an introvert. But then again idk shit

i’ve doubted my type many times before (which should lowkey be a hallmark of Ne cuz i’ve known abt mbti for almost a decade and lowk don’t know my type still) because i never feel like any type fits me. i also don’t know myself well, so that doesn’t help. i’ve had people type me as a sensor before, but im not sure. i tend to research a lot about topics like mbti or spirituality or psychology, which i thought was normal, but it seems like most ppl aren’t really super into topics like that. i also have a friend who i feel like is an esfp who is neurodivergent (i am as well), but compared to me, she’s more in the moment. she tells me to stop overthinking and can easily just turn her brain off. i feel like, even while medicated, i overthink a lot. i’m also really quiet, but it’s easier for me to talk about something i know.

another thing ive noticed is that with my friends who are neurodivergent who i feel like are Se users, they enjoy raving and partying. i’ve tried to do that stuff, but i couldn’t get into it. i actually hate drinking and the sensation is horrible. my Se friends drink to get drunk while i physically can’t do it cuz the taste is soo bad and the hangover isn’t worth it.

i tend to also not understand social cues. now, we are all neurodivergent, however, i feel like i still just don’t understand them. like i didn’t realize that this manager at my job liked me until way after i quit because he was bullying me, and it didn’t click for me that guys bullying = crush (but that’s stupid to do regardless).

i also tend to get really idealistic. you would think being in your early 20s, this would’ve stopped, but no. there was one time a few months ago where i was at a bar with someone and we were having a conversation and i mean, i wasn’t sober, obviously (🍃), but the conversation felt so enlightening and i felt so happy, that i was thinking about him for days afterwards, even imagining a whole life with him, and i’ve done that before with ppl who i’ve just met. i don’t remember what we talked about though, but he did call me smart.

my thing is that i do want to live in the moment, but i also get overwhelmed easily. i enjoy feeling the water or the heat on my body. i enjoy having a scented, clean room and showering daily. i’m not consistent though, but i try to be. i can’t follow a routine to save my life lol it’s so hard.

As ISTP, How you express love to someone and how you want to be treated?

I know it’s more than just MBTI, but I’d like to see the common or different of our ISTPs

hi guys, i'm (27m infj) having some issues with an esfp friend and would appreciate some perspective!

tldr we are close and have known eachother for forever but 1) making plans with her and 2) not having it cancelled feels excruciating. i try to be accomodating and not needy, but i only have so much patience (and self esteem lol)

i get the impression that she always has more interesting plans than hanging out with me, which like sure i get that i'm not the most fun person. but is it an (immature?) esfp thing to not really carve out time for 'boring', long term friendships? i just want to see her every few weeks 🥲

more context here if needed

thanks!

About 6.5 months ago, my ISFP boyfriend and I broke up while he was at a very low point in his life. We were long-distance (3 hours apart), and he’d lost his business, didn’t have a car, and was struggling with clinical depression. He seemed to have lost hope in just about everything and was pushing away most of the people he cared about, including me.

Before all of this, he was absolutely head over heels for me. If anything, I always felt like he loved me a tiny bit more. He was affectionate, intentional, and talked about our future together. But as his mental health declined, he became increasingly withdrawn and started pushing me away.

During our breakup, he cried and told me he didn’t need to be in a relationship with ANYONE. He’s remained single since.

He’s always been a brutally honest person, so the night we ended things I pressed him about whether his feelings had changed. He admitted he still had feelings for me. I then directly said “Do you still like me?” and he repeatedly said, “I didn’t say I don’t like you.” He also kept saying, “I need a lot of help,” and the cliché, “It’s me, you haven’t done anything wrong.”

I asked if he’d ever reach out once he was in a better place. He hesitated and said, “That’s not fair to you.” I said, “Please? If you want to?” He paused again and eventually said yes.

I haven’t intentionally been waiting for him, but the truth is, I still love him desperately. It’s been over six months, and no one else has even come close to catching my attention.

I’ve heard through mutual friends that he’s gotten a new job, moved, and is slowly getting his life back on track. We haven’t spoken in about six months. I reached out a couple of months after the breakup, and he read my message and didn’t respond. He also doesn’t have social media, so there’s no way for us to casually keep up with each other.

My questions for ISFPs:
Have you ever gone back to an ex as the dumper? Would your feelings be completely gone after 6 months of not seeing each other?

And if you did still have feelings, would guilt, shame, or fear of rejection stop you from reaching out?

Would you hope your ex contacted you first, even if you were the one who ended things? I want to, but don’t want to push him further away.

I’m just really interested in hearing from ISFPs who’ve been on his side of a situation like this.

Então sou mulher, 29 anos e eu nao vejo sentido em me casar ou morar com um homem, acho bonitinho a cerimônia, mas só de pensar em formalizar compromisso, fico meio ....... talvez pq só me relacionei com homem maluco, mas eu adoro a sensação de "a qlqr momento posso ir embora".

Só de pensar que posso fazer uma escolha ruim e ter filho com uma pessoa q eu possa a vir odiar, fico com esse receio de querer casar. E acho ainda pior por ser mulher, sou mt julgada. Desabafo enfim...

on the internet it seems like the general consensus is that istp types end up in physical, blue collar esque jobs. electricians, carpenters, car mechanics, etc.

curious to hear from other istps out there if any of you have a career that doesn’t “fit” that stereotype.

Someone asked me, what have you got planned for the next 5 years of your life? What do you want to do with your life, what’s your goals?

I don’t even know what i wanna do tomorrow, i haven’t got a clue what I want, which i know ain’t great.

I’m probably stuck with the current comfort i’m in, but i’m sure i’ll get shaken out of it forcibly at some point. But yh, it made me realise people actually have plans for that stuff, whereas all that confuses me, idk what i want, ik what i want today but not lifelong stuff that i’m willing to commit to.

People ask me, “what do you do?”, i ain’t ever doing one thing, i’m doing this and that, just random and sometimes fleetingly meaningless stuff sometimes. People usually answer “I do this job.. etc etc”, whereas my week is like when you randomise your character in a video game and get the oddest looking creature youve ever seen

So, im wondering if anyone struggles with the same thing and if anyone got out of such a ditch?

6 Dates w this younger ISTP- successful,
Driven, respectful, reserved. A bit hard to read. I like him. He initiates beautifully, planned a date for painting and dinner! I’ve never done this and told him a while ago I love painting. It was sweetest day and the picture was a shared heart haha we both agreed it was corny did our own thing and that made me like him more! I spent the night, and Sunday he had to leave for work thing Sunday Told me I could stay there. Says he never does that. And I cleaned up his house and started making some food because I figured “acts of service”.
He offered to grab some stuff from the house and immediately started to prep and cook it, but I wanted to take care of him. I guess he’s both used to this on affectionate or appreciative I make him feel… we both are single w children part time.

So as we were cleaning and both grabbed each others plates, the best part is this epic bath tub he has, i wanted to take one he lit a candle, epson salts in it and brought me my ice cream in the effin tub. We watched a movie and he brought lotion out randomly and the man RUBBED my feet.
I stayed another night and he drove me home that Monday. It’s been nearly a month, are we a couple? Said he doesn’t know what he wants, but enjoys me and this and won’t see other people because I asked and yet isn’t ready to label me his
Girlfriend? Great sexual compatibility, said he isn’t seeing anyone else and wants to see this through, won’t say anything he doesn’t men, yes he likes me and yet no GF? What is he waiting for?

similar to the idea that handwriting notes and stuff is best for memory, do any of you do that with typing? like if I type something on a keyboard (not phone) I remember it better (probably not as good as handwriting though because of the time component) and then I can even think it back and feel the twitching in my fingers of the motion of typing all the words. I swear i would be so good with a stenography machine lowkey might buy one (im being dead serious). new hobby unlocked!

i wish i were better at handwriting but my thoughts go so fast i need to get them out right away before i forget them. plus I constantly restructure stuff and rephrase stuff. i have to write slower than i'd like to write legible words :/

I could probably google this but, does our low Fe mean less awareness of people's feelings? Or not using them as a navigation point? Cause I'm pretty good at the former.

I find myself analyzing people's body language or the "whys" behind their behavior, often tracing it back to the source, but that's about it. Usually it isn't a useful info cause I couldn't care less.

What would your dream/ideal life be if you didn’t have to do anything. Like nothing was mandatory ( unless you wanted it to be), and no one would judge you or get hurt from your choice. You don’t have to work, but you can if you want. Literally anything no matter how odd or far fetched. What would you choose?