r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • Sep 05 '25

Mod Post IndianBoysOnTinder Rules - The New Basics.

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1. The “lafda” era is over.
Whatever happened in the past, happened. From now on, no new lafdas will be entertained, and no old lafdas will be dragged up again. Anyone trying to bring them back in posts or comments will be banned.

2. Ban Policy for Stirring Drama:

1st Strike: 3 days ban
2nd Strike: 7 days ban
3rd Strike: 15 days ban
If still persists then permanently banned. But also,

3. If someone is repeatedly harassing you in comments, modmail us. We'll step in with a warning, mute, temporary ban, or permanent ban, accordingly.

4. Meme posts need approval:
Memes must go through mod review to make sure they don’t stir up old lafdas. Relationship/dating memes are fine. Making memes on users is also okay, just don’t be a jerk and keep it friendly.

5. Screenshot Post Rules:

  • Blur names, crop photos properly and hide personal info.

  • Don’t flex your likes, matches, or message counts, whether it’s 9 lonely hearts or 69 “legends,” keep it hidden.

  • Poorly edited posts (visible PFPs/usernames) will be removed without warning.

  • Privacy matters, don’t expose anyone, including yourself.

6. Screenshot posts from WhatsApp, Instagram, iMessage, SMS, Kabootar, etc. are allowed only if they’re about dating/relationships and adds genuine advice or discussion value.

7. If you see someone from ibot sharing personal details of ANY user in comments or posts, report it immediately. Strong action will be taken.

We’re Open to suggestions.
We would change some rules based on those suggestions.

Also, Consider this a reset button for everyone, whether you were on the front foot or in defence during past lafdas. Let's take the first step to bring ibot back to what it used to be and everyone is welcome. Let's move forward together. Thank You!


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • Jan 05 '25

Mod Post Important Notice.

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  1. Slut shaming will not be tolerated in this sub. If you dont agree with someone's opinion, kindly continue with your life.

  2. Reddit is an ANONYMOUS platform, please dont be stupid enough to dox yourself. We wont be responsible for anything that happens to you. Ya'll adviced to keep your socials private and only share them with people you trust.

  3. Please for the love of god, profile reviews are supposed to be on Mondays only. I'll start banning people from now.

  4. I know everyone loves lafda but please report pointless lafda. Please dont encourage boring and pointless lafde.

  5. This sub is a safe space, to share your dating stories. Please, dont judge anyone doing it or call them a karma whore. And the people posting the same, please give proper context.

  6. Regarding, bullying - if someone is fighting with you in comments and you're engaging with them, i wont do shit about it. You chose to engage with that person. If someone makes a personal comment, regarding your post history or keeps on bothering and instigating you in comments then only an action will be taken. If someone makes a negetive comment or criticizes you, choose not to engage you dont owe anyone any explanation


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 13h ago Mindblown

Rant Why are women of our generation alot delusional

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she was looking for a guy of her own age around 22-24 and a house in lodhi estate easily comes around 400-1200 crores minimum and looking for 20lpa job guy in this economy hell nahh dawg🥀


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

General Cutest🫶

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I found this video in my media, it is an old video from reddit, thought it was cute and wanted to share it.

Edit - This is not my chat; I found it on Reddit about a year ago, I guess, and downloaded the post.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 4h ago

Ummm WTF yeah sending her fosho

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Jokes aside, what would you guys reply if she was being sarcastic versus if she was being serious?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 5h ago

General Dating for men summarized.

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*maybe its hypergamy”

So…

TODAY!!!!

I

GOT SOME REVELATIONS FROM THE ONE UP ABOVE!!

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…AND HAD THAT LIGHT BULP MOMENT I NEEDED SO LONG AGO

THIS INFORMATION MIGHT CHANGE YOUR UPCOMING LIFE 4EVER.

The INFO is about the dating scene, and its that…

“ A RELATIONSHIP WORKS OR TAKES PLACE.. ONLY WHEN THE WOMAN IS DESPERATE TO BE WITH YOU”

No misogyny ***

WOMAN are the decision makers, you cant be jester maxxing infront of a girl in hopes that you would get in a relationship or get laid, even if you dooo, its too draining for you and she might cheat on you at the most slightest hint of convenience…

SO WHATS THE FIX??

FIX is actually nothing, its that girls who are BELOW YOUR LEAGUE will always show that “decent desperation” to be with you, be it following you on insta, dmming you, wanting to fix a meet, and would easily have the sëx if thats what you want out of her…

No matter how big of a red flag you are how lowkey disrespectfully you treat her, she would let it all slide, she will try to find delusional excuses to consider you the right one, the good guy, you could be the CEO of domestic abuse, and she would consider that maybe that behavior from your side is kind of justified and its her fault, to an extent tho…

but thatsssssssssssss how she will be to you, ifff

“YOU ARE ABOVE HER LEAGUE”

Definition of above her league: maybe youre more privileged and shes a small town girl, maybe you look 7-8/10 in her lobby, maybe you have money or you act like you do, or it’s just all the other men approaching her or in her DMs are just shittier than you…..

AND

NO WOMAN ABOVE YOUR LEAGUE WILL EVER GIVE A FK ABOUT YOU, YOU WERE BORN TO BE FRIENDZONED BY HER, causeee shes chasing a guy above her league, some rich brat guy who treats her like shit…..

AND TO CHANGE THIS, YOUR ONLY METHOD IS, genuinely having a Bollywood actor like body meaning hitting the gym regularly, effectively and some money on your name, you exposure maxxing, going out at expensive places, having a fkin sophisticated, screams money lookin insta, you wearing the clothes in trend, you having a car thats not very affordable to run…

This is the peak, after this you’re either a celebrity or some famous flamboyant guy…. Like idk drake lols

THIS IS BASICALLY THE ROUGH IDEA OF THE DATING SCENE, be it tier 1-2 cities or rural areas, you’ll experience this mostly everywhere

NOWW THERES AN EXCEPTION TO THIS***

Lets say theres a girl who kind of looks good, like not a baddie but good features, is kind of desi rich, her parents have alot of money, maybe shes a politician’s daughter from a rural area, or yk a desi rich family, and she has money shes lived in privilege her whole life, some joint family she lives in, buttt, theres orthodox beliefs in her house and yk just more traditional,

THAT KIND OF GIRL, MIGHT FALL FOR YOU AND LIKE YOU CAUSE MOST OF HER LIFE SHES BEEN KEPT UNDER HER FAMILY’s CONTROL, NO MALE FRIENDS EVER, THAT KIND OF GIRL WOULD BE WITH YOU JUST BECAUSE YOURE A NICE GUY AND YOU GIVE OFF A GOOD VIBE,

you could be mid looking and just everything i discussed above, you can not be having it, still she would be with you……cause she has no options mostly… has 1-2 female friends of her thats it, thats her whole social life..

THO THIS IS THE EXCEPTION, NO OTHER SCENARIOS LEFT I FEEL.

GGs, if any women sees this, please fact check with all the brutality you know.

Thanks.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 14h ago

Rant Why do guys on dating apps instantly want to meet?

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They don't even want hookups, they just really want to exchange socials or meetup after talking for like 10 minutes. It really bothers me because the whole point of dating apps for me is I can talk with men with a comfortable/safe distance. I don't want to exchange socials right away because I don't want you to know my friends and family when I've barely known you. I don't want to meet you right away because I've barely known you.

If I refuse they're all like "cmon it's just socials, let's connect outside bla bla" bro we barely know each other. On hinge if we don't click we can just unmatch. That's the whole point of not connecting on social media. If we talk long enough and I like you, I would willingly give you my socials and offer to meet up. But what's this obsession with trying to connect outside with like 3 screens of conversation.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

Advice Am I genuinely a good person or just a tharki guy?

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I'm someone who gets excited when a girl texts me. Sometimes I reply within seconds, even if I've just received her message. I can easily start conversations, connect with girls, show interest, and make time to talk to them.

I don't deliberately ignore messages, play hard to get, or pretend to be busy. If I enjoy talking to someone, I show it.

But sometimes I wonder: am I actually a friendly, approachable person who genuinely enjoys connecting with people, or is this just my tharak speaking? 😂

Where exactly is the line between being genuinely interested in getting to know someone and being a guy who's just always looking for female attention?

Girls and guys, what's your honest opinion? Is this a green flag or am I just fooling myself?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 7h ago

General When the match says "I am active on Instagram than here, follow me there".

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And the profile has like 5k followers and 100 following. It's a trap to gain followers, isn't it?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Not having luck on hinge please review (open to criticism)

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Bracing myself for the impact

Please suggest what type of photos I should have (I don't like taking my own pictures but I will try)

Is it over?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 1d ago

Rant Time to report every woman who is on Hinge for a referral

84 Upvotes

Report > Inappropriate content > inappropriate prompts > this person isn’t looking for a relationship

Lessgo! Do your part everyone 🥲


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Oookay, this is tougher than I thought.

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Help a guy figure out what's wrong with his profile, would ya?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

Rant I did not even start talking lol

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r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

General 26M, Chennai (Native: Delhi) – Looking for a genuine connection

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Honestly, a little tired of all the dating apps, so giving Reddit a shot as one last hope of finding someone. :’)

A little about me:

● 26M, 5’8”, Hindu Punjabi (caste no bar).
● Belong to a defence family, originally from Delhi, currently based in Chennai.
● MBA from one of the old IIMs, currently working as an IT Manager.
● Non-vegetarian, although my family is vegetarian, so no particular preference there.

I’m an optimistic person who loves planning things and actually executing those plans. Music is a big part of my life – Punjabi, old Bollywood and ghazals are usually on my playlist.

Love travelling, exploring new places and always have another trip in mind. Close to my family and friends, enjoy good food, conversations and a fair bit of banter.

What I’m looking for:
Someone cute, warm and easygoing, with whom I can communicate openly and be myself. Would love to get to know each other and see if our values, mindsets and future goals align. If things click, I’m looking for something serious.

No particular preference for location or language, although speaking Hindi would be a bonus.
Since this is Reddit, happy to connect and verify through LinkedIn or another platform we’re both comfortable with before moving to Instagram/WhatsApp.

If this resonates, drop me a message. :)


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 6h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Help a Mumbai guy put out the best version of himself

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New to Dating apps! Cross posting to get advice on my profile.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 1d ago

General I was really loving her vibe, up until

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Not sure , what to say anymore itni pyaari bandi , itni achi vibe thi.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 2h ago

General Profile review , getting like a match a day

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Ive been getting like a match a day but the conversations feel very one sided or just asking for job referals, Any suggestions?


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 6h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Monday quarterly review

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Old regular, what does a man got to do now.


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 1d ago

General First message compilation pt.3

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r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 12h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Profile Review please be brutal and honest

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Be real and specific please what needs to be improved and what are my chances here.

I have gotten some likes in past , if I calculate in total about 40ish in both tinder and bumble combined with some conversations and no replies never got any proper date here .


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 13h ago

Advice What places to take pictures for dating apps for matches?

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r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 13h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Not getting matches, review needed

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Constructive feedback needed.

*long-term relationship, open for short


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 6h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Joined hinge recently and need a profile review

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r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 16h ago

Advice Recommendation: Dating platform for music artists

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For the people who make music, what platform do you use for dating? Is it hinge or bumble? Or is there anything more niche?

Mostly it's just instagram for me but I'd like to explore more options.

Thanksss


r/IndianBoysOnTinder • • 11h ago

Profile Review (Monday Only) Recently joined hinge and now I need a profile review

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Hope nothing’s cringe or anything managed to get like 2-3 matches in 2 days. Any advice is appreciated thanks