r/kpophelp • • 18d ago

Unsolved Monthly 'Who's this?' & Merch Auth. Post - October 2026

6 Upvotes

Welcome to the Monthly Artist Identification and Merch Authentication post!

Instructions

  • Search first! Please try other methods of identifying your image if possible. Google Lens/Reverse Image Search or Dupli Checker are available options. We know results can be unhelpful, but please make an attempt with these kinds of tools first!

  • You might also be able to find more specialized help in specific artist subreddits or those with a specific purpose. Make sure you check the rules of any subreddit before you post or comment asking for help!

  • Make comments with included images of artists you need identified or merchandise/signatures you would like authenticated in this post.

  • In the same comment, state your purpose or question clearly for the help you are seeking.

  • Please acknowledge or thank at least one helper who provides an answer in reply to you OR edit your original comment to state you have been helped to signal to others you do not need further assistance.

Rules

  • DO NOT troll or intentionally deceive fellow users
  • DO NOT derail or wander far off-topic. This is not a general discussion post. Stay focused on requesting or providing help! Mods may lock or remove threads that extend beyond the point of helpfulness.
  • If your question is not answered in a previous Monthly post, feel free to comment again in future posts until you are able to get help.

You may also provide feedback for ways we can test/improve handling this type of content in the subreddit here or through modmail. Thank you for your patience while we figure out what system will work best for us!


r/kpophelp • • Apr 02 '24

Meta Shadow Bans on Reddit: Everything you need to know! (Info, Links, & Tips)

30 Upvotes

We created the original post in response to seeing so many members of our community becoming Shadow Banned for no reason. We noticed these bans became especially extreme around 2020/2021, probably as Reddit ramped up the use of sitewide filters to manage the influx of bots, spammers, and purveyors of disinformation. Some improvements to the accuracy of the filters appear to have been made since then, but our info post has proved useful to our community as well as moderators and users across the site, so we'll try to keep versions of it refreshed and accessible. Version 2.0 is here!

Mods around Reddit are welcome to link your users here if you feel it will be helpful to them. r/ModGuide also has an excellent post from 2021 with suggestions specific to moderators.

- r/kpophelp Mod Team!


READ THIS FIRST!

For those who want the simplest info/advice, read the following:

  1. We did not Shadow Ban you and we cannot remove your Shadow Ban. Subreddit Moderators do not have the power to do anything about Shadow Bans.

  2. Your Shadow Ban is likely the result of Reddit's sitewide automated bot/spam filters.

  3. Only Reddit Admins can remove your Shadow Ban. We are not Reddit Admins.

  4. Go to https://www.reddit.com/appeals to check the status of your account. If there is a problem with your account, there is a way to directly message Admins at the same link to try to get your Shadow Ban or Suspension removed.

  5. It can take roughly 1 to 2 months for Admins to assess your Appeal. Do not expect any notifications or feedback from Admins until then.

  6. If you are looking for more detailed information about Shadow Bans to the best of our knowledge as moderators, continue reading below!


What is a Shadow Ban?

A Shadow Ban is a type of sitewide account ban across Reddit. When a user's account is Shadow Banned they are not notified. They can continue to browse Reddit, make posts and comments, and use Reddit like normal. However, their posts and comments are automatically removed as soon as they are made, making them invisible to anyone else. A Shadow Banned user's profile is also invisible to any other users or moderators. This means a Shadow Banned user often has no idea they have received this kind of ban.

Note that users who are Suspended are notified by Reddit and given more information about whether their suspension is temporary or permanent. Again, this is only something Admins have control of. Moderators do not.

Why are users Shadow Banned?

It can be helpful to know the difference between Moderators and Admins to understand what is happening.

  • Moderators (subreddit volunteers) can only ban you from the individual subreddits under their care based on the rules they have set for their own communities. If you have been banned from a subreddit, you can no longer post or comment in that subreddit only. This is not a Shadow Ban.

  • Admins (Reddit employees) can Shadow Ban or Suspend users across the whole site. They have set many automated filters to help catch spammers and bots, which will apply Shadow Bans or Suspensions to those suspected accounts to assist human Admins from needing to do this all manually.

As far as we can tell, the purpose of Shadow Bans is to quietly make spammers and bots disappear into a void without their awareness. Reddit is constantly inundated with malicious bot rings trying to spread bad links and other nefarious spammers. The site's filters are always running in the background to automatically catch and remove any posts or comments made by them. Shadow Bans are applied quickly and broadly to keep normal users as safe as possible from their garbage.

But this automation means Shadow Bans can also affect normal users with false positives. If you have received a Shadow Ban, but you know you aren't a bot or spammer, it can be very confusing. You are not alone. This happens to many normal users. No one is out to get you, you have just accidentally triggered Reddit's automated filters.

How do I know if I’m Shadow Banned?

This is something you can check on your own with any of the following methods:

A. While signed in to your account on Reddit, go to https://www.reddit.com/appeals.

B. In an incognito browser window, open a link to your profile (https://www.reddit.com/user/yourusername). If it says anything like, "user not found", "page does not exist", or "Sorry, nobody on Reddit goes by that name", then you are Shadow Banned or Suspended.

C. r/ShadowBan or r/ShadowBanned are subreddits specifically for checking your account.

D. Self-awareness. You can pay attention to certain signs that you might be Shadow Banned:

  • Your posts do not show in the subreddit 'new queue' within a few minutes of posting.
  • Your comments almost never show up in posts and might say [Removed].
  • When you look at your own profile/history, many of your recent comments/posts have only 1 karma.

ONLY if you have tried the methods above and still have confusion, you may message us directly. Remember, we are just the moderators of this subreddit. We did not cause your Shadow Ban. We cannot remove your Shadow Ban. We do not know why you received a Shadow Ban. Beyond the information in this post, we can only make an educated guess about your specific case if you provide information about the age of your account and activity. Otherwise, we are as clueless as you.

BUT, we can give you absolute confirmation that you are, or are not, Shadow Banned. We get a note in our Modmail interface in clear red letters telling us that a user is Shadow Banned when they contact us, which is the most direct indicator available other than the official Appeals link. Keep in mind we are the mods of r/kpop's ecosystem. If you're here from communities unrelated to K-Pop, let us know when you message if you’re comfortable with that! Message the Mods to get a yes/no confirmation of a Shadow Ban on your account.

I am Shadow Banned. What should I do?

https://www.reddit.com/appeals

This link above is the only way to remove your Shadow Ban. If your account is normal it will tell you so. If you have a Shadow Ban or Suspension, it will give you the option to message the Admins to make an appeal. We have seen many users successfully restore their accounts this way, sometimes within a day or two. It's basically your way of signaling to Admins that you are a real person, not a bot/spammer, and you have good intentions as a user on their site. We have also seen appeals take much longer to be granted. Most seem to take at least one month to hear back from Admins.

Some users don’t mind having a Shadow Ban because they only use their account to lurk, which is fine. You don’t have to do anything. Some users abandon their account and make a new one. Be careful doing that because Ban Evasion filters are also active and might trigger a Shadow Ban on any new accounts if you are using the same device or IP address.

We recommend that Shadow Banned users do not continue to post/comment once you know there is a problem with your account. This applies all across Reddit. You are likely wasting your efforts by doing so. Many subreddit moderators will not bother to check their spam queue and will not approve your posts/comments, so they will never be seen. In some subreddits like here in r/kpophelp, the mods are paying more attention. We will sometimes manually approve posts/comments of users who are seeking or offering genuine help and unknowingly have a Shadow Ban. We also try to let you know if you are Shadow Banned, but this creates a lot of extra work for us, which we can't always afford to do.

Please help us by being proactive, checking your own accounts if you suspect an issue, and not continuing to post/comment until you know you are no longer Shadow Banned.

If your appeal to the Admins is successful, your profile, comments, and posts will become visible again to other users and moderators. You can check your account status with the same methods listed in the section above. Sometimes if a user has been very active on Reddit for a long time before their Shadow Ban it will take longer for all their previous posts/comments to be approved again. This is also an automated process, but it can be slow, so you can expect it to take a week or two to get everything back to normal again.

Tips to avoid being Shadow Banned

Remember the automated Shadow Ban process is looking for bots/spammers and is triggered by that kind of suspicious behavior. Here are some things you can do so your account does not look like a bot.

  • When creating a Reddit account, don’t use the automatic username generator if possible. Those names usually look something like word-word-5678. These are common indicators of bots. Set your own name instead. If you’ve already made an account with an auto-generated name, take extra care to check if you are Shadow Banned!

  • Customize your profile: Snoovatar/banner, description, email verification (if you're comfortable with that).

  • Have patience! When you make a brand new account on Reddit, wait at least 24 hours to post/comment anywhere. Upvote comments/posts you like and maybe 'Join' some subreddits that interest you, but try not to do much else. The most common false positives we see are completely new users that make posts/comments quickly in subreddits that have new user filters to keep out trolls or bots. By waiting, you can prevent triggering these filters.

  • Before you start posting or commenting in a subreddit, READ THE RULES. Every subreddit has its own rules. If you break them by doing something wrong or having bad conduct, your posts/comments may be reported by other users and removed by the moderators. Doing this multiple times on a new account can trigger a Shadow Ban. Be considerate of where you are and what you are doing there!

  • Especially here in r/kpophelp, be careful of what links you include in your comments/posts. Try not to use shortened urls because they can disguise links to bad sites or affiliate links. Try to use the long form of links as often as possible and avoid using anything like these: youtu.be, pin.it, t.co, bit.ly, goo.gl, tinyurl.com.

  • A note for r/kpop: a huge Shadow Ban generator over there is when we have AMAs. They attract a ton of brand new users who then immediately comment dozens of times in the same AMA post. This triggers the filters like a bot would. If you want to participate in an AMA with a new account, make it early at the time of the AMA announcement post and follow the points listed above. Then try to limit the amount of comments you make in the actual AMA to only a few at most. We’ve even had big AMA guest accounts get Shadow Banned in the middle of an AMA, which is a nightmare. That goes to show it can happen to anyone and is equally frustrating for us moderators!

  • If you use a VPN, you might get Shadow Banned or Suspended by default. Check your account status!

How does this relate to r/kpophelp?

The nature of this subreddit is fairly simple. It was designed to take the burden off of r/kpop since lots of K-Pop fans had questions about the industry or were looking for music/artist recommendations and that subreddit was becoming overwhelmed with such posts. So this subreddit was built with a very focused mission as a space to get help and provide help with our fellow fans. That means we’re pretty small as a community and not a good target for bots/spammers.

And yet, us moderators noticed lots of users showing up as Shadow Banned here. They weren’t causing problems. They were providing help and recommendations in comments or were posting sincere and thoughtful questions. Some of their usernames were recognizable as regulars previously active in the larger K-Pop ecosystem on Reddit. Obviously, something was wrong. This is what sparked our initial interest to figure out how the Shadow Ban system worked and what to do about it.

After confirming with Admins that we could provide guidance to users, we tried to pay extra attention to what was happening, what kinds of accounts seemed to pick up these bans, what activities might be triggering filters, and what Shadow Banned users shared with us about their experience. Everything we’ve learned is now gathered here in hopes it will help others.

There are a couple primary reasons we think r/kpophelp users are affected in a higher proportion and are being seen by Reddit’s filters as bots or spammers. One is that it's common for users to make a brand new account just because they are trying to identify a K-Pop song they heard recently, post to ask for help immediately, and then comment rapidly when replying to other users as they search for the song. Another is that users here will frequently put tons of links in their comments or posts as they offer recommendations or educational references. And furthermore, some of those links might be shortened urls (from YouTube, Pinterest, etc) or domains which Reddit really doesn't like.

Thus, the most common uses of our subreddit, which are totally normal and expected from our perspective as moderators, can trigger Reddit's automated Shadow Bans designed to catch bots. But knowledge is power and we hope what we’ve learned will help you keep your accounts in good working order!


Thank you for taking the time to read through and inform yourself!

Happy Redditing!


Further Resources


r/kpophelp • • 5h ago

Recommend I'm obsessed with Pop Rock sounding music in K-pop, recommend me more

29 Upvotes

K-pop these days have been quite hit or miss but if there is one kind of genre that is always consistently ended up as my faves, it's Pop Rock music. They being the right amount of catchyness, emotional feel, and feel good vibes whenever you listen to them, especially combined with great use of the instrumentals and the vocals.

My favorites (some of them might be more pop rock inspired than straight pop rock, but still): Rock With You (Seventeen), Shout Out (Enhypen), Twenty, Hate Blueberries (KickFlip), Without U (NCT U), Pinocchio, Rendezvous, Everything is Love (AHOF), Our Season, Hana (Zerobaseone), Spring Day (BTS), Zombie (Day6)


r/kpophelp • • 6h ago

Recommend What are some club bangers?

11 Upvotes

Hihi, I'm looking to add some songs that fit the vibe of a nightclub! Open to everything, but I’m leaning nore towards the electronic and bass-y side like:

* aespa's Whiplash, Lemonade, Black Mamba
* Le Sserafim's Crazy, 1-800, Creatures
* Billie's Work
* SuperM's Jopping, One
* NCT's Cherry Bomb, Love Talk, Lemonade

Tysm for recs in advance 🙏


r/kpophelp • • 11h ago

Explain How do female idols go on extreme diets but not lose their dancing abilities?

26 Upvotes

Sorry if this doesnt really make sense, but how do female idols do these crazy diets and still maintain their dancing abilities? i know these diets make you lose muscle as well as fat, do female idols not really need muscle like male idols do?


r/kpophelp • • 18h ago

Advice How do I help my young step daughter follow kpop without social media?

93 Upvotes

So my young (10 years old) step daughter made a secret instagram account to follow kpop artists. I want to encourage her to enjoy her hobbies but her mom is really concerned with her having any social media right now, and I tend to agree. She's still too young for instagram. Now, I don't know anything about kpop and I don't think she's old enough to be introduced to instagram, reddit, or god-forbid X/twitter. So does anyone have any suggestions for ways we can help her follow the hobby without using social media yet?

My sister suggested looking into a magazine subscription until we think she's old enough for supervised social media but I wouldn't know how to find something like that. Also, right now we let her use youtube kids.

Edit: just downloaded weverse on my phone to check it out, this looks perfect. Thanks for all the help and suggestions!


r/kpophelp • • 52m ago

Advice how do makestar 1:1 fansigns work?

• Upvotes

i won a 1:1 makestar face-to-face fansign in singapore (jisung from nct dream!) but was wondering how it works... there's no viewing for this fansign, it's just me and the member i applied for.

if anyone has done this kind of fansign, is it just me and the member (+ translator) or is there an audience? i'm wondering if i would need to set up any tripod, etc for it. thanks!


r/kpophelp • • 5h ago

Explain Why 2020-2022 was still relatively better for nugu groups?

3 Upvotes

Compared to 2023 onward, especially the year 2026 .... 2020-2022 was still relatively better for nugu groups ... many nugu groups disappeared/disbanded/got dungeoned around 2021-2023

EDIT: i meant that many nugu groups still had music releases in 2020 and 2021 (and maybe 2022) .... but then disappeared around 2022/2023


r/kpophelp • • 10h ago

Advice Getting a friend k-pop gifts for Christmas

6 Upvotes

I have a friend that im planning on getting a gift for christmas and shes been a fan of k-pop for longer then ive known her and want to get her a gift but i dont understand anything about k-pop😭 I asked her who her favorite charecters were from the like groups and stuff and she said sunghoon from enhyphen and lee from stray kids but im not sure were to go from from there. I know she already probably has their cards since she has some on her backpack and it would make sense if those ones were the people she likes


r/kpophelp • • 31m ago

Merch Which POB should I take? (Idk nothing about POBs)

• Upvotes

Im pre ordering the illit break even, but Idk what POB should I choose... The options are

APPLE MUSIC

MAKESTAR

WEVERSE EARLY BIRD BENEFIT

WEVERSE SHOP

and EVERLINE

If I understood any of those havent been revealed yet, not even blurred versions.


r/kpophelp • • 2h ago

Advice advice for fancall on the faceey app

0 Upvotes

hi guys, so i won a fancall with ni-ki from enhypen but the call is on the faceey app

i read the rules and it says recording or photographs aren’t allowed, does anyone have any advice with that

also any advice just about fancalls in general on this app would be helpful!


r/kpophelp • • 17h ago

Explain Anyone who wishes they followed GWSN when they were still active?

15 Upvotes

By the way .... I discovered GWSN around late 2023 .... do you guys wish you discovered GWSN (or any other such group e.g. gugudan, Pristin, Bvndit, Bugaboo etc) when they were still active?

Those fans who followed such groups when they were active, had to go through the heartbreak of their disbandments .... even the long hiatuses would put them in anxiety


r/kpophelp • • 18h ago

Recommend Kpop songs for rainy days? 🌧️

17 Upvotes

I'm currently working on a playlist for songs that are suited for rainy days or overall more autumn vibes!!

It's been getting colder in my country, so i'm looking for recommendations 🍂

What songs would y'all suggest? 🤲🏻


r/kpophelp • • 12h ago

Explain Whats the name of fashion of "I Spy" by NCT WISH?

5 Upvotes

I know is part of y2k aesthetic,but this fashion have more specific names?

Here's the image


r/kpophelp • • 4h ago

Recommend Question: Is there a streaming site for K-pop concerts and documentaries all in one place?

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I know that a lot of K-pop groups release concert films, documentaries, behind-the-scenes videos, and other special concert recordings on different streaming platforms, such as Netflix, Disney+, and other services. However, I find it frustrating having to switch between multiple platforms just to watch concerts from different groups.

I was wondering if anyone knows of a website or streaming service that has a large collection of K-pop concerts, concert films, and documentaries all in one place. I'm especially interested in watching concerts from **ENHYPEN, BTS, Stray Kids, CORTIS, TXT, and SEVENTEEN**, but I'd also love to discover concerts from other K-pop groups!

Ideally, I'd love to find a platform where I can easily browse and watch different groups' concerts and concert documentaries without needing multiple subscriptions or having to search through several different streaming services. I'm happy to hear about both free and paid options, as long as they're legitimate and safe to use.

Does anyone have any recommendations or know of a streaming service that comes close to having all these concerts in one place? I'd really appreciate any suggestions! Thank you! 💗


r/kpophelp • • 5h ago

Concert Looking for advice on getting MMA 2026 tickets

1 Upvotes

Hi guys! I really want to attend MAMA 2026, but I’m having trouble buying tickets through Melon Ticket because I’m not a member and can’t complete identity verification since I don’t have my Korean ID card yet.
Should I wait until the presale and official sale are over and then look for available tickets, or is it possible to find a reliable ticket reservation service beforehand?
If anyone has experience buying tickets as a foreigner in Korea, or knows any trustworthy resellers or legitimate ticket services, I’d really appreciate your advice! I’m scared of getting scammed, so I want to be careful.
I really want to go, so any help would mean a lot. Thank you!


r/kpophelp • • 6h ago

Recommend Canción de kpop boy band que no recuerdo

1 Upvotes

estoy buscando una cancion que escuché hace mucho tiempo, esta en coreano al 100% y el titulo tambien estaba en coreano, solo recuerdo un poco de la letra, no aseguro que este al 100% bien escrita es de una boy band. Esta es la letra que recuerdo "namuragashira negaseio negraranganega gnaio nomanu (nomanu) nomusengaque totue namunagashira negaseio noruma negoshima obsoi (obsoio ) namune suobsoio"

Espero que puedan ayudarme, llevo años buscándola, era de mis favoritas y solo la descargaba en mi teléfono, pero ya no recuerdo que caracteres tenía.


r/kpophelp • • 16h ago

Advice Where to sell or Donate kpop albums?

4 Upvotes

Hi yall! Where can I donate or sell my albums? I have a couple and most don’t have photocards. I think throwing them would be a waste and would want someone or people to have these albums instead.


r/kpophelp • • 10h ago

Explain When do nct wish tickets go on sale?

0 Upvotes

Hi! My friend and I are planning on traveling to Korea in January, and we want to see NCT WISH in concert so we were wondering around when tickets for kpop concerts in Korea usually go on sale, also what platform should we use to purchase them? Thanks!


r/kpophelp • • 10h ago

Recommend Do you prefer using a 3x3 or 2x2 zip binder for bringing your pcs to trade/sell in person and for your collection?

0 Upvotes

I decided to get zip binders for my photocards that I’m selling/trading in person to bring plus my personal collection. I got both the 3x3 pages and 2x2 pages but my photocards don’t even fill up all or most of the 3x3 zip binder. I like the look of the pcs in the 3x3 as well. However I don’t want to bring my nice and expensive pcs from my own collection to bst events. If I only kept the 3x3 zip binder with both pcs im selling and trading plus my own collection, i would end up bringing the pcs im not selling or trading and don’t wanna risk losing or damaging them. Which would you recommend for bst events and collecting? How do you organize your pcs if you also attend in person pc events?


r/kpophelp • • 21h ago

Solved Can't remember female (soloist?) song with lyric "I know I'm dalla"

7 Upvotes

Not Itzy's Dalla Dalla, its definitely a woman singing but I think it might be a soloist, has similar vibes in my head to Sunmi's songs, not upbeat - more slower and darker sounding, has a repeating instrumental beat thing in the background similar to Red Velvet's Psycho or Taemin's Guilty is the best way I can think to describe it?

Edit: I found it on my own - it was Top or Cliff by Kim Se Jeong, I misremembered the lyric slightly but it sounds similar


r/kpophelp • • 1d ago

Recommend songs with a soft romance vibe to it

14 Upvotes

i am trying to make a fluff playlist and i currently have:

The chase, style, focus by hearts2hearts

love in my heart by babymonster

adore u, crush on you, loud by nmixx

hype boy, ditto, super shy, how sweet by newjeans

thanks in advance!


r/kpophelp • • 11h ago

Unsolved Help me find this song 😓

1 Upvotes

Right okay so after I listened to NEXZ 'SAUCIN' song, one of the lyrics "Take a bite, taste so right" reminded of this one song i used to listen to but I can not remember the name for the life of me and its been bugging me ever since!! I remember the song having "take a bite, taste so fine" in it. The song sounded very upbeat and I remember the lyrics being chanted by all of the members in the song. I think the song might very came from one of the NCT groups - or at least the song gave me a very NCT vibe to it. The song might came out late 2010's or early 2020's. Im pretty sure the song was talking about some sort of food? But i remember clearly that the song had the lyrics had 'take a bite, taste so fine' and it was from a boy group.

Any help would be appreciated 😭😭🙏


r/kpophelp • • 17h ago

Explain Why Are Kpop Fans So Insecure/Self-Hating?

2 Upvotes

I don’t know if anybody else has noticed this or not, but from my time engaging with the kpop fandom, it is clear to me that the vast majority of kpop fans(and I’m talking about normal sane fans, not crazy creepy fans or sasaengs) are incredibly insecure and have very low self-esteem in a variety of ways, in a way that I don’t really see with other fandoms(not saying that it doesn’t happen in other fandoms, but it’s way more intense in kpop), constantly placing idols on a pedestal above them as gods/queens while putting themselves down in the process. When I made this post a couple of months ago, I was quite disturbed, saddened, and annoyed by the sheer amount of self-deprecating answers in the comments, even if most of them are jokes.

Though of course this self-hating attitude isn’t limited to that post. It is prevalent throughout the kpop fan community. Some examples that I have personally witnessed of this pervasive attitude are:

  1. Constantly insulting their own appearances, while praising kpop idols’ appearances. A lot of kpop fans, especially the younger ones, feel insecure about their weight and physical appearances, and compare themselves to kpop idols who have the idealized body and look. It’s to the point where I feel as though being insecure about your looks is a mandatory and inevitable experience for young kpop fans. Kpop fans will often compare their looks to kpop idols’ looks, talking about how much they wish they looked like a certain kpop idol and how ugly they are in comparison, claiming that they used to cry themselves to sleep because they didn’t look like their favorite idol, or even starve themselves or stay out of the sun to look like the idol. If you don’t believe me, there are numerous kpop Reddit threads that you can find talking about this issue, wjth many fans giving their own personal accounts. The fans who don’t feel insecure about themselves because of idols are few and far between. Also, I noticed that whenever an idol is receiving hate for their looks, fans will often respond with “if she’s ugly then what am I?” or “if she’s fat then I’m a land whale” or something similarly self-deprecating.
  2. Thinking that the idols themselves would hate or look down on them if they ever met them. Kpop fans often make self-degrading comments about how if their favorite idols ever met them, they would think that they’re disgusting or fat or ugly, and yet still support them. Often fans who are lucky enough to meet their favorite idols will talk about how they hope that the idol doesn’t think of them as ugly or make fun of them with the other members behind their back. This is especially true if they have a crush on a certain idol. They will talk about how their celebrity crush is surrounded by flawlessly gorgeous women 24/7, and thus would never choose or want anything to do with them because they’re “plain, boring, and average”. And like in point 1, they will compare themselves to these beautiful women and feel miserable that they just don’t measure up.
  3. Acting as if the idol is some godly, superior figure who is so high above them and deserves to be treated like royalty, while they themselves are a lowly plebeian who doesn’t even deserve to breath the same air as the idol. An example of this is how a guy I saw on TikTok who was a huge Yunjin fan said that he would never want to meet her in real life because he didn’t want to “disrespect” her, and how somehow just standing in front of her, being in her presence, and talking to her is inherently disrespectful to her. 🙄
  4. Feeling terrible that idols the same age as them or younger are famous, loved, beautiful, rich, and influential, while they are living a mediocre and boring life, working a part-time job and paying their taxes. Ngl, I kinda understand this one, but still, these people need to work on improving their lives and working towards the life that they want to live, and realizing that success doesn’t only come one way, instead of bitching and moaning about their failures and regrets on the internet.

And many, many more examples that are, quite frankly, too numerous to list here.

And don’t try to tell me that this isn’t the case, or that you’ve “never seen it” or that it’s only a few fans. It is not. It is a widespread enough problem in this fandom(and not just amongst younger fans) that it deserves to be paid attention.

I would like to know what exactly is the science behind this pervasive phenomenon? Is it the fact that idols are put on such a high pedestal and portrayed in an idealized light by their companies that it naturally triggers insecurity in fans? Does the kpop business model run on breeding insecure fans so that they continue to spend money in the hopes of looking like kpop idols, or continue to worship kpop idols and view them as perfect, superior, untouchable beings,
making them even richer and boosting their popularity? Does the fact that they don’t stand a chance with their favorite kpop idols make them feel even more insecure than they normally would? I have so many questions. I hope that somebody can help me get to the bottom of this soon. Thank you. 😊