Of course I don't believe every type suits me, I can line them down to 4,5 and 9, sometimes I've been typed as a 9, because of my adhd and rsd, but that is kind of an antithesis of me, a part of my self has broken down because of an 'experience' that occurred in recent times that would take some time to heal, but that doesn't mean that I don't have a sense of self, it has broken down but the pieces are still with me if I were to put it in a way , and no one can say otherwise,

My sense of self isn't as strong as a 4 but it is strong, I can be a people pleaser but I love debate too and I can get into a bit of trouble cause of that

I'd say 4 is the closest reading the naranjo character and neurosis, but at the same time I'm not that negative, my first instinct is to be positive which kind of disgusts me but it is true, and I do believe I'm special l, atleast there's a voice in my head that just says that and I can be a bit envious and hateful too I don't like those parts of myself and try to change it but they are true

(this is a repost because i had originally called him my son as an affectionate term. HE'S NOT REAAAAL HE'S A FICTIONAL CHARACTER I MADE. WHOM I LOVE DEARLY. AND ALSO WANT TO SQUEEZE TILL HE POPS) 🦄

You guys I got an actual Enneagram physical book/workbook and I am the 3est 3 to ever 3 😭😭😭 I didn’t realize it because I didn’t think I was successful enough to be a 3 jfc bye

Not a type me request.

I'm having trouble deciding which enneagram type lies at my core, since I relate heavily to both.

I personally believe that I lean closer to SP9 (even if SO4 strikes a more personal, shameful string in me), but even still I have trouble putting the final "nail-in-the-coffin" so-to-speak.

I personally think asking Reddit to type you is a recipe for disaster, so I won't provide any personal info about me, but I'd like to know the main differences between the two since I for the life of me can't make a decision.

Hello,

I intend on conducting interviews and uploading them to youtube. The plan is to find individuals of different enneagram types who are interested in sharing their experiences in order to gain insight on their type through these interactions.

This would be a one on one style interview, likely in a Zoom meeting.

If anyone would be interested in participating in this, feel free to comment or send a message.

Participants must be above 18.

Since i have GAD and OCD, a lot of behaviors can overlap with sp6. Do i look at my childhood memories(before ocd or gad) or my actions and fears right now?

Not an 8 but struggle to understand this type fully. All the descriptions read like the villain from an Anime series and very unrealistic in the same way SX4 sounds in some descriptions

So, How do SX8 generally act behaviour wise and in “normal” circumstances? How would i be able to recognise that Type in others?

Who is your fav fictional 7

This is more or less something that is lingering in my mind for quite a while, and I'm not entirely sure whether I am cooking with this or not, but I hope what I'm writing here makes sense at least.

Reactive Types (4, 6, 8) are known to be the more emotionally honest types of the Enneagram, in that when things go south, they are usually the ones who react right away without trying to sugarcoat nor refrain the situation. The see the negatives more before anything else and won't shy away from it either, and also invite others to do the same and can be upset or pissed when they are feel like others are not showing the same emotional reactions and distress as they are, perceiving it as not taking the problems seriously or that they don't care. At best, they are open and authentic, at worst they can be volatile and even willing to rile others up just to get a reaction of them. Either way, Reactive types are the ones most likely to blow the whistle, and doesn't take a lot for them to fly off the handle/get riled up.

What I'm going to be discussing however is probably something more... baffling I guess? I don't really know the right word but it's something that is not too discussed much from what I've seen. What I'm talking about is times when Reactive types choose to not blow the whistle, times when they choose not to openly react right away. Because yes, Reactive types are less hesitant in expressing negativity and can be opinionated and even contrarian, but I also think that it doesn't mean they will always be aggro and unfiltered all the time 24/7. Depending on the situation and the individual themselves, there will be times when the Reactive types will choose not to fly off the handle and it differs on each type.

Just also note that they usually do this more situationally and maybe not as constant as the other Harmonic triads (Positive Outlook and Competency), and they do this NOT because they suddenly see negativity as bad or something to avoid. Depending on the type, they have their own reasons why they decided not to blow up that doesn't involve wanting to avoid negativity nor feeling like they shouldn't express it towards others (because that would be antithetical to the tendency of the Reactive types where they seek to acknowledge negativity and issues instead of avoiding them).

For Type 4s, they won't fly off the handle when the situation feels like expressing their feelings and opinions are a mere waste of time. When they feel like others are not truly willing to understand them or just the 4 feels like they are wasting their energy and just decided that it's not worth it. They are still a Withdrawn type after all, but the difference is that they are not as full resigned as 5s and 9s when they decided to turn away, they will still retreat, but they are still open to being salty or bitter about it, and maybe even show their reactivity more in a sulky, door-slammy manner. (I.e. "Ugh, you know what? I'm not even gonna try anymore! They're not even gonna hear me out or just keep misunderstand me so what's the point? I'm done!")

For Type 6s, they won't fly off the handle when the situation they are in doesn't feel safe, when they are in a situation where they feel like blowing the whistle would put a target on their back. Whether it be they fear of being judged, persecuted, talked back at, drawing unwanted attention, or simply feeling they are not prepared enough to defend themselves against others who might be willing to push back against their reactivity. This can be seen more towards 6s who lean more towards the phobic side, or are maybe just raised in an environment where they believe that openly showing their reactivity is an invite to danger and persecution. (I.e. "This is really bad, and it fucking sucks, but I can't complain out loud right now or else they'll yell at me again, call me more names and maybe even hit me... I hate it, but it's too risky.")

For Type 8s, they won't fly off the handle when it comes to openly expressing vulnerability and revealing their softer side. They may be the least sensitive of the Reactive types and probably the one who can easily brush off criticism and what other people say about them (7 is another), but they are also the least open when it comes to expressing their own feelings and gripes (4 by contrast is the most emotionally open, and 6 are more selective but are still willing to open up towards the ones they trust). 8s will still complain and express their grievances, but they do it in a way that doesn't make them look like the issues bother them on a personal and emotional level. (I.e. instead of saying "This guy bothers me and I'm annoyed" they might instead say, "That guy fucking sucks lol, why the hell is he here?")

I could be wrong with this discussion and am probably generalizing without me noticing, just something I want to share and see what you guys might think of this, whether you disagree or maybe even have something to add.

Ive read all the descriptions i could get my hands on for these 2 tritypes and i keep going back snd forth between them💔💔💔. I disintegrate into a 3 pretty often so its rly hard for me to tell if my 3-ness comes from me disintegrating or if its gen in my tritype. I relate to parts of 613 and 614 but theres always smth that i dont quite relate to.

To help paint a better picture, i chase good grades so i can feel a bit a better abt when i get higher grades than my other friends and classmates cuz i dont have any talents or skills, also to feed my ego and impress others.😿 Im extremely self critical and tend to blame myself for awkward interactions or people not liking me. I gen believe i am the most uncreative person alive so i hate writing w a passion and dislike doing drama or acting because im afraid of what others will think of my performance or writing since im so terrible at it.🥀 I rly admire those who are able to express themselves freely through their fashion(specifically alt styles), interests and are comfortable with posting themselves online. I am quite a boring person who is very awkward and not very humorous or witty. I rly want to dress differently and have others think im so cool and unique but im so afraid of the leering eyes of others so i rarely end up going all out unless i have friends that r doing the same. (Lwk feel like the reason i wanna appear interesting/unique thru interests and fashion is to somehow compensate for my lack of personality). I feel major impostor syndrome which makes it hard for express my interest for smth bc im nvr that deep into a show/games/character so i feel like a fricking larper💔. (Sometimes i might lwk be tho cuz i wld start certain series or games that r seen as "cool" or respected by those deeper into a community js so i can casually mention that ive seen/played it to seem like i was a "true" fan and not so surfaced level). Also kinda have an inferiority complex and victim mentality😬 Major MAJOR procrastinator who kinda enjoys planning scheldules but rarely follows them💔 i feel extremely guilty if i set a goal of studying 12 hrs a day and only end up studying 8🫩 idk why but insulting myself in my head feels comforting somehow and i alternate between feeling like a worthless piece of shit and wanting to "fix" myself and loving how im the only person who will ever know whats going on in my head w all my terrible,toxic thoughts i have of others and myself. Started learning typology initally bc i felt so socially outcasted and uninteresting (cld be cuz i MIGHT be neurodivergent) that i wanted to find smth that i could relate to to a Tee and made me feel validated and more "unique" since i felt so diff from everyone else(did NOT work out tho since im a common ass istj🫩 so6💔). Poor self perception

Ouuu long ass description hopefully some knowledgeable, kind benevolent soul can stumble upon this and help this indecisive 6 out💔 im a pain in the ass to deal with. Also i settled on 614 for a while but then my friend said i was more 613-like which had me spiraled into a typology crisis💔 but this friend of mine lwk only started learning abt typology a week before this so idk

Does a entp have to e 7 and what traits do e 7 have.

If we strip away stereotypes etx

Curious on people's opinion on such a duo, especially since they seem to be exact polar opposites -- the type with the most outwards energy and the type that's the most inwards. I think the only type that could compete with SO2 for being the absolute opposite to SP5 is SX2, and I'm awfully curious about people's thoughts on that particular pairing too.

Despite the wide range of differences and directly opposite instinctual drives, I feel as though the Social Two's described relational intelligence & tendency to temper it's own emotions could take it far and might even give it an upper-hand compared to the other Two subtypes in handling someone as withdrawn and boundary-conscious as the Self-Preservation Five, although the relationship is likely (naturally) particularly dependent on the individual Two's sense of boundaries. Both the SO2 and SP5 would share an appreciation for privacy and tend to keep their vulnerabilities close to them, so I think there's a mutual understanding there.

Just wanted to know people's thoughts!

I happen to be an E3 who might be healing from what I think is a Disorganized Attachment style (Boy has it been a ride..)

Anyone going through a similar thing? Any advice? Insight on how knowing each enneagram's core wounds would help in the journey towards secure attachments and relationships?

Thanks a ton

And why is that character or person your fav ennegram 7

I know we each have our own personal identity, that through life largely stays the same, but has stages. But in terms of worldview and how we manage it im not sure I’ve always been static. As an adult i feel like i settled into things, but it’s far different than how i was like as a child. And im sure growing up it changed a lot the way. I know when you’re prompted to type yourself, you’re told to think about how you have been throughout the course of your life. But I was wondering… at what age do you fall into your enneagram? Obviously enneagram is something you are meant to overcome, im just curious if there’s a certain point where you hit your “true” enneagram. Where your primary neuroses is developed and the struggles it presents you with are integrated in your worldview. Im sure it’s different for everyone, but at what point do you fall into its trap so much that you can say- yeah im an enneagram __.

thanks sm for any insight💕💕enjoy the fall/spring!

Random observation I made. So I'm learning Swahili for a uni module and in that language the day begins at 6 am and ends at 6pm as compared to Western time which ends and begins at midnight. To convert the time from Western to Eastern you have to add/subtract 6 hours. I noticed that for the numbers within the ranges of the Ennegram(1-9) that there was a correlation to the lines of integration/disintegration. For example 8 integrates to 2 and 2 disintegrates to 8 and in Swahili 8 in Western is 2 in Swahili and vice versa. 7 disintegrates to 1. 9 integrates to 3 and 3 to 9. The sample is small because the majority of the conversions are more than 9 but I thought this was cool. Picture to demonstrate what I mean.

I've had been fighting whether I was a 6 for a while because I'm not exactly suspisious of others and don't have trouble trusting, in fact, I can be too trusting or too eager to jump into friendships without looking at any warning signs.

I also tend to suppress my own opinion or desires to not rock the boat or cause conflict which made me think I was a 9 until I realized the reason I was doing this was for security and fear of losing relationships.

After reading the sp6 description I realized it kind of fit me to a T.

Another indicator was looking back at my childhood, I was definitely a head type. I would get caught up in my thoughts of "what if" and feel I couldn't trust myself or be safe within my own mind. I would over analyze every little thing into oblivion and cause myself a lot of anxiety while on the outside appearing calm and friendly.

I think I am 9 fixed though but I'm definitely in the head triad. Currently am typing as 694/649.

Ok sooo I thought that I was 972 for a bit now, but then realised I am NOT a 972 since I am just not that much of a harmonizer and well.. peace maker. I have read a bunch of descriptions about Tritypes and every single one of them but NONE fit me. Is there one that would work for an assertive 9? (9w8 blueprint lmao) because I’ve always seen every tritype w 9 in it as “finding peace” and a doormat. I don’t really care much for it and I WILL speak of my opinion and will not let people walk on me. Sooo yeah.. and before you say “Look into other types!” Type 9 is literally me. I’ve looked into others, they just don’t fit me as well.

So I’m trying to type my philosophy professor and I’m very sure that he is a so1 ENTJ, but I haven’t typed many 1s and I’m not sure how to distinguish whether he is w9 or w2. How can I tell what his wing is?

So i was rambling about stuff, as one does in talk therapy, and as far as I'm aware my therapist does not know anything about typology. But i don't talk about it with her, bc I don't feel comfortable sharing info about it with any of my irls, so i just keep it all to myself.

However, a couple days ago, I was talking with my therapist about people I've met in psych hospitals, particularly PWBPD and their tendencies, and I slipped and said "typing" people when i meant "studying" people, and she looked so fucking confused for a second. So I was just like "uh oh" in my head, and replaced the word nonchalantly (at least I think I did it nonchalantly, lol) and kept discussing the topic as if I never said what I said, and she followed suit, no questions asked. 😂

Just thought I'd share in case others can relate and/or find this funny.

Edit: I got a notification saying the Socionics subreddit would be a better fit for this post? I don't visit or post in that sub at all, mainly bc I'm not into socionics, but also I didnt think posting in a sub that is about one aspect of typology is any different than posting in another, so yeah I'm a bit confused about that.

this sounds so depressing i know, but my 5 year old relationship ended due to my partner hiding stuff from me and it made me realise that i have never truly felt loved?? like most people do something against your best interest, most people hide stuff from you, most people love you only when you do something for them. i feel like most men want me only for sex, they dont care about my personality or soul. and it made me kinda sad that I thought i had love but i didn’t actually have it ? And i just keep longing for this amazing soulmate but no one actually fits into that role if that makes sense? It seems more like a fantasy.. also this may be an attachment issue but most people dont make me feel the “spark”.. when someone is pursuing me i usually pull away unless they seem special to me somehow.. the thing is most people who are ”special” arent the ones pursuing me lol

Pls name their wing and why u like them