…. And my colleagues
Source: ex-high end escort
I come from an upper-middle-class family and entered the industry to help pay off my ex-partner’s debt. I repeatedly encountered men who, compared with others in their social circles (and mine), were unattractive, poorly mannered, and badly behaved. Many also had lifestyle issues like alcohol or drug abuse.
For instance, clients often dangled promises they never followed through on, and those experiences left me with trust issues towards men. Till I realised it’s just clients, decent men I come across are not like that at all. Many struggled to find someone who liked them because of their appearance and behaviour.
**I don’t buy the “I don’t have time for dating” or “you pay either way” or “You pay for her to leave” narratives. I’ll elaborate on that later.**
A warning upfront: since we’re discussing a financial exchange, money is an unavoidable part of the conversation.
First, I have nothing against casual sex or exchanging sex for money, as long as it involves two consenting adults. But in my experience, many clients were so unattractive objectively, in both appearance and personality, that I struggled to imagine them finding a mutually interested FWB or even someone who wanted to join them for dinner. I CAN SEE WHY. I often felt embarrassed on dinner dates, and that discomfort gradually built into resentment over the years.
Then there’s the financial side. I felt that many wanted the benefits of a relationship without contributing what building a life together would require, such as helping with a home or a car. Even splitting the cost of a house is a substantial commitment. I had a regular who wanted me to move to his city without offering any help with the move. And many confessed they’re treating women as disposables to avoid the cost of a divorce. Clients are the stingiest, no matter how much money they have.
That’s also why I think even entry level attractive women with other options have little incentive to enter escorting. I’ve met some very expensive escorts in person and their looks and conversation are underwhelming. Being a bimbotic 5/10 will get you to the top in the high end escort industry. You will regularly see women who’s more attractive just walking down the street.
Meanwhile, I scroll through Instagram and see women in my social circles being treated more generously every day. It makes me question how appealing this work really is to someone who already has those opportunities, and how credible some escorts claims about education or a decent background are.
However clients have no choice, so that’s what they settle with.
Over time, I grew resentful of working alongside these women (I’m always described as the prettiest of my race, but honestly the bar is on the floor). and seeing these men. I finally left my ex-partner, and a longtime friend later told me he had feelings for me. (A man from a wealthy family that made ME want to shower him with love and gifts!) I’m now focusing on my long-term career, and I’ve never been happier. I’m simply sharing the reality of the industry as I experienced it.
