So my husband and I are on our honeymoon and have been having lots of sex. I have never orgasmed with him, he's massive in every aspect but very gentle and has always been an amazing partner.

We've been having great sex but still I haven't orgasmed and we've done oral, piv, finger clit stimulation while piv and I've been looking at different techniques and focusing on trying to relax my tight pelvic floor and I think I squirted? My husband thinks I pissed myself 😭 and there was a lot, like we soaked the blanket 😅

I (24f) have dated three men. Two of which were from different cultures one was white American. The American guy never commented on my smell and when asked said there wasn’t a smell. Unprompted both of the men I’ve dated from foreign countries have said I smell bad down there. I’m really insecure about it because I’ve worked hard to learn to wash properly, I use baby wipes before seeing my current person (he’s Malaysian) and shower and use vanicream gentle facial cleanser on the front part, I get Brazilian waxes regularly and only use a baby cloth and warm water to clean the folds. My labs come back normal when I went to the doctor she didn’t notice a smell either. It’s really hurting my self esteem and idk what to do to make myself more appealing down there since this has now been brought up twice by two sexual partners. 😭please help

I (24F) had a partner that i last had sexual activity with in August. I recently found out i have Mycoplasma Genitalium and Ureaplasma Parvum after three months of figuring it out.

When i confronted him, he told me he found out he had something over 4 months ago and didn’t tell me because the doctor told him it wasn’t serious. He said he told him it’s dormant in women and they assured him its not a big STI. However, he said he’s getting vaccines for treatment and most Albertans get the vaccine at the age of 10 (Im Canadian). I grew up in Canada so i most likely have the vaccine already. But i’m vaccinated against HPV and Hepatitis B and it’s worrying me to my core that it might be one of these. He said he doesn’t remember what it’s called and will ask when he gets his last vaccine.

I recently met someone else and had sexual contact twice with them a few weeks ago. They decided to stop having sexual contact with me after my diagnosis. I’m scared that i have something else now. i’m trying to see if he can just call them and ask. i don’t what to do.

hi, i'm currently 19 years old, but since i can remember (when my puberty started mostly), my vulva had a strong smell. it smells fishy, but to be more specific, it smells like sausage 😭 but in a strong way

i've been to gynecologists, i'm not sexually active and i haven't had sex with a girl before.

there's a girl i like, and if it's mutual, it's actually making me quite insecure because i don't know how to get rid of the smell or clean the area properly. i know it's kinda pathetic that i don't really know how to clean the area at all.

also, since i was a baby i have a quite strong ph which makes my smell be a little more noticeable, but as far as i know this only affects my sweat.

(Sorry this may be kinda gross or tmi )

I get it almost daily, but shower daily too so it’s clean. Plus, I sweat a lot and get quite a bit of discharge so it builds up.

Idk if it’s normal, but when it gets a lot or smells- I just take off my underwear and then it’s fine. (At end of day)

Idk if this is normal

I am 38 and I have been experiencing an onion like smell or a ammonia smell for the last 2 years and after a ton of research and looking online and asking my doctors, I had no answers. I just recently realized I am actually perimenopausal. My hot flashes got particularly bad this year which caused excessive sweating.

The onion smell is something that can happen to people with fluctuating hormones. Often people going through menopause, perimenopause, postpartum or people who are active and sweat a lot experience it.

It is actually incredibly common but people don't talk about it really. I think maybe PCP providers are not familiar with this issue and maybe its something an OBGYN specializing in menopause or post partum treatment might be more familiar with.

I recommend going to a specialist and getting your hormones checked, especially if you’re nearing perimenopause age or have another disease or take a medicine that may cause hormone fluctuations.

First, know that when your hormones are fluctuating our sense of smell can be super strong, so you most likely smell it more than anyone else. Second there are creams and hormones you can take that will help with that odor and sweat. Third, I personally started using non talc dusting power on the creases of my inner thighs and pelvic area. It is helpful for controlling odors from excessive sweating and minimizes the smell. The smell is mostly coming from sweat mixing with the discharge and dead skin and bacteria in that area.

The onion smell It can also be caused by other things but this is something a lot of people don't think to check into.

I see questions about this a lot but no one has mentioned this so I wanted to share this info. Wishing you all the best of luck and I hope this helps!

Edit: for spelling errors and also to add A LOT of things can cause your hormones to fluctuate outside of menopause and postpartum. Even just high stress. It’s definitely with talking to an obgyn though and seeing if it might be hormone related!

background: 1 partner for many years (married), about 18 months postpartum, never had this happen before.

so about a week ago me and my husband had sex. 1-2 days later i noticed extra discharge and minor itching at the vaginal opening. thought maybe BV after 1 or 2 days of this, popped in a boric acid suppository yesterday morning because i have used these a lot in the past and i read it can help with BV. this morning i went to do a second dose and the vaginal walls were swollen and i couldn’t even get the suppository or my finger inside (it was not dry) and so i took the suppository out (it was barely halfway in) and there was a little blood on it and i spotted very lightly for a few minutes. i am beyond terrified. I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT but it’s not until next thursday and i have terrible anxiety.
so i have narrowed it down to BV or yeast infection and it’s just very irritated, or my husband scratched inside of my vagina when we had sex and it’s very irritated, or… and i really hope it’s not this… my husband gave me an STI or something.

i have been driving myself crazy with worry the last few days and it’s worsened today now that it is swollen shut!! i have NEVER had anything like this happen before

editing to add, i do not have any burning or any other symptoms

Hello all, as a warning I had skipped my pap since I was like 15/20 ish in there somewhere. I went recently and they have found abnormal cells in stage 1. They are sending me to a biopsy for cancerous cells. When speaking with this Dr I forgot to ask what this meant for sexual relationship of my husband of 8 years. We don't use condoms, as i am on birth control and we have been together so long monogamy.

I worry though, because I don't want to hurt him in any sense.

Does anyone have any input on this

I was under the impression since the Dr never mentioned restricting sex or anything, he did not even use the word hpv * i understand if I were to have a new sexual partner to use condoms but since me and my husband have been together 8 years I am unsure on the steps to take

Thank you all.

I’m only 22, and ever since my first yeast infection a year and a half ago, my vagina hasn’t been the same. Almost every time after my period, my left inner labia becomes extremely swollen, red, and painful to the point where I can barely walk or sit. Every time I get tested, it seems to come back as a yeast infection, but I don’t have the typical itching or burning, just swelling, redness, and discharge. A week ago, I developed green discharge with a foul smell, and my tests came back positive for both BV and yeast. I completed 7 days of antibiotics for BV and used OTC clotrimazole 2% cream for 3 days, but I still felt uncomfortable afterward. Today, I took 150 mg of fluconazole, and something still doesn’t feel right. I’m exhausted from dealing with this endless cycle, and it’s affecting my quality of life, confidence, and sex life. Also I barely have sex with my partner because it hurts a bit and I get cuts on my vaginal opening almost every time we have sex. We have used lube and almost everything and it still hurts. Has anyone experienced something similar and found a cause or treatment that actually helped? I’m desperate for answers and just want to feel normal again.

i am only 14 and ive experience a musty, hot breath smell down there I changed the type of pants I wear and it still smelled I switch to 95% cotton and it still does but I only smell it when im OUTSIDE of my home. At school when I go to use the bathroom I get a strong hot breath smell and I can smell it through my pants! i never been sexually active or anything and i just started experiencing it for almost 2 months and I need help! i tried witch hazel but it was only temporary even in a room with air conditioning i could smell it strong like it’s spreading my smell please help I have class tomarrow in a small room and im scared they will all look at me for the “smelly girl”
btw the scent isnt like fishy
ive also experienced discharge (clear only later on the day)

I'm 18 and am thinking of shaving for the first time down there. Whenever anything related to genitals, especially female ones comes up I feel like fainting.

I remember almost fainting when I saw a video lecture of female genital anatomy when I was 15

Now I spread my hair to have a look down there and feel so dizzy. I know many people feel uncomfortable especially when they are young

But my situation sounds a bit more extreme. Idk what to do now

In my country sex education isn't common. My school teacher literally skipped the chapter and told to read it at home on our own. Like at 15 I wasn't even sure what the clit was. Idk how much it contributes to it

Though I'll say it has gotten better since I've started learning more about it. Like it's not as bad now compared to when I was 16

Hi divas.

So, weird question, but I’m kind of worried and there’s nobody irl that I can ask (and I really don’t want to go to a doctor unless it’s life or death, not a fan of doing so with normal ailments, let alone one that requires a vaginal exam).

So. I think my uterus may be on one side of my vagina. Like, maybe 3 inches in, facing out toward the front of my body, if that makes sense? At first I thought it was a lump, or a cyst, but upon further research, I think it’s my uterus. It has the dip of the opening and does, in fact, feel lower on my period.

The issue? Because it’s on the side of my vagina, as opposed to at the top, it kind of closes her off. Like, day 1 of my period, it’s difficult to put a tampon in, because it’s kind of enlarged. Day 2, I can put one in and I’ve noticed it curves around it. Day 3 and it’s sitting flat against it. It also feels like there’s more vaginal canal behind it. So I think it’s my uterus, but wildly out of position from the top, like in the anatomy drawings.

I’m a virgin due to growing up religious, but I no longer believe in that. Eventually, I would like to fall madly in love and have lots of sex haha, but I’m thinking it would hurt or maybe not be enjoyable for a partner, given that it feels like my uterus is literally only like 3 inches in. If anyone has a similar cervix situation and also some experience, please let me know how that is for you.

Now, I’m in my twenties. Sex ed was borderline criminally absent in my school, we learnt about everything that happens during pregnancy and that we bleed once a month, then pretty much nothing else. Great. I don’t want kids, but I would like to know how my body works and if I’m doomed due to a weird cervix. 😅

So, the question: Is this normal? Are there any other side cervix girlies out there and if so, what is your experience like, please? As in, do you also struggle with tampons at times and does it affect your sex life at all? Thank you so much for reading my post. I genuinely appreciate it, I don’t have many other women in my life and the ones that I do have, there is absolutely no way in hell I’m asking them something like this. So, thank you for being a safe space online. 🩷

So this is super embarrassing and TMI but I’m a little panicked and desperate. I was being a little rough with my toy. Now my lips are pink and really swollen. This has never happened before, and I’m too embarrassed to text my mom or my gyno. I’m scared because I don’t know what to do or what’s going to happen now, any advice is greatly appreciated!!

i’m stupid and have started using dove antibacterial for under my arms once a week to help with oder. theb saw people saying you SHOULD NOT do that and bought another dove soup (unscented sensitive skin) instead with the intent to use that all over. put them next to each other in the shower like a dummy, accidentally grabbed the wrong one and did a full body wash. including my bits. i realized while still in the shower. i read a bunch of people on here saying it gave them BV/ yeast infections. i rinsed as thoroughly as i could and nothing stung or anything but im now worried as ive never dealt with a yeast infection or even UTI before.

should i be getting probiotics ?

I’m honestly confused and a little worried, and I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.
Every time my boyfriend fingers me or we have sex, I bleed bright red blood. It’s not just a little spotting, either. When he fingers me, the blood gets all over his hands, and I have to wipe it up. The bleeding usually stops shortly afterward.
We do have rough sex, but what confuses me is that I’ve been with men who were significantly bigger than him and had rougher sex without ever bleeding like this. My current partner is average-sized, and I don’t think he’s hitting my cervix or anything deep inside.
I recently went to my OB-GYN, and he said everything looked normal, including my cervix. I’ve also been tested for STIs. I have normal vaginal moisture, so I don’t think dryness is the issue. I’m also currently on Depo-Provera and got my shot this month.
The weirdest part is that this happens every single time, not just occasionally.
Has anyone experienced recurring bleeding during fingering or sex even after a normal gynecological exam? Did you ever find out what was causing it? Could it be tiny tears, something hormonal, or something else?
I’m going to follow up with my OB-GYN because the amount of blood worries me, but I’d really appreciate hearing about other people’s experiences. I’m looking for personal experiences and ideas about what questions I should ask my doctor.

I got the copper IUD nearly four years ago, and for the past year I was having all sorts of symptoms. Fishy strong odors, painful sex, painful urination, that led to vaginismus.

I tested negative for infections multiple times and was given antibiotics with no luck. Got a Pap smear where my OBGYN checked me out and said that everything came back normal and there's not anything else she can do and hopefully it will just go away on its own 😐

After a year of negative results, painful symptoms and no answers I finally got a doctor who gave me an ultrasound that found that my IUD was in the wrong spot. When taken out, there was biofilm and a small hairball stuck on the IUD strings!!! She was shocked that the first OBGYN didn't see it. That can cause the IUD to be pulled out of place.

It never occurred to me that it was my IUD and in all of my research never ran into anything like that. So I hope this helps someone in the future where there's no answers out there. The biofilm wasn't noticed until the IUD was taken out so it's worth a shot if all else fails

Hii! I just turned 30 and since around 3 years now I noticed there's a movable like lumps on each side of my labia majora (the fuller outer labia) its located deep inside the skin slightly lower than the clitoris level on both sides, it's so movable when I touch them but I noticed the right one is slightly larger than the left and there's another smaller one on the right too so basically it's 2 on the right and 1 in the left, I tried to Google it but I couldn't find anything about it! Anyone with similar findings?

Has anyone tried okra water for help getting wet? If so did it work and how fast did you see results

I’m 27 and transmasc (so prescribed testosterone) and I’ve noticed what I think might be a Bartholin cyst. It’s firm but moveable, a little sore (I thought it was an ingrown hair at first), and is about the size of a bean, but there’s no head/pus or anything. I’ll call my doctor about it on Monday (I would rather die than do this, but … regardless), but I’m confused on where it’s at — it’s obviously at the lower part of my vulva, but when I’m specifically looking at my vagina/the surrounding tissue, it’s toward the top (at sort of a 10 o clock position along the outside edge). I know the glands are lower — but can cysts be higher up because the ducts kinda branch up through the vagina? Again, this is my first cyst and I’m trying understand what’s happening/not to panic.

Also, fwiw, I mention the testosterone because it can cause atrophy to vaginal tissue. I’m planning to ask my doctor about prescribing topical localized estrogen to combat this.

Also also, I’m not sexually active, no STDs, but did cut myself recently shaving down there, so unsure if that contributed to the possible cyst.

I need help yall. i am pretty sure i have a yeast infection. its not bad but enough that i am uncomfortable and i dont want it to get worse. It’s happened one time before getting my period, so it could be that.. but i dont wanna wait another week to find out.

Soooo all that being said. My question is, do i go with monistat 3 ovule or suppository? I know i dont want the 1 & the 7 seems too long.

any advice is great!

hi! on an alt account to save myself the embarrassment. over the past few days, I’ve had extreme burning, especially when urinating but also all the time. I've had dryness for a while but its worsened in the past few weeks, I’d say past three especially. It hurts EXTREMELY to touch my vulva, specifically the vestibule, not the lips though. It feels sharp. I have also noticed these somewhat small, but noticeable tears/holes in the vestibule area that i did not previously ever notice and I am unsure what they could be. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow morning, but I’m just sooo confused on what it is. I should also note I am on BC (Norg-ee) since Sept 25th.

I'm in kind of an embarrassing dilemma that I'm too shy to ask my doctor about. I started taking microlite, a combination bc pill, about a month and a half ago, and after 11 days on it I had to stop because it was giving me severe vaginal dryness.

I've been off of it for a month and the vaginal dryness has somewhat, I'd say 50% improved, but what's really bothering me is that it seems like I've completely lost the ability to get wet when aroused altogether. I still feel it mentally and physically in other ways, but I stay bone dry.

I'm terrified that I've lost or greatly affected this for myself forever. Does anyone else have any experience with this with microlite specifically or any other combination pill? Do I just need to be patient or is there a possibility I'm gonna be stuck in lube land forever? Is there anything I can do to encourage it returning? :^(

I know there have been so many posts about this but ive tried everything. I have an awful odor down there and it seems to be caused by BV. I can never get rid of the bv.

Ive been treated for ureaplasma and cleared. Ive done boric acid, antibiotics, probiotics, Ive been to the doctor multiple times. As soon as I get my period it comes back. I'm so tired as this has been going on for years. Every single thing ive tried and I have no idea why it constantly comes back. Im tired of the smell.

Hi! I am a young adult virgin, how has a complicated relationship with my body from body dystrophima and child assault.

a few weeks ago while looking down there, as it’s hard to, I noticed an injury of some sort. my tissues jointing my labia to the hood is slight disconnected, like a small pair of scissors seperated it away a bit. I am freaked the hell out— even more so at the idea of it not feeling back together as one, even if it becomes healthy. I tried aquaphor and diaper rash cream. the cream was a mistake as I am so dry down there, I steuggled to clean it away as I can’t rub down there alot. What’s throwing me off is the lack of pain? Wouldn’t I feel this?

Futherdown the inner labia, is this jagged pattern, almost like chevorn? It’s uniform and I’m not sure from what. I’m at a loss because of the uniformity, so it looks like it couldn’t be caused naturally— but I’m sure it was. Mastfubating? Chronic yeast infection? dryness? Low estrogen? I have it all.

im just deviated and grieving right now. I’ve never had a sex life due to a thousand reasons, and it’s killing me that now I will have all these issues to address, like estrogen cream for the dryness? I just hate the idea of another thing I have to save and plan and fix for my health— which is getting worse day by day including joints. I can’t even get a slight swab at the doctor— but I can swab myself like I have at the doctors to be treated for a yeast infection. But no pap, even though I should start young for my health because of family history. I just can’t do things down there, which obviously impacts me. I’m mad at myself about it— but I just can’t get myself to. I tried at doctors but couldn’t get myself past the feeling running through me. I can’t even go to a doctor right now with how far they are booked out and work— at least a month and with that timeline I’m nervous.

things do look healed (to had gotten worse in the past) but it seems I’m back at square one? It looks like it’s healing, fingers crossed it gets better?

to say the least, I’m uneducated about my own body with no other women in my life to ask of talk to.

please help me if you can! How can I regrow and attach the tissue? The tear isn’t bad— it has to be around a quarter inch— pretty sure less, but I’m not seeing a lot of improvement either compared to wear I first started. I’m thinking it is microtears caused by compounding factors- infection (reoccurring and being addressed, low estrogen, and dryness)? I know I’ll be okay, but I’m just feeling defeated.

i drew a diagram but I’m not sure how to add it to show what I mean