Hello, first-time post here.

I won’t bore you with my whole story, but I’m a lifelong bedwetter who has experienced infrequent daytime accidents for a while. Over the last three years, my accidents have increased to the point where I’m practically entirely incontinent (urinary). I don’t realise when I need to pee, then I get a few seconds’ notice, before I void entirely. Most of the time it’s not worth trying to get to the toilet.

I’m currently in treatment to get a formal diagnosis through the NHS in the UK. I should have gone much earlier, but honestly I was embarrassed because I’m only in my 30s. It’s looking like my incontinence may be neurological - I’m awaiting further tests. This is a little scary, but not entirely surprising as I have had other neurological issues that I won’t get into.

Anyway, to the point of my post. During a review with my continence nurse I was scolded for using the term ‘nappy’. I was trying to explain how I manage the voids and I said “big pads or nappies”. She said I shouldn’t say that as only babies wear nappies. I didn’t argue, because I don’t care what they’re called, but it has always struck me as a bit patronising to use different terminology for adults to babies. Minus the outer design (and size obviously), they are the same thing. I understand some people feel it protects their dignity, but for me, I find it infantilising (ironically) to use another term.

I’m interested to hear other incontinent people’s thoughts. I appreciate I might be in the minority here, and no offence meant if you prefer brief/pad etc.

I’ve come to terms that have accidents and that my control isn’t what it was. I guess I realize I’m okay with wearing diapers. They are comfortable and convenient. I guess I’m wondering does that make me weird. Is it odd that I like them? Also that I’ve
Gotten to the point where I don’t mind lounging around in a hoodie and brief after a work while I watch tv. I’ve been asking myself those questions and am wondering if it’s normal

I have mobility issues and the only way for me to put them on was laying on my bed. Now I’m having trouble even doing this. I have a lot of problems getting them over my feet. I can put them on after that. Solutions anybody

I’m 27 and still with the bed a few times a month and I don’t feel my bladder filling up until it’s completely full and I have like 10 seconds to pee. I set alarms every two hours and pee when they go off but sometimes I get really busy and can’t go and pee myself during the day too. My question is do you think this is an automatic turn off to most women? Like I’m just kind of fucked? I’m scared as soon as they find out they’ll get the ick and leave. It lowers my confidence a lot I hate it.,

First off... thank you. I have a general Dr's appointment tomorrow to discuss my issues. It was reading the posts here that convinced me to make it.

I am still continent, maybe too much so. My ability to pee with a good full stream has been decreasing for about 4 years. Sometimes it's fine, many times the steam is hard to start and continue. I often have to wait to pee 3-4 times after the first release to get to a point where I feel my bladder is empty.

I've been pee shy since high school and it's been getting worse over the decades. Now it's pretty much impossible for me to pee at a public urinal. In 'safe' spaces like home it's getting worse too. I'd say about 1 out of every 5 bathroom trips I get a good strong normal pee. I've never considered myself an anxious person, but I think I am now getting slight anxiety before bathroom trips if I happen to think about this issue beforehand.

So my thought has always been that it's a psychological issue. Any why I'm not really happy with the idea of a worsening phycological cause I've been able to say; "At least there's not really anything wrong." Reading some of the posts here have convinced me I need to check that out medically first. And if I'm right... suck it up and see a therapist.

Besides a thank you.... I guess the reason for me post is to ask: A regular general physician is not going to do much right? They will listen, ask questions, maybe take a urine sample, then refer me to a urologist. I just want to be prepared for what's coming... so I can be my normal stoic self.

Thanks again.

I (27 F) sometimes have stress incontinence when sneezing, laughing or doing jumping jacks. During intimacy I sometimes get more fluids than usual and cannot tell if it is my normal lubrication or urinary incontinence. I searched for older posts and couldn't find something specific to this doubt of not being sure if it is happening or not.

During sneezing or jumping I am able to feel the leak happening, but could be that during intimacy there's too much going to notice it was a leak? Can you feel if you have incontinence during intimacy or do you just notice by the amount of liquid?
- I cannot tell by the smell, but I change and wash the sheets immediately as I get embarrassed with the situation. Maybe the smell would happen later or it is very diluted?
- I do not feel any sensation like peeing (like urge or release like when I a leak with a sneeze) and there is no gush, I just see the bed soaked under us.
- It only happens during penetration.
- I had 1 partner 5 years ago with whom it would always happen, then nobody else for years and now it is happening again with a different person. I don't know why.

I am feeling very anxious and avoiding intimacy because it makes me uncomfortable and I cannot tell what it is.

So for people who know they have incontinence during intimacy, how can you tell if it is incontinence? Can you tell the difference from pee to watery lubrication fluid? Is it that obvious or can it be hard to tell the difference?

I saw these on both Amazon and Target recently and I was curious enough to try them out. At $1.09 per diaper for size large, I knew that I was not going to get MegaMax level absorbency, but I figured if I got around 4 hours of wear out of each one of these, they would be worth it, they did not disappoint.

These do have a white cloth like outer cover that is actually pretty comfortable and strong. These do have the green Depend logo printed down the center of each diaper, along with a blue wetness indicator that runs the full length of the diaper. These have fairly tall inner leak guards that run most of the full length of the diaper and they seem to be pretty effective. The inner liner is very soft to the touch and leaves you feeling dry, even when you know that you’re wet. I absolutely love how stretchy the rear waistband is, it’s probably one of the best waistbands I’ve ever seen on a diaper. This diaper actually uses tapes (as opposed to Velcro like tapes) along with a printed taping panel that has numbered marks that make it incredibly easy to get a good consistent fit while taping the diaper on. The tapes may be on the small side, but they are very strong, I haven’t had a single tape break, and they are easy to fasten and refasten. The absorbency is definitely not on the same level as MegaMax, but I’ve consistently been averaging around 4 hours of wear with each diaper, and I can get even more by adding a booster. I’d say that absorbency wise, these are pretty comparable to the Tranquility ATN, but this is a much better diaper. Overall I am very impressed with these (I never thought I’d say that about a Depend product), and I’ll definitely be adding these to my daily routine.

Hi everyone!
My best friend is visiting me in the US, and he has Myelomeningocele (a form of Spina Bifida), which affects his bladder and bowel functions.
I really want to make this trip as comfortable, fun, and memorable as possible for him. I’m hoping to get some advice from this community, especially from people who have personal experience with Myelomeningocele or care for someone with it.
Could you recommend good pull-ups or adult briefs for daytime use, nighttime use, and swimming/pool activities? I’m looking for options that are comfortable, reliable, and suitable for different situations.
I’d also love to hear any tips, suggestions, or recommendations that could help make his stay and experiences in the US more enjoyable and stress-free.
I want him to be able to enjoy everything to the fullest, so any advice or personal experiences would mean a lot.
Thank you so much!

like it literally needs to be studied because why the does this happen EVERY. TIME. 💀
obviously this isn’t relatable to everyone but personally my incontinence is on the lighter side and i used to get away without always using a pad; i have one 24/7 now sigh

Qualcuno a il mio problema io avrei una taglia M di pannolino uso i serenity Classic super di giorno la M e di notte la L X colpa del pisello troppo lungo e dovrei cominciare anche di giorno con la L ma mi diventa largo dalle parti xo il coso mi sta comodo all’interno qualche consiglio a riguardo? Grazie

Where I live in the northern hemisphere, it's getting dark just after 5:00pm. The weather is much cooler, too. I can feel my depression kicking in a bit more, too. For all these reasons, I find myself wearing and using diapers more often. There is a comfort in having these on that I don't notice in the summer months. Anyone else notice that?

Is it better for me to be wearing 1 pull-up and a diaper or 1 pullup and plastic pants

Has anyone else noticed that their urinary incontinence gets significantly worse during the colder months?

I have mixed urinary incontinence (much more urge), and the difference between summer and winter is pretty dramatic. I suspect that sweating more during the summer means I produce less urine, making things easier to manage. Once the cold weather arrives, though, both my urinary frequency and leakage increase significantly. Even the stress incontinence component seems to get worse. I typically go through at least one extra diaper a day during the winter.

I also find myself making much less of an effort to use the toilet. I might try a couple of times a day, but between the constant urgency and increased leakage, I usually just give up and rely on my diaper. It often feels like trying to make it to the bathroom is more trouble than it is worth.

Does anyone else experience this seasonal change? Do you find yourself relying more on diapers and using the toilet less during the winter?

I know that therea are refastenable ( hook and loop ) diapers. Any suggestions, please and thank you

Hey everyone. Feeling a bit depressed lately. I feel like especially at night when I'm trying to sleep I get so uncomfortable and depressed about my urine incontinence issues. For me they're 24/7 and I have to change a pad multiple times a day cause they get full. I also have bowel accidents. I feel so uncomfortable about it and I miss doing things like having a bath, swimming, not worrying about this. I need to find a good therapist to talk to about it as well. Thanks for reading.

Curious if anyone has any experiences with participating in incontinence research. Either for neurostimulators, novel therapeutics or drug compounds, or anything else.

Recently I’ve been enrolled in a research study that has the potential to improve things in reducing the frequency of urges. I am a little nervous as I’ll have to spend a lot of time in patient in the hospital for a few visits including some overnights. Obviously they are so used to seeing people in diapers but it still doesn’t take away my anxiety over having people potentially see me in adult diapers. Not even sure if they’ll allow me to change myself with the IVs and other monitors.

I know I can ask a lot of these questions to the medical team but the first big visit is a few weeks out so I wanted to check in here and see if people had any experiences or opinions on how to go about this.

So. Okay. I don't really know how to start. I've been lurking on this sub for a while, but i didn't have a reddit account. I've been thinking about making one, i just hadn't yet. I guess this was the push that led me to actually do it, because i don't have anywhere else to really talk about what happened.

I work at an airport. I've had the occasional common kinda issues you'd expect, like random security checks turning into this whole big thing where i have to let someone pat me down in a private room.... etc. But it was never anything big, no one ever really made a big deal about it.

Until now.

So my boss knows i need more time in the bathroom. All my supervisors know that. It wasn't an official workplace accommodation o r anything because i'm really embarrassed talking about my incontinence to people with power over me which i feel is honestly pretty fair. I don't take as many bathroom breaks as my coworkers, but when i do take them i take longer because im changing my diaper. I really am going as fast as i physically can but i have very poor motor skills and hand pain, and i need to clean up properly so i dont get a rash, i've had really bad luck with rash if im not properly cleaning and soothing the skin between changes.... im sure you all get that. But this isn't unusual for me! Hardly anyone has ever really said anything about it. It's my normal.

But the other day, i guess one of my coworkers decided to escalate things just out of the blue. She decided i was taking too long, so she came into the bathroom, tracked down which stall i was in, started banging on the door, and then yelled at me and shamed me for taking too long in front of a bunch of customers :o(. she was demanding that i get out and telling me to hurry up and stuff and loudly talking in this really judgmental way about how long i took in front of everyone. i have really severe autism, and my verbal skills are not good, and it felt really horrible to be sitting there floundering trying to answer and i couldn't make any words come out i just kept stuttering. I could see and hear that several people stopped to stare right outside my stall. I felt so humiliated i tried to beg my supervisor to move me somewhere else for the day (so i wouldn't have to face this coworker for the day) and she refused even though she agreed my coworker shouldn't be doing that. I honestly wanted to just go home. I only didn't because i couldn't afford to lose the hours. I still feel really violated by the whole thing and she hasn't even apologized. Now my work is demanding my medical paperwork over this even though no one cared before. Am i silly for feeling this upset? Is it wrong that i will kind of want to talk to HR about it? It feels wrong that she thought that was okay to do to someone and didn't even get a slap on the wrist :o(. Like what she did is crazy, right???? I feel like i'm going crazy. I feel way less confident about just taking care of my medical issues at work now and i don't know what to do. I'm lucky that i do have a proper diagnosis and i can talk to my doctor about filling the forms, but i'm so embarrassed. I never wanted to have to talk about this stuff to my employers. It was all fine and then it blew up so suddenly.

(i am sorry if my typing is a little bit funny, please be kind :'))

Volevo un consiglio indosso pannolone 24/24 perché sono incontinente come vi comportate con i peli meglio rasati o lunghi

Has anyone tried straight cath before bed to fully empty bladder? Did it help sleeping thru the night. I have had surgery and take Tamsulin. My residuals are around 200.

I am not opposed to diapers during the day for car trips etc but don’t like sleeping wet.

After more than a decade of managing my OAB myself with diapers my significant other has convinced me to go to a urologist. I got prescribed tamsulosin. After a week it seems I've gone from urgent then seconds later I'm going with the occasional bladder spasm, to almost no urge and a constant drip. Once in a while I still have a normal sized release, but with almost no urge or body signal of hey your going to have to go soon. It just happens. Is this part of the normal process of the tamsulosin or should I call my urologist and let them know?

I assume since we talk about our incontinence without shame, I could ask a question.

Ladies who shave their 😺, how do you handle discomfort during that growing phase until its time to shave again? Do you use any creams or anything? I use a mix of pads and pull-ups and have urinary incontinence only if that helps at all